You say you “may” be digging a hole you can’t get out of? Well it looks like you are already down the rabbit hole into the CD world and we know there is no escaping only more shopping and edging toward our fem selves and we love it.
Its only natural as we get older we tend to want to express our fem side as our desires grow stronger and stronger. I was in that position until I decided to come out to my wife regardless of what the outcome could have been. Luckily after six years, my wife is ok with my lifestyle within limits which I follow and am happier now then anytime in my life. The burden of hiding is a weight off my shoulders and soul. My wardrobe is now larger than I ever thought and growing. I was one of the lucky ones but first I just had to take that big gamble… whew!
If you do decide to have that conversation with the wife you have to go very slow and not rush anything. Answer all her questions but I wouldn’t start with, “Honey, I’ve been going out dressed as a female when I was away.” Just give her the minimum and follow her reaction. Maybe start by saying, “I’ve been having these feelings lately and want to ask your advice about it”, then ease into it very slowly. If she is super negative then you can stop and go no further without a lot of harm or disclosure. If she is supportive then you have won the lottery and things will only get better for you. I hope so.
Or if you decide to remain in the closet you can express yourself here with support from all of us, so please share and let us read about your experiences. We love reading positive experiences. BTW, your pics look great!