I have found in most cases, a CD coming out to a SO can lead to problems and often the end of the relationship. Others have tried to understand the CD and have spoken to me and others about it. Then in fewer cases still, the CDing has led to a new aspect and excitement in a relationship. Trisha, you seem to be a case like this.
I began wearing pantyhose with short shorts and platform wedges out in public when I was 17. My hair was kind of long. I met several girls who liked my look. At 18, I really stepped up my femme appearance and began going out. When I went to parties I got lots of attention and compliments. Even go hit on a lot and had lots of wonderful and erotic experiences. But I was open about it. You like what you see? You want this? well, what you see is what you get. So you never know when you may encounter someone who is attracted to you or is intrigued by you.