My current wife, my ex wife, and a friend. The friend has never seen me. Wife has never seen me, she has seen my wardrobe. I went out with my ex wife over 20 years ago, several times.
Current wife doesn’t want to see me or want me to go out. For fear of retribution from other parents of other kids at school, as our kids are elementary and middle school age.
I want to be introduced / have lunch with her friend, that has a trans son. But she doesn’t want to.
Trying to live day to day.