For me the years of hiding are over. I leave the house and return openly fully dressed femme, assuming all my neighbours already know and either approve or not care the least. I just don’t show it into the face of my wife as she is somewhat concerned about it affecting her own reputation.
I came out at work in 2018 and am treated no different whether l come in male or female attire. The regulars on the commuter bus, several of whom are our neighbours make clear they recognise me in both personas but only one has ever asked me about it and concluded I made an remarkably genuine and good looking woman. Recently I have at several occasions ended up on the same bus as another neighbour who also happens to be my wife’s best friend! Yet she doesn’t seems to have talked with my about it.