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Okay, I’m a little guilty of clickbait here. But it is true. I have to stop buying women’s clothes.
When I first started, I cleared out almost all of my drab clothes and packed them in boxes and took them to the basement. I have been voraciously buying women’s clothes and my closet is bursting at the seams. I bought a clothes rack at Target for my dresses because the rack on my side of the closet isn’t long enough for dresses. I have used it for my tops and some extremely short dresses. But even though I have used organizing hangers that hold multiple garments, I am out of space. I have over 70 skirts. Most of those are minis and have been easy to consolidate on organizing hangers. But I have a bunch of dresses and long skirts, too.
And the shoes! Glorious, lovely, heels! I have over 30 pairs and I have more on the way (and some more clothes). I keep them in their boxes so they don’t get messed up and I can find them easily. But they are stacked so high that my wife can’t even get to my regular rack to hang my shirts. She just puts them on my extra dress rack and I put them on the other rack since I have a longer reach.
It’s kinda wild. I have more women’s clothes and nice shoes than my wife. Thankfully, she’s pretty cool about it. I do have some early purchases that I may not wear since I found my style. I can clear those out to make more room. But my sister has some of my grandmother’s designer clothes that would probably fit me. She was a classy, elegant lady and even though I like dressing younger, there are times that dressing more mature is more appropriate. She’s gonna bring me some of those clothes so I have to make sure I have room for them.
I do have another closet I could use but it’s filled with paintings. I suppose I could sell them but I’m a borderline hoarder. Time will tell. My only other option is to only buy clothes that can be folded and put in my dresser. I’ll see what I can do to make more space but at this time, I gotta stop buying clothes.
Yup, that’s a lot of clothes girl! Lol
I’ve really had to restrain myself and keep the urge to SHOP reined in.
Good luck Mika, I envy your dilemma!
Mika out with old in with new. Anything own for more then a year usually give to goodwill to make room for newer styles. Never ending cycle.
I can’t stop buying women’s clothes, I usually buy something at least once every 2 weeks, bought some strappy heels and nylons yesterday, can t wait for them to arrive so I can try them on, buying lingerie is as exciting as wearing them to me,
There is always something new to buy, even if its a new set of lingerie or tights. Next on my list is a set of breastforms or if im really going for it hormones as i really desire some boobs as ive always wanted them
I had to stop buying lingerie years ago. I have a huge plastic storage tub with wheels that is full. Now, there’s no room for it in my closet and its just sitting beside the bed. I need to go through that sometime and narrow the collection down so it all fits in my dresser. And my wife just have me a dozen of her old bras because I sized down my breast forms and now we have a similar bra size.
Im getting to a stage where im going to move from just having a divided wardrobe, female clothes on the left and dwindling male drabness to the right! Think when i move to a new place going to have a girly room so i can accommodate all these clothes as getting quite a lot. I must slow down buying things as im spending so many hours browsing for things i fancy! (Clothes) xx
Mika…
Sometimes we are faced with impossible questions….
Is there life on other planets??..did the city of Atlantis really exist??..is the Loch Ness monster real??..can a CD/Trans ever stop buying women’s clothes??..
Good luck on your attempt at the impossible darling!!!
….so many have tried 😂😂😂
Grace xx
Lol, there re a lot of us in the same boat, Mika, and let me tell you, ITS HARD, lol
As Grace said, it’s the impossible question, ohhhh, that dress/top/skirt/pair of heels is just so cute, im sure I need it,LOL
good luck, girl
Hugs, Regi👸💕I hate to admit this but since I haven’t been able to dress much these days. I’ve somehow taken to buying clothes even when I haven’t time to to wear them. Its like I’m vicariously being my Femm self without dressing. Who cares right ! I’m still enjoying myself.
LOL. And that’s quite literally what it’s like for me. I get all dressed up at home just to feel aligned with myself even though I’m not going anywhere. It’s still fun though. This helps me try outfits that I might be unsure about going out in and push my comfort levels with crop tops and ultra short minis.
Simply put i cant stop buying female clothing as once you buy 1 or 2 items there is always something else i fancy to buy! Been buying lingerie and so many other things since the early 80s and cant see myself ever stopping in fact i see myself being more femme and living full-time one day soon x
I think once you have one outfit, i long for a whole wardrobe full! Getting there , not quite ready for a night out as short a handbag and a wig as cant decide what colour to be! Its so hard as been told i look good as redhead (my favourite) but also brunette and a blondie too! Decisions decisions! X
Mika, it is not your fault. Cis women have the same issue so it is only natural that we would fall into the same trap. Manufactures create too many nice Clothes for women and trends keep changing so we need to adapt. And of course our own style keep evolving too so we need to be ready with a outfit that suits our daily needs.
I have to keep my clothes hidden so have a single door wardrobe to use in the Study. I know if I purchase something new more that likely I will need to remove something that either does not suit where I see Sarah going or something I have not worn is a long time. Not easy though as I still have one really Sexy Blue short skirt in my wardrobe that is way too young for Sarah but I don’t what to get rid of it as it feels so good to wear.
I can only imagine the painful task you have of deciding what to wear from so many options each time you dress.
Sarah
First, keep that blue mini because of how it makes you feel. I’m not a big believer in age appropriate clothes. I believe in body appropriate clothes. If you can pull it off, go for it. Situation appropriate is a factor too.
Second, you are absolutely right about wondering what to wear. Dressing at home is easy but before going out, I tend to lose sleep thinking about different outfits I would like to wear. And I never have that problem in drab.
I know the feeling. I only ever dress up at home and have a pretty large collection of clothes. Some I will probably never wear again. It is hard to throw things out but needs to be done.
In fact I will have to go through all my stuff again soon and be stricter.
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You know you’re a girl when you can’t stop buying cute clothes and you feel you never have enough. Its an addiction the fashion and credit card industry counts on.
I have a hope chest packed with clothes, a tall wardrobe with hangers on one side and drawers on the other side thats near full, and half a closet filled. All with, you know, must have things like the beautiful long vintage Jackie O coat I know I’ll never wear but I love it.
I have several things I might not wear out. But I can always overdress at home. If I really like it, it may twist my arm enough to get out in it sometime. That happened with crop tops recently. Now I have a dozen on the way.
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Hi Mika. Your reaction to your recent discovery of crop tops was to order a dozen? Yep, I would say you have a shopping addiction. I would love to come to your yard sale for I still have a bit of room in my closet.
Hi Mika, I’ve reached a similar point. My wardrobe is full my draws full, Shoe draw full. I’m approaching the 1 in 1 out point.
Love Trisha
That’s a good idea. I know I can do that for several tops and a few dresses. I might have to get creative with some more consolidating hangars.
My gg bff also puts multiple similar items or outfits on the same hanger. Strong wooden hangers work best for this.
Mika,
I can totally relate. Never cared about shopping for men’s clothes but ever since plunging into dressing in a serious way 3 years ago, the urge to shop for new items gets stronger. There’s so much variety in women’s clothes, shoes, accessories that it’s easy to get addicted to putting together the perfect outfit. That means matching shoes with dresses, purses, etc. It can be endless.
As far as storing clothes, I can tell you what works for me. I purchase 95% of my women’s clothes at Goodwill thrift stores. I usually buy 3-4 items at a time, never more than about $30. I do not go out…I am content doing photo shoots at home. Once I’ve got the photos, then there’s really no reason for me to keep holding on to the dress or what have you. OK, I do keep a few treasured items. But mostly I return them as donations back to Goodwill. So it is a complete cycle, and one reason it works for me is that I do not have a great deal of money invested in any particular item.
So, the point is that the photos are my way of holding onto the clothes as opposed to physically storing them for long periods. Again, this is what works for me because I do not venture out and rarely dress around the house – it’s really just about the photoshoots and then having the photos to look back on, as well as sharing a few here at CDH.
Just something for your consideration.
Hugs, Mona
That’s a neat idea. I do go out about once a month currently. I dress at home a lot more often. I love shopping at Shein because they have incredible sizing information and free returns. I have gotten a lot more picky about what I keep. Some of my earliest purchases might get donated though because they aren’t cute enough for me to wear since finding my style. Back then, I was just happy if something fit. LOL
It’s like the woman who lived in the shoe – Its not the kids but too many clothes and doesn’t know what to do.
I started buying things and had a box. The box became two. Then I started to fill my wardrobe and storage. I’m gonna need a bigger’boat’
It is addictive and I was buying and trying at first. Now I know my style the rules are, if you buy it you wear it. If there are no more hangers then a cull is needed. I stick to this, well, most of the time.
My sister commented about this and my answer to her was,’You have been able to wear and buy girl’s clothes for all of your life. I have only been able to do it for half mine – I am making up for lost time’
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This is the thing with feminine clothing – one of the (many) great benefits of female clothing is often a particular item is available in a range of colours and it just becomes so tempting to want to collect the whole set
Its a benefit! The range of women’s clothes are so much better than male clothing. Love the detail on womens clothing the fabrics, the styles the lengths and of course the feel too
I always go by this, if you like it and they have it in ones size then buy it! And its a bonus if its a bargain! Im always on the lookout for a new handbag or a new pair of shoes? Just love womens fashion and dont think ill ever change, started when i was 8years old and im 54 in October so yes im a lifetime kinda women and dont see it ever changing
Well, my dear Mika, you have a collection.
I have a confession.
My name is Diane and I am addicted to dresses.
Since there are 365 days a year, how can a girl possibly wear the same dress twice in a single year? I’ll wear it again next year.
I’m not that bad. Yet. I do have more dresses than my wife. She is starting to catch up to me though.
Diane
I have days where i might wear a skirt in the morning and then change into a dress in the afternoon 😌 can never have enough items in ones wardrobe,there is always room for something and im a sucker for shoes or a mini skirt too 🤔
Diane, my wife has pointed out a few times that I have more dresses than she does. I just tell her to buy some more for herself if it’s a problem.
Krissy, that’s my thing too! A mini skirt and heels are just what this girl needs. Occasionally, I change into another pair of shoes partway through the day. Just to see what works.
Even cis-women practice holding back. When you decide to buy another outfit or shoes, donate 2 or more to charity. That will help you scale back. You will probably find there are lots of outfits and shoes you rarely wear anymore.
My goodness Mika, you are in about the same boat I am.
I’ve purchased ALOT of women’s clothing, especially the last bit during the pandemic as I’m working from home and can receive the package without it sitting on the front porch.
We had both closets in the bedrooms redone with proper shelving, and I maxed it out. I have alot of skirts (not as many as you tho), tops, some dresses, but the big one is one piece swimsuits (120+). I bought a big plastic bin for the swimsuits only and it is bursting at the seams.
Last year I got rid of alot of clothing that were out of date, i don’t wear anymore, or did not fit. That freed up alot of room, but I wound up buying it all back and then some.
I know my wife is getting annoyed at me for buying so much, so I’ve had to put a stop to it. Plus, I’m encountering some big expenses like insurance, vehicle repairs, and a new fridge so I don’t have any more $$$ to spend on clothing.
You girls have taken al my guilt away. Now I know fifty dresses and forty pair of shoes might not be enough. Thanks a bunch. Now I can see the need to maybe buy more.
Have ten pairs of shoes and 35 or more dresses and skirts, lingerie umm 65items i counted yesterday but i do love to wear the best lingerie money can buy and love trying new colours! That reminds me i must buy some pink lingerie over the coming weekend and a pink mini skirt as got a real passion for pink at the moment 💗
Quite chuffed with myself as ive managed to go 14days without buying any womans clothes 😄 which is amazing for me as im a sucker for a new pair of heels or new skirt 😀
Lol. Too funny I’m pretty sure this is a thing for all of us. I simply can’t stop buying them. I actually started throwing “his” clothes out to make room for hers. Maybe subconsciously I was hoping there would only be her clothes to wear some day SO would not like that ;(
I started packing up drab clothes as soon as I started buying women’s clothes. At the time, a large portion of the drab was too small. I lost a bunch of weight and now most of it probably fits but my racks are so full of women’s…
When I was 18 and got my own place, I began buying all the clothes I had wanted so much for so long. I would buy something, wear it around the house a few times, wear it out, then I had to wear something else. I dressed everyday and often went out. That only increased my desire and need for more and better clothes.
I had way more than I needed but couldn’t stop craving and desiring more.
I definitely feel ya there, Patty. Before I went back to work, I was wearing skirts and dresses around the house every day. Now, I just put on some comfortable shorts and a tee shirt after my shower when I get home. I could dress on the weekend, wear a different skirt each time, and still not wear them all in a year. But it’s nice having options and those clothes are my motivation to stay fit and trim (and possibly a little more trim, lol).
Before my wife became accepting of Roberta five years ago my wardrobe was very limited.That’s all changed.Now I have about seventy skirts,twelve dresses,twenty five pairs of shoes,one pair of ankle boots,about eighty,tops.An obscene number of pairs of tights/ pantyhose and approximately thirty pairs of panties.And about twenty pairs of pants.
LOL!!! Yeah, that’s the thing about having an accepting wife. I have a few more skirts, over 60 of them are minis. Probably, about 40 dresses. I don’t have a ton of tights and leggings but I have a couple dozen. I do have hundreds of panties though and need to whittle them down. I’m at about 3 dozen pairs of shoes/boots/booties.
The thing is that when my wife says that we should pop into a store and I should go look at the clearance racks, you know I’m gonna find something. But I do have some really early purchases that I could part with to make room. In the early days, I bought a few things just because I was excited that they fit. Now that I have found my style, I probably won’t wear those things and I could do the “one out, one in” thing to have room.
Mika, I’m so with you on this one! I couldn’t dress as much as I wanted during our months and months of lockdowns here in Ontario, and somehow I think I substituted that for buying clothes!
I’m like some kind of addict, saying, “Just one more….., etc.” Of course it’s never simply one more!
Like you, I’m running out of space, so I’m going through my things and ones I’m not so sure about, or that don’t quite fit right, I’m donating. That way I can keep shopping? Right?
Amy
Amy, that’s exactly where i am. I can part with some early buys that I was simply happy that they fit. Now that I have found my style, I know I probably won’t wear them. I still have found reasons to buy. If my wife says that we should go to the shoe store and I can look at the clearance racks, you know I am going to find some shoes. The same goes for dresses. I bought some stuff for my kid at Shein and they had an elegant dress that I was able to nab for $6.75 after coupons and points discounts. How can a girl pass that up?
Mika
I am so with you girlfriend and I’m not even out yet to my wife. I’m going to have to figure out how to explain that I have much more clothes than her. When it comes to shoes you will just have to call me Imelda!
hugs
Carole
LOL! Given the average age of us here, most of us get the Imelda Markos reference.
I am a bit curious how you are managing to keep your wife from knowing though.
Hey, I am with the rest of the responses on this thread. I love to buy women’s clothes and have to rein myself in as I am retired and have to watch my $. But I have a weakness for certain items (example: sequin evening gowns) and I succumb to the pink fog. I have 2 more gowns I have spotted on Amazon that I know I will eventually buy. Plus, I am going to be going to be going out a few times to meet cd sisters for restaurant meetups when wife goes away- so I am going to juice up my makeup accessories(watched a makeup video and learned I need more items for making an effective presentation), buy another pocketbook and dive into jewelry accessories. It is so much fun being a girl – female stuff just rocks while male clothing is like flat ginger ale – borrring. LOL.
Alice Black
Brianna, you just need to not give a f$*&. I like Ross too. And, honestly, I always shop the women’s section in drab except for one time last December. I don’t care what people think. I could be shopping for my wife for all they know. My nails, eyebrows, and earrings are kinda a giveaway but I don’t care.
Hugs!
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