- April 2, 2017 at 8:29 am #50392CandyParticipantRegistered On: April 2, 2017Topics: 1Replies: 2Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 16 times
- August 21, 2021 at 7:10 pm #533876Aurora EdenLadyRegistered On: June 29, 2021Topics: 26Replies: 185Has thanked: 863 timesBeen thanked: 914 times
Although I have not yet myself had to produce my driver’s licence while dressed, I have read accounts that as long as you are honest with them the police, at least where I live, are OK with it.
There is no law that I know of concerning how we should dress.
“I am going for a drive, or shopping or night out and I prefer to dress this way, Officer.”
That’s my plan anyway. 🙂
- This reply was modified 3 months ago by Aurora Eden.
- August 21, 2021 at 3:47 pm #533818
- August 21, 2021 at 3:44 am #533612JOJOLadyRegistered On: August 5, 2018Topics: 0Replies: 77Has thanked: 237 timesBeen thanked: 371 times
We have highway spot checks here in my state and I have never had a problem. I have always been treated with respect. They look at my license and plates and then told me to have a nice evening or day.
- August 21, 2021 at 3:28 am #533609Courtney LesheaLadyRegistered On: July 5, 2021Topics: 0Replies: 8Has thanked: 6 timesBeen thanked: 28 times
- March 11, 2021 at 8:21 am #460865Deborah SullivanRegistered On: February 27, 2020Topics: 2Replies: 791Has thanked: 3584 timesBeen thanked: 3305 times
Rarely asked for it but not concerned due to the clubs I entered. I can say the last time I went to DMV I dressed and had my hair styled in a unisex or androgenous mode so it can be seen either way which helps
- March 11, 2021 at 3:45 am #460726Jennifer LynnLadyRegistered On: August 15, 2020Topics: 1Replies: 273Has thanked: 118 timesBeen thanked: 1510 times
My drivers license has my legal name of Jennifer Lynn G and my photo but it still shows my sex as male. Unfortunately That will not change unless I go thru SRS (I wish).
2 users thanked author for this post.
- March 11, 2021 at 2:00 am #460704Sandy HoneyRegistered On: February 24, 2021Topics: 9Replies: 194Has thanked: 110 timesBeen thanked: 972 times
The only time I have been asked for my DL ID was at at a Ga State Patrol road block. Came around a curve and there it was, I was about the 4th car in line and when I pulled up he said “driver’s license and insurance card ma’am”. I had them in my hand and gave them to him. He looked at them then looked at me with one of those what do we have here looks. He leaned down and before he could say something I just looked at him and said “it’s me I just enjoy wearing women’s clothing”. He handed me my ID’s back and said have a nice day ma’am. It was a situation that could not be avoided and it went fine. I don’t know if you are familiar with the GSP but they are some of the meanest biggest looking highway patrolmen in the country but also the nicest too.
- March 11, 2021 at 2:04 pm #461011StephanieLadyRegistered On: May 17, 2020Topics: 7Replies: 64Has thanked: 219 timesBeen thanked: 306 times
Well done. Hope you smiled and winked too🌹
- March 11, 2021 at 7:34 am #460844Jin CrockerLadyRegistered On: November 15, 2019Topics: 4Replies: 447Has thanked: 29 timesBeen thanked: 1394 times
My ID shows me as male. And my body has aged to where there is no longer any doubt. I just slip my ID into my bra and go about my business.
- March 10, 2021 at 6:32 pm #460595LadyRegistered On: May 17, 2020Topics: 7Replies: 64Has thanked: 219 timesBeen thanked: 306 times
I can only share my thought process and do my best to explain it. We all want to be known in our true self, at least I do…I heard someone say on here that We want society to accept cding as normal, and I agree with that…so for me I was forced to ask myself some intense questions…the first Question what was I doing about it…my answer was simply nothing…why…because I was afraid…and I finally broke it down to this…society will never accept my choice of dressing because I was unable or unwilling to accept myself…when I go out in public I want people to know who I am as I am right now, not when I have the perfect outfit, or makeup (all important)…but more important when I look in the mirror after doing all I can…all this flaws I see are still the same whether male or femme attire. that picture and all the information on that ID card will stay the same (unless I transition to female NO I am not)…that is only for legal identification … it is not the information about how I see myself or feel about myself…that information is in my expression, treatment of others and how I speak to myself, hold my head high, look others in the eye, be honest with them and myself, LOOK FOR THE GOOD in everything…I didn’t say it is easy or without pain…but if I really want the world see my real id…it isn’t on a plastic card///carry it proudly.
FYI I have to use id quite often and I do get looks, (I do dress full time and some days not so pretty) so I use an ice breaker…I will comment something alongs the lines “sorry I used the wrong facial scrub when that pic was taken, took me a lotta years to heal from that look. then I smile. it works every time
- March 10, 2021 at 6:26 pm #460590DonnaLadyRegistered On: January 17, 2021Topics: 165Replies: 3962Has thanked: 22938 timesBeen thanked: 14769 times
- November 9, 2019 at 9:42 am #246406AnonymousTopics: 0Replies: 0Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 0 times
I’ve only been asked once, and kept my thumb over my photo.
This tactic brought a smile from the guy who asked to see it, and that was all.
No big deal!
- November 9, 2019 at 9:25 am #246401AnonymousTopics: 0Replies: 0Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 0 times
Whether or not you drive, you need your real ID; and dressing as a CD is no more illegal or “wrong” than dressing for a party. Also, since credit cards are chipped, you don’t need to show ID or even sign receipts any more, so one less thing to worry about.
Suggestion: Accept yourself, and don’t worry about the opinions of others, especially strangers.
- November 9, 2019 at 7:09 am #245995Lili BecomingLadyRegistered On: April 13, 2019Topics: 0Replies: 18Has thanked: 32 timesBeen thanked: 30 times
Yes, I agree with what has been said regarding ID, I carry my male drivers license with me for the remote possibility of being stopped by the police. When I go out, I usually carry cash, though I guess that would be a risk in some areas, and my debit card, for emergency issues.
Also the advice about drinking moderately, which I was glad I followed, as on my latest adventure to a bar, I found the place was being staked by the local cop, as I drove out.
Happy adventures all,
- March 29, 2019 at 6:05 am #164221Deanna LundAmbassadorRegistered On: March 28, 2019Topics: 43Replies: 141Has thanked: 325 timesBeen thanked: 337 times
Legally it depends on the laws in your locality but I don’t know of any states in the US where having a fake I’d won’t get you into serious trouble if it is presented to law enforcement but using a fake I’d, in any context constitutes a fraud and might also be chargeable under counterfeiting statutes. Best advice is use your official, legal ID, drink responsibly, act like a Lady AND be honest and upfront with anyone interested in you. It likely will short circuit a man’s interest but it might save trouble later. Exception would be if you are in a group when approached, in that case, stay in the group.
- This reply was modified 2 years ago by Deanna Lund.
- June 22, 2018 at 4:31 am #104494Sandy CraigLadyRegistered On: March 18, 2018Topics: 0Replies: 301Has thanked: 281 timesBeen thanked: 737 times
I personally have not had a single issue. You also need to have real ID and not fake like someone mentioned, why get into trouble over this.
If I dress-I go out. I don’t hesitate to use a CC or show photo ID if asked when I purchase something though typically I use cash. A few times people have looked very close at my photo ID and me but never said anything. I was stopped by police once while I was on foot but did not need to show ID-they thought I might be a hooker (LOL) but mainly because of the area I was passing through. I was also carded in a bar which surprised me because at the time I was in my late 50’s-suspect they may have wanted to know if I was a M or F.
Many friends of mine have a CC in there fem name but I don’t see myself doing this.
- June 19, 2018 at 6:45 am #104104AnonymousTopics: 0Replies: 0Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 0 times
You pretty much have no choice but to use your real ID as that’s the only legal thing to do. If you are in a country/state where transgender rights are recognized you should not have a problem but I understand these things vary by location. There was only one time where I faced any sort of hiccup but it was resolved without any issue. I was trying to enter a casino en femme and the person doing the carding very politely asked me aside so as not to hold up the line, explaining that I looked nothing like the photo in my ID and so he needed to get someone who was “more of an expert” to help out. A little while later, a lady came around and took what seemed like an eternity looking at me and back at my photo repeatedly before saying sorry for the delay and all is good. I can understand that at the casino because they need to be 100% sure you are who you are for security reasons. To be honest, I felt rather flattered as that speaks volumes for my make up that evening 🙂
- March 18, 2018 at 4:27 pm #92341Veronica RainesDuchessRegistered On: September 16, 2017Topics: 2Replies: 39Has thanked: 87 timesBeen thanked: 49 times
- July 16, 2017 at 3:19 am #59938AnonymousTopics: 0Replies: 0Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 0 times
Hi Candy, you know when i first began going out enfemme i worried about that too. And worried that someone i know might see me. As i came to realize i was tg not cd i began flaunting my femininty.
One day at the grocery store i decided to pay for my groceries with a check. The cashier asked for an IDand i gave her my license. She looked at photo, then at me, then got a quizical look on her face. I smiled and said oh i know the picture is a bit different but you see i wasnt wearing my makeup the day they took that pic.
- July 16, 2017 at 2:44 am #59935cdheavenRegistered On: September 18, 2015Topics: 1411Replies: 3942Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 6775 times
fake id is the worst if your stopped by law enforcement can cause you more trouble than what it is worth presenting male id for a traffic stop might get a chuckle from the cop but they have been trained to most situations if the cop runs your id and its fake you may be in for a world of trouble
- July 15, 2017 at 5:33 pm #59909Wendy L LLadyRegistered On: July 8, 2017Topics: 0Replies: 8Has thanked: 21 timesBeen thanked: 5 times
Has any one had their I D photo taken when they where dressed fem.
- July 12, 2017 at 3:08 am #59660cdheavenRegistered On: September 18, 2015Topics: 1411Replies: 3942Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 6775 times
in my state of Pennsylvania you can put an x in the gender column if you look anything like your driver license pic. you should be ok lots of us girls change our appearences hair color etc from time to time you should be ok you might want to see if your state does the same think
- July 12, 2017 at 2:33 am #59655AnonymousTopics: 0Replies: 0Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 0 times
I think that we need to keep in mind what ID is needed for, to prove who we are. In most situations that means from a legal point of view. You are who you are, no matter what you’re wearing at the time so if you have to produce ID then use that which has been lawfully issued. Some people manufacture a ‘femme ID’ but if it has no legal basis it’s more an exercise in self-satisfaction than identification.
I’m pretty lucky in that my ‘Jane-face’ is pretty much my ‘male’ face with makeup. I have the same long hair and pierced ears so the picture on my drivers’ licence is still me, even if I’m wearing a nice dress or a cute top and skirt.
- July 11, 2017 at 10:55 pm #59647Wendy L LLadyRegistered On: July 8, 2017Topics: 0Replies: 8Has thanked: 21 timesBeen thanked: 5 times
- <b>I had the same question also. Thank you for asking.</b>
- April 12, 2017 at 7:13 am #51200cdheavenRegistered On: September 18, 2015Topics: 1411Replies: 3942Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 6775 times
I still retain my male ID and with the exception of a traffic stop or using a credit or debit card, I rarely need it. I rarely get much reaction when I have to present it. Flying is usually the only activity I do in drab mode so my ID is not an issue there either. I haven’t even researched if flying dressed as Gina is legal. I just don’t bother with it.
- April 11, 2017 at 3:22 pm #51133AnonymousTopics: 0Replies: 0Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 0 times
It has been a very, very long time since I ventured out in public fully dressed en femme, but I simply always carried my male-self’s ID.
Truthfully, who is going to be looking at your ID? Store clerks IDing you for cigarettes or booze don’t care if the ID is valid and they can see “you” even remotely resemble the person on the ID. Same for clubs or bars that ID. If you’re using your ID to check in at a hotel or rent a car, they need an ID that matches your credit or debit card (which I am guessing is in your male name too). And last, but not least, law enforcement.
I toyed with the idea of getting a fake ID with my femme picture and name, but everything else matching my male ID (ID#, birthday, address, etc), but owning and presenting a fake ID is a crime, whereas presenting as the fairer sex is not (unless you live in Virginia and somehow crossdressing violates the state’s terrifying statute against wearing masks/concealing your identity).
I really do understand wanting to completely change over your identity and everything associated with it when you go out to feel like a completely different person, but remember that the vast majority of the public is never going to see inside your purse.
Stay safe. Stay legal.
- You must be logged in to reply to this topic.