Tagged: Politics Religion Sex
- February 24, 2017 at 9:19 am #45528
Manager CodilleFounderRegistered On: April 24, 2016Topics: 2Replies: 25Has thanked: 20 timesBeen thanked: 146 times
In the last two days two very relevant conversations have been started one that spun into a discussion on crossdressing and religion, the other on where the transgender world is viewed or heading in the realm of American politics. These are important topics that need to be discussed. They need to be thoughtfully brought to the table and without fear of backlash have peoples opinions voiced.
But not here, Crossdresser Heaven is a support site. We have seen to many time in the past were a harmless comment on what we call the BIG 3: Religion, Politics or Sex get turned into a combative firestorms. That is why we have banned those topics here.
And before anyone thinks the site or myself are being short sited on this I will let you know I extremely involved in my church community, I am an American History major with a heavy interest in US Politics and I am Married with three teens so the topic of sex comes up from time to time. I would LOVE to have an intelligent rational discussion on any of these topics. But time after time what starts out either completely harmless or in some cases ranting at full voice these issues continue to just be counter productive to the community and eventually upsetting or insulting someone just for the view they hold.
I love the passion you all hold and that you want to share, but this is not the forum to to it in. I would hope that you all will understand and accept this, it is a firm rule that will be enforced. But I would rather not have to do that, so please, know that I am with you on these issue as being important, but they have no place being discussed on Crossdresser Heaven.
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- April 2, 2019 at 11:59 am #165335anne-marieParticipantRegistered On: August 26, 2018Topics: 3Replies: 230Has thanked: 277 timesBeen thanked: 250 times
Religion – my number one love.
Politics – my number two.
Sex – whats that lol.
For the first two, guess I’m going to have to control myself but can’t promise I won’t at some time slip – just that if somebody responds in a negative way, I’m adapt at not biting back and I’m not to big to admit error and appologise.
Third – I’m here to give and recieve support. I identify as T and A of LGBTQIA+
Hope this is O.K. with y’all.
Take care girls.
Peace and love.
- August 23, 2018 at 7:58 pm #113233AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 3Replies: 17Has thanked: 80 timesBeen thanked: 31 times
So nice to have a place where that isn’t allowed. I love the support on here! There are sites that have the religious, political et al discussions, and they can have them! Hugs all!
- August 23, 2018 at 7:00 am #113174SuzanneParticipantRegistered On: February 22, 2016Topics: 1Replies: 40Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 18 times
Add me to that list…as I would agree with the aspects you touched on…
- June 12, 2018 at 6:34 pm #103103AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 0Replies: 2Has thanked: 1 timeBeen thanked: 2 times
Beautifully said! Thank you.
- December 31, 2017 at 1:20 pm #80140Steffany HarmanParticipantRegistered On: September 12, 2017Topics: 3Replies: 7Has thanked: 2 timesBeen thanked: 12 times
- December 31, 2017 at 9:10 am #80126Simone WentlukeParticipantRegistered On: December 21, 2017Topics: 0Replies: 1Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 2 times
- December 11, 2017 at 6:38 pm #77399Dame Veronica GraunwolfParticipantRegistered On: May 8, 2017Topics: 51Replies: 1983Has thanked: 1677 timesBeen thanked: 1778 times
I guess I must be getting old…..all 3 topics do not hold any interest for me. Never really was into any of the big 3 as they are called. At this stage of my life, all I want to do is be happy and be a girl who loves the outdoors and all things femme.
Thank you Codille for reminding us all again. Perhaps if we had to check 3 boxes that we have read and understand the 3 no no’s, once a year….????? I am just an old soldier and Knight Templar who has seen the evil done by all 3 subjects, to be involved in them again.
LONG LIVE CDH!
- December 14, 2017 at 7:42 pm #77814JenniferParticipantRegistered On: January 14, 2017Topics: 7Replies: 139Has thanked: 101 timesBeen thanked: 146 times
Exactly, Lady Veronica! Actually, I love to philosophize and discuss any of the big three … it’s a fun intellectual exercise, but it’s a slippery slope. I view CDH the way I view the NFL, leave the politics out and it’s more fun. The great part about CDH is that it is a really great place to explore our femininity, whether we’re crossdressers, transitioning, drag queens … it doesn’t matter. We all have this similar thing that binds us. Let’s focus on what we have in common. This place has been a life saver for me. Let’s just keep it girly and help each other out. 🙂
- December 11, 2017 at 1:39 pm #77349AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 0Replies: 1Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 0 times
Religion is an abomination, politics and politicians are evil, but sex is just part of life. So, good that you’ve made this policy.
- November 29, 2017 at 12:58 pm #75463Chardonnay WhiteParticipantRegistered On: November 29, 2017Topics: 0Replies: 1Has thanked: 1 timeBeen thanked: 0 times
Hi I’m new and here’s my first post. I wish it were different but even at 42 my “secret” cross dressing has always been mixed up with my sexuality and with sex. Of course I will solidly follow forum rules. But even today it’s messing me up. Probably I’m just a a coward! Anyways: Hellooooo
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- May 12, 2017 at 4:56 pm #54425AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 1Replies: 7Has thanked: 5 timesBeen thanked: 14 times
I just want to make sure I don’t get off on a bad foot here.
One of the (big) things I’m trying to figure out as part of my recent awakening is how it will impact my romantic life with my wife. Not from a “will she accept it way”, as she has; but more from the perspective that we’ve had a certain bedroom dynamic for 20 years based on a typical masculine/feminine interaction. I had hoped to get some insight into what a femme/femme dynamic might mean. I’ll be honest, I’m as nervous as a virgin about it (which i guess is both good and bad). Is this wandering too close to prohibited subjects?
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- April 2, 2019 at 5:11 am #165234AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 20Replies: 519Has thanked: 582 timesBeen thanked: 695 times
Hey girl—just was reading your thought and wondered if you ever got an answer? I also run along side your thinking on this, as I’ve found the fem/fem relationship is totally more exhilarating, longer lasting and satisfying to both of us ( me and wife )…….all my dressing is related to a ‘date-nite’ with another beautiful woman, and drinking, light touching, very light kissing, and a sexy conversation, always leads us to the bedroom, and in there the acting can last several hours……..of course both of us are completely turned into two women………that’s what it is for me, and the positions, poses, teases, etc are just part of the infatuation we have with each other. There’s a lot here that want to talk only about dressing, but for me, it’s about completely divesting the man, and becoming as realistic as a woman, as I can and this is inclusive of all woman on women activities. I am totally cis—so is wife—-but we try to to share both nature’s—-to the best we can………..and it is so gratifying !!! I don’t know why other people don’t talk about this more —–anyway, thanks for your message—good to know someone else thinks of this.
- August 23, 2018 at 8:39 pm #113236AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 3Replies: 17Has thanked: 80 timesBeen thanked: 31 times
In my previous marriage, my wife would on rare occasion, let me assume the feminine aspect of who I am, but mostly I was still the male. That is what she wanted in bed most of the time. It’s who she married, and I loved her enough to be “all male” in the bedroom when she wanted it. I suggest you talk to your spouse about it when you feel it’s time. Don’t force the conversation. Hugs,
- May 14, 2017 at 12:24 am #54549AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 99Replies: 563Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 871 times
What we are seeking to do is prevent posts that become offensive or pornographic.
Conversations that explore sexuality or those “bedroom dynamics” you mention are okay as long as they don’t stray into graphic detail. Discussion in general terms is fine. For example you could say you want to assume a female role and that’d be fine. Discussing just what that entailed would not be. It should be remembered that family members and partners are welcome here, we have many such members, and they need to be able to feel comfortable with conversations as much as anyone else.
Conversations in private groups, because membership is restricted, can be a little bit more detailed but, again, may not veer into pornography or graphic descriptions of sexual activities.
I hope that helps to explain where we stand.
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- May 11, 2017 at 7:28 am #54166Lucy BlackParticipantRegistered On: May 1, 2017Topics: 2Replies: 6Has thanked: 4 timesBeen thanked: 2 times
I’ve noticed some interesting threads in the Christian Crossdresser category. Is this category closed now, or would I be able to add to the discussion? I’m pretty new here, so I don’t want to start breaking the rules straight away ! https://www.crossdresserheaven.com/category/more/christian-crossdresser/
- May 11, 2017 at 7:52 am #54169Manager CodilleFounderRegistered On: April 24, 2016Topics: 2Replies: 25Has thanked: 20 timesBeen thanked: 146 times
Great Question! That is an Archived article from 2009 first off and was not a forum topic. There was even at one point a Group for Christian Crossdressers. Things have changed quite a bit since when this site was a blog to what it is now as a support site with over 10000 members. Stick with was the current rules are and you will be fine. Thanks for asking first!
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- April 18, 2017 at 5:49 am #51788AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 99Replies: 563Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 871 times
It’s time to revisit this post. Some members have either not read it or have forgotten what they read.
Supporting each other is about preserving civility and respect. Discussions on ‘the big three’ have a tendency to undermine those concepts, hence why they are not permitted.
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- March 13, 2017 at 12:10 pm #47297Hannah JeanneParticipantRegistered On: March 10, 2017Topics: 9Replies: 38Has thanked: 79 timesBeen thanked: 114 times
You sound a lot like me, and you’re right, there is no place here for that. I came here to express myself not get on a soapbox.
"Just the first step on a what will undoubtedly be the most difficult journey to date." - Hannah Jeanne
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- March 9, 2017 at 5:34 am #46839Suzanne JeffriesParticipantRegistered On: November 11, 2015Topics: 4Replies: 20Has thanked: 14 timesBeen thanked: 34 times
Several years ago I came to the realization that I was completely disinterested in the political views of other people. During an election I make up my own mind who to vote for and don’t pay attention to anything after that. This last election cycle I made up my mind how I was voting (not who for but how) before the primary season started. After that I didn’t watch a single second of coverage, debates, etc… I just went and voted on election day. I don’t share my political views with others and I don’t care about other’s political views. Politicians and news organizations try to keep everyone worked up about politics before during and after elections for ratings, money and votes. So I do participate in the political process but on my own terms.
Crossdressing is my passion. I love all things feminine. My hope is to make as many good girlfriends as possible on Crossdresser Heaven.
- March 6, 2017 at 6:46 am #46408BelleAmbassadorRegistered On: December 18, 2016Topics: 2Replies: 23Has thanked: 36 timesBeen thanked: 23 times
As a history major / political science emphasis type as well – kudos!! Like you, I wish conversations could be civil – but with the decisiveness, bitterness and frayed feelings – it’s hard if not impossible to rise up to have that kind of intellectual conversation.
Still – if there is a safe, viable outlet for such conversations – I’m all in. I’m intrigued by all the sides and angles – and this last election cycle was no exception.
Thanks for holding the line – and for ensuring a safe place for all of us and our complicated views!
- February 27, 2017 at 9:22 pm #45868AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 13Replies: 98Has thanked: 90 timesBeen thanked: 84 times
<p style=”text-align: left;”>Hi Codille, Thank you for taking the time and effort to reply. I do appreciate it.</p>
I get it, I do and I understand that joining a group such as this means following the rules of the group, so of course, I will. I have no wish to cause pain for anyone here. I humbly and respectfully acknowledge your experience and and accept your guidance . (Okay, that’s a little overboard but you get my drift.😃)
- February 28, 2017 at 8:42 am #45878
- February 27, 2017 at 7:51 am #45822FounderRegistered On: April 24, 2016Topics: 2Replies: 25Has thanked: 20 timesBeen thanked: 146 times
I am in deep respect of your faith and would never want to try to snuff if out in any way, quite the contrary I would want to see it grow. As I have stated here to many before I am a very devoted Christian. I am an Ordained Lay Minister (a Deacon -Non-Seminary) and have acted as the Senior Warden of my current congregation for 3+ years. I didn’t think I did a good enough job at the age of 14 understanding confirmation, so when my sons went through the confirmation process, so did I and Re-affirmed my vows to God. My wife and I have spearheaded and lead our churches outreach programs. I was raise from a young age by my Grandparents to understand what reverence is and that Christ’s ultimate sacrifice himself, has saved my soul for eternity. I hope that give you a better picture of the person that heads this site now.
That doesn’t mean here in open forum at Crossdresser Heaven, yes the irony of the name is not lost on me by the way as I have to do what God wants us to do, ‘Love Thy Neighbor, As Thy Self”. Running a website of now 10000 Registered members, I have to keep the peace, and unfortunately when it comes to the topic of religion, time and time again in the past, now years after Vanessa’s wonderful blogs, a simple conversation explodes into a massive argument and no one wins. The no Big 3 rule is set for open discussion areas, places (the Chat room of open Forums) where one wrong statement or opinion will blow up into a firestorm, it does not apply to group (though it is monitored so not does blow) or private discussion. As a Christian, I have reached out to thousands of my sisters and welcomed them to a safe haven away from the chaos, and I have heard so many thanks for bringing them in from the storm, but as you and I know, It is just what God calls us to do. So as long as Vanessa agrees with me and I am in charge the Big 3 rule stands and stands VERY firm.
But I offer you a suggestion, an olive branch… There once was a group here on the site called “Christian Crossdressers”, it died due to like of interest sadly. Jaimelynn, your passion tells me you could rekindle a group if you wanted. I would support this effort strongly. Let me know if you are interested.
- February 27, 2017 at 6:40 am #45821AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 1Replies: 7Has thanked: 1 timeBeen thanked: 11 times
Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel…except at CDH.
Some folks may need to get their profiles tweeked if that is the case…still thankful Christ died for sinners and that includes me as a cross dresser.
If there is no room for your faith at CDH may need to re-think your faith, can’t be worth much…at least as far as God is concerned…if there is a God.
If you can’t be a friend of God at CDH…might have the wrong kind of friends…What a friend we have in Jesus…etc…is a hymn best kept to your self, etc…
If Jesus Christ is not welcome in parts of your life…might be best to part company with those for whom he is not welcome.
Feel free to ban me from CDH if you still find it necessary…not a problem for me either way.
I don’t discuss politics with those I care about and remind them that in heaven (if there is a heaven) there are no liberals, conservatives, democrats, republicans, socialists, communists, etc…only…sinners in need of a Saviour, who have received Jesus Christ as their own personal Saviour.
I don’t discuss religion with those I care about and remind them that in heaven (if there is a heaven) there are no Baptists, Catholics, Muslims, Jews, Protestants, Methodists, Mormons, Jehovah Witnesses, etc…only…sinners in need of a Saviour, who have received Jesus Christ as their own personal Saviour.
I don’t discuss sex with those I care about and remind them that in heaven (if there is a heaven)…where they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven…and in Christ…neither male nor female…there are only…sinners in need of a Saviour, who have received Jesus Christ as their own personal Saviour.
I have read the King James Bible from cover to cover 51 times to date and working on 52 now…hope to have read it as many times thru as I am old when I leave planet earth.
When I stumbled into CDH I started searching thru all the articles in the archives…oldest to newest. I was amazed how any times Vanessa had many articles discussing her faith, and religious friends who felt they had a mission from God in contributing how their faith in God and his word inspired and kept them going. Guessing at the end of the train they were riding (for many…probably not all) God had to get kicked off the train as well as Significant Others that had helped them along the way to achieving their their end goal…and they had to part company with their SOs and God…interesting how progress progresses for some.
I have no intention of leaving my Lord and Saviour behind and if he is not welcome at CDH please free to remove from CDH as a member…not a problem really…would just affirm I have no business being here at CDH even though it has helped me tremendously, and helped me accept myself for who I am.
Be well all…all is well…there is no hell.
Just a thought from the peanut gallery.
- February 27, 2017 at 6:09 am #45820AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 13Replies: 98Has thanked: 90 timesBeen thanked: 84 times
I am going to respectfully and lovingly disagree. The politics of the world affect us all and are therefore relevant.
I didn’t think that the string was at all disrespectful or mean spirited. It was political discussion at it best, each of us expressing a view was listened to and in turn gave others an opportunity to be heard. If we never listen to each other or give others a chance to state their case, how will we ever heal the divide we now face?
I realize that it is easier to avoid discussing difficult topics. No feelings are hurt by the silence, right? Isn’t that what we all do, every day? Hide what we feel so as avoid condemnation? Just a thought.
<p style=”text-align: right;”>I love my time here at CDH, have no wish to lose it or to cause strife and discord. I will, of course, abide by the rules.</p>
<p style=”text-align: right;”>Thank you Codille for taking the time and effort to moderate the site and give us all a safe place to be ourselves.</p>
<p style=”text-align: left;”>Jillian</p>
- February 27, 2017 at 8:35 am #45825FounderRegistered On: April 24, 2016Topics: 2Replies: 25Has thanked: 20 timesBeen thanked: 146 times
Politics, Wow where to start. I am a history major, by the very nature that leads to very few jobs and into a lot of fights. Alright, roughly 80 years ago a man in a wheelchair with Polio was President of the United States, in fact most say one of the greatest we ever had and the only one ever elected three times to office, Franklin Deleno Roosevelt. If he were alive today with the way TV and Social Media is and how much appearance matters, he would be lucky to be elect mayor somewhere, that is how over stimulated and shallow America has become.
America right now is in a very fractured state. There are to many people out for there own agenda not the agenda the people that put them in office thought they were getting that things have been on the floor of the house the worst forms of respect and decorum in history. I don’t care what side party it is, no one is trying to work together to fix the issues that matter to Americans. Us, the little guys, the ones that put them there.
That bring me to Part two of the Big 3 discussion I guess. Why, with everything that is going on in the LGBTQ community can’t we talk about it on Crossdresser Heaven. Why, because it NEVER stays on topic, ever. In the almost two years I have been here I have never seen a political conversation stay civil. It’s is not that we don’t have smart people here, quite the contrary, we have very intelligent people here. But 99% of us have a flaw in us, if you want to call it flaw, it is called passion or conviction, and if you run into that coming the wrong direction the world ignites! Every time. Without fail. We have lost some great members over political fights, I have lost friends that I could not reel back in after they got wrapped up in them.
98% of the politics I would always keep out of here. So do I want a great open discussion about how we can fight against the reverse direction the law is about to take against the LGBTQ community, damn straight I do. To be able to talk about laws and issues about CD/TG rights and how far we have come how how to take the next step, wow what I wouldn’t do to have safe real heart to heart discussion on those things. Do I want to talk about how we can try to work with other groups and stand up for our rights, YES!!!! YES I DO!!!!
But as soon as that conversation starts, something will somehow go sideways and BOOM!!!! Karma sucks sometimes, so does human nature. SO like I just said in my last response to Jaimelynne, as long as Vanessa agrees with me and I am in charge the Big 3 rule stands and stands VERY firm.
- March 9, 2017 at 8:08 am #46847AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 3Replies: 26Has thanked: 36 timesBeen thanked: 36 times
You are so right. It is not just here. Something about the anonymity of the Internet seems to bring out the worst in people. Well, probably not most people, but enough so that almost any comments section on any website seems to deteriorate in no time to the worst kind of name calling and disrespect. That’s why despite my own deep interest in politics and history, I fully support the ban on politics, religion, and sex here.
It is hard enough to find positive support anywhere for who we are, and it’s important, I think, that we do what we can to protect one another.
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- March 9, 2017 at 8:05 am #46846AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 3Replies: 26Has thanked: 36 timesBeen thanked: 36 times
You are so right. It is not just here. Something about the anonymity of the Interned seems to bring out the worst in people. Well, probably not most people, but enough so that almost any comments section on any website seems to deteriorate in no time to the worst kind of name calling and disrespect. That’s why despite my own deep interest in politics and history, I fully support the ban on politics, religion, and sex here.
It is hard enough to find positive support anywhere for who we are, and it’s important, I think, that we do what we can to protect one another.
- February 27, 2017 at 2:52 am #45809Kim PaigeParticipantRegistered On: January 23, 2017Topics: 11Replies: 166Has thanked: 114 timesBeen thanked: 154 times
As one of the girls posting on the original thread, I want to apologize for putting you into a position where you had to reel us back. While I don’t think anyone went into the topic with ill intentions, we all came to CDH to embrace the wide world of cross dressing, where we can share our experiences from the thrill of shopping through the agony of the purge. Thanks for reminding me of the boundaries!
- February 25, 2017 at 12:30 pm #45642Kim PaigeParticipantRegistered On: January 23, 2017Topics: 11Replies: 166Has thanked: 114 timesBeen thanked: 154 times
- February 25, 2017 at 9:57 am #45636ParticipantRegistered On: January 14, 2017Topics: 7Replies: 139Has thanked: 101 timesBeen thanked: 146 times
Yes, I agree, it is probably for the best. The big three are a slippery slope. What starts as an innocent and philosophical discussion can very quickly descend into something quite hurtful and non-productive. Despite the fact we have CDing in common, I’m positive we represent the full spectrum of religious and political views. I love talking about these issues, but I would hate for any differences to ruin the love and support we have for each other. Besides, I’d much rather talk about the panties and bras I just ordered, or about all of the beautiful dresses I would love to wear! I come here to enjoy the company of my fellow ladies.
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