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Fiona Finlay
At the age of 55, I've just in the last few years gone from starting to acknowledge that I have a somewhat feminine side, embracing and indulging her - to now considering myself actually to be bi-gender. I never wanted to dress when I was younger, or ever felt at odds with my body, although since my early teens I have always had a thing for removing whatever body hair I could get away with. If anything, I had no feelings at all - with my son being at the lighter end of the autistic spectrum, you can imagine there's some of that in me, too. Then, a few years ago I just got the urge to find out what wearing a bra and panties would feel like, and acted upon it. Fiona has been growing on me and in me ever since. The first cheap set I bought was very soon replaced by nice satin & lace underwear and breastforms to fill the bras properly. Then I started buying secondhand clothes online, and some hip & bum padding to help out there. Some shoes happened (of course - as they do!). More recently, jewellery, a couple of wigs, nail polish, lipsticks & liners and a perfume. I bet this all sounds very familiar! But then having not long started to venture out in public, all of a sudden came the makeover and bra fitting, all fully en femme, which felt like the most natural thing in the world, that changed how I see my life. I've been together with my fiancee for many years now and we live at her house. I came out to her and to my family at Easter 2024, the moment I realised I was in the transgender realm. However, I already knew she would not accept Fiona around her - we are working on it and there is a long-term plan that will hopefully see us re-commit to each other. But I'm lucky in that I still have my own house 20 miles away, where I work from my home office and stay over one night a week. So Fiona gets regular 'she' time, at least that evening, and as much more as I can during working days. Being now completely at home in my presentation as Fiona, this year I will get to see what living 24/7 is like, to really get to know both sides of myself, before working to find the balance point between Fiona and male me. As yet, the only people in my life who have seen me as Fiona are my best friend, who comes to stay at mine from time to time, and my neighbours, and I'm pleased to say they are all completely cool with both expressions of me. Oh, and a very large number of members of the public have now seen me as Fiona and happily ignored me, which is perfect all round 🙂
I’ve just read you Forum post, so of course I had to check out the photo 🙂
I have so much love for this!
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Thank you Ellie 😊 I had to upgrade this afternoon to be able to post this photo – I really do seem to have arrived now! It’s a pleasure to support CDH, this sisterhood has been a huge part of my progress since the start of the year 💜 💜 💜
Fiona, I cannot emphasize enough how delighted I am about everything in this photo. The fact that you went out and interacted with others, and had a wonderful time doing so — I am so proud of you. But I’m going to focus my comments on what’s important: How absolutely beautiful — and feminine — you look. Nobody who sees you can have any other thought than that you are an attractive woman. Naturally, generally feminine. A lovely lady having a good time out shopping, just like all the other lovely ladies. I’m not wild about using the word “passable”,… Read more »
Angela, you know just how to make a girl absolutely melt – thank you my dear, it means a lot. 🤗 It’s this support and encouragement that gives us the impetus to make the strides in our CD journeys that we do.
Fiona, I remember the support and encouragement I received here at CDH that really helped me with my crossdressing journey. I’m glad you’re getting the same encouragement. And speaking of which, congratulations! I see that this photo has been selected as one of the featured photos for the day. Now that’s my kind of encouragement!
Absolutely, I’ll take that kind any day too! Thank you sweetheart *hugs*
I loved your post Fiona. What a great photo to accompany it. Congratulations on another outing.
Thank you Denise – I’m sitting here dressed but no hair or makeup this morning, still can’t quite believe I did that yesterday but so pleased that it finally happened.
Fiona, the smile on your face speaks for itself. You definitely had a great outing. Your dress and belt look fabulous.
I really was one very happy girl yesterday afternoon Sophia, and that dress is fast becoming a favourite. Thank you honey *hugs* 🙂
Fiona… Cute pic. Getting out is so very much fun… Enjoy yourself… Staci…
Thanks hon 🙂 Isn’t it just – as I am very pleased to be finding out – and I most certainly will!
So happy for you Fiona!!! Are those awesome boots what you tried on and purchased?
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Jules
Thank you Julie 🙂 The shoes in the charity shop were too small (US size vs UK size). But the boots are an eBay purchase from a few weeks back. They’re very comfortable and have a nice clack-clack sound to the soles on the pavement. There are also round round buckle decorations on the outsides but you can’t see either of them in this shot.
I am so happy for you 💋
Thank you so much my dear 🙂
Sorry I missed this earlier Fiona. You look Gorgeous! Brilliant outfit!
Thank you Lara 🙂 It’s turned quite cold again this week so I’m thinking about wearing this one again on my full-Fiona day.