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So, girls, I am just going to throw this out there.
Since I have finally come to terms with my feelings on this subject, I have purchased quite a few items, and im wearing my panties all the time, and plan to dress, when I can. the issue there, is my wife is housebound, so the only opportunity I will have is an hr or 2,sat. and sun. mornings when she naps.
I want to tell her about it, but here is the problem,
We have been together over 40 years, and I have always been a complete mans man, to the extreme, I am ashamed to say, of being somewhat homo-phobic, I think to cover my own inner feelings of disquiet,( which I did not fully admit to, or acknowledge, until now)
so my issue, and question is, how in the world do I go about broaching this subject? I have never even given the slightest hint that I am this way? Remembering, we are both as “old school”, as they come?
I will understand, if I am banned or otherwise ostracized for being one of “those A-holes” all my life, but I really hope instead, you wonderful people offer me guidance?
Regine.One of the blessings that comes with this is the change in our mindset as we start to see things from the other side of the fence. We aren’t always who we once were….evolution!
I can’t offer much help in starting the conversation but if you’ve been together that long and have a strong bond hopefully she’ll be understanding.
Hi Regine,
We had been married 50 years when I told my wife of my desire to wear women’s clothes, Her first response was “are you turning gay in your old age?” I was certain she wouldn’t leave me or kick me out, but I was worried about losing her respect. I also had a history of being an MCP (male chauvinist pig), which I have tried to live down. After convincing her that she would always be my one-ad-only, and giving her the right to put limits on my Dressing as she felt necessary, she agreed to accept Bettylou. And this from an elderly, Conservative Christian member of a Pentecostal church denomination. (We both are).
Revealing yourself can be scary to contemplate, but it’s better than keeping secrets from your SO…and she may surprise you; mine sure did.
Hugs,
Bettylou
That’s a difficult question, Regine. Knowing you only from your post and not knowing your wife at all, I hesitate to offer advice. Another reason that I hesitate to offer advice is that when I told my SO, everything just blew up in my face. All of the preparation, the planned responses to what I thought would be her reaction were useless when she took my revelation far worse than I thought she would. I won’t suggest what you should say or how you should say it. You’ll have to figure that out for yourself. I do recommend that you know exactly what you want to tell her, and do what you can to make sure you get that message across. As far as dealing with her reaction goes, expect the unexpected. Be prepared for the worst. I don’t mean to be a downer. She may be OK with your cross-dressing. You just have to be ready in case she is not OK with it.
Thank you all for your replies. I do hate keeping a secret from her, honesty and openness has always been the cornerstone of our relationship, but, this is a huge thing. I want to tell her,it is nowhere near a sexual thing, its more of feeling good, and i must admt, looking pretty:-)
will take some more thouht, me thinks.HI Regine,
I too dont want to tell you either way,what you should or shouldn’t do OK.
All I can do is offer my experience OK hon.
I really let my feminine side out after my wife and I were spicing up our intimate side and I wore some high heeled boots.
I fell in love with heels and Patty right away.
My wife was very supportive at first and she bought my first pair of black pumps.
However when I started exhibiting female mannerisms it turned my wife totally off.
As I started wearing more feminine stuff it affected our marriage negatively.
I tried to stay within her boundaries but it has killed our intimacy I have found.
We are still happily married and love each other very much ,still hold hands and kiss, but Out bed room intimacy is gone forever I am afraid.
Honestly though I couldn’t stop to save our intimacy if I wanted too.
Patty is who I am and I love being feminine so much.
I dont agree with keeping things from your spouse but at the same time I value a marriage so much.
I hope this experience helps you or some other girls come to your own conclusion and path.
I love you all Patty
An update on my journey:-)
I took a page from someones post, im sorry don’t remember whose, I bought my SO a couple pair of new lounge pants, as some of hers where stretched and she needs the elastic. I told her I would wear her old ones, and she said great:-) so im now sitting here, in pretty pink lounge wear, with pink and red flowers all over them(with my favourite pink lace bikini’s under),small steps:-)
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