Reply To: nervous new member

[Paulette Parfois]

Hi Kelga, and welcome. I sincerely hope your marital difficulties did not stem from your desire to explore your feminine nature. If it did, and your wife is willing to discuss it, it might be a good idea to put her in touch with other wives who’s husbands crossdress. There is a forum here on CDH for just that purpose. In a similar fashion, we have formed a little group here in Phoenix, NOT just for us as crossdressers, but as a support group for our wives. As my good friend Kandi Robbins says, she doubts if she (Kandi) would be as understanding about crossdressing as her wife is! A profound statement! In the meanwhile, only you can decide if crossdressing is something you should do. I always advice those who are in doubt to consider three things: 1) Am I ‘hurting’ any of my family or friends by doing so, 2) when I crossdress do I feel guilty or ashamed (and if so why?) and, 3) how do I feel when I am en femme (is it an erotic thing or something else?) As I said only you can answer these questions, but I assure you when you do answer them honestly you will have a better idea of where you need to be! Many hugs, Paulette