Hi Birdie and welcome to CDH. I am new here also and for the same reason except I am the crossdresser. I recently came out to my wife and she has accepted the fact that I am a lifetime crossdresser. Though she does not want to participate. She has asked for time to come to terms with everything. I have given her that space out of respect and she is the love of my life.
I am also retired and we are hoping to travel. We are taking this a day at a time. If you want to talk go to my page and send me a message. That way questions can be answered in a more secure way. Take care and I wish you both the best. It won’t be easy but from what I have learned here at CDH anything is possible!!!