What are the most essential aspects of Crossdressing for you ?

Apart from the clothes , choose what for you are the three most essential aspects of crossdressing. Select from the following options (choose 3). Also feel free to add a response as well, describing why you feel the three you have chosen are essential to you. If there is a fourth or fifth aspect which is important to you as well then include them in your response.

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  • Accessories (handbags etc)
  • Body Shape (Bust + Hips)
  • Complexion & Skincare
  • Hairstyle (own or wig)
  • Hair Removal (legs, chest, etc)
  • Jewelry
  • Lingerie
  • Makeup
  • Pantyhose/tights
  • Shoes
  • Special Outfit (specify)
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  • #337982
    Alicen Thairms
    Registered On: July 15, 2019
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    I’ve been thinking recently about what to me are the most essential aspects of crossdressing apart from the clothes. I thought it would be interesting to see what others thought too… so a little poll to answer 🙂

    The three most essential aspects of crossdressing  for me are …

    • Body shape – achieving a nice bust line; I have naturally wide hips – to assist with overall look when wearing separates I wear a darker skirt/trousers with lighter tops. This scheme helps de-emphasise my blocky upper half.
    • Hairstyle – have a mid bob length ‘unisex’ cut which I can brush into two styles – mannish and femme.
    • Hair Removal – weekly shave of armpits, legs, forearms and chest; plus eyebrow shaping.

    a close fourth ..

    • Complexion & skincare – daily cleanse and moisturise; plus moisturise after a bath
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    • #437023
      Polly Stewart
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      Ha ha ha… Shoes should be at the top of the list just like the women you seek to emulate!

      Gimme a pair of shoes… sleek patent heels, higher, shinier, … just gimme a pair of shoes!

      (For anyone not knowing Hair, the song, google it)

      Click, clack … Polly xxx

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      Deborah Sullivan
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      Yea hard to put in order but body shapers, makeup, hair, outfit and heels

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    • #435800
      Registered On: July 28, 2020
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      Body shape (the girls) and hair removal are a tie for first… lingerie (baby-dolls, bra and panties) and jewellery are 2nd. & 3rd. Yeah., that’s 4… cheated a tad. Sorry.

      Edit:  whoops, also painted nails… fingers and toes… 🥰  That’s 5… my bad 😔

      At this point in my journey, I’m not desperate to escape the closet. Very much a home body so I stay at home in my ‘Comfies’… 🥰


      Gen… ❤

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    • #435788
      Wendy Swift
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      I couldn’t just pick 3, the choices were really difficult as they all play a role into looking more feminine.

      I settled with :

      – bust/hips.  Years ago I was basically a miad, but I yearned for busts to make that look more complete.  Breastforms became a part of my wardrobe only recently in my CDing journey.  As for hips, they are also a recent addition.  The dresstech solution was the best solution for me.  When I transform, the breastforms and hips are a must to make that look more real.

      – hair/wig.  Again, in my early years of CDing, I wanted a wig but I didn’t know where to start and the only place with internet access was at school (didn’t have the guts to search wigs in an open area at school).  Wigs were a part of my dressing longer, and started out with cheap costume wigs.  Now I’ve migrated to more realistic and slightly more expensive wigs, which really has improved my overall look.

      – makeup.  Applying facial makeup is also a recent addition.  I used to get all dressed up and then put on the cheap wig.  From behind I could pass but from the front you can definitely tell miad.  I am still working on perfecting my makeup skills but it has gotten to the point where it is somewhat decent.

      – this choice was not there, but I feel this aspect really pushed me into the “more passable” stage.  I wear prescription glasses, and for the longest time I had guy frames.  When I look in the mirror everything felt right, wig, bust/hips, makeup, but the glasses were a dead giveaway.  I finally bought a pair of girl glasses and I felt it really helped improve my femininity appearance overall.


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    • #435424
      Terri Johnson
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      This is almost impossible for me to answer accurately because I am an “all or nothing” girl and so, TO ME, this poll almost seems like a variation of one of the “what are you most attracted to/turned on by” questions. If I had to limit it to any “3” then I would probably not get dressed at all.  But, again, that has to do with my desire to be all girl in appearance and personal feeling/perception.

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    • #434284
      Holly Tygressa
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      I picked the obvious visual things, but I feel more feminine in my lingerie so if there was a fourth choice I would pick that. Even when you can’t fully dress you can always wear panties for that feminine feeling everyday.

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      Alison Anderson
      Registered On: October 15, 2018
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      A few weeks ago I would have really said none of these.  These aren’t essential for crossdressing, but they are essential for going out among others.  Before the self-isolation from COVID-19, I was perfectly happy to come home from work and/or evening obligations, put on a skirt and top, and wear it until morning.  So only the clothes are important.

      With the isolation, I was unable to get waxed two weeks ago (and that was 6 weeks from my last appointment, which I do during the winter months; in the warmer weather I go every 5 weeks).  I normally get waxed everywhere below my neck except my armpits (I have to shave them or I get an odor that is impossible to get rid of, even immediately after a shower), and under boxer briefs (the place I go mandates that).  However these areas I shave or use hair removal cream.

      I  did a quick job on my two worst spots, my knees and forearms, although I still had to shave the knees because the wax I have is too thin to spread on easily.  After 4+ years of waxing, my arms and legs are relatively sparse.  I can definitely see chest hair growing back in, even if it is light.  The hair growth is beginning to bother me now.  I don’t want to shave because it isn’t good to mix the shaving and waxing.  So for the technicality of the question, I am only going with hair removal.

      For going out, breast forms are next in importance.  Although I have a pair of padded girdle, I don’t wear it very often.  I think I only wore it a handful of times.  After that it is a hard choice between hair and makeup.  My own hair is very long, and I can get away with just wearing clip-in bangs to cover my forehead, but I still consider that hair.  Other times I will wear a wig just so Alison’s hair doesn’t look like my (male)  hair.  And makeup (daytime makeup) sometimes consists of lipstick on my face as a beard cover (give my face a sunburned look), then foundation, Ben Nye beard cover under my nose (my problem spot), and finally a little bit of concealer and bronzer.  I might put some mascara on my eyebrows to cover the grey.  So I could comb and clip my hair to cover my forehead, but I need at least enough makeup to prevent my beard from showing through if I am going out.  I would have to vote for makeup third and hair a very close fourth.

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    • #340069
      Jannie Murry
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      Just about everything on list is essential for me to get the look that I want to present. Bur the one thing that I absolutely need wasn’t  there. I don’t feel completely comfortable unless I am wearing my prosthetic vagina underneath my clothes. Not only dose it hide my male parts but knowing that its there makes me feel more like a female then anything else I wear. It changes the way that I think about myself and I find it easier to have female mannerisms when I’m out in public There’s never been a senereo where I am among gernetic girls that I haven’t felt comfortable. I feel as though I can blend in with just about any place that I go from store’s in my neighborhood to casinos in Las Vegas without being outed

      Thanks for asking the question. I hope you understand my answer

    • #339305
      Tiffany Berry
      Registered On: April 22, 2020
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      I love this question because for me it is all about the foundation: body shape, skin care and most certainly clean-shaven. Sort of like a blank canvas ready to be painted, adorned primped, fussed over and so forth. I adore the pomp and pageantry of dressing, as a deeply satisfying endeavor of love. Oh and by the way; it’s so very much fun! 🤭

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    • #339124
      Lisa Fox
      Registered On: March 24, 2020
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      Ho Alicen,

      I love the question – but almost impossible to pick just three!  I picked pantyhose (that’s where I started and still my favorite), heels (because I love to walk in them), and make up (because it’s so much fun changing looks).  It’s all about what gives me a good feeling…however, if I was going for the look, I would have to change my answer!



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    • #339066
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      I voted for jwellery. I am so much obsessed about jwellery that one of my fantasy is to wear   jwellery with minimum clothes. Necklace, bangles, bindi, anklet, bracelet, eartops, nosering waistchain and what not !!!

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    • #338836
      Registered On: August 26, 2018
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      For me it’s body shape way out front then clean shaved legs, arms and armpits then nylons / tights though in this I’m also including stockings because I love, love, love seemed stockings. If I had a fourth choice, it would have to be shoes / heels and I mention this because they are virtually equal with nylons. I adore the way a pair of 5″ heels shaped my stocking clad legs and lifts my buttocks, particularly when I’m wearing a figure hugging pencil skirt. Thinking about this, it’s a part of body shaping anyway. I’d be surprised if anybody wore heels for the  way they feel. Can’t say I’ve ever had a really comfortable pair of heels.

      Take care girls.


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    • #338700
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      My thoughts too..

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      Any time I can be someplace where and elegant gown or dress is the accepted wear of the event

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      Caty Ryan
      Registered On: August 27, 2017
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      For me its/.

      1/. Breast forms. I do not feel “femme” one bit without them. Tho I do wear A cup bras under my drab in the winter when layers of clothing diminish the straps and band. As I age the man boobs seem to get bigger, so…

      2/. Hair. I’m an “aircraft carrier” on top, so a good wig is essential.

      3/. Lingerie… I LOOOOVVVEE high end lingerie, makes a girl feel very special

      4/. Heavy duty stockings. I cant shave more than my chest, so the hair needs to be hidden.

      5/. Outer clothes, be it casual for mall trips or formal in a ballgown.

      6/. Last but not least, of course, make up and jewellery to “complete the look”


      Happy dressing




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    • #338524
      Laura Lovett
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      1. Hair. As someone who doesn’t have as much as they did in former years, I don’t think the balding look works with female clothing, so this is top priority.
      2. Shoes. No way am I spoiling a pretty dress with clumping man shoes. Ideally heels, but pink trainers or strappy flats if my feet really can’t take them!
      3. Shape enhancers, especially breast forms. Can’t go out in a dress, or even femme jeans and t-shirt, wig and shoes without them. It’s about the image.

      Makeup us next, but optional. Plenty of GGs go without – as long as you’re shaved and moisturised, no problem, but foundation, mascara and lippy never fail to give a confidence boost.

      Hair removal I guess is next, but I shave the horrible stuff anyway – but it’s vital if you’re going to expose anything, and why wouldn’t you unless it’s freezing?

      Love Laura

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      Sally Drinkwater
      Registered On: July 15, 2019
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      Hi everyone,

      OK, it’s not only difficult to pick 3 essential things it is impossible to pick the 8 things that are not?  Every one of the 11 are important if we want to be the best we can be.   It’s hard enough without putting limits on what it takes to make us look and feel attractive.

      Sally xx

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      Patty Phose
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      For me, the three most essential aspects of being fully femme is having sexy legs, nice breasts and pretty hair. If I can get those right, the rest seems to take care of itself.

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      Heather Jameson
      Registered On: April 1, 2019
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      I checked of hair, shape and complexion because obviously this is what people truly see when they’re looking at you especially men. I think it goes back to our primitive days, if you had nice hair, soft skin and a good shape you were healthy and good breeding stock. You can take a scabby tree and hang stuff all over it and you’ve got a nice Xmas tree but when you take off the lights and tinsel that’s what really counts.

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    • #338206
      Registered On: April 30, 2016
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      Is there an option for “all of the above”? Lol. Just when I think I have it figured out, I see something that else that I MUST have to complete the look. I guess that’s fairly common even among genetic females. Thanks for the question!

    • #338201
      Sandy Craig
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      Pretty difficult to narrow down to 3 choices but I choose: Accessories, Hair Removal and Makeup.

      Truth is though it’s the entire package.

      I am an out in public always person and while I hate to say it, First Impressions are a huge reality. People see you from a distance and possibly get closer and make a lot of judgments instantly. So in about 1 second a stranger will decide a lot about you whether true or not. I also feel it’s not so important what I wear but how everything is put together regardless if I’m in a dress or casual with jeans and sneakers.

      To me everything on this list is essential with the exception of lingerie and specialty outfit-for my needs being out in public.


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      Paula F
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      I picked lingerie, jewelry and body shape as the most important to me, but I agree with Edie, the whole list is a part of being me.  Also I am a firm believer in smelling sexy and gorgeous too, so perfumes and colognes are just as important as any outfit.  My favorite perfume is White Musk and to me, it gives an actual presence to the ‘Pink Fog’ that I can experience physically.


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      Patty Phose
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      For me being femme always meant sexy legs, nice breasts and pretty hair. If I could get those right, the rest seemed to take care of itself.

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    • #338116
      Renske Meijer
      Registered On: April 11, 2020
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      HI, It was not easy to choose from the list, but I made it anyway.

      I think they are all needed to give you your feminin feeling and looks because one does not go without the other.

      We just need them!!

      Renske xx

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    • #338101
      Edie Majeski
      Registered On: April 7, 2018
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      I couldn’t vote on this one because I feel everything in the list is essential.

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    • #338043
      Alice Underwire
      Registered On: September 16, 2019
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      Hi Alicen,

      Other than the clothes ones shape is key to cross dressing.  Hence, the padding, breast forms, etc. makes your outfit come together.

      Without pockets a cross dresser needs a handbag or purse.  After all we must have those essentials like credit cards phone, keys, tissue, make-up, etc.

      So too with one’s bling.  Who doesn’t like bright, shiny, colorful bangles and bracelets to enjoy with that dangly necklace and matching (hopefully) earrings.

      One more item is your special scent.  After all we need to complete and finish the look.



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    • #338039
      Alexis Tresse
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      Registered On: March 27, 2020
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      For me everything CD is new, exciting, and experimental. Always long hair. I’m learning cosmetics: eyeliner, eye shadow, lip gloss, soon foundation. For outfits I prefer skirts and dresses because slacks make me look like a man.

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