- Please note your guess as to the percentage of cross dressers you believe are straight males whether out of the closet or not.
- January 30, 2019 at 8:49 am #148721Scarlett398ParticipantRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Hi Girls, it’s Scarlett and I posed this question to the girls in our chat room yesterday and got a response from most all of the girls on there.
I am a straight male who’s married to my sexy redhead who I absolutely love and can’t keep my paws off of.
My guess is 80% or more of all cross dressers are straight males.
Now this number or percentage would be extremely difficult to get a firm number on as a result of so many cross dressers being deep in the closet and having to keep their thrill of cross dressing a secret even from disapproving wives or wives who they may fear would be disapproving if they told their wives about their thrill of cross dressing.
Thanks for reading and please give us your guess as to what percentage of cross dressers are straight males whether they are in the closet or not.
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- March 11, 2021 at 7:12 am #460830Brooke SimoneLadyRegistered On: March 10, 2021Topics: 1Replies: 4Has thanked: 13 timesBeen thanked: 25 times
I’m so very new to this that I’m not sure I one that should be throwing my opinion out. I guess I’ll just present my thoughts. I’m not sure where I fall, and honestly, I don’t care. Whatever someone chooses to label me is for their own thoughts, not mine.
a few months ago, I never thought I’d have the thoughts and feelings I do, so I can only try and be as fluid and as adaptable to things as possible. I definitely find women beautiful and am attracted to women. But it’s more then just the physical (which helps a lot) it’s the spirit of a woman.
I do not find anything attractive about men. I have a couple of friends but most of my close relationships are with women. Physically, I just don’t see anything in a guy. But someone that feels and dresses and accepts their femme side as a woman, I find beautiful. Not to be explicit, but I can see a man’s penis and it looks funny and weird, but I see a trans/cd penis, and I find beauty and sexiness. (Sorry for the graphic example, and I know there’s so much more to people, but it gets my point across).
So call me what you’d like. There’s beauty in so many things. I can’t define it, but I now it when I see it.
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- March 7, 2021 at 3:05 pm #459084SharonLadyRegistered On: July 27, 2020Topics: 6Replies: 104Has thanked: 843 timesBeen thanked: 566 times
- March 7, 2021 at 8:03 pm #459221Polly StewartLadyRegistered On: January 2, 2021Topics: 9Replies: 859Has thanked: 1184 timesBeen thanked: 2840 times
I was moved, in some strange way, by your response. I am me, Polly, a woman very much hetro but… probable transsexual so therefore lesbian (something my otherwise very supportive wife has difficulty with).
I am not a male coming out for the thrill of it!
- March 8, 2021 at 12:06 am #459271SharonLadyRegistered On: July 27, 2020Topics: 6Replies: 104Has thanked: 843 timesBeen thanked: 566 times
- March 8, 2021 at 12:56 am #459279Polly StewartLadyRegistered On: January 2, 2021Topics: 9Replies: 859Has thanked: 1184 timesBeen thanked: 2840 times
An ally? I like that and shall mention this to her! We love each other very much and to the exclusion of other ‘partners’!
But a kiss is a kiss… she says sorry for giving mixed messages… I say it’s ok… but it’s not! She knows this and I know this. Maybe in a while we can come together as allies! Great word… describes a plethora of ideas.
Thank Sharon… bottom of heart stuff!
- March 7, 2021 at 7:26 pm #459173Scarlett398PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Sharon, this was definitely one of the most interesting answers submitted to my question here and you covered a lot of ground with so few words! Loved your response, Sharon!
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- February 21, 2021 at 11:12 am #451626LisaTLadyRegistered On: January 31, 2021Topics: 40Replies: 452Has thanked: 343 timesBeen thanked: 2006 times
I was straight when I started crossdressing but I would say I’m bi now. I don’t think anyone who looks at a picture of a naked guy and thinks about being with him, even if dressed as a woman, can claim to be straight. I definitely find guys attractive so bi for me
- February 21, 2021 at 10:52 am #451621AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 0Replies: 1Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 1 time
I think about 90% are straight
- January 17, 2021 at 3:35 am #434350AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 2Replies: 125Has thanked: 160 timesBeen thanked: 444 times
I am definitely straight and Like you can’t keep my hands off my wife. I feel that most of us are straight.
I think your guess at around 80% is fairly accurate. At least 75%
- November 12, 2020 at 2:56 pm #405927Genivieve BujoldLadyRegistered On: April 13, 2017Topics: 2Replies: 50Has thanked: 125 timesBeen thanked: 220 times
Does anyone really know what others are like? So I can only answer for myself. For me, when I am presenting as Genivieve I want to be as completely female as possible, including wanting to attract male attention. So in feminine mode, I am a straight female. When in Drab I like girls and have no interest in men. So in drab I am a straight male. Does this make me Bi?
- February 4, 2021 at 7:48 pm #443096Alisha AlexLadyRegistered On: November 28, 2020Topics: 2Replies: 44Has thanked: 117 timesBeen thanked: 183 times
Well said.. when I’m Alisha I feel in need to be treated as a woman who has her needs. To be loved by a man. I used to crossdress for my ex when he was around. And I have no shame to say that I love to be taken by a gentleman.
- This reply was modified 2 months ago by Alisha Alex.
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- November 2, 2020 at 12:31 pm #401942Robin GirlyLadyRegistered On: March 29, 2020Topics: 0Replies: 136Has thanked: 368 timesBeen thanked: 421 times
- November 2, 2020 at 11:52 am #401933KimmieLadyRegistered On: September 27, 2016Topics: 3Replies: 242Has thanked: 155 timesBeen thanked: 1001 times
I think this is correct. I would and will often fantasize about having sex with a male when dressed en femme. I tried it once and as can be the case, the fantasy and reality were quite different. That one time was sufficient to demonstrate to me that I am not bi.
I recognize that there is a legitimate argument that one cannot tell for sure from one experience, but I’m also sure of how I felt and what both my immediate and longer term feelings were and are.
- November 2, 2020 at 9:20 am #401853Robyn DevineDuchessRegistered On: October 24, 2020Topics: 15Replies: 605Has thanked: 1899 timesBeen thanked: 2584 times
Define straight? LOL!!
As in I like Girls…ABSOLUTELY!! But to be sarcastic and light hearted…
Im a 6ft guy who dresses in womens clothes and heels…straight I am not!!
Do I have curiousities, yes, but I am in love with the Female visual!
XOXO – Robyn
- November 2, 2020 at 9:05 am #401849AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 0Replies: 38Has thanked: 26 timesBeen thanked: 219 times
I think it is virtually imposable even in a pole here to decide on this
People here are saying 90% straight I’m sure this is not anywhere near the right number.
Over the years I have seen on many sites, Crossdressers claiming to be looking for a woman and nothing ells, Sorry not interested in men or other dressers so on.
Then same guy after 6 months or so on the site, Only interested in women and other CDs no men.
6 months on Crossdresser looking for men women and other dressers.
I have seen this ALOT.
I think to be honest its more to do with acceptance then being straight gay or bi, Crossdressers are lets face it admire feminine beauty so much they want to become what they desire.
So in a way all crossdressers should be straight, to a point.
The problem with this is very simple and that’s the fact that a very high number of woman may try and understand crossdressers and happy to accept them in life, this dose not mean there happy to do so in marriage or the bedroom.
And the problem with Crossdressers is the fact that we are all trying to chase that next step to climb, I believe this is to do with accepting ourselves by normalising every thing we do, Being fully dressed at home is grate accepted, need to go out in public accepted so on.
In fact we chase the the idea of being feminine in every aspect of our lives trying to bridge the gape or understand ourselves
The fact that we would chase the acceptance of a sexual partner and find the ultimate feeling of being female is really not so surprising, the fact is the clothes we chose to wear in fem in most cases are the cloths women wear to go out look there best go on a date so on,
As a whole it may not be the reason someone crossdresses to have sex tho some do ,the fact is we are all sexual human beings the idea we can somehow castrate all sexual needs and desires by stepping into a dress is just ridicules, Most will say there is a sexual charge to dressing tho a lot of this can be put of to the thrill of doing something your not supposed to. We are infarct dressing up as an attraction too ourselves and hopefully others.
The idea we accept ourselves to be female when dressed, lays the ground to accepting others to also be female when there dressed accepted attraction, then all you need to do is just defrock the crossdresser accepted attraction.
Ok this is all MY theory but also what I have seen others go through, But I believe without the acceptance of a good woman The difference between gay straight and bi in crossdressers is more to do with trying to find acceptence and happiness rather then sexualaty
- November 2, 2020 at 8:20 am #401829Jenny Thigh HighLadyRegistered On: August 10, 2019Topics: 7Replies: 233Has thanked: 1164 timesBeen thanked: 1091 times
Well…I don’t know the numbers.
But I do know that many CDs will in private or DM admit to being much less straight than they will admit in public forums.
So I do absolutely believe the “public” stats of 80% or higher are inflated, and many/many more CDs are bi/gay/open than is often claimed.
Always a fun topic to think about! 🙂
As for me — 100% oriented to men. 100%.
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- November 2, 2020 at 7:19 am #401813Deborah SullivanDuchessRegistered On: February 27, 2020Topics: 2Replies: 584Has thanked: 2496 timesBeen thanked: 2311 times
As a gay man and girl I have been exposed to tons of cds over the years at events, clubs and support groups. The vast majority of dressers are straight and think the percentages are the same in the population at large. If eight percent of the general population is gay then its the same in the cd population. Lets not confuse people that have had a homosexual experience as gay which is a life long preference and life style.
- October 31, 2020 at 10:54 pm #401217AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 0Replies: 3Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 29 times
Scarlett, Annie here. I think 90% are straight, at least originally. But I am going to qualify my answer. I consider myself in that 90% by the more I am Annie the more I begin to feel a curiosity about being accepted as a female by the the other gender. Would I like to go on a date if the situation arose? Would I like to hold hands and perhaps be kissed? Woulni extend those desires to some mild petting ? I think as Annie I would answer yes to these but not take it any further. These would be an extension of my womanhood and seem natural. In my male persona these thoughts never cross my mind.
So I am beginning to question myself a bit I am evolving Perhaps it’s because I was recently discovered
I was recently discovered by my so. I downloaded some pics she wanted and thought I had sanitized the album but some must have come through from the cloud. Next thing she was asking me is why I am dressed like a lady ? She then proceeded through different stages of anger. She outed meto my daughters and some friends. We are talking but it’s hard. She doesn’t understand not sure where it’s going or how will it end. She has started to playfully tease me a bit about it but I won’t to get too excited about that casual acceptance. I had kept it secreted foreverand always worried about discovery but half the time wishing it would come out. Nowthat it has I feel a bit relieve but unsure of how to proceed. My wife really doesn’t know the full extent of my dressing or that I consider myself trans. Time will tell.
Hugs and kisses
- October 30, 2020 at 10:27 pm #400880Scarlett398PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
- October 29, 2020 at 11:21 pm #400557Mary JaneLadyRegistered On: September 30, 2020Topics: 15Replies: 166Has thanked: 316 timesBeen thanked: 884 times
I’d say “technically” 100% of cdressers are straight.
A CD is different to a transgender. I know. I know. I know. I’m going to tread on toes here.
If your bi, or gay and dream of having sex with someone of the same sex, while crossdressing, and fantasise that at that moment, you are the same sex that your dressed as… well that makes you trans.
Now. I can see your hunting around to find rotton fruit to throw at me.
Anyways. Totally straight man here. I don’t even fantasize about having sex with my wife while dressed.
- October 29, 2020 at 6:31 am #400129Rachel CrossDuchessRegistered On: October 13, 2020Topics: 29Replies: 244Has thanked: 1462 timesBeen thanked: 1427 times
i think this question is alittle confusing. i think the number is about 90% are not straight. i dont know about the married crossdressers, but i think most of us dress to be like a woman and that would include having sex with a man to complete you acceptance of being a woman. most men have no idea what straight means. they think straight means the penis is not limp. i have put ads out looking for crossdressers to go out in public and all i get is ones that want you to come over for fun. even straight guy think they are straight but want to have sex with a crossdresser. last i knew crossdressers are guy in girls clothing. and straight means not have sex with the same sex as you are.
- October 29, 2020 at 3:42 am #400055AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 0Replies: 119Has thanked: 316 timesBeen thanked: 371 times
I think I am any thing but straight I have been having desires to wear fem clothing since I was a teen and always wondered what life would be like as a female
But being cd is close as I can get and honey if I looked like u I would most likely be married to a sexy guy
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- August 9, 2020 at 5:11 pm #372489Autumn ValiantDuchessRegistered On: July 14, 2019Topics: 35Replies: 1164Has thanked: 17714 timesBeen thanked: 3091 times
- August 6, 2020 at 9:04 am #371437PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Got it Casey and sent you some specific instructions on where to go from here!
- August 4, 2020 at 4:49 pm #370678PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Casey, I just loved your comprehensive and entertaining answer!
You need to write and article for our Article section and send me a private message when you submit it because I would love to be the editor on your very first article here at CDH!
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- August 4, 2020 at 11:20 am #370543Casey Amber TwitchingsLadyRegistered On: May 15, 2020Topics: 36Replies: 340Has thanked: 310 timesBeen thanked: 1270 times
DeeAnn, I agree with you too. I haven’t seen any numbers in years but I know they were figuring that gay men make up the same percentage of the transgender community as they do the general population, which was about 10%. So about 90% of MTFs are straight. Sorry Bob, our gay membership is full. How about oil painting instead?
And why shouldn’t gay men crossdress? That one threw me. Why do any of us crossdress really? When we figure that little chestnut out then we can worry about why gay men crossdress. Because they certainly do.
- August 3, 2020 at 3:29 am #370011AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 0Replies: 119Has thanked: 316 timesBeen thanked: 371 times
you are such a sexy hot woman when dressed love you gurl
- August 2, 2020 at 9:39 am #369743PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Hi Carly! That’s a very natural feeling for a cross dresser. I’m sure you’ll make that happen one night within the next year or so!
Just be extra safe when finally making that move!
- August 2, 2020 at 9:36 am #369741PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Spot one Shreya! Thank you for sending in that response!
- August 1, 2020 at 7:49 pm #369614Shreya ShahLadyRegistered On: April 23, 2020Topics: 5Replies: 189Has thanked: 196 timesBeen thanked: 562 times
I think most of crossdresser male are straight, crossdressing doesn’t make anyone gay or bi. Crossdressing is just our want to explore new looks by wearing something different.
- August 1, 2020 at 5:20 pm #369603Carly KeeneRegistered On: February 10, 2020Topics: 2Replies: 30Has thanked: 9 timesBeen thanked: 200 times
I believe 85-90% are straight. Myself before my wife passed I thought I was straight I only had been with her while we were married but now I find myself looking at men very hot and sexually attractive. I’m always dreaming about making love to a man. I’m not interested in women sexually anymore so I guess I must gay even though I don’t think of myself as gay I just feel like a woman that wants a man to love.
- July 28, 2020 at 10:20 am #368286ChloeCDuchessRegistered On: November 5, 2019Topics: 10Replies: 298Has thanked: 670 timesBeen thanked: 1234 times
Going out on a limb , and based on the ‘definition’ of cross-dressing that seems to be used here, I would suggest that 99.99% of women are cross-dressers. That is, at least once in their lives, they have put on a piece of clothing that historically has been considered male. That means a shirt with the buttons on the right, or pants with a zipper that way, or a jacket/coat, or sweatshirt, or a tee or socks or shoes or underwear….maybe even a baseball cap!
Think about that for awhile and maybe consider that hardly anyone considers cross-dressing to be anything other than a male oriented activity. I’ve never heard about any female being categorized as a ‘cross-dresser’.
My SO in trying to understand my cross-dressing purchased several pairs of panties for me that could be considered feminine or bi-sexual. Without going into detail, they just didn’t generate quite the same feelings as they were obviously purchased from the men’s side of the store with most likely the express purpose of appealing to this latent – or more open today – desire to experiment.
I personally don’t consider this occasional experimentation to be true crossdressing. I also doubt most fully (or over-fully) heterosexual males would ever, ever like to be called cross-dressers.
Because of that, I certainly don’t have a clue about the true numbers of cross-dressers because to me anyway it can include transsexuals that will go no further, and fetishistic cross-dressers who have no trans feelings at all. That’s certainly a large diverse grouping to be placed in a single category, much less including all males who have either in secret or with their SO encouragement to add spice to those moments, put on some article of feminine clothing for just a brief interlude.
So, I suspect the true numbers are fully dependent on what the stated definition is that was used to draw the stats. Yet, I hardly ever see that part of the study.
But this is just imho
- July 27, 2020 at 4:55 pm #367981PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Me too DeeAnn! Thanks for your answer!
- July 27, 2020 at 4:47 pm #367979DeeAnn HopingsDuchessRegistered On: November 10, 2019Topics: 11Replies: 780Has thanked: 9 timesBeen thanked: 2078 times
Sharon Wilts wrote I guess not many gay men crossdress as it doesn’t attract other gay men, because they like men.
Sharon, you may be correct; but then why is it that all crossdressers are believed to be gay? This does not compute.
Just because the general public “thinks” crossdressers are gay does not make it so. That has more to do with narrow thinking and a limited perspective on things.
I don’t have any statistics at the moment, but what I’ve seen before was very high. I’m guessing about 90% of crossdressers are heterosexual.
- July 27, 2020 at 2:47 pm #367944Celeste JoLadyRegistered On: April 26, 2020Topics: 8Replies: 40Has thanked: 35 timesBeen thanked: 273 times
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- July 27, 2020 at 4:29 am #367820Stevie SteinerAmbassadorRegistered On: June 11, 2020Topics: 47Replies: 1083Has thanked: 5113 timesBeen thanked: 5579 times
I think if you include all men who have ever crossdressed in their lives, the number would be 80 to 90% easy. I’m sure most have tried it ar least once out of curiosity, whether they admit it or not.
- July 27, 2020 at 4:21 am #367819LadyRegistered On: July 27, 2020Topics: 6Replies: 104Has thanked: 843 timesBeen thanked: 566 times
Personally I feel, and to quote Eddie Izzard … “I am a lesbian trapped inside a man’s body”
I guess not many gay men crossdress as it doesn’t attract other gay men, because they like men.
- July 27, 2020 at 3:01 pm #367946Bettylou CoxDuchessRegistered On: May 26, 2019Topics: 19Replies: 1984Has thanked: 3806 timesBeen thanked: 6953 times
Sharon Wilts wrote I guess not many gay men crossdress as it doesn’t attract other gay men, because they like men.
Sharon, you may be correct; but then why is it that all crossdressers are believed to be gay? This does not compute.
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- October 1, 2019 at 4:44 pm #229662Alice UnderwireLadyRegistered On: September 16, 2019Topics: 25Replies: 2953Has thanked: 2521 timesBeen thanked: 6143 times
I think the percentage of straight males that crossdress is pretty high. I’d say upwards of 80 to 90 or 95%. Such a large segment is deep in the closet that you’d never get a truthful reply. And I suspect that other multiple factors exist that would preclude a truthful response.
- September 28, 2019 at 5:07 pm #228415Alice UnderwireLadyRegistered On: September 16, 2019Topics: 25Replies: 2953Has thanked: 2521 timesBeen thanked: 6143 times
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- September 27, 2019 at 9:29 pm #228142Erica GuyLadyRegistered On: August 23, 2019Topics: 8Replies: 52Has thanked: 49 timesBeen thanked: 229 times
First off. Thank you for this poll. I have read many of the comments and learned that I am not as alone as I thought. Being a straight male who crossdresses and has no interest in other men is hard to explain to the few people I have shared with. Most think I must be gay and just won’t admit it. I began dressing at a young age and liked the female body so much that I wanted to be like the girls I liked. I like the way I feel when I am dressed as Erica and would prefer to dress as her most of the time if not always but with it being TABOO in general publics eye I only dress at home or go out at night or far from home now and then. I wish everyone could be who they want to be with out fear of someone doing harm or shaming them. I have no problem with a straight couple/gay couple or anyone else that is different than me being in public and showing their affection for each other. If we all could be who we feel we are the world would be a happier place.
- September 28, 2019 at 3:55 pm #228382PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Thank you Erica and you and I have that in common – we are both straight males who are enjoying the thrill of cross dressing.
One day, we both are hoping it will not be as taboo as it is today! It will probably happen way after we are gone, however!
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- June 23, 2019 at 9:38 pm #192683Patricia Marie AllenLadyRegistered On: December 29, 2015Topics: 0Replies: 53Has thanked: 2 timesBeen thanked: 102 times
I’ve seen two different surveys that suggest the percentage of homosexual cross-dressers is slightly less than that of the general population. I believe that Kinsey determined that about 4.5% of the general population was gay. While Dr. Virginia Prince and Dr. Richard Doctor, in different studies about 20 years apart determined the gay percentage of cross-dressers was 4% and 4.1% respectively.
That would mean about 96% were straight.
- June 9, 2019 at 12:44 pm #184184DuchessRegistered On: May 26, 2019Topics: 19Replies: 1984Has thanked: 3806 timesBeen thanked: 6953 times
Purely a guess, and based mostly on YouTube videos, My guess is ~75% are “straight” with the remainder being equally split between gay and trans. And this excludes “drag queens” who are performers, and dress for that reason only. From very limited conversations with other CDs, I also think about 50% of “straight” CDs are still in the closet, even with their spouses or SO. Not the sort of survey likely to elicit honest replies, so we will probably never know.
- June 9, 2019 at 4:40 pm #184215PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Thanks a bunch for sending in your response BettyLou! I believe your numbers are pretty close to being right on the money! Thanks for addressing each category of cross dressers and giving us a number of how many are still in the closet and maybe deep in the closet with no one knowing about their thrill to cross dress!
- June 9, 2019 at 12:07 am #184045stephanie plumbBaroness - AnnualRegistered On: November 17, 2018Topics: 144Replies: 1944Has thanked: 3076 timesBeen thanked: 8849 times
Straight males maybe. But how much of this is social conditioning and being raised as males from day 1 and pushed along the path to manhood by constant male reinforcement. You may love and sexually desire women, but does this make you male? Think about it. What if………………. you have a female spirit and are a closet transgender… you might fancy women because you are really a lesbian or closet bi-sexual.
I thought I was a straight male cross dresser until participating in CDH opened my eyes and mind and the realisation swept over me that I am actually transgender. I never have been a true male …. I was led to believe I was for the reasons given in the paragraph above. Being a CD’er is a clue to me being more feminine than I realised. Decades of social pressures and belief that I was a man are hard to untangle. I don’t fancy men. I do fancy women. Am I a lesbian? I don’t yet know…. but I am beginning to wonder….
- June 10, 2019 at 3:23 am #184300stephanie plumbBaroness - AnnualRegistered On: November 17, 2018Topics: 144Replies: 1944Has thanked: 3076 timesBeen thanked: 8849 times
Kimmie, I was not making generalisations… I was posing what if? questions concerning the possible effects of social and family conditioning, not statements of fact. Until relatively recently being born with an XY body usually resulted in being raised as a male irrespective of true gender identity. The concept of transgender did not exist until coined in 1965. Prior to this being of a different gender than one was born into was taboo and any signs of femininity in a boy sometimes led to being labelled as “queer ” (The word “gay” wasn’t in general usage back then).
The other part of my contribution was purely about myself. I cannot possibly comment on other peoples motivations or experiences.
- June 9, 2019 at 4:54 pm #184217KimmieLadyRegistered On: September 27, 2016Topics: 3Replies: 242Has thanked: 155 timesBeen thanked: 1001 times
The human experience is s varied and complex that generalizations can be tricky. I have no doubt that your experiences have been such that your description accurately describes how and why you are you. For myself, however, I am equally sure that what you describe does not apply to me. For a variety of reasons not really pertinent to this thread, my upbringing did not reflect the typical binary sex role stereotypes and I am what I am for very different reasons. Again, to try to ensure that my comments are not understood. I do not doubt for a second that your description applies to you. But, it does not apply to me.
- June 9, 2019 at 5:17 pm #184222PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Oh Kimmie, my own description of how I think the numbers are stacked up are not set in stone. They are by far just very rough estimates. And you can tell by the many varied responses I’ve received, their beliefs and thoughts are way different from mine. I expected that to be the case when I wrote this question many months ago.
Kimmie, check a few of the responses from the girls to my question. They are as different as each and every one of our personalities, experiences, upbringings, sexual experiences, relationship experiences, education levels, employment histories, our cross dressing histories – the list of how we differ and how the responses are different are absolutely endless.
I can tell you one thing, this question I posed had generated a ton of responses which is just what I planned when I displayed the question to our CDH girls.
I wasn’t wanting anyone to think a certain way! I just put that question out and my thoughts pertaining to the question and then let the variety of responses roll on in. And boy howdy, check out the number of responses to my question compared to most of the others. So I kinda hit the jackpot with this question. I thought the answers would stop coming in months ago. However, Kimmie, I’m still getting anywhere from 3 to 8 responses a day on this one and that was my objective. To put up a controversial question which would draw in as many responses as possible.
So Kimmie, my objective has been more than met months ago. I don’t think they’ll ever take this one down because of the number of responses that still roll in on a daily basis!
Thanks for providing your thoughtful answer and I so enjoyed reading it! Would love to hear more about your CD background and your past experiences which led you to become the girl you are now!
- June 9, 2019 at 4:50 pm #184216PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Thank you, Stephanie, for your honest and very comprehensive answer. When dressed as Scarlett, I still feel attracted to my wife so I guess when I’m dressed and I’ve go my total girl on, I could be classified as a lesbian.
Your answer was fascinating and I thoroughly enjoyed reading your thoughts!
- January 14, 2021 at 2:24 am #432220LadyRegistered On: January 2, 2021Topics: 9Replies: 859Has thanked: 1184 timesBeen thanked: 2840 times
I just love the term ‘lipstick lesbian’! That’s so me…
To be frank, the idea of dressing in one another’s clothing has been around since the dawn of civilization. The Greeks thought homosexual love to be the height of form and Romans despised it! Both cultures cross dressed but one doesn’t read of women indulging quite as freely as men did. In fact there are very few women during our histories that have made a name for themselves dressed as men. The very fact that we have their stories only endorses the idea that it was a rare feat.
Yes… I’d say that 90% of crossdressers are straight males. That we do it for differing reasons is above argument but at some time I think we all indulge in some homosexual fantasy. Realizing such a fantasy may very well be a bridge too far for the majority but in some instances that’s why we dress in a feminine way.
For myself… I’m on my way to realizing my long cherished dream of becoming female… though a lesbian, if that’s how I am to be judged!
- May 8, 2019 at 9:15 am #175376Shayla ArmstrongLadyRegistered On: May 7, 2017Topics: 0Replies: 20Has thanked: 1 timeBeen thanked: 66 times
As a closeted CD, I long for the attention of another man and would’nt even mind a kiss while dressed up of course. Not to sound conceited, but I know that I’m hot in fem and have flirted and chatted online with men for years who wanted to be in a relationship and take things further.
Like someone said earlier, I might have actually experiemented if I weren’t already married with a child.
Just the thought of having my own freedom with unlimited time to buy and try on outfits at home makes my heart race.
- June 9, 2019 at 5:26 pm #184224PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Loved reading your response and your thoughts about being hot and desired by other men are in line with mine as well. Just check out my photos!
Shayla, I took am married and my kids are way grown and gone because I’m 64! I love to shop for Scarlett and love to shop with my sexy redhead wife. She’s as hot as I am when I get my total girl on!
However, I would never hook up with anyone else but her. On the four nights per year Scarlett gets out in public, I love being 100% passable and no one having a clue that I’m a guy in that gut outfit with that perfect makeup application done. And I’ve never ever had a makeover done by a pro. My learning has all come on ling through Google to You Tube videos as far as the makeup application skills are concerned. My sense of style with clothing, footwear, and jewelry is just all me. It’s come naturally and I even help that sexy redheaded wife pick out all of her clothing, footwear, and even – yes – brands and types of makeup.
Hey Shayla, thanks for sending in a response and have a super week ahead!
- May 2, 2019 at 6:04 pm #173725Paula1LadyRegistered On: October 22, 2015Topics: 8Replies: 535Has thanked: 616 timesBeen thanked: 1205 times
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I have to go along with Paula 1 at this point. But here’s the where my Closet door 🚪 really swings. I’v Been Dressing for less than a year and I have already crossed so many lines that I previously had it blows my mind. When I’m tucked an in heels… I must admit if I weren’t a Closet Girl… I’m not sure I wouldn’t be tempted to experiment at least once. The facts that a Closet Girl with my door ajar, well…… who knows
- June 9, 2019 at 5:33 pm #184228PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Love your response, Davida! We all have those same thoughts from time to time even though most all of us would never act on those fantasy thoughts!
- May 2, 2019 at 6:44 pm #173733PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
- May 3, 2019 at 12:55 pm #173919AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 0Replies: 6Has thanked: 15 timesBeen thanked: 20 times
Hi, this subject has certainly had lots of sharing.
I now see how typical my thoughts are in comparison to the Girls feedback. I too fantasise about being treated like a lady while I’m Nicole. Taken for a meal, drinks and romanced. Perhaps a tasteful outfit bought and given to me to wear on the night too or is that pushing it!! Its a lovely and exciting thought but i too am in a loving relationship albeit my SO is not understanding in any way and has only recently acknowledged i cant change being a Crossdresser. So as its fantasy for now i will say straight but I’m a firm believer in never say never. I promised Myself i would be nothing but honest on this forum of which i respect all you ladies. X
- May 2, 2019 at 11:40 am #173665AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 3Replies: 24Has thanked: 52 timesBeen thanked: 78 times
I think most are straight. I am married and I am closeted and like it that way. I do find that I fantasize about men a lot but only as my femme self. I have never been interested but fantasize about a handsome guy approaching me. We get to talking and he gently starts rubbing my thigh. It feels really good. He tells me I am a beautiful woman and starts to kiss me.
- May 2, 2019 at 6:47 pm #173734PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Nicole, you, Paula, and I think exactly alike! Thank you so much for sending in your honest response!
- May 3, 2019 at 10:37 am #173885AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 3Replies: 24Has thanked: 52 timesBeen thanked: 78 times
Great minds think alike, correct Scarlett and Paula. I have been thinking about this some more today and why I fantasize about men. I wonder if it is the idea of someone being romantic to me. In other words being on the other side of the guy/girl relationship. The little things like holding the door for me, complimenting me, pulling my chair out and buying me flowers. Curious to get your thoughts.
- May 3, 2019 at 11:13 am #173895PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Nicole, I think all CDers at one time or another fantasize about being romantic with a male. We all share the thoughts of being treated like a gorgeous, classy, and intelligent lady. The man would have to be extremely attractive, respectful, funny, successful, no drugs, no alcohol abuse, no physical violence, and on and on! He would really have to be a first class handsome gentleman like myself!
And in return, if the man is extremely attractive, many of us have thoughts of making love to a man and a man making love to us in a very sensual yet respective way with giving and receiving on an almost equal basis.
Now those of us who are madly in love with our wives, like I am with that sexy redhead of mine, I would never ever act out on my fantasies that I have with attractive men. I love my wife too very much and fidelity is absolutely essential to a complete and happy marriage!
That’s if for now girl friend and have a super weekend! XOXO Scarlett
- May 3, 2019 at 11:19 am #173899AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 3Replies: 24Has thanked: 52 timesBeen thanked: 78 times
Totally agree Scarlett. Have a great weekend girl friend.
- March 27, 2019 at 5:46 pm #163826MarthaLouiseLadyRegistered On: March 27, 2019Topics: 11Replies: 51Has thanked: 14 timesBeen thanked: 118 times
I would think that the vast majority are straight (80%)
I have developed from a CD to a transsexual woman. Just dressing, no transitioning.
However I am enjoying being a woman. I originally was a straight male.
However, enjoying being a woman so much and have become attracted to males like a woman would be, I wonder if I am still straight?
- March 27, 2019 at 6:06 pm #163834PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Love you answer, Martha…80% is about right. I put it at 90% I think. So you’ve made the complete transition with clothes only and no hormone therapy or surgeries. And now are attracted to males.
I loved your answer and enjoyed reading it and thank you so much for responding to my question. It’s generated a lot of interest from the girls and I’m glad I asked the question!
Have a super rest of the week, Martha! XOXO Scarlett
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- March 11, 2019 at 10:32 am #159433Imogen MannRegistered On: March 2, 2019Topics: 2Replies: 134Has thanked: 53 timesBeen thanked: 255 times
My opinion has caused issues elsewhere, but hey, there ya’ go.
I have been crossdressing and around corssdressers for a longish time, and to my mind, about ten percent of them are fully straight, the rest either bi, or gay (repressed or otherwise).
Why do I think that ?
Spend half and hour in any CD/TV chat room, look on sites like or Birchplace (no disrespect, a perfectly OK place to be), go out to trans friendly clubs… And notice how many of the CD’s or T-girls (or whatever tag is in vogue this week) there are overtly soliciting encounters with men or other CD/TV’s… Whichever way you ‘feel’ about that sexual dynamic, it’s is not heterosexual ergo they are not straight crossdressers and they are the majority.
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- March 27, 2019 at 6:22 pm #163838Amelia walkerRegistered On: January 18, 2019Topics: 1Replies: 113Has thanked: 131 timesBeen thanked: 201 times
I would tend to agree with Imogen on this one. If we accept that the the majority of crossdressers want to pass as a woman it is logical to assume that being desired by a man is the penultimate expression of womanhood. The ultimate would be to have a baby. Complications arise because there are people in same sex relationships have that little desire to transition.Conversely many who wish to transition do so because feel they are in the wrong body and not for sexual reasons. Human sexuality is minefield where someone more learned than I can provide a more reasonable explanation.
- March 13, 2019 at 4:59 am #159930Bianca EverdeneLadyRegistered On: April 11, 2017Topics: 24Replies: 762Has thanked: 3045 timesBeen thanked: 3042 times
Perhaps these trans friendly clubs as you call them are not the places a heterosexual man would expect to find a heterosexual woman, so if looking for a woman would not to go a place like this. Whereas a gay man would, as most trans friendly places seem to come under the LGBT umberella, not saying that is a bad thing thing, the LGBT community is far more accepting of ‘anything goes’, but it is not a place a straight man would go to hook up with a straight woman, so your experience seeing cross dressers in this environment may not necessarily be representative of the majority of us who do not regularly frequent these places, the majority who are in a relationship, married etc and prefer just to cross dress at home, walking the dog, going out for a meal, etc etc.
- March 13, 2019 at 9:51 am #159974PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Thanks a bunch, Bianca, for adding to our discussion and you are seeing things from the exact same perspective as I see things from!
I’m so happy to see you submit a rebuttal to one of the answers of another girl on this site. I don’t have the experience she has had by frequently visiting those types of bars or place or the on line sites she referenced.
So you are probably agreeing with me at far as the percentage of cross dressers being straight married males or males in a monogamous relationship with a woman.
By the way, Bianca, I love your profile photo and your chosen femme name!
Thanks for your comprehensive and well written note!
- March 13, 2019 at 8:08 am #159960AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 4Replies: 235Has thanked: 333 timesBeen thanked: 380 times
Just want to chime in and say that yeah, I identify as straight and for me cross dressing is an at-home kinda thing in private, you hit it spot on. For me it ebbs and flows. I’d say any one of the three between my work, wife, and various arts are more often on my mind than cross dressing is, but it is still absolutely something I love to do on my own time.
To be honest I think the only thing I’d go out for is a good mojito and to support other sisters who want go out, to be one of the gurls and all that. Never been a social butterfly more of an engineer type anyway (aka quiet sky nerd) and I’m also married so there’s that too. Maybe it’d be good for me but I really don’t know. I know I look good in my dress and that’s enough for me 🙂
But we are who we are, I think trying to find labels sometimes stops the fun, or from my own experience when talking to my wife the “why” of things is less important than simply accepting, owning, and being honest with “what is“. Figure that out, then call it something if you have to. I think if a cross dresser identifies as straight but still wants some attention and validation then the LGBT scene is where you’d find that, and most likely from other men. I mean, nothing wrong with wearing a dress going to a local sports bar to pick up a girl for the night but I don’t think the deck is going to be stacked much in your favor, but I think that hits on deeper stuff between how we choose to engage with society as people who cross-dress versus the rest of societies assumptions back onto our own scene.
Never met another cross dresser face to face though (I mean it’s statistically very low that I haven’t but I’m talking stealth mode here) and I know nothing about the ‘scene’, only what I can comment on from the comfort of my own keyboard.
- March 13, 2019 at 10:13 am #159976PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Thanks, Lilly, for sending in such a well written response. It was if I had written it myself based on my experiences and how my cross dressing and photo shoots of Scarlett are isolated almost exclusively to the privacy of our new dream home my wife and I purchased just over a year ago.
I do get out in public as Scarlett on very rare occasions! Usually 3 to 4 times a year when my wife is out of town on business. As a result of her high profile position in our county, she goes to conferences held in various large cities in our state and is usually gone for only two days. This gives me 3 to 4 nights out and I usually go to our nearest shopping mall, then either to a movie theater to see a movie or to the center of our nearest city were there are a couple of really neat places I use as interesting backgrounds for photos I take of Scarlett with my Nikon D3100 sitting atop a tripod with the camera set on a self timer of 1o seconds.
If I do decide to go to a bar, I rarely visit several of them in a very safe part of time and none of them are gay or trans bars. They are just regular bars that are all linked together by a common long and very wide hallway. You don’t go outside to move from one to another. I’m usually just walking through each and everyone of them checking out the people and not stopping to talk or sit at the bar to have a drink or two.
Thanks for writing your response and it’s more in line with my thoughts.
Love ya! XOXO Scarlett
- March 11, 2019 at 11:55 am #159457PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Hi Imogen, it’s Scarlett! I totally respect your opinion and comments. I can tell by your writing you’ve spent a lot more time out in public as a cross dresser than I have in bars and other social gathering places where cross dressers and trans girls meet.
I, on the other hand, have very little experience being in those sort of places. I only get out in public with my total girl on as Scarlett three to four times per year when my wife is away at seminars and business trips pertaining to her high profile job here in our county. When I do get out it’s to rather tame places like the mall or a movie theater. I do visit other places alone outside while downtown that make for interesting backgrounds for self taken photos of Scarlett.
Only about once per year will I visit a bar and those bars are not bars exclusively set up for trans girls, gays, bis, or cross dressers. They are all generally bars where the majority of patrons are, for the most part, heterosexual folks. Are there some of the above noted people – more than likely – without a doubt. When I go to this place where all of these bars in a very safe place in town are all linked together by one very long huge hallway with a variety of music offered by each one of the bars.
So I won’t doubt any part of your opinion and found your reply enlightening and fun to read and I feel like I learned a lot from such a short reply!
Thank you so much for you input, Imogen, and I always look forward to both those I find similar to mine and not similar to mine such as yours!
I look forward to hearing from you in the next question I put out there for answers from you all!
- March 13, 2019 at 9:42 am #159973PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Thanks again for submitting your answer to my question and someone with the extensive number of public outings and experiences from being in those sort of bars and places noted in you answer really helped me to see things from a much different perspective.
Thanks again, Imogen!
- March 11, 2019 at 1:17 am #159374Khloe WestDuchessRegistered On: August 27, 2015Topics: 2Replies: 101Has thanked: 143 timesBeen thanked: 134 times
Guessing about the same and will find out in moments.
I was late to the game at discovering this side of myself in my early 50’s but still have a 35+ year supportive wife since we married in our early 20’s through it all.
- February 16, 2019 at 9:58 am #153671Anne-MarieLadyRegistered On: August 26, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 389Has thanked: 317 timesBeen thanked: 1060 times
There are so many labels “out there” today and I’ve stumbled a few times much to my own chagrin! Perhaps “gender fluid” would be applicable. But, alas, I’ve drifted off the topic.
I would guess that the number of labels is why there is a + at the end of LGBTQIA+
For me I fit the T, possibly the Q and identify as A but thats perhaps due to my age having had at least 3 mid-life crisis’s lol.
As I always observe, variety is truely the very spice of life.
Take care girls
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- February 17, 2019 at 9:37 pm #154161PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Thanks Anne-Marie for one of the more interesting answers to my question. I had never heard of the “A” and the “I” and the “+” added to the end! I guess the + sign pertains to CDs which would be me! The girls on here tell me I’m pretty good at making the transition from handsome husband to sexy cute Scarlett with absolutely no hormones! It’s really a lot of fun and I’m trying to get it done at least once a week. The transition is a real challenge and so much fun except right at the end when you have to take the makeup and nail polish off and put everything you have out back in place! Then shower up and blow dry my hair before the sexy redhead shows up from work.
Thanks again for writing in and I can’t believe there’s be 141 votes on this question!
- February 16, 2019 at 7:58 am #153640Nikki DahlLadyRegistered On: July 20, 2018Topics: 0Replies: 117Has thanked: 25 timesBeen thanked: 269 times
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- February 16, 2019 at 6:35 am #153629Nikki SiDeeLadyRegistered On: February 4, 2019Topics: 1Replies: 68Has thanked: 48 timesBeen thanked: 108 times
Oh what a a delightful entertaining question! One I’ve often wondered about when I see all the pretty women on CDH. My assumption is highly influenced by what I’ve read from several sources, I like to read! My guess is approximately 25% gay/bisexual with the remainder being hetro. Although, I think, bisexual is on the rise, mainly because, most men do not want to admit they have gay tendencies. I myself felt that at an earlier time in life. I am now a very happy gay CD! Additionally, I’m in love with a beautiful transgender (non-operable) MTF.
There are so many labels “out there” today and I’ve stumbled a few times much to my own chagrin! Perhaps “gender fluid” would be applicable. But, alas, I’ve drifted off the topic.😒
- February 15, 2019 at 7:21 pm #153536Belinda SmythLadyRegistered On: February 14, 2019Topics: 1Replies: 5Has thanked: 3 timesBeen thanked: 11 times
- February 15, 2019 at 8:44 pm #153547PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Hi Belinda! Thanks so much for sending in your answer to my question.
Have a super weekend, I know I will. I have a huge photo shoot scheduled here at home for about 10 hours tomorrow. Lots of new dresses and skirts to show off!
- February 14, 2019 at 8:44 am #153139PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
CDH moderators, thank you so very much for removing the “Yes” or “No” answer block to my question! Now the question and possible answers all makes sense!
Thanks a bunch CDH! XOXOXO Scarlett
- February 14, 2019 at 5:35 am #153103Heidi SuncrestLadyRegistered On: January 22, 2019Topics: 0Replies: 10Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 23 times
Well I voted I was straight but only because there were only 2 choices. I have been with men and liked what we ended up doing but the intimacy in the beginning was a bit awkward. I am not attracted to men and could not participate without being dressed up. Folks out in the real world would immediately say if you’ve been with a another man just once youre gay. So im going to say I am bi but much prefer women and with some equipment you can have the best of both worlds. Heres how I look at it; you can put a strap-on on a woman but rubber pussy on a man tastes terrible.
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- February 13, 2019 at 11:33 pm #153065Anne-MarieLadyRegistered On: August 26, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 389Has thanked: 317 timesBeen thanked: 1060 times
I have read that research indicates a prevalence of about 90% of biological male cressdressers are heterosexual with the remainder being bi. Homosexual etc. To reply to Elise Michelle’s comment
I had a couple of same sex experiences as a teen and enjoyed them and I have recently started to fantasize about engaging in sexual acts with men again (or more often another CD or trans woman). I even bought a vibrator recently and have been having a good deal of fun with it. It’s kind of strange, but I get excited by the thought of performing oral on a man, but I still get repulsed at the thought of kissing a man. If that makes any sense.
It makes perfect sense to me. I think of myself as beong stricktly heterosexual and the thoughts of any sexual contact with another man is abhorrent to me in male mode but then I do have quite regularthoughts of wanting to be a woman, of having a male partner who would treat me as his woman including the full sexual contact in just the same way that a heterosexual couple would have intimate co tact with each other. It would be (in my head) just a part of being a complete woman.
Take care girls
- March 10, 2019 at 6:27 am #159142AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 0Replies: 6Has thanked: 1 timeBeen thanked: 8 times
I have had many same sex experiences while en femme. Men who don’t want to admit gay tendencies seem to justify having sex (in any form) from a handjob to ‘all the way’ with a CD and can go back to their wives and families without having to think they were with a man. I am bi and when not en femme enjoy being with women, but when dressed I want a man!!
- February 14, 2019 at 5:19 am #153098Anne PreussLadyRegistered On: December 13, 2018Topics: 2Replies: 460Has thanked: 702 timesBeen thanked: 921 times
Anne-Marie dear, you have spoken my mind. I so wish I could be rid of the male anatomy and when I dress up, I love being with a man. However, when I’m back in male drab public mode, I have no desire for a man-on-man experience. It’s all about wanting to be a woman and being a woman.
- February 13, 2019 at 5:45 pm #153014Elise MichelleLadyRegistered On: January 3, 2018Topics: 17Replies: 213Has thanked: 178 timesBeen thanked: 563 times
I think the 80% number sounds reasonable, but I have to make,a distinction between romantic attraction and purely physical sexual attraction. From a romantic perspective, I am 100% heterosexual. I’m not romantically attracted to men and, even though I’ve fantasized about being a “complete woman”, even in those fantasies my romantic partner is always a woman. On a purely sexual note, however, I beleive I’m bisexual. I had a couple of same sex experiences as a teen and enjoyed them and I have recently started to fantasize about engaging in sexual acts with men again (or more often another CD or trans woman). I even bought a vibrator recently and have been having a good deal of fun with it. It’s kind of strange, but I get excited by the thought of performing oral on a man, but I still get repulsed at the thought of kissing a man. If that makes any sense.
Oh, and Scarlett, we have one more thing in common. I’m a middle school teacher!!
- February 14, 2019 at 7:15 am #153117Sidney SilverRegistered On: January 25, 2019Topics: 2Replies: 30Has thanked: 115 timesBeen thanked: 75 times
As myself and the other girls here have shared, much of what you shared is our truth, is how we feel. Mostly heterosexual? Yes. Are we curious about more? I know I am! Even to the extent that I also have a couple toys to experiment with. As I stated in a previous reply, my wife and I have an understanding and I’m free to explore if I’m of a mind to do so.
To be clear- to me, there is now something powerfully attractive about certain other cross dressers and trans woman. To touch, to kiss, and to play.
In the past, I’ve received some “serious-not serious” wink-wink offers from attractive gay or bisexual men. I never took them up on those offers, but rather than feelings of disgust or whatever, I was secretly flattered. I’ll be honest-I liked the attention. But no REAL interest.
Its all so new to me, as I’m a “late bloomer” in CD terms. It’s all so very exciting to me, and a bit overwhelming. Don’t get me wrong- I’m not distressed by any of these new feelings of wanting to explore and to try new things as I’m very comfortable with both myself and my own sexuality. From what many of the girls have shared, this is not that unusual.
I’m describing all this in terms of a lack of imagination on my part. As I never imagined any of these feelings emerging. I never imagined I was a dresser. But when it became clear to me and I let it in, so much came with it. It’s not just the clothes, the belt, the bag, the shoes, the makeup. It’s inside as well, it’s a part of our beautiful human spirit. And I love that about each of us.
- February 14, 2019 at 5:16 am #153097Anne PreussLadyRegistered On: December 13, 2018Topics: 2Replies: 460Has thanked: 702 timesBeen thanked: 921 times
Agree with you on the excitement factor regarding having sex with a man as I have already been doing that. I do enjoy kissing a man; however, as it seems to make the connection with him so much more personable.
- February 13, 2019 at 8:41 pm #153052Cynthia TannerLadyRegistered On: February 5, 2019Topics: 1Replies: 11Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 9 times
- February 13, 2019 at 10:53 pm #153061PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Hi Cynthia and thanks for sending in your answer! I can’t believe 119 girls have in some way responded to this question even though CHD messed up the answer block with a “Yes” or “No” answer which is not an option to this question.
Send me a PM and tell me more about you in response to this question or just to tell me when and how you started cross dressing as maybe a young boy and where you are at with it now if you would like to share any of that information with me!
Thanks again, Cynthia, for offering up an answer to my question!
- February 13, 2019 at 8:36 pm #153049PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
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- February 11, 2019 at 9:31 am #152440Sara Marie Franklin (SMF)LadyRegistered On: July 27, 2016Topics: 1Replies: 361Has thanked: 40 timesBeen thanked: 444 times
Straight with some thoughts about men but mostly straight and love my wife so much I probably will never transition because I do not want to lose her. I think it is the 70% to 80% that are straight or straight with a bi curious nature.
- February 11, 2019 at 12:13 pm #152490PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Hi Sara Marie! I think you are just about right on with the percentage of straight cross dressers and ones with bi thoughts. I think most all cross dressers have bi thoughts, however, many of us in happy marriages would never go through and act on those thoughts!
Thanks for sending in your reply note….I’m surprised we are up to 113 votes on this subject. The girls seemed to like it even though CDH messed up the answer block with a “Yes” or “No” answer choice. This question definitely doen’t have a “Yes” or “No” answer to it. I tried to get the answer block changed with the help of two moderators and they tried but couldn’t change it either!
- February 6, 2019 at 8:09 am #151090AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 5Replies: 33Has thanked: 88 timesBeen thanked: 38 times
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Hi Scarlett, great question and intriguing answers shared by other girls here. It’s been something I’ve been thinking about more and more.
In absolute terms relating to your question, the percentages you estimate sound rather close to what I would expect, based on the literature I’ve reviewed. True, there is a fair bit of bias accounting for inherent structural or cultural considerations, but on the whole, I’d wager your percentages are roughly accurate.
As far as my personal experiences, I’ve always had a strong attraction to females. During my life before dressing, I considered myself strongly heterosexual. As I am a crossdressing “late bloomer”, I must admit that attendant to my recent realization of my gender fluidity (most strongly expressed and manifest in my dressing) that there has been a shift in my sexuality as well. With my shift to cross dressing, I find myself strongly attracted to both certain other crossdressers, and trans women. Currently, I have no interest in non crossdressing, non trans cis males.
I suspect this has come about primarily because I imagine being able to be completely understood by one like myself. One like me that I can relate to and empathize with on a granular level. The prospect of which I find very exciting.
Nothing at all has happened yet, as I’ve never met another dresser yet. I hope to soon as I have much to learn and share.
Hugs and kisses,
- February 9, 2019 at 1:56 pm #151923Olivia LivinLadyRegistered On: October 22, 2018Topics: 47Replies: 1599Has thanked: 7849 timesBeen thanked: 4203 times
Ditto to the CD in life timing and the sexually mental pattern that came with her lol.
Your post is most interesting, my very supportive SO and I have had many honest conversations regarding the meaning and influence this journey has on both of us. This specific topic was one such conversation.
- February 14, 2019 at 10:50 am #153163Registered On: January 25, 2019Topics: 2Replies: 30Has thanked: 115 timesBeen thanked: 75 times
Thanks for the comment Olivia. I’m curious- how have your talks with your SO go? We’re they constructive? Was there a negotiation, or ground rules laid out? I’m interested because I find it intriguing the route by which couples interact equitably, and honestly with one another. On this subject, I endeavor to be a lifelong student!
And only if you’re comfortable sharing here or privatey- Have you exercised your freedoms along these lines? If so, how’d it go?
- February 5, 2019 at 1:14 pm #150661PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Hi Sidney and I loved your response. I could tell you have some sort of a formal educational background from your style of writing and your obvious command of the English language!
Just be careful if you start exploring sexually with other partners – something which I won’t ever have to be concerned with because of the happiness I have with my current marriage to my sexy curvy redhead!
Take care and thanks for offering up an answer to my question and sorry about the answer block that I got stuck with and it wasn’t my choice at all! This isn’t a question that has a “Yes” or “No” answer to it for sure!
- February 8, 2019 at 5:14 pm #151720Registered On: January 25, 2019Topics: 2Replies: 30Has thanked: 115 timesBeen thanked: 75 times
Thank you for the reply girl! It’s nice to know the person asking the questions reads and cares about the answers. Your interest is clear and certain, and I thank you.
Don’t worry about the kludgey answer block, not your fault. I also didn’t mean to go into scholar mode with my answer! When I truly care about the subject at hand, my tendency is to lean into it a bit more seriously. This prompts a bit of intellectual rigor reflected in my answer(s) I guess.
As for being careful with regard to sensual exploration – I hear you girl! It’s clearly not something I would venture into without due reflection. Safety and security are main concerns obviously.
Additionally, my wife and I have a long standing…”arrangement” you might say. We both support each other in having a true experiential life. Such an arrangement is wholey dependent on our honesty with each other, and a clear accounting of our expectations and needs. Suffice to say, both of us are in possession of a “hall pass.” Due to our cultivated honesty, she trusts me and is supportive of any exploration I might desire, be it with women or a man. As any of us girls on CDH might expect, I feel so very lucky to be married to such a strong, confident, and caring women.
Thanks again Scarlett! It was, and is, a pleasure to add my thoughts to this intriguing subject! I look forward to more. 🙂
- February 1, 2019 at 9:23 pm #149496Rami LoveLadyRegistered On: November 30, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 84Has thanked: 26 timesBeen thanked: 237 times
- February 1, 2019 at 7:01 pm #149472JackieAmbassadorRegistered On: February 18, 2016Topics: 27Replies: 147Has thanked: 273 timesBeen thanked: 593 times
What difference does it make? I believe to majority are straight. Most the girls I have met here at CDH are professed to be straight and married to women. Only a few have admitted being either gay or bi sexual. Then I have talked with girls who claim to be straight and turned off by men but either want to or have been with other cross dresser’s, where do they fit in? Anyway as usual I’m getting long winded her but my vote would be straight or bi. That’s okay!
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- February 1, 2019 at 6:22 pm #149463Tabitha B.DuchessRegistered On: August 23, 2015Topics: 4Replies: 79Has thanked: 25 timesBeen thanked: 200 times
Most peer reviewed professional journals state that the vast majority of MTF crossdressers within the total population are heterosexual. Considering that a relatively small percentage of gay people are present within the total population (approximately 10-15%), and the fact that not all gay people are crossdressers, we can presume with some certainty that most crossdressers are hereosexual.
On many websites for businesses providing services and resourced for crossdressers, the proprietors take great pains to explain that crossdressing is a separate phenomenon from homosexuality, and that most crossdressers are heterosexual. While this is certainly true, it seems to me that the statements are put there mostly to reassure heterosexuals that it is alright to explore the website, and purchase the services/goods.
As for me, in male mode, I am 90% heterosexual in my sexual interests. However, in female mode, I am more bisexual (60% heterosexual and 40% homosexual) in my sexual interests. So, I am always interested in women; but when I’m in female mode, my sexual interest leans almost 50/50 to both males and females. This trend to more bisexualism has slowly progressed over time, and correlates postively to my immersing myself more into being a female full-time. But, this is just one individual’s experience. So, for all of you other 100% heterosexuals out there, you don’t have to worry that this will happen to you too! Like they say in the financial world: “Results will vary!” Ha!
- February 16, 2019 at 10:39 am #153679Anne-MarieLadyRegistered On: August 26, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 389Has thanked: 317 timesBeen thanked: 1060 times
Excellent posting Tabatha and nice to see your referencing of empirical research concerning the topic at hand.
I do agree with the point you make particulalry that traders do tend to put statements on their websites regarding (so called) crossdressers being predominantly straight with crossdressing being a separate phenomenon from homosexualit and that that point seems to be for the benefit of potential heterosexual customers.
When I last looked at this subject, the peer review stuff that I found indicated a prevalence of about 10% of the crossdressing cohort identifying as homosexual so this is quite close to your finding of about 85-90% identifying as heterosexual.
Interesting isn’t it that amongst the (uninformed) public at large, men who crossdress are largely thought of as being gay. I can certainly say in my case that amongst those who know about my taste in clothing, my penchant towards femanine style clothes has earned me the label of gay whilst the truth is that homosexuality has no part in my current reality – C’est le Vie.
Take good care
- February 24, 2019 at 5:10 pm #155821Tabitha B.DuchessRegistered On: August 23, 2015Topics: 4Replies: 79Has thanked: 25 timesBeen thanked: 200 times
You’re right Anne-Marie. Many people making up the general public are still confused about Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity (SOGI). Many still believe that gender identity and expression is exclusively limited to binary options. Further, while homosexuality as a sexual orientation has received a greater welcoming accommodation in the West in recent years, many still push individuals to identify solely as heterosexual or homosexual. In many informal and professional circles, I still hear the tired, worn-out jokes that bisexuality is not a legitimate sexual orientation, and/or that bisexuals just “need to make up their minds.” So, I say: Two steps forward, one step back.”
- February 1, 2019 at 3:45 pm #149433Dawn JonesLadyRegistered On: January 24, 2019Topics: 11Replies: 91Has thanked: 278 timesBeen thanked: 134 times
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- February 1, 2019 at 12:12 am #149268karley delawareBaroness - AnnualRegistered On: October 23, 2017Topics: 10Replies: 425Has thanked: 1956 timesBeen thanked: 1217 times
I have no facts other than myself. I started out straight. Then as I became more and more comfortable as a cd, I started to feel more bisexual and now I feel for the companionship of either sex. I think it could be a slow transformation that guys are not aware of. I suppose there is a group that will stay straight and others will transition later.
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- February 7, 2019 at 9:39 am #151326Cynthia TannerLadyRegistered On: February 5, 2019Topics: 1Replies: 11Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 9 times
I know I’d love to meet up with another cross dresser and do some playing around. But only because I want to experience everything once. I’m not attracted men at all. So I don’t know what that makes me. I do love to dress up and mix with another lady, so sexy to me!! Sounds confusing to me!!! So I’d say that we are mostly straight.
- February 8, 2019 at 12:57 pm #151606LadyRegistered On: December 13, 2018Topics: 2Replies: 460Has thanked: 702 timesBeen thanked: 921 times
Hi Cynthia….if you are seriously interested to find other CD’s to hook up with, I recommend you register with http://www.fetlife.com (it is free).
It is on fetlife that I met and later had relations with a couple of CD’s.
- February 7, 2019 at 9:07 am #151321LadyRegistered On: February 5, 2019Topics: 1Replies: 11Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 9 times
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- January 31, 2019 at 4:11 pm #149173AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 0Replies: 112Has thanked: 218 timesBeen thanked: 170 times
Hi Scarlett, I don’t think it is clear cut to say a percentage, I think I am typical in the view that when dressed as hopefully an attractive woman I get a buzz from interest shown in me by guys. I can imagine going on a date with a guy as well but only to be treated as a woman. I have been married and would like to meet a lady in the future so my male side is definitely straight. Wow how confusing. Sandra Louise ss
- January 31, 2019 at 11:16 pm #149257PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Thanks for answering my question Sandra and I love all of your most recent photos. You are right, our styles are very similar! Love ya! XOXO Scarlett
- January 31, 2019 at 2:36 pm #149153Genivieve BujoldLadyRegistered On: April 13, 2017Topics: 2Replies: 50Has thanked: 125 timesBeen thanked: 220 times
Wouldn’t the question be asked better if it were posed this way. How many of you when dressed want to look like a girl as opposed to those who want to BE a girl when dressed? I’m not planning to transition, but when I present as Genivieve, I am a woman and I like what women like, that includes men! 😉
- January 31, 2019 at 3:23 pm #149162PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Thanks for writing Genivieve! And I honestly believe that many of us cross dressers are wired the same way. That is, when we get our total girl on we are attracted to men and want to be looked at, appreciated, and even made love to by men so I don’t think you are in a minority as far as cross dressers are concerned.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and you question sounds like another great one for this polling area so I really suggest you post it and go for it! I’m curious to see the results coming in from your question as well!
- January 31, 2019 at 2:34 pm #149152Genivieve BujoldLadyRegistered On: April 13, 2017Topics: 2Replies: 50Has thanked: 125 timesBeen thanked: 220 times
Wouldn’t the question be asked better if it were posed this way. How many of you when dressed want to look like a girl as opposed to those who want to BE a girl when dressed? I’m not planning to transition, but when I present as Genivieve, I am a woman and I like what women like, that includes men! 😉
- January 31, 2019 at 9:52 am #149084PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Girls, it’s Scarlett and I didn’t put up the “Yes” or “No” answer option block. That was CDH that did that. This is obviously a question that would not have an answer of “Yes” or “No” to it and this kinda makes me look like an uneducated idiot.
I take pride in my extensive education background with a bachelor’s degree and two master’s degrees. I held a high profile job until I retired several years ago and then I got certified to teach middle and high school Math, Algebra, Social Studies, and Business Education. I then taught middle school Math and Algebra for six years after retiring from the previous noted high profile job. With the bachelor’s degree I graduated Magna Cum Laude and with both master’s degree I graduated Suma Cum Laude all three of which I’m quite proud of!
But this “Yes” or “No” answer block makes it look like a fell of the school bus on the way to elementary school and then the bus driver backed up over me again to make sure I wouldn’t be back on the bus anymore!
Sorry about the confusion but it wasn’t my fault! Thanks for understanding. XOXOXO Scarlett
- January 31, 2019 at 8:59 am #149074LadyRegistered On: December 13, 2018Topics: 2Replies: 460Has thanked: 702 timesBeen thanked: 921 times
The way this poll is set up doesn’t make sense. It asks for a percentage so I’m unsure how “yes” or “no” apply. I checked all the boxes. Anyway, I think it depends on how you interpret “straight”. Whether Anne or not Anne, my thoughts dwell upon my desire to be a woman, anatomically, emotionally. Twice I have had consensual sex with two other CD’s. They may have been dressed but they were men to me underneath their wigs and clothes. Anne desired a man, treated each one as the man they were underneath their clothing and took care of their male desires and needs. So does that make me “straight”, “gay”, “hybrid”????
I have no desire whatsoever to be dressed in my drab male form and have a man-on-man experience. I might have “Anne thoughts” as I see a man and think how nice it would be, to be Anne with him but that’s as far as that goes when I’m in public in male mode.
I’m sure there are plenty of crossdressers who are dressing for the pure fun/excitement of wearing womens clothing, are strictly heterosexual in that they are only interested in women and that’s it. I have no idea what that percentage might be. I think this is not a strictly black and white issue as I think there may be a number of people, myself included, who blur the lines.
- January 31, 2019 at 9:42 am #149083PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Hi Anne, I tried several times to get the “Yes” or “No” answer option removed from this poll because obviously this is not a question that can have a “Yes” or “No” answer option.
No one could fix it from CDH. I chose the “Unlimited” answer choice and ended up with the idiotic “Yes” or “No” answer option. My explanation to this is offered way below when the first answers started rolling in. A girl named Dame said the question was confusing. Which the question is not confusing at all, it’s the answer option of “Yes” or “No” which is really confusing. And Dame understood that fact after I printed up the issue of the answer option shortly after she submitted her answer and saying in her answer that the question is confusing. The question is crystal clear. The CDH chosen answer block – not so much! That’s the confusing part of this poll which I had absolutely nothing to do with because I chose the answer option “Unlimited Answers” not a “Yes” or “No” answer which made me look like an idiot.
Now with your answer, the lines are blurred a bit. Because you consider yourself emotionally a woman when dressed, which most of us CDers probably do and you had consensual sex with two other cross dressers on probably separate occasions and you knew they were men underneath the wigs and dresses, that does indeed blur the line in those cases. However, if you knew they were men and you knew you were a man and had consensual sex with them regardless of how you were dressed or they were dressed, most people would probably qualify you as bisexual. I won’t and leave it as the hybrid option you offered up, how about that.
Thanks for taking time, Anne, to offer up the most interesting answer so far for sure! I enjoyed reading it!
And again, in my humble opinion, the question is crystal clear. It’s the answer block put up my CDH which makes things confusing for sure. I tried to have two CDH monitors fix it to no avail!
- February 8, 2019 at 1:05 pm #151609LadyRegistered On: December 13, 2018Topics: 2Replies: 460Has thanked: 702 timesBeen thanked: 921 times
Thank you for the explanation. Little did you realize the extra work you created for yourself when you made this poll LOL. I shouldn’t have used that word, “hybrid”. Yes, bisexual is what I should have typed. Thing is, dressed as Anne, in my role as Anne…I don’t even think of myself as my drab male self. So I guess it does blur the lines a bit cos when I am Anne, if I could snap my fingers and all my male anatomy changed to female, I would instantly do it. For some of us, myself included, perhaps it’s more about where we are at in a mental state of mind rather than just about what we have anatomically between our legs. This has been a very good poll and very good discussions. Thank you for your compliment on my commenting.
- January 31, 2019 at 4:42 am #149020Celeste StarreLadyRegistered On: June 26, 2018Topics: 34Replies: 901Has thanked: 270 timesBeen thanked: 2887 times
I would say it depends on how you define “straight”. I’ve heard many excuses over the years from other cross dressers such as:
I’m straight because I only have sex with men once in a while but mostly have sex with women.
I’m straight because when I have sex with a man I’m presenting as a woman so it’s really heterosexual sex.
- January 31, 2019 at 1:55 am #148988Candy CanLadyRegistered On: October 19, 2018Topics: 35Replies: 128Has thanked: 270 timesBeen thanked: 677 times
So Scarlett/ and Bobbi.
I’ll bet you actually DO like kids…..
….You just couldn’t eat a whole one…….. 🙂
- January 30, 2019 at 11:46 pm #148960AndreaLadyRegistered On: September 7, 2018Topics: 8Replies: 301Has thanked: 181 timesBeen thanked: 591 times
I’ve never worked out what percentage of myself is straight, as there is always a part of my logical brain that concludes that pansexual is the default, and another part brings up life’s experiences that overrides it with gynosexual, then another bit nudges me and says “hey there may be this one great guy out there…” and then my aging body groans and points out that being asexual is an easy option.
As for the original question : I suspect it is the same percentage as asking what percentage of men are straight males.
- January 30, 2019 at 9:27 pm #148949Falecia McGuireLadyRegistered On: January 11, 2019Topics: 10Replies: 149Has thanked: 167 timesBeen thanked: 860 times
Trust me, I’ve been at this for years. When you really understand what motivates most crossdressers, it is easy to see why the overwhelming majority (95+%) of crossdressers are straight. We don’t do it to be admired by men. We do it to emulate the women we admire. I was out to dinner with a women friend many years ago and she observed a couple where the women, who was really quite attractive, had kind of a “boyish” look. She said, “That looks like a crossdresser.” I said, “If it was a crossdresser, she’d been with another women.” I believe that to this day. I would go out with a woman I’m in a relationship with or another crossdresser as a friend. I not likely be out with a man!
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- January 30, 2019 at 5:53 pm #148908Giselle ReevesLadyRegistered On: September 27, 2017Topics: 1Replies: 144Has thanked: 578 timesBeen thanked: 426 times
i think the percentage of gay or gay leaning cd’s is higher than 20%, I know myself if I wasn’t married and faithful to my wife I would seriously consider a sexual relationship with a man we me as the female, I don’t know if that makes me gay or bi curious, but I think a lot of other cd’s think this way also
- January 30, 2019 at 3:42 pm #148883Bianca EverdeneLadyRegistered On: April 11, 2017Topics: 24Replies: 762Has thanked: 3045 timesBeen thanked: 3042 times
Been a member for a couple of years now, and from what I have gleaned, I would guess that the percentage of cross dressers who are gay or bi would probably be roughly the same as the population as a whole.
Personally I do not think sexual orientation and what we want to wear are linked. Why should it be ?
Yes many gay men do come across as ‘feminine’ but think this is just because they are less ‘afraid’ to show this aspect of their personality. Whereas most heterosexual males fear letting the ‘feminine’ part of their personality out for fear of looking a bit ‘gay’ , not in line with the traditional ‘male’ gender stereotype we think most women find attractive.
Contreversial, Moi ?
- January 30, 2019 at 2:16 pm #148860AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 0Replies: 9Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 19 times
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I definitely agree with a lot of posts here. Someone mentioned the 80/20 rule, that’s a staple! Respect. So along those lines I’d pin it around 80% (+/- 5%) with most of the people here. Certainly high. Fiona’s description of breaking down populations by percentage also seems really sound, so yeah I’d say between 75-80% with the other 20-25% identifying as gay or bi.
For me, I’m straight and my wife can tell you I’m basically always in physical contact with her. Like Scarlett said, I too basically can’t keep my hands off my wife and she loves it.
I do wonder why there’s a huge discrepancy between the general public’s assumption of cross dressers (we’re all gay and/or want to be women), and the general consensus within the community of cross dressers. Not that I’m assuming this site is a holistic representation, I really couldn’t say. I guess that’s more on the lack of transparency between cross dressers and the general public. Blame the media? Psychiatric community? Who knows.
- January 30, 2019 at 1:21 pm #148843Nerys CambellLadyRegistered On: January 10, 2019Topics: 1Replies: 10Has thanked: 15 timesBeen thanked: 13 times
I wonder how many have thought about it though? How many have thought about with another cross dresser?
I wonder how many would love the acceptance rather than just being tolerated…
That would be a percentage I would love to see.
- January 30, 2019 at 2:10 pm #148857LadyRegistered On: October 22, 2018Topics: 47Replies: 1599Has thanked: 7849 timesBeen thanked: 4203 times
How true that is Nerys.
While the 80/20 number may be true of those that have actually engaged in a gay encounter.
If they were to answer honestly, I believe the numbers would be different if they had asked about those who had thought about being in that type of relationship.
It would certainly be interesting.
- January 30, 2019 at 1:56 pm #148851PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Nerys, we all would love to have that from our wives or significant others! To be totally accepted with our thrill of cross dressing rather than to be just tolerated and not allowed to cross dress while the wife or friend or room mate or whoever is around – kids too.
Thank God all I have to worry about is my wife and no kids. They’ve been grown and gone a long time now and I’m so glad for that. And they live so far away, I never have to worry about them stopping by with the grand kids for a surprise visit. And after raising two boys and a former wife, and after teaching middle school for six years after retiring from civil service, and after being the head coach of all my son’s football and baseball teams, I have found that I’m actually allergic to kids now and don’t want much of anything to do with them anymore. I’ve had my fill of kids to keep me satisfied for the rest of my life! And lucky for me, that sexy curvy redhead who’s just three years younger than me has never had and kids and never wanted them and she’s allergic to them as well. As a matter of fact, when we go into a restaurant to eat dinner out, when the hostess ask us where we would like to sit, we always tell them – “As far away from kids as you can get us!” Sorry to sound like that but I’m done with kids. I put my two boys and my former wife through college and didn’t want to have to put any grand kids through college or buy them cars, clothes, insurance, expensive shoes, a place to live, books, tuition and all of that crap ever again!
Sorry I got off from being accepted as a cross dresser or just tolerated as one! And I don’t know why I even got on my allergy to kids. It just came to me and I rolled with it!
Alrighty Nerys, that’s it for now and thanks for replying to my question!
XOXO Scarlett PS We have two Corgi dogs and we much prefer them over kids or grand kids!
- January 30, 2019 at 2:44 pm #148868BobbiLadyRegistered On: September 13, 2018Topics: 26Replies: 1503Has thanked: 1631 timesBeen thanked: 3695 times
Scarlett: Don’t sugar coat it, darling! Tell us how you really feel about kids! LOL
I TOTALLY get it. I come from a VERY large family, with a million nieces, nephews, cousins, Etc. After a while, I want to get as far away from children as I can get! 😀
- January 30, 2019 at 11:30 am #148814Fiona-Ann MossLadyRegistered On: October 7, 2018Topics: 366Replies: 1198Has thanked: 3564 timesBeen thanked: 3511 times
Hi Scarlett, I firmly believe there are more heterosexual cross dressers than gay ones. I suppose if you look at the whole picture, then in the population as a whole, there are more heterosexual men than gay ones. Taking this to a logical conclusion, its fair to say, the likelihood of cross dressers being gay is relatively small. Of course there is the misconception that some people who dont know anything about cross dressing, assume we are all gay……
- January 30, 2019 at 10:38 am #148791Charlotte HamiltonLadyRegistered On: March 22, 2017Topics: 1Replies: 2Has thanked: 3 timesBeen thanked: 5 times
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Some references from more official websites, one dedicated to the LGBQT community and another from none other than Lynn Conway (amazing, super smart, transwoman)
It’s worth the read (I know it’s quite long) but helps to understand better the composition and answers directly the OP’s question
“Most men who cross-dress are heterosexual and married and simply enjoy the practice. There are varying estimates of the prevalence of male cross-dressers in the United States, ranging from 2 percent to 10 percent. In a study published in the Journal of Psychology and Human Sexuality (Reynolds & Carson, 2008), researchers found that most of the heterosexual men who engaged in cross-dressing did so to achieve a feeling of “comfort and peace.” Men in the study said they cross-dressed to fulfill a biological, genetic or innate desire.
There have been several studies focusing on the wives of cross-dressers. One of these studies, published in the Journal of Psychology and Human Sexuality (Reynolds & Carson, 2008), found that most wives did not support their husband’s cross-dressing, but rather tolerated it. Generally, the wife’s biggest source of anxiety about their husband’s cross-dressing was that other people might find out.”
This one is from Lynn Conway:
“There are many reasons for wanting to know the approximate prevalence of a developmental or medical condition. One important reason is that the prevalence of a condition determines the attention it receives by medical researchers, physicians, public health officials, social welfare workers and government bureaucrats. If a condition is presumed “extremely rare”, then it gets very little attention at all. If is it known to be not uncommon, and if it has a very high impact on those affected (such as conditions like multiple sclerosis or deafness), then it gets taken much more seriously and more medical and social resources are applied to its correction. In this article, we’ll show that it is fairly easy to calculate approximate values of the prevalence of male-to-female (MtF) transsexualism. We first estimate the number of postop women in the U.S by accumulating the estimated numbers of sex reassignment surgeries (SRS) performed on U.S. citizens and residents decade by decade. We then divide that number by the number of adult males in the country. The result is a rough lower bound on postop prevalence, which we find to be about 1:2500. In other words, at least one or more in every 2500 adult males in the U.S. has had SRS and become a postop woman. The prevalence of untreated intense MtF transsexualism must be many times that number, and is perhaps on the order of 1:500. When we compare this value with the one often quoted by “psychiatric authorities” in the U.S. (1:30,000), we discover that those authorities have persistently understated the prevalence of transsexualism by almost two orders of magnitude. This is such a incredible discrepancy that we must raise questions about why the psychiatric establishment (which has largely seized control of information provided about transsexualism to the media in the U.S.) has been so persistent in promulgating vastly understated values of the prevalence.”
“In the United States, there are varying estimates of the prevalence of cross-dressing. Most conservative estimates are in the range of 2% to 5% of all adult males engage in routine crossdressing (1:50 to 1:20). These are people who crossdress part-time either privately at home, or in private CD clubs, and who find great satisfaction in this practice. In a majority of these cases, there is mainly a male fetishistic motivation for the cross-dressing. However, in a moderate fraction (1/3rd?) it mainly provides an outlet for mild to moderate to strong transgender feelings. Some fraction of the “transgender” crossdressers moving through this community will go on to “transition”, and take on a full-time social role as women. Of these, some will complete a “TG transition” (without SRS), obtain new ID’s, and live as women afterwards. A smaller group will complete a “TS transition” by also having SRS. In the United States, those who complete a TS transition can in most states take on full legal status as women (updating their birth certificates, being able to marry men, adopt children, etc).”
“TABLE 2: Coordinated rough projections of the prevalence of CD/TG/TS conditions in the U.S.:
Observed situations: Likely lower bounds on
Conservative lower bounds on current prevalence P/T intense CD’ers: 1:20 1:50 Those with strong TG feelings: 1:50 1:200 Those with intense TS feelings: 1:150 1:500 TG transitioners (w/o SRS): 1:200 1:1000 TS transitioners (w SRS): 1:500 1:2500
Hope all this information helps to enhance the discussion.
- January 30, 2019 at 9:48 am #148775PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Hi girls! I didn’t sign up for a yes or no answer and don’t know why CDH posted that option. I signed up for unlimited responses because this is not a question that required a “Yes” or “No” answer so sorry about that answer choice. It shouldn’t be there!
Thanks for understanding!
- January 30, 2019 at 9:36 am #148771skippy1965 CynthiaAmbassadorRegistered On: August 25, 2015Topics: 110Replies: 1262Has thanked: 561 timesBeen thanked: 1450 times
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- January 30, 2019 at 9:32 am #148770Dame Veronica GraunwolfRegistered On: May 8, 2017Topics: 55Replies: 2059Has thanked: 1755 timesBeen thanked: 2255 times
The question is confusing, the way it is presented. Anyhow……books that I have studied indicate that 100 percent of males will try on womens style clothing. Actually becoming cross dressers is fairly low world wide. Anyhow……..those who are cross-dressers, being straight, I would estimate about 90%. The rest go bi-sexual, transgender eventually or asexual. That would be my questimate.
- January 30, 2019 at 10:02 am #148784PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
Hi Dame it’s Scarlett! Actually Dame the question is crystal clear. “What percentage of cross dressers do you think are straight males?” Now that’s as clear as I could possibly pose the question.
It’s the answer option that CDH posted that’s confusing as hell! I asked for unlimited style of answers when I clicked it in that block. I didn’t click the option for a “Yes” or “No” answer to this question. That’s so stupid and I’m not that dumb! I’ve got a bachelor’s and two master’s degrees and I’ve got a little more walking around sense to ask for an answer to a question like this that would just require a “Yes” or “No” answer. Here’s an example of a simple question that requires a “Yes” or “No” answer: “Did you start wearing any sort of women’s clothing before the age of 12?” “Yes” or “No”…Does this make sense? Why sure!
So it was CDH that posted the wrong “Yes” or “No” answer option and I hope they read this and correct that option because I certainly can’t correct it from here!
Thanks for reading, Dame. XOXO Scarlett
- January 30, 2019 at 3:21 pm #148878Dame Veronica GraunwolfRegistered On: May 8, 2017Topics: 55Replies: 2059Has thanked: 1755 timesBeen thanked: 2255 times
Hi Scarlett! The first item was quite clear as you mention. It was the actual yes/no that was unclear to me. I find some of the questions don’t really suit a straight yes/no reply……but I quess it is us older folk that don’t see things as black/white but grey shades….comes with experience and age I guess.
- January 30, 2019 at 9:00 am #148726AnonymousRegistered On:Topics: 1Replies: 78Has thanked: 61 timesBeen thanked: 134 times
I’m going to have to agree with you by saying I think 80% of crossdressers are straight.
Not that I’m just going along with your answer just to go along. It’s just that the 80/20 rule is called the 80/20 rule for a reason. So, why shouldn’t it apply here too? lol
I like your question & I’m curious as to what others think.
- February 12, 2019 at 6:47 am #152684Alyxis BeeLadyRegistered On: January 30, 2018Topics: 1Replies: 19Has thanked: 122 timesBeen thanked: 24 times
I’m going with Scarlet and Brandy (loveslace – I love the name) on the 80% guess. Cross dressing and being gay don’t seem to me a logical coesistance.
- January 30, 2019 at 12:15 pm #148822MonaDuchessRegistered On: December 18, 2018Topics: 10Replies: 110Has thanked: 462 timesBeen thanked: 648 times
I just walked around my office asking about 50 coworkers whether they cross dress. For some reason, not one of them answered yes.
Although I know one guy is lying because I’ve caught glimpses of a pink thong peaking out on a few occasions when he’s walked by my cubicle.
I’m currently waiting outside the HR office because for some reason they want to talk to me. If it’s about the informal poll I just conducted I’ll simply explain that the idea just suddenly popped into my head and I was curious.
What could possibly go wrong?
Of course I’m joking. Mona likes to think she has a sense of humor, the poor dilusional girl.
To answer the question I also think it’s about 80 to 90% hereto men.
- September 30, 2019 at 7:31 pm #229330Paula FDuchessRegistered On: August 7, 2019Topics: 13Replies: 1013Has thanked: 12648 timesBeen thanked: 4031 times
I wish you luck with HR Mona, most of my ‘visits’ with them have not been positive. I didn’t ever lose my job, but have been reprimanded. But, with the political climate now a days, if they say or do anything negative, stand firm and push back and let them know you won’t be pushed around. I finally did that a couple of years ago, and they have left me alone since. Don’t get nasty or mean, just be matter of fact with about the new laws and statutes.
Oh yes, my reply: In all of my reading and the several group’s I have belonged to ( in real life and online), it is pretty consistent in that 80 to 90% of male CD’s are heterosexual. Some how though, many of us believe it is not that high, as many just will not admit that they are at least bi or bi curious. But that’s okay. As long as you be yourself and respect yourself, and know that you are NOT wrong to be who and how you are.
- January 30, 2019 at 10:22 pm #148952Registered On: May 8, 2017Topics: 55Replies: 2059Has thanked: 1755 timesBeen thanked: 2255 times
Hi Mona………oh no….HR! Hope you don’t get into trouble. I was always in trouble with HR because I was quite bold about speaking my mind and found HR to be simperring Pansies catering to the job challenge and lazy. But them I sort of knew where all the skeltons and closets were and I held the exclusive desirability of most of the big bucks clients. One should always keep the ears open in a company for useable tid-bits of information to further your own agenda. Nothing gets you what you want, when you want than a sword dangling over someones head.
- June 9, 2019 at 9:30 am #184156PrincessRegistered On: June 29, 2018Topics: 4Replies: 499Has thanked: 768 timesBeen thanked: 1120 times
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