Gay thoughts

[Trisha Lilly Hibbert]

Hi Girls and gals. Firstly just gonna say that that I have no ill feelings towards anyone who identifies as gay bi or any other sexuality. Each to there own in my opinion.

 

Last night while watching p**n en femme I fantasised that I was the the woman with a man. I was and am in shock. I’ve heard this is a thing in the community, but never felt turned on by it.

I have always identified as hetro even in dress. I previously fantised about being a woman with a woman. In fact thought I was a Dominatrix. I’m currently feel a little confused about these thoughts, to put it lightly.

Any advice about how to control or no offense meant, stop them.

Love trish

 

 

[Anonymous]

I am skeptical about controlling and stopping thoughts like those. I thought it was healthy to have fantasies, as long as they aren’t dangerous or really bad and that doesn’t mean you have to act on them. When I was a teen, I had dreams at night that I was a teen girl and was with a guy. They were confusing to me and I felt awful for having them. Back then I could never tell anyone either! Now I accept them that deep down in my mind, I wanted to be a girl. Back then, I wanted those dreams to stop, but they bubbled up when I was sleeping a few times a week for years. I thought that they meant that I was gay, but I wasn’t attracted to guys in school. And back then, being gay would get you beat up.

If you explore those fantasies, it could mean that you have desires to be loved and held a certain way. They could lead to a deeper understanding about your inner self. And remember, you don’t have to act out those thoughts. You still love your wife or S.O. and that doesn’t have to change.

Just my 2 cents!

Kay

[Jenny Thigh High]

Others have said and will continue to say it’s very common, so relax.

Gay thoughts, urges, relationships are as old as human history. It’s not a big deal.

And if your thoughts or orientation evolves a bit, just go with it. You’re not going to fight it or control it – many have tried and it never works. Relax, enjoy it, have fun even.

A bit of gay perspective here: Starting as a teen boy, that’s how I always viewed porn. I instinctively put myself in the woman’s role when watching and still do. It just seemed natural to me.

As an adult now, I have learned that the number of “straight” men who dabble in gay activity of some sort is enormous. Far more so than men who simply ID as gay.

So my point is that what you describe is actually pretty normal and extremely common. Actually, to suggest this has never, ever happened to you before now is what strikes me as unusual.

[Dawn Wyvern]

Ladies –

First, let me say that there is nothing wrong with talking about sexual desire and preference as it relates to crossdressing.

It is perfectly acceptable to say “I am attracted to women” or “I am attracted to men, but only when I crossdress” or similar general comments. In order to keep this site functioning the way it was intended to, I am going to ask you all to refrain from discussing specific sexual practices, techniques or results.

I have deleted some posts from the forum because they went too far. I appreciate your help in keeping CDH a sanctuary for us girls

Hugs

Dawn

[Trisha Lilly Hibbert]

Hi Dawn, will take that into coy in the future. My appolergies.

Trish.

[Deborah Sullivan]

It would seem to me to be a natural inclination especially in a fantasy which is harmless. If one desires to be a woman and be presented as such to society it would appear to be natural. I would love to be a wife full time to someone accepting

[Mika Malone]

You’re human and those thoughts are normal. It sounds like you already have enough respect of others not to judge or criticize them. If that’s true, don’t let it bother you if something gay pops into your head either. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you are attracted to men. That being said, you might want to ask yourself why there is such a strong desire to suppress those thoughts. Those thoughts might be nothing at all or they might be there for a reason. Either way, it doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you. Just try not to stress yourself out about it.

[Anonymous]

Being the woman was among my earliest fantasies…and still is. As a young teen I was troubled at times about my dressing & this fantasy simply added to my consternation. Over time, I’ve found many others shared the same fantasies & the same problems in understanding it all. Thank goodness things are so much more in the open today.

[Trisha Lilly Hibbert]

Thank you to everyone who’s replied. Will try and relax if they occur.

My apologies once more to Dawn. Will ensure all posts are Pg in the future.

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