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What an amazing week this has been. I got a new job after months of yuck interviewing in this new weird post(?)-covid world. On the same day my wife asked me if we would benefit from couples counseling and I was super happy about that because we’ve been distant these past many months. I knew it was time to finally have the conversation I’ve been dying to have- to finally be open and honest about Nikki once and for all.
These past weeks I’ve been unwavering about owning Nikki. For many years I spent a great deal of time and energy drinking and drugging trying to keep her deep down. However, she came out with real force recently- kicking and screaming!
This morning we had the very rare opportunity of no kids at home. We had a wonderful brunch and came home and I said I needed to tell her something very important. I didn’t prepare much and just let it fly out and cried hard for the first time in forever.
She was very receptive and had some of the usual questions but not the “are you gay?” variety because I came out as bisexual before we were married and reiterated this a few years ago. Bisexuals seem to need to do this from time to time. Well, in my journey.
Overall it went REALLY GOOD and we agreed to keep this a constant conversation as it evolves. Baby steps and I need to give her that. We’ve talked all day reaffirming our love. She’s out with her mother right now and just texted she loves me. She’s more than I ever expected. I know this is a lot for a SO to deal with. My biggest fear is over. Now we can move forward with our lives and I’m so very excited. Nikki is here to stay!
Great news Nikki. It is an enormous weight on any relationship to bear the burden of a secret, hidden self. Hopefully your truth will begin to open doors to a deeper, more intimate connection with your SO.
Best to you,
Clara
Good for you, Nikki! I hope you can now be your true self to those you love and have them love you back!
*kisses* tara 🙂
My wife found out about my proclivities when we were dating after I got back from Viet Nam in ’68, at first she went along with it for a while. When we were in VA. at Langley AFB we really got into it so far that she went out on a shopping binge and bought me bras, panties – some crotchless, a evening gown and we proceeded to enjoy herself but a bugaboo was waiting in the wings
She got to feeling like she had lesbian tendencies and quit cold leaving me out in the wilderness, years would go by as I attempted to purge myself, my clothes, etc. but I never completely got away from it. We stayed together for 42 years, I loved her unmeasurably and then in 2006 she found out she had colon cancer, she fought it until 2013 when it finally claimed her.
I have not been able to stop my dressing and if anything have increased it, we had a good life and raised 2 wonderful children but in 2000 our son passed away from C.R.E.S.T. syndrome which I believe came from my exposure to Agent Orange, I have PTSD also and my dressing takes me back to better days.
Wishing you and your wife all the best, Nikki.
So Happy for you Nikki, that took guts! Wishing you good luck on your journey!
Best,
JassyCongrats Nikki! What a big step, here’s to many more successful steps. Hugs.
— Abbie 🥰
So great that you told her. No more worries of getting caught etc. How great you have a supportive wife. I came out to my wife 2 months ago and she was very supportive. Now I am able to dress mostly panties and bras and a nightie with her being here no more hiding.
Congratulations it will be so much healthier and fun too.
Great news!
I wish I had the courage to do the same, but I suspect that my own wife wouldn’t be as reasonable.
Maybe one day………
Have a wonderful time!
Connie
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Hi Nikki That’s wonderful news, Good for you Honesty between You and your SO is more important than you think. Its one of the corner stones of a long lasting marriage.Now its up to her how she handles it. Its sounds good so far. The other corner stones are communication,Understanding of each others needs and then Compromise. Those four will support most long lasting loving relationships that will last until time runs out
Luv Stephanie
It’s nice to know that your wife has acceptance in her heart, and it went really good. You done the right thing telling her – rather than risk getting caught! I recently told my sibling sister that I’m a CD, and it went so well that I wrote an article about it. You can find it in my articles, or in Hodgepodge.
Thanks for sharing and congratulations, Nikki! All the best. Hugs.
Revel
That’s so true! Baby steps. Despite what my overly passionate desire to go full on into this and tell the world! I’ve heard many girls say the same. It’s been with US our whole lives but we must remember this is all new territory for our SO’s a lot of the time. I am incredibly fortunate that she’s an LGBTQ+ ally forever so she’s no stranger to this.
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