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When I met my Twin Sister If you’re old enough to recall the television series, “Dragnet” you will remember the infamous line from Sgt. Joe Friday, “Just the facts ma’
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A Day Out and About… In Heels, (Continued) Previously, I’ve been out-n-about in heels visiting a chocolate shop and doing the LTDB thing at the mall. I needed to get to the grocery s
thank you for sharing your shipping experiences Glad it all went well and no push back with all your interaction.
Hi Leah!
I got a laugh from your comment. I couldn’t figure out what you meant by my sharing my “shipping” experiences… Then it hit me…you meant “shopping”… I got a laugh from that. That is what you meant…right? I mis-type so often when I use my phone. On the computer too, but I can see better and usually, but not always, catch my goofs. Thanks for the laugh I’ve been interacting more confidently lately. I used to avoid people or situations and surroundings that might present an opportunity to speak or stand out. I do posses definite male characteristics that, as I state in the article, no make up or clothing is going to conceal. But lately, I intentionally place myself in those surroundings. I am still cautious though. I am in redneck territory, so I must be vigilant. I must say it makes the experience more exhilarating.
Thank you stopping in and reading my article and leaving me a note. I hope you were able to place yourself right there with me during the day out and about, and that you will come along with me on future adventures.
Until then, take care and stay safe and warm
JuneJune,
Yes, “shopping” fat finger typing…lol.
I feel you on possessing those definite male characteristics, Always thinking someone is starring at you or “reading” you. I certainly did put myself in your heels as you were out and about and how I woudl have handled myself in that situation.
Take care
And that’s what endeared you to those you interacted with – being your own kind of beautiful and the lovely approachable woman you are.
Thank you for that wonder interpretation, Angela.
Being my own kind of beautiful relates to the image I have for June. I know I will always be, as my wife says, “her husband in women’s clothes.” aka a dude in a dress. While I accept that, I also accept that I don’t have to present myself that way. And not everyone sees me the way she does. So, I strive to present June as a proper, casual, classy lady. Not ladylike, because I don’t really know what that means. If you read my article on a windy day, you will understand my thoughts on that.
Thank you stopping in and reading my article and leaving me a note. I hope you were able to place yourself right there with me during the day out and about, and that you will come along with me on future adventures.
Until then, take care and stay safe and warm
JuneYes I did read it and had a good chuckle – I did leave a reply too. The real world of women is discovered as you get out more, as I have found.
Held my attention all the way through the description of your day out and about
in heels, June. Very well written! Moreover, your experiences in the grocery
stores very closely parallels my own. People are sometimes too busy to notice you, and other times they will speak with you just like you are another lady shopper in the
store. Shopping for groceries can be a great place to get some validation too, as
you found out. We CDs love to be called “ma’am” and to have doors held open
for us.Peggy Sue
Hi Peggy Sue!
I’ve read your photo descriptions at the Kroger and the various festivals you attend there around Atlanta, and related yours to my experiences too. It’s amazing how similar they are. But then, maybe not. We are both adventuresome. I have become more so from reading your descriptions being out and am inspired by your free spirit. I love it when someone calls me ma’am. I have to beam back a big smile and thank you when I hear those words addressed to me.
Thank you for your comments Peggy Sue. You are both inspirational and encouraging. I would so like to be with you on one of your outings. Meeting others and interacting with them with you, would be wonderful.
For now, I’ll continue sharing my experiences through the written word…until we meet again.Take care and stay wonderful
June
Thank you June for sharing your experience. It brngs more confidence to any of us to go out.
Hi Denise!
I am so glad you find encouragement from my adventures. You are right, the more you experience being out, the more confidence you will build. It is that confidence that makes being out and about more enjoyable.Thank you stopping in and reading my article and leaving me a note. I hope you were able to place yourself right there with me during the day out and about, and that you will come along with me on future adventures.
Until then, take care and stay safe and warm
June
I agree that it is such a pleasure to be called ma’am. This afternoon on a Wal-Mart run, as I was coming around the corner of an isle a young kid nearly ran into me. The mother said ‘be careful you nearly ran that lady over’. I just smiled.
. Cassie
I know exactly the smile, and it is so wonderful! It comes on spontaneously without control. Just a big beaming grin followed by a blood rush…This won’t happen at Wal-Mart or any of the stores that have motion monitored doors, but the sensation you get from being called Ma’am or lady is paralleled by when a fella opens a door for you…proof chivalry is not dead!
Thank you for reading my adventure and sharing your experience with me. I really appreciate that, Cassie! I hope you were able to place yourself right there with me during my day out and about. And that you will come along with me on future adventures.
Until then, take care and stay safe and warm
June
Thank you for sharing this inspiring story! It is wonderful to hear about these positive experiences!
Hi Lara!
Thank you so much for stopping in and leaving me a note. I really appreciate that!
I am so glad to read you found inspiration from my adventure(s). I read your profile. You are on a wonderful journey. Someday you may want to step out and about yourself. I wanted to for years but like you was “scared to death.” It took me quite a while to finally find the courage to walk out the door. Until you do, I hope you will share my experiences as you join me vicariously on further adventures.
Until then, take care and stay safe and warm.
June
Hi Holly!
Being out and about is most certainly an “amazingly wonderful feeling!” And it doesn’t matter what pair of shoes you wear.I hope you were able to place yourself right there with me on this outing. I’ve always been self conscious of my appearance and voice. Over time I’ve become more confident with myself. It’s come in part from many of the inspiring people I’ve met here on CDH. It’s been fun, but it’s been scary, too.
On this day out and about I was tempted to call it quits, but I was determined to see it through to the end of the day. I am so glad I did! In fact, I’ve done it twice since then. But the first time is the most memorable. And the shoes seem to fit better…
Thanks for stopping in and sharing your comments with me. I really appreciate that!
Take care and stay safe and warm
JuneHi Michelle!
“We suffer for fashion…” Heels are a fashion statement. I have worn flats and sandals with no issues. Heels though have always presented a challenge for me. Years ago, I thought I had to have 4 inch heels when I dressed. I never did walk in them. I wobbled around like a drunk duck on ice. Then I learned kitten heels aren’t so bad, and they are so very versatile. I can even walk in them with minimal wobble. That is when I concentrate on walking in line heel to toe and slow. That’s how I made it through this day out and about. I’ve done it twice since then.
Thank you stopping in and reading my article and leaving me a note. I really appreciate that, Michelle. I hope you were able to place yourself right there with me during the day out and about, and that you will come along with me on future adventures.
Until then, take care and stay safe and warm
JuneHi June, I may seem like a broken record, but you are an inspiration to me and I am sure to those here who may be insecure to be out ‘n about as their feminine persona.( Leonara included) you are such a good writer. I thought I was there with you which would be a delightful experience. lol.. from your selfie, you look elegant and one of the more pretty ladies doing their shopping..thank you for sharing..looking forward to your next exciting adventure… warmest regards, Leonara
Hi Leonara!
I am always so happy to read your notes, Leonara. It is especially heart warming to know you find encouragement and inspiration from my adventures. I know we missed an opportunity to meet last summer when I was driving through your area. But we can be out together vicariously.
My next article I am writing about is how I met my twin sister…it’s still in draft form.
Have you been out and about again? I’d like to “hear” about it.Thank you so much for your kind words, Leonara. I really appreciate your compliments!
Until our next adventure, take care and stay safe and warm
June
Hi June,
Really impressed by the quality of your articles, and also your endurance wearing heels on a day long!
I’ve got some too, but so far the best I’ve done was to be out with some 8 cm (~3 inches) heeled boots . I walked ~ 2kms (return) to do some local grocery shopping.
And I can still remember the feeling of been still heeled, way after getting them out
So, I’m not sure I will be able to wear some all day long.I really like the way you seems yourself as June, and how you feel confident.
Waiting to read on your next adventure.
Hi Kirra!
Walking in heels has always been a challenge for me. Really can’t call it walking…more like wobbling. I like flats and wedges but I’m wanting to take my dressing, when out and about, up a few notches, and I think heels is a must for that.
I’ve found that I can negotiate okay in kitten heels if I slow my pace and place one foot in front of the other in line. Walking in heels is not the same as walking in flats. I’ve been out twice since the day of this story. Both times in the same kitten heels. But for shorter periods. I am also walking around the house in them more and more. I’m getting better, and that is what builds confidence.
My next article is currently in draft form. It’s about how I met my twin sister…
Thanks for reading my adventure and leaving me a note. I really appreciate that!
I hope you were able to place yourself right there beside me as the day unfolded. And that you will join me on my next adventure…
Until then, take care and stay safe and warm.
Thank you June for continuing your story, sounds like you had a wonderful day out. It helps to build some confidence in myself that I too will do the same and spend the day walking in heels.
Thank you June
SherriHi Sherri!
Thanks for stopping in and leaving me a note. I really appreciate that!
I did have an absolutely wonderful day that day. It was the first time I walked out the front door of my house to the truck in the driveway, and the first time I wore heels for the entire outing. I have headed out in heels before with all good intentions of wearing them for the day, but always changed into my flats before I even made it to the first stop of the day. I was out just over six hours on this day. My feet ached at about the five hour mark, but I was determined to make it through the day in heels. I am so proud of myself for having done it.
I still do not feel all that confident in heels. I’m much more comfortable in flats or wedges. But I want to take my dressing, when our and about, up a few notches and I feel heels is a must for that. I practice wearing them more around the house. Walking in heels is not the same as walking in flats. I have to slow down and think about placing one foot in front of the other, heel to toe in line. I have been out twice since this day…in heels. Both times have only been for a few hours. I’m getting better, and that is what builds my confidence.
I hope you were able to place yourself right there with me as the day unfolded, and that you will join me on my next adventure.
Until then, take care and stay safe and warm
JuneReally proud of you June I hope someday to get the chance to be able to do what you achieved ! You are really amazing
Love your story, June. It’s a simple yet exciting adventure, one through which we could all live victoriously because of your great writing. It’s a story of the little moments, interactions, and thoughts of a woman, well, being a woman out and about in this beautiful world of ours.
Thank you for sharing!
Hugs
JulesHi Jules!
Thank you reading my adventure. IT IS the “ little moments, interactions and thoughts” that contribute significantly to the thrill of this phenomenon called cross dressing that we do. How we act and react in a situation defines us and the image we present. I could have easily ruined everything if I had lost my composure in any of the settings during this day out and about. Going out requires us to not only prepare outwardly by choosing appropriate outfits, but we have to be prepared mentally for the unexpected, too.
I love your photos on the beach. I suspect you hope to encounter other beach goers during your outing. And you no doubt have thought through how you will address others and your body language. You are prepared and there in lies the confidence to be where you are…out enjoying the beauty and wonders of our world.Thanks for sharing your thoughts with me, Jules. I hope you were able to place yourself right there with me on my adventure, and that you will come along with me on future adventures.
Until then;,take care and stay safe and warm
JuneHa! I was along side you every step, girlfriend! And I’ll be there vicariously during every future adventure you hope to share!
But dang! You’re in Colorado…
I wish you were closer so I could join you for real. That would be fun!I’m glad you enjoy my photos, as I enjoy taking and sharing them. And even though I’m far shyer than I appear, hopefully I inspire other girls to reach for and turn that doorknob open, wide open. And of course being outdoors is the BEST.
Take good care!
Hugs
JulesHi Jules!
So glad to have had you along on the day out and about. It was so much fun!I enjoy living between Colorado and Oklahoma…well, Oklahoma not so much, but my wife likes it. We are outdoorsy folk. We are hiking all the National Parks. When we are not in Colorado, we are in Oklahoma, and when not in either of those we are rambling toward our next hike in our 5th wheel RV. I love being outdoors. We planned to be in Hawaii this summer to visit and hike Volcanoes National Park and Haleakala National Park, but an unfortunate turn of events has changed our plans. It’s uncertain at this point, but we may head over to Great Smokey Mountain, and Mammoth Cave NP’s then back to Colorado for some mountain stream fly fishing.
A lot of us beam a smile in our photos. But you exude happiness in yours. I like that! I like to see the whole picture when looking at a photo. That includes what’s in the background, or the setting. I think your smile, combined with your settings, is inspirational to all those who truly want to step out of their closet, and experience the thrill of this phenomenon called cross dressing.
Thanks for sharing your smile…
Take care and stay safe and warm
JuneWow, you, your male side, and wife are living large, June! Sounds like you’re having fun. Good for you!!!
Yes, for me, there is a tremendous amount of warmth, happiness, and joy behind “my smile”, which I suppose is what you observe. For me, when in Jules mode is pure joy, and I feel so comfortable in my female “skin”.
Take good care, sweetheart!
Hugs
Jules
Hi June…. I agree with you about our voices….no amount of training will get some of our voices not to sound like a male. When I”m engaged in some commercial activity I just keep it to the basics and smile. i do have a question about the glasses…I have to buy new glasses and am considering one of the womans section….one from the mens….is there a consensus ?
Hi Diana!
I used to avoid situations where I might have to speak. And if I did it was usually a one word response like No, or Yes, sometimes a Thank You…but not much else. Then I heard Heather Tesch’s voice. She is a meteorologist for the Weather Channel. Her voice is deep and sultry. That is when I decided my voice is what it is…I’ll just slow it down a bit. While I am still self conscious of my voice I am less concerned about it. I am concerned about how I present myself. Body language can be just as telling as the size of your hands or the sound of your voice. Now, it’s not uncommon for me to be the one who speaks first. And I don’t avoid sales clerks.
At my age you would suspect I need to wear glasses. But I don’t. I wear readers. For every day wear I wear a half rim unisex pair. I work part time at Lowe’s so I read a lot. I wear my unisex half rim black/clear for work. When I present as June, I wear rose colored or black rimmed reading glasses. Sometimes I will wear my unisex glasses. It depends on my outfit. When grocery shopping I read my shopping list from my phone. That’s why I’m wearing glasses in this photo. If you read the first part of this day out and about you saw me walking out the door with no glasses. I’m not one to offer advice. I can only share with you what works for me. I’m happy with my unisex frame glasses for every day wear, and to wear when en femme…when I want.Thanks for reading my adventure and leaving me a note. I really appreciate that! I hope you were able to place yourself right there with me as the day unfolded. And that you will join me on my next adventure.
Until then, take care and stay safe and warm
JuneHey Diana, I just remembered that my most recent photo post here is me wearing my rimless unisex readers. Take a look. This is just one of many lens styles…
Take care…
June
Hi Gabriela!
So glad to I stirred up some fond memories… and related to recent encounters. I’ve been there “…hoping they won’t ask me anything.” I am still self conscious of my voice. I tend to get a dry throat when on edge, but it doesn’t bother me so much anymore to speak.
It would be so enjoyable to meet one of these days while out and about…in heels…or flats. Until then, I hope you will be alongside me vicariously on the next adventure.
Thank you for stopping in and sharing a memory with me. I really appreciate that!
Take care and stay safe and warm
JuneJune, I loved your adventure, and can relate to the heels starting to hurt one of your toes, lol. You have a lot of courage to make an outing like that, which I really admire. You are also so fortunate to have a spouse, who helps and accepts you as June. Again, loved your story.
The other Cheri’
Hi “The other Cheri”!
I do feel fortune that my wife accepts this thing I do…within limits. She knows I do it, she knows when I do it, and she accommodates me…for the most part. I assume you read the first part of the adventure? My wife says I look like her husband in women’s clothes…a dude in a dress! She won’t look at me as June, but she will look at and critique June’s photos. Strange, isn’t it? Anyway, I do feel fortunate she has accepted a level of tolerance.So you have a shoe that rubs your toes the wrong way too? It’s was just on one foot. I’ve gone out in heels three times since that day, and have not experienced the same annoyance. But then I wasn’t out more than a couple hours. Maybe that’s the difference?
Cheri, I hope you were able to place yourself alongside me during this day out and about…in heels. I hope you will join me vicariously on future adventures, and we will have as much, or more, fun together.
Thanks for stopping by and leaving me a note. I really appreciate that!
Take care and stay safe and warm
June
Although I knew the story, it was still fun to read again, like any else one rereads there seems to be something new found as you do. The last line of your article, “please join me on my next adventure”, oh how I wish I really could, sigh. Thank you so much for sharing.
Hi Carolyn!
You are the inspiration behind me setting this adventure in words. Thank you for that!It’s so enjoyable to read the comments from those who respond. It’s a sort of connection. Like that someone I wish were with me to hold my hand as I go about exploring the myriad dimensions of this phenomenon called Cross Dressing. I would love if it were your hand to hold.
Thank you for being a good sounding board…and friend.
Take care and stay safe and warm
JuneJune, maybe someday I can be there to support you, holding your hand and laughing while being out, it couldn’t get much better than that. Hugs
That would be the BEST!
lovely story, you seem to venture out the the way i would like, i think you also look amazing,
thanks
WendyThank you for that wonderful compliment, Wendy!
Thank you for stopping in and leaving me a note. I really appreciate that!
I read your profile and bio. There probably are many CDers on your “Isle of paradise.” Perhaps they find security in seclusion and anonymity. I know I would very much like to venture out with someone. The best I can do, for now, is to invite you to join me vicariously. I hope you will come along with me on future adventures and place yourself right beside me as our adventures unfold.
Until then, Take care and stay safe and warm
JuneHi June
what a nice reply, your right i am sure there are many cd’s here on the island but like you say all a bit shy, shame really as we are all in the same frame of mind, except for some which are not my kind at all, must it would be nice to be able to venture out with you as you seem to be just what i would like, but as you say i will be with you on your ventures, outside of that it would be nice to chat in between your ventures, but only if youur happy with that,
anyway take care
Wendy
The feelings of presenting as a woman really come to fruition when you decide to interact with the real world. Women come in all shapes, sizes and personalities. Once you decide to present, most interactions are non-events.
Hi Mandi!
Thank you for stopping in and sharing your thoughts. I really appreciate that!
I read your profile and bio. If you’ve read mine you will understand that I too want to present June as a proper, classy lady. I want to “blend in” and to be one among the many.
It’s only recently that I’ve begun to interact with others. I used to shy away from situations that would lead me to speak. That was then. Now, I initiate the conversations when I want. Incidental / spontaneous interactions are much enjoyed. Because of that I hope my outings don’t turn into non-vents. I’m having too much fun with this! Sometimes I go looking for fun, other times fun finds me.
I hope you will join me on my next, and future adventures.
Until then, take care and stay safe and warm
June
Thank you for sharing June. Sounds like you had a great experience. I haven’t been out in a bout a month, as Tonya, so your article is great motivation to get back out there.
❤️ Tonya
Hi Tonya!
I’m all too familiar with the ache of not getting out and about. I’m glad you find motivation from my adventures. It is so much better to be out than in…especially being out with someone. I read your profile and bio and think it wonderful that your wife not only accepts Tonya, but enjoys the persona. I envy you for that. My wife kinda sorta accepts June, but will have no part of being around me en femme.Thanks for reading my adventure and for leaving me a note. I really appreciate that! I hope you were able to place yourself right there with me during my adventure and that you will join me on future adventures out and about…But I may not always wear heels.
Until then, take care and stay safe and warm
June
June darling. I do not know where to start. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself, (FDR). I hid behind walls with the fear of being seen by my neighbors. After joining CDH seeing the photos and chatting with the ladies on CDH it inspired me to look for others like myself in my area to socialize with. I connected with a couple that invited me on an outing to join others and they offered to let me change at there house. But I wanted to dress at home which meant walking out my front door as Janice. So I confronted my neighbors only to get hugs, tell me how to walk in heels, how I have been a good neighbor and will always be considered the same. This was my biggest fear. I have not turned back to seclude myself. Every fear I have faced afterwards from work to family, was overcame. This instilled a strength and built courage in me to face the next one. There are challenges with acceptance but just as they need their time to reconcile there indifferences and come unto there own understandings. We need our time also to experience our new freedom of life. How wonderful and such determination you had to finish your day in heels. To freely communicate with others while presenting as June to the world being you and doing your daily responsibility’s. I congratulate you from my perspective. I find when people are looking at me they are just trying to figure me out. There is no harm or ill feelings in that, for we all do it. I to have been asked to reach things for others while shopping only to get thank you and kindness. “What a wonderful world” or is it “what the world needs now is love sweet love”.
June darling, granted when we first step out in this new territory as our feminine self we are rough around the edges, per se. But the more we build our confidence and start to see our fears being overcome time after time our walk gets better. This is just me thinking and trying to relate with your story. There were so many challenges that you overcame in that single day. Now just Imagine, everyday overcoming that many more fears. A big one for me was using the ladies rest room for the first couple times while out at a crowded restaurant. Your in a dress or some other women’s attire, of course your going to use the women’s rest room. You get up from your table, the restrooms are in full sight. You weave around the tables toward the restrooms, Your tall and you standout, you feel the looks from people. Then you go into the ladies room do your business come out and proceed back to your table only to find out all is good. We have lived a lifetime presenting one way in public and now we have to think outside that box. I am so proud of you June, what an inspiration for sure. For I need to hear these stories myself. For I find myself at times looking for excuses or procrastinating. Only to find out when I confront them every time it is like, that wasn’t so bad now was it.
We also need to make ourselves aware that there are crazies out there that prey on women. I know we think they don’t know who they are messing with, but we need to be conscientious of our surrounding and situations. When we are accepted in certain establishment we can get caught up in the moment of acceptance and comfort ability. Example: You lost track of time and now it is closing time. People may have been drinking and your alone, your car is parked in a dark spot away from the building. The joy of acceptance is a wonderful feeling and you feel you have it under control. We have to think like a lady. Have someone walk you to your car or at least have someone you can trust, to observe you as you walk to your car. Never leave your drink alone or uncovered. challenges. I do not know how I drifted into this discussion. But I will leave it for some informational enlightenment.
June darling, your story was very enjoyable, inspirational and enlightening. Such a detailed description of your day out and about travels. A pleasure for sure. I meant no disrespect or criticism. This response comes from my heart with my love to you. Forgive me if you find something misleading for none was intended. Sincerely, Love. Janice.
Janice, my dear, you are darling!
the word confidence rings out in your thoughts. Confidence…cautious confidence. I’ve just submitted another article for edit. In it I explain how I met the “twin sister” I didn’t know I had. I begin the story with fear. It took years…decades to buck up the courage to step out the front door on this day out and about…in heels. I’ve been out in flats lots of times. I’ve always felt I had to do it in heels. It adds a dimension of femininity that flats do not satisfy. I’ve studied female behavior, dress, mannerisms over the years in preparation for my day in the world…as June in heels. I learn more and more every time I’m out. I’ve recorded notes from each outing…Boy have I got some stories to tell!I’ve only been going out for about three years, and it has been seldom. I would park the jeep in the garage and launch from there. No neighbor could see me exit or return to the house in the garage. I felt “safe.” I’ve given up drinking so getting caught in a bar parking lot is not likely to happen. But your words of caution are well received. I live in an area of questionable acceptance. I know from conversation with many of my friends, that were they to discover my alter ego, I would be scorned and shunned. That would be a terrible blow to my wife. So, we conceal the feminine facet of my persona from them.
My neighbors don’t know any different. I don’t know if they watch our house or who comes and goes. The neighborhood is fairly quite. So when I walked out the front door, I don’t know if I was observed or not. But I will say that from that day forward, I have been walking to my truck from either the front door, or the opened garage door. (the truck doesn’t fit in the garage so it stays in the driveway.) Getting to it requires me to walk across the drive, in plain sight of anyone who looks. There is no concealment.
It is a wonderful world! And I am so fortunate to know you, and that you make it so.
Thank you, Janice!
Loved your story!
Thank you, Nicole!
Thank you for taking the time to read my adventure and leave me a note. I hope you were able to envision yourself alongside of me as the day unfolded during this day out and about…in heels. And, I hope you will come along with me on future adventures.
Until then, take care and stay safe.
JuneGosh June I sure will. Happy Easter!
Second time around the story gets better and better… thanks for sharing….
June wrote a new post 1 years ago
This is a multi-part story. I hope you will vicariously reminisce, explore and/or envision being right there with me as it unfolds…
If you’re close to my age, you’ll recall Dragnet’s Sgt. Joe Friday implore
hello and good for you. i went out dressed up, but it was Halloween, i had my niece do my makeup, for in which she was happy to help me, so she did my makeup and i put on my dress that i bought with me and other things, nylons, panties, pad, heels, wig, my niece did style my wig and put on my eye shadow and i learned from her how to apply at the same time. put on my earrings and went downstairs and every on in the family came to see me dressed up and i went out the door and went out trick or treat. my niece said to have a good time, oh boy only id she knew i loved to dress up, she would make me dresses just for me. i had a great time dressed up. i also went to a Buffalo Gails group dressed up and went inside and sat down with the rest of the girls and i had a great time, we talked and introduced our self’s and i was in heaven. i still dress up but i do not go outdoors. i do under dress a lot and go out shopping or see friends and they cannot tell i am wearing a bra or dress, i do not wear makeup when i go out for that would be a dead giveaway.
Hi Lucinda!
Halloween and Mardi Gras…two perfect days to dress anonymously, or incognito. Thank you for sharing your experience with us. It has taken me years of doing this to get where I am…and I’m still not satisfied. Keep “practicing” to achieve your vision of Lucinda, and eventually you will become your own kind of beautiful, too.Warm regards,
Juneah thank you and yes i will hope to achieve my goal to dress up and go out in the world and shop with out people callingme names. yes u r right 2 holidays we can dress up and get away with it. i keep on practicing.how to apply eye shadow and getting better at it. just have to learn how to apply cover up and foundation and then i will look more female
Hi Lucinda!
I have followed Wayne Goss on You Tube for the last couple years. I really like his make up techniques. If you are interested in learning how to improve, take a look at this video. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AEKhbsT24yE Copy and paste that into your browser. He has lots and lots of subjects to watch and learn from. I sometimes play his video in front of a mirror and stop and replay his tutorials while I’m learning his techniques. I have learned to apply minimal makeup from him. I subscribe to his channel, maybe you will too? Try it and let me know what you think of his techniques.All the best..
June
June, what a wonderful and thrilling experience for you to have. The day in heels is one of my favorites but I don’t go out, but you did. What fun!
SherriHi Sherri!
It was wonderful to finally go out-n-about in heels. I’ve done it in flats many times. I’ve wanted to go in heels but always chickened out because of the way I wobble around in heels. This day was the day! I did it! Not only did I make it through this much of the day, I have the rest of the story at the grocery stores in the next installment. And it’s the first time I walked out the front door. Heretofore, I’ve always concealed my exit and re-entry to the house by driving out/in of the garage. This time I walked from the front door to the driveway… whew!
I hope you were able to be with me vicariously as the day unfolded, and will join me on the rest of the day out-n-about in heels.
Take care and stay safe and warm
June
Congrats June and taking that big first step. Now it only gets easier sis
Hi Deborah!
Thank you so much!You are so right! the more I do this the more confident I become. But I am still self-conscious and very much aware of my surroundings. Tulsa, OK is not as accepting as Denver, CO toward those of us who do this thing we do.
I like it that you comment on taking “that first big step.” Walking in heels is still a challenge for me. Kitten heels are the only navigable heel I have. I can at least get from point A to point B in a fairly straight line. All other heels are for show in photos. I wear flats and wedges mostly, but want to up my presentation with heels. So, That is my project for now. Finding them in size 13 is a challenge too. If you know where I can find them worth the money, I will appreciate your suggestions.
Thanks for stopping in and dropping me a note. I really appreciate that!
Take care and stay safe and warm
Juneyes that can be a bit of a problem but just google womens shoes size 13 and there are selections online. Go for a block heel rather than a spikey one if you are still practicing your walk. It will make it easier sis
Thanks Deborah!
The other issue is I’m tighter than two coats of paint… and, I’m practical. Both are BIG limiters…
Take care and stay safe and warm
June
Hi June,
Very nicely written story, and I enjoyed reading all the details of your experiences
out in public with the “civilians,” as Mona would say.Moreover, that is a beautiful photo of you!
Peggy Sue
Thank you so much, Peggy Sue!
I know you go out-n-about quite freely. Mona is a nut case, isn’t she? Lots of fun! I hope you were able to relate to my day out so far. It would have been great to be together on this day. I will finish up the day out in heels in the next installment.I really appreciate your compliments. Now, if only my wife will agree…
Warm regards,
June
Hi June. It sounds like it was a lovely day in heels. Thanks for sharing your day with us.
Hi Susan!
It really was a great day…and there is more to the story! I’ll be posting the next installment at the grocery stores shortly. I hope you were able to relate to this day so far. If not then, I hope you were able to be there vicariously as my day unfolded?Thanks for stopping in and leaving me a note. I really appreciate that!
Warm regards,
June
Thanks June, you’re always an inspiration!
Hi Sarah!
It is a warm feeling that you find inspiration in my shenanigans…Thank you for that!
I hope you were able to relate to my day out so far. If not, then I hope you were right there with me vicariously. I’ll be posting the frolics of the rest of the day out-n-about in heels shortly. I hope you will be there with me.
Take care and stay safe and warm
June
Good for you June! It sounds like you had a very wonderful day and look forward to the rest of the story.
Hi Paula!
It truly was a wonderful day…and it’s not over! I’ll be posting the frolics of the rest of the day out-n-about in heels at the grocery store shortly.Thanks for stopping in and leaving me a line. I really appreciate that!
Warm regards,
June
Congratulations on your outing. I’m a bit afraid of going out in heels. Not the going out part, I do that all the time. I’m afraid of blisters or my foot hurting for 2 days afterwards.
A few years ago I went out to see Kinky Boots on Broadway. I was wearing 4″ boots. My daughter had a museum assignment so I spent the afternoon at the museum, met my daughter’s friend and her mom for dinner in Times Square, before going to the show. Afterwards we walked back to the bus station, and later from the bus stop back to where the car was parked. My feet were hurting by the time we hit the museum, and were hurting all the next day as well. If I’m going to be walking, I much prefer flats.
Hi Alison!
I’ve shied away from wearing heels out because I wobble around in them. Not so much with kitten heels, but I don’t walk a straight line in them either. My New Year resolution is to up June’s presentation. A part of that is wearing heels. So, on this day, I struck two firsts toward that goal. I went out the front door, and I wore heels for nearly the whole time I was out-n-about. I’ll share the rest of the day in the upcoming installment of this day out in heels.I’ve seen Kinky Boots. It was lively show. For certain I could not dance around in them as they did! Not because of my age…because of the heels! But I was with my wife and she doesn’t want to see June, so I went as my “twin brother.” Lucky Alison!
I wear a size 13 in women’s shoes. They are not easy to find. Some of my shoes are a stretched size 12. If they cramp my toes I’m going to have leg cramps at night. SO I am careful to make sure they are stretched and comfy before wearing those. For this day out I wore Alfani size 13 kitten heels. They fit well. But, as you will read in the next installment, I did begin to feel the shoes later in the day…
Thanks for stopping by and sharing your experience with me. I really appreciate that!
Take care and stay safe and warm
June
Hi June, thanks for telling of your experience. It helped me remember my one excursions and how wonderful it was.
Hi Roberta!
I am so glad you were able to relate / recall your experience to my escapades. It truly is wonderful to do this thing we do. And to do it in full regalia makes it so much more enjoyable, exciting, and personally rewarding!Did you get that formal gown?
Thanks for stopping in and leaving me a note. I really appreciate that!
Warm regards,
JuneYes I did, thank you. Your encouragement is the reason I have it. Thank you. I’ll have it with me when I head to keystone in March.
Good for you!
I continue to search for the dress in my photo, but no luck finding it…yet. Maybe I should begin searching for another?
I would so like to attend Keystone.Safe Travels…
JuneWell, I’ve read that you like to travel, what is keeping you from going ?
Good question!
My wife and I do travel a bit. If I could get a positive nod from her I would be there. I’d love to meet you. I have told her about Keystone and that I would like to attend. I included attending it on my Christmas wish list. I also have listed a make over. She said “hmmm” That’s all. I cannot make a unilateral decision to attend. I want her buy in. I hid June from her for years, and when I revealed June to her I promised I would never hide anything about June from her going forward. She is tolerant, but not wholly accepting.
I mentioned Keystone to her this evening during dinner. She said nothing. It’s as if she went deaf. So, that is what is keeping me from going. But I’m not giving up on pressing the question.
On another note: We’ve been to Harrisburg, PA. It is a beautiful city.
June
Liberating, isn’t it?
Well done lady. Well done indeed.Hi Dani!
Yes, Liberating is a good description of how wonderful it feels to have finally stepped out in heels! It’s a goal of mine for this year to up June’s presentation. Wearing and walking in heels is a part of that. I’ll be sticking to kitten heels though. I “wobble” less in those…
I hope you were able to relate to my day out story. And that you will read the next installment as the rest of the day out-n-about in heels unfolds.
Thanks for stopping be and leaving me a note, Dani. I really appreciate that!
Warm regards,
JuneYour story is beautiful. It brings me back to my first time out in SoCal.
Practice makes perfect, right? Try 5 minutes at a time and sway as you walk. And remember, not every 3.25″ heel is the same. Invest in better brands like LifeStriide which have very sturdy platforms and you will feel a world of difference.
Dani.
Hi Dani!
Sway as you walk… I haven’t heard that before. Sounds like good advice.
I do own a pair of lifeStrides. I wear a women’s size 13. Not easy finding “cute” shoes in that size. I buy a 12 and stretch them for a few days. Then I pull on a hiking sock and ram my foot into the shoe and wear it for as long as I can stand it. After a few sessions it fits better, but not perfect. The two pair of 13’s I have are both Alfani, from Macy’s. One is a kitten heel, the other is a 3” pump. The kitten heel is what I wore in my story. The other is wobbly walking…as you state, practice makes perfect. So that’s what I will do. Thank you!Take care and stay safe and warm
JuneI’ve done that with shoes it ended up giving me a hammertoe on one foot. Avoid this if you can.
Walking in heels forces me to lift my knees a bit more..this lifts me buttcheek. Then a little sway to force the other knee up. For me, it’s all about using the hips to drive instead of the knees.
You may want to check out http://www.torrid.com for larger shoes. I am a W regardless of size. If I get a W, I can get down 1 size (11 from 12) but order the size that gives the room.
Be safe!
Hmmm sounds like you’ve got something I lack…rhythm! But I’ll try it. Thanks for the advice. You’ve been most helpful.
About the stretched shoes…I only wear those for in-house photos. I’ve only just begun wearing heels out. I’ll follow your advice and only wear shoes that fit when out-n-about.Thanks Dani!
Don’t want to be a wet blanket but I was reminded of a number of years ago when my Tri-Ess chapter contacted restaurants for approval of our attendance. Today we have moved way beyond that. If you want to go to a chocolate shop -just go. We do not need anybodies approval and seeking same is just an apology for who we are.
June -the more you go out you will see that there is little to fear-hold your head up as the woman you areI totally agree
Hi Helene!
Thanks for stopping in and sharing your thoughts. Please read my reply to Emily’s note.
Warm regards,
June
Hi Emily!
Thanks for dropping in and reading my story, and leaving your comment. While Tulsa boasts being TG friendly it is a red-neck town. When I go out, I go where I want, when I want. I am confident I can handle a discriminatory situation if it were to arise. However, in this instance, I was checking in with the store owner for my friends sake to dampen any discrimination concerns. No apologies. I agree we do not need any bodies approval. Nonetheless, it behooves one to be wary in Tulsa. Tulsan’s are not as accepting as we are lead to believe. I know from personal experience…Thanks so much for taking the time to share your thoughts. I hope you will read the rest of the story in the next installment.
June
Such an elegant lady and thank you for sharing your experience with June’s descriptive and inspirational writing…
you have inspired me and hope to write and
share my “out and about” experience.
thank you agai… Regards, LeonaraHi Leonara!
It is a warm feeling to know you find inspiration in my escapades. Thank you for sharing that with me.
I look forward to reading your next experience…Take care and stay safe and warm
June
I was also surprised that you called ahead to announce your arrival June. Looking at the picture a classy lady such as yourself would be very much in place at a quality store. Looking forward to the next installment.
Hi Angela!
It’s not typical of me to pre-announce my appearance. I do not feel I owe any one an apology for expressing myself. Please read my reply to Emily’s note.Thank you for your very generous compliment. It is encouraging and a great confidence builder. Now if only my wife would agree…
The next installment will be under review shortly. I hope you will relate to not only this day’s experiences, but what transpired at the grocery stores, too.
Take care and stay safe and warm
June
Loved this. So very well written that reading it makes you feel as though you were there. Glad everything went so very well for you.
Hi Linda!
I’m so glad you enjoyed reading my day out-n-about in heels. Being there vicariously is the best we can do for now. But oh it would have been GREAT for us to have experienced this day together. You probably would have worn your 4 inch heels, while I won’t wobble around in more than kitten heels. The rest of the story will be under review in a few days, I hope you will be right there with me as the rest of the day out-n-about unfolds…
Big Warm Hugs
June
Thank you so much, Michelle!
I hope you were able to relate to my first day out in heels. And that you will read the rest of the story when it posts.Take care and stay safe and warm
JuneI really did…even though I went it alone. Hopefully my friend will join me the next time I visit the Chocolate shop.
Thank you for your kind compliments. While my wife may not agree with you, it warms my heart to know you think so…and fills me with more courage. Thank You for that!
Warm regards,
JuneThat’s a very complimentary comment…Thank you, Heidi!
I hope you enjoyed the story, and were able to relate to it. If not from a personal experience, then at least vicariously.
Thanks for stopping in. I appreciate it very much!
Warm regards,
JuneJune –
Thank you for sharing your experience. It sounds like you had a wonderful day.You are gorgeous and your outfit is beautiful. I can only imagine how thrilling it was to be out-n-about in heels. Glad you had the experience and hope you have many more in the future.
I’m looking forward to reading more about your adventures.
XOXO
SuzanneHi Suzanne!
Thank you for that compliment; It is so encouraging! Now, if only my wife would agree…
I’ve gone out in heels before, but always…always changed into my flats before stepping out of the truck. I was determined to wear and walk in public in them…and I did it! Not only that, but I walked out my front door, too. Another first!
I’ll be posting the rest of the day’s escapades shortly. The entire day was “thrilling!”Thanks for stopping in and leaving me a line. I really appreciate that!
Take care and stay safe and warm
June
Enjoyed your outing, it’s been years since I’ve been to the Tulsa area in girl mode. And I have been to your chocolate shop as my male self. We have a daughter living in the area now and my wife, who knows I go out dressed, limited my Tulsa time since. Glad to hear of your positive reception. I have found that as long as I dress and act the person I dress as, I do not have any concerns. Hugs and best to ya!
Hi Patie Kay!
I’m glad you enjoyed my outing…so far. I’ve been out many times, but always in flats or wedges. This was the first time I walked out my front door, and the first time I’ve spent the day in heels. Being firsts; both were truly exhilarating! The rest of the day Out and About…In Heels is coming soon.
The next time you are in the area, and wanting to step out, please let me know. We could visit the chocolate shop together. I hear the Hot Chocolate is delectable! And then we could scoot over to the Mall for some LTDB-ing (Look Try Don’t Buy). It’s great fun!
You are so right. Dressing and acting the image we portray is essential to acceptance. I’ve learned that here in Tulsa where you go is like a walk in the back yard after the dog has been out. You have to be careful where you step…
Thanks for stopping in and leaving me a note. I really appreciate that! I hope you will read the rest of the story.
Meanwhile, take care and stay safe and warm.
JuneHi June, sorry it’s been a long time to reply. I just don’t get out to this site often enough, I am bad. Actually been in Tulsa last week and this, but with my wife’s direction I don’t think I will be dressed in Tulsa due to family there. I do enjoy my time out, I have gone out clubing to Groove in OKC and Touche and Funky Town in KC. Those are my favorite evening clubs. They know me there and are always friendly. Wishing you the best for this new year!
One of the most inspiring, and heartwarming articles I have read yet! Beautifully done!
Thank you, Mikki!
This day has been exciting… Not only was this the first time I stepped out my front door, it is the first time I’ve spent the day out in heels. But wait! There is more to the story. The continuation has been submitted for review, and will hopefully be posted soon.Maybe it was the holiday season, or maybe it’s that I was among the right people at the right time. Whichever it was, what happens next is more heartwarming…at least for me.
Thanks for leaving me a note. That warms my heart!
JuneYou are most welcome.
Hi, June,
I’m having a problem wearing high heeled shoes as my feet are beyond a normal length and they are broad.
My good news is that this week I received my Decree Absolute against my wife as on return home from a hospital A&E stay five years ago she decided that after over 30 years of marriage she unexpectedly wanted to separate.
Is it nearly another Valentine’s Day? For a treat to myself I had a full make-up including lashes top and bottom by a MAC artiste four years ago and she and a colleague taught me so much that since then I can make-up my own face. She was “over the moon” as mine was the first man’s face that she had made-up and it ticked a box in her Film and Television Degree Course. I’ve recently been told that my lashes particularly the right ones are fine and must be enhanced with mascara and I always use a primer first.
Best wishes.Hi Cindy!
I wear a women’s size 13 shoe. Not easy to find a fashionable or “cute” shoe that size. And when I do find them it seems there are no deals, no sales or discounts. Plus they all seem to add shipping charges. Not all shoes run true to size. Some Liz Claiborne size 12 shoes fit okay. Snug, but a few days in a shoe stretcher and they fit better. Macy’s Alfani brand sometimes offers a 13, but it is rare, and even more rare to be something I want to wear. Amazon has a myriad of shoe offerings. One I’ve come across recently is from Maiernisi Jessi. They offer cute strappy heels up to women’s size 15, plus wide widths. But you’ve probably already looked there?I have had a makeover on my Christmas wish list I give to my wife for the past several years. I’m still hoping for my turn in the chair.
For mascara, I’ve come to really like Clinique brand. It is “creamy” and soft. It lays very nicely and plumps the lash. It’s available in several shades.
Thanks for reading my article and sharing some about yourself with me. I really appreciate that. I hope you will read and comment on my other articles…and future ones, too.
Take care and stay safe and warm.
June
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I have only been going out and about for less than three years. At first, it was nerve-wracking and scary. It wasn’t until I made it safely back into the house that I relaxed and recalled the events of the day. T
Awesome story! I look at the title and think, “Bad hair day… wigs rolling down the sidewalk… for some guys, a combover alert”. What a play on words. Too cute!
Thanks for stopping in and reading about my experience, Gwyneth. I really appreciate leaving me a comment.
I’m glad you enjoyed my “play on words.”Take care and stay safe
JuneI forgot to mention that among the titles for this story I had considered “… the pink fog.” Now there’s a play on words…
JuneI’ll bet you are the life of any party! And fun anytime!
That did make me laugh too June. There are sayings that women don’t fart, they whisper in their panties. In this case another comes to mind, Women don’t fart they release tension – and girl did she have some tension! I have been using the ladies for many years and I can say that I haven’t heard such a blast but ‘tension’ is often released. ladies will go in pairs and continue the conversation whilst sat in adjacent stalls or talk to their friend who are powdering their noses. Where there are gatherings such as a party groups will go in and disperse around the stalls and some in the room, chatting and preening. The conversation can get quite fruity as they discuss boys or their partners, I will not detail more as it will make you blush. It’s a whole new world and an insight to how women deal with that simple function.
Hi Angela!
The grin on her face told me she was proud of her “performance.” I’ve heard the gabbing and giggling girls do in there. I’ve even heard one have a phone conversation while going. Right you are that is insightful!Thanks for reading my experience and sharing yours with me. I really appreciate that!
June
A well-written article, June! And yes, whenever possible, I use a paper towel to open
the door, although some Krogers have installed the manual “foot opener” in these
parts to allow for touchless opening of the door.When one enters the ladies room, I find there is always the possibility of a new
unique experience. In your case, I think you exceeded all expectations of a new
experience!Have fun, I know you will,
Hugs…Peggy Sue
Thanks for reading my experience, Peggy Sue.
If that door had a toe opener I would have used it after that woman. I was glad the room had paper towels. Some that have air dryers installed have neither the toe opener nor towels. If that had been the case I would have used a tissue from my purse.Indeed this was a unique and insightful experience. I’ve been amazed to hear the giggles and crude language while in a stall. Once I overheard a phone conversation take place…. I don’t think women are too concerned that those stalls act as megaphones.
Thanks for leaving me a note Peggy.
June
Funny story especially with the photo of your reaction. I was in the ladies changing room in Kohl’s one day when the woman in the section next to me let out a pretty big one. Luckily I finished & left before the cloud engulfed me.
Hahahaha… amazing isn’t it?
We all do it… some enjoy it more than others! Gives a new meaning to the “pink fog.”Thanks for reading my experience and sharing yours with me. I appreciate that.
June
June, Hmm what a wonderful play on words.
thank you for sharing such interesting funny experience… my panties are a little wet from laughing so hard..your reference to the blue bears was so “appropo”… love your writing style and sense of humor.
Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family.
Hugs, LeonaraHi Leonara!
I thought about the title “… the pink fog.” Now there’s a play on words…!Thanks for stopping in and leaving me a note.
June
I’m reminded of the time I helped a friend cleanup the drive-in movie in town. The graffiti in the ladies room was some of the raunchiest stuff I’d ever seen.
Hi Wanda!
A drive-in movie? Now that dates you… me too because I know about drive-ins. Your experience reminds me of when I worked in a movie theatre in my youth and reading some of those notes on the walls. It’s amazing!
Thanks for stopping in and reading my experience and sharing yours with me.June
Oh June darling that is too funny. The look on your face is priceless. I think a lot more ladies in these newer generations are losing a lot of the ladylike grace that we were brought up to know. I never heard that from my mother or sister growing up and we lived in a small one bathroom house. Silent but deadly comes to mind, but to just let it rip. They do not care. I see these young girls dress. They will dress hot or attractive when single going out clubbing for an evening with their friends. But I look around at the younger ladies in church and they are in jeans and leggings. While a lot of my generation are wearing skirts, dresses or a nice pair of slacks. I grew up with Mrs. Cleaver or June from Lassie and all the ladies wore dresses, some maybe like aunt Bee. When they did wear jeans they looked stylish not like baggy jogging pants. They do not have the same attributes as those from days gone by. They just let it rip.
Janice, June Cleaver is my role model, I so love that era of style. I think I might go buy a pair of pearl earrings and necklaces to match.
She was a sweetheart. Used to think back then like don’t women ever wear pants. They all wore dresses. All the girls in grade school came to school in dresses even in the winter. I used to wish I could wear them. Plus the curls, ponytails and pigtails. I used to envy them.
Hi Janice!
You said it right. The younger generations have lost “grace.” And another thing; what is so funny about releasing wind? My grandkids giggle and laugh aloud when they rip one off! You know what’s coming when they ask you to pull their finger. I grab their finger but don’t pull it in hopes of creating a bit of pain as they hold it back waiting for the pull.
I agree with your sentiment about the way they dress. I wrote about that in my Close Encounter article.Thanks for stopping in and reading my experience and writing me your notes. I really appreciate that.
Keep smiling pretty lady… it looks fantastic on you!
June
Hi Ginger!
If you’ve never experienced the “ladies room” you should put that on your list of places to visit. It’s an amazing experience!This is the first time I’ve heard such a rush! I’ve overheard conversations and giggles and really crude language. I’ve even overheard a phone conversation. You might be surprised…
Thanks for stopping in and reading my experience and leaving me a note.
JuneHow about that I considered the title “… the pink fog.” Now that would have been a play on words…
Thanks for dropping me a note, Ginny. I really appreciate it. And thanks for daring me to post this experience. It’s been fun!
June, I love the story. My having a beard keeps me from using the ladies room, although through my many years in business I have had to work in some and they have always been abused more that the men’s room. Glad you took the photo of the moment, as they say a picture is worth a thousand words.
Hi Sherri!
I haven’t been in very many ladies rooms. But the ones I have been in have been clean and clear of graffiti. I suppose the COVID clean as you go directives in place contribute to that. Years ago, in my youth, I worked in a “picture show”. Now known as movie theaters. I recall reading “messages” scratched into the walls. I know not all women are like the one I encountered in the ladies room. But my perspective of the feminine mystique has changed.
Thanks for reading my experience and sharing your memories.
Take care and stay safe
June
By far the funniest story I’ve ever read here on CDH! Thank you for the laughs!!
Hi Isabelle!
Thanks for reading my experience in the ladies room and leaving me a note.It was funny! Every time I see this photo I’m reminded of how hard it was to hold back the laugh… I wonder what it is that is so funny about the release of wind?
When my grandkids ask me to pull their finger; I know what’s about to happen. Sometimes I just grab their finger but don’t pull or let them pull against my grip. It’s ornery, I know, but kinda fun to watch them squirm a bit holding back the inevitable …Every outing is an adventure. Sometimes fun finds me. Sometimes I find fun. Sometimes I make my own fun…
I’m glad you found my experience funny and you got a laugh from it.
Take care and stay safe
June
Thanks for such a funny and well-written article, June. I have heard that women’s restrooms are often a lot messier than most men’s rooms. Let’s face it, most real women are unrefined savages below all that makeup, perfume and pretty clothes. Absolute animals. Shame on that woman for so openly expressing her biological functions. Tell me why we want to be like these horrid creatures again? Mwaaahahahaha!
Hi Mona!
I’m glad you found my experience fun. I hope you got a smile from it?
Since COVID, Women’s rest rooms are clean. But some still have remnants of days of old as evidenced by the writing on the walls of the stalls… it takes all kinds to make a world; including those with identity issues that felt it necessary to have left their mark.
I want to think that you and I don’t want to be like the women you refer to. Rather, we want to be better. Like the image of women from our generation.
I wonder what it is that is so funny about the release of wind? When my grandkids ask me to pull their finger; I know what’s about to happen. Sometimes I just grab their finger but don’t pull or let them pull against my grip. It’s ornery, I know, but kinda fun to watch them squirm a bit holding back the inevitable …
Every outing is an adventure. Sometimes fun finds me. Sometimes I find fun. Sometimes I make my own fun…
Thanks for leaving me a note!
Take care and stay safe
June
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If you are like me, you cherish the women’s clothes you own. Perhaps, too, you cherish the friendships you have made here on CDH. Not unlike you, I look to my friends on CDH for inspiration and e
Thank you June for sharing some more of yourself! Your photos, emails, and texts are always uplifting! Most of all it was a pleasure for my wife and I to meet you and
your spouse in person.We are all on this fantastic journey, and it is so wonderful to know we have others like us on the same journey.
Peggy Sue
Hi Peggy Sue!
Every outing brings adventure and experiences. I suppose it’s the same for you?
Some are more noteworthy than others. This is one of those more significant experiences.I have not been diligent thanking people like you for instilling in me the courage and confidence to meet the challenges this thing we do brings our way. If not for your display of confidence, going out en femme, I might still be stuck in that fitting room trying not to destroy that gown. Or worse yet, I might have destroyed it were it not for the courage you showed me through your photos and our meeting.
I count you among those who inspire me…So now I say Thank You!
You are the quintessential Southern Belle!
June
I enjoyed your piece and agree with others that you look lovely in the formal gown. I have been on here a few years now and it is clear that there is something for everyone and so much good advice and experiences which can be used to help an individual to progress their dressing. Sometimes it could be a small thing that helps and everything here is non judgmental.
Thank you, Angela!
I too have found encouragement and inspiration here. And you are so right in that it could be something as meaningful as a one word comment to a photo.
I have to thank several people here who contributed to the courage and confidence I have found here. Because of them I join those who have stepped through the closet door. Because of that, I have lots of adventure stories and I want to share my experiences in hopes others will realize that they too can do what they enjoy en femme. Things like riding thier bike, or go fishing and skiing and hiking, just as easily as you can go grocery shopping, trying on bras, or doing this LTDB thing…
Thank you for taking the time to read my article and leave me your note. I really appreciate it!
Take care and stay safe
June
The ladies here on CDH have always been so willing to share their stories about going out in public en femme and it helped provide me with the inspiration to do so myself. As a result I now spend about 80% of my time in public as Fiona and am happier than ever. I am so grateful for their openness and honesty.
And June, I know what you mean about finally trying on gowns. I have been doing that for the last few weeks as I search for a gown to wear at Keystone 2023. The first time I tried one on I was on cloud 9 amid a dense pink fog. It was absolutely heavenly!
Hi Fiona!
Since stepping through the closet door I have experienced many adventures. It’s due in part to the confidence and courage I have found through a few CDH members. Now it’s time for me to pay it forward. I want to share some of my experiences in hopes others will find encouragement to feel comfortable and confident; in hopes that they too will experience the thrills of stepping out.I was fortuneate to have had the courage to step out of that fitting room and find someone to keep me from destroying this dress. When it came together it was a wonderful feeling. Maybe its becasue it came together at the hands of a total stranger…a woman. Maybe it was just the moment??? When I looked in the mirror I felt a rush of joy. This dress made me feel feminine! It’s a feeling I have only felt in one other outfit. I think I felt the true definition of “pink fog.”
Thanks for stopping in and sharing your memories with me.
Take care and stay safe
June
After a stressful situation your smile says it all
thank you for sharing your LTDB… I will have to remember that… however, I am a sucker for a good bargain lol… BTW you look elegant in that dress ….Thank you, Leonara!
When I returned to the fitting room and looked in the mirror, I felt elegant! It’s a feeling I’ve only experienced in one other outfit. It is truly amazing to experience such a sensation!I am so glad I had the courage and confidence to step out and find someone willing to help me. Otherwise, I might still be stuck in that fitting room. Or worse yet, to have destroyed the dress getting out of it.
This LTDB thing has become rather expensive, as I too am a sucker for a bargain. I’ve got to find more will power to resist temptation…
Thanks for stopping in and leaving me a note. I really appreciate it!
Take care and stay safe
June
My heavens, June, I just love that gown. And you look so lovely in it! When the zipper got stuck, I would’ve abandoned the LTDB policy right then and there, and just bought the dress and wore it home!
Thanks for sharing your “stuck zipper” story.
Hi Camryn!
Thank you for those wonderful compliments!The frugal and practical facets of me drove my actions. If not for the courage and confidence I’ve found here through a few CDH members, I might still be in that fitting room. Or worse yet, I might have destroyed this dress.
This is the first formal gown I’ve tried. The feeling was exuberance! Dressed en femme; Have you every looked at your reflection in the mirror and felt feminine? That’s how this gown made me feel. I’ve only experienced this feeling in one other outfit.
Thank you for stopping in and leaving me a note. I really appreciate it!
Take care and stay safe. And may your zipper never get stuck…
June
Zippers wont go up, won’t go down. Stories that I have survived somehow. You friend JB sounds familiar wish I had a friend like that. It only happened to me once at Steinmart where I had to ask the dressing room attendant to help me unzip. Worse was the time my 3 strand pearl necklace exploded all over the dressing room floor and sounded so loud to me. The dressing room attendants all heard and as I explained the mishap the Said “We Know,” TIme to shuffle off to buffalo then. Stay Wonderful June
For a moment I was frantic! Then courage took charge and out I stepped to find someone to help. If JB can go into Walgreen’s looking for a friend, I can go find help on the sales floor.
My handy dandy “zipper upper” has never failed me. This is the first time ever to have needed help. Thanks in part to JB, I have developed the confidence to interact with others.
My hair has gotten caught up in the zipper several times. It’s a struggle to undo it, but I managed to remove my hair without losing too much of it by pulling it out of the zipper a few strands at a time. I’ve never experienced losing a set of pearls. But you are so right..fitting rooms, and “other rooms”, are sound amplifiers. Have I got a story to tell about that?!
Thanks for stopping in and sharing your memories with me, JB. I really appreciate it!
I count you among those who inspire me…Thank You!
Keep smiling little lady…it looks good on you!
June
You are funny and I like you
So well stated, Gabriela! I have not been diligent about thanking those who have encouraged and inspired me. As I began writing this article, I reflected upon this experience and thought about how to thank them. It occurred to me that this is the venue to recognize them, while hopefully encouraging others.
I’m glad you think I inspire others. That’s a warm feeling. I want to share my experiences in hopes others will realize that they too can ride thier bike, or go fishing and hunting and skiing and hiking, just as easily as you can go grocery shopping, trying on bras, or doing this LTDB thing…
I count you among those who have encouraged and inspired me…
Thank you for taking the time to read my article and share your memories.
Take care and stay safe
JuneSuch elegance in your dress. When I see a dress like this I automatically know I am going to spend a little more time in prep. For it is gorgeous and I would want to give it my best. This is a gown for an elegant affair or possibly someone’s wedding you may be invited to. This is not your everyday dress. Built in slips, sequins with fancy stitching, with lace and slits. I found on one gown if dancing and you grab the bottom of the split and hold it up and out a little when you turn the dress flairs out. Oh my gosh, just beautiful.
I to get a lot of inspiration from the likes of you in your comments and photos. I love all you ladies and my heart reaches out to you and many more for the joy they bring. Someone made mention awhile back that there are certain people that need to get there femme on. For the feeling is soothing, relaxing and just an enjoyable experience. What the world need now is love. Back at you June, Put a little love in your heart. For you are just so sweet. You are a special person to me and the memories that were shared with you touch my heart with the joy of our friendship. I hope a day comes that possibly our paths may cross again. For you certainly are a pleasant, thoughtful and giving person. Sending Love, hugs and a special kiss just for you. Janice.
Hi Janice!
This dress made me feel … feminine! Only one other item of women’s clothes has surged that feeling over me. Feeling how you look is exquisite! I suppose I’m not telling you something you don’t already know?Heretofore I mostly preferred more casual wear. And I still do. But since seeing you in your gowns, and the experience I had with this gown, I want to take my dressing up a notch. Since I’ve been turned onto the LTDB thing by JB, I’ve begun upgrading my closet. It’s still mostly casual, but it’s upgrading. Now I need the opportunities to show the remodeling of June. Thanks to you, and several others, I have the courage to enjoy this thing we do with confidence.
I remember stating that Putin needs to get his femme on. And not him alone. There are other ingratiating and self indulged people who would benefit from the experience!
It would be wonderful to feel that hug from you!
Take care and keep smiling pretty lady…it looks fantastic on you!
June
Honey. Like myself. We take interest in our clothes like an investment and we know deep down inside by seeing how the girls go on about there prom or the ladies to a ball or special concert. Such Elegance. A gown is something special. To put one on and feel the dress all the way down to your shoes. The excitement of picking the right gown for an occasion. You always want to accentuate your best features even in a pair of jeans. I feel it and I am experiencing it right now for the first time.
You want to remodel to feel that feminine feeling always when you dress. June darling I am just so proud of you for your ambition or enlightened desire to knock it up a notch. You will see a more sophisticated or positive June. Go for the feeling. Sending love. Janice.
I didn’t manage to read everything this I am sorry for, however early on in your writing I read the try don’t buy bit and recall being made to feel embarrassed about wanting to try something on as their changing rooms were for women only!
I remember the feeling of embarrassment, I asked what my choices were they said buy it, go home and try it on if it doesn’t fit they would exchange or offer a credit note!
I do like the idea but due to that experience I no longer feel comfortable shopping in a department store. However I do like shopping at charity shops, firstly I find the prices kinder on my wallet, I don’t have to try everything on as if it doesn’t fit I don’t mind donating it back.
I’ll get back to your article and try and finish it.I finished reading it!! What a fantastic experience, I wish I had the courage to do that! Thank you for sharing.
Hi again Danni!
I just read your profile. From it I understand that you are not harboring a secret from the world around you, and that you do get out en femme. That’s great! It tells me you already have the confidence to go do. That’s great!Now about the courage you suggest you need. Well, I suspect you are not the cowardly lion from the wizard of OZ. I’m certainly not the Wizard. No one can give you “courage.” You have to develop that for yourself. A major building block for it is self confidence. But wait…you already have the confidence to step out en femme, so you’re on the path to building your courage.
When will you have the courage to go do what I did? It comes to you in several ways. One is from repetition. That is, keep doing what you do and each time add a little more to it. Another is from finding someone, or a few someones, with whom you can share your experiences. Only you will know when you feel comfortable enough to test your courage.
Thanks for leaving me a comment, Danni. You have inspired me by your desire to take this thing we do up a notch.
All The Best
June
Hi Danni!
I’m guessing when you asked about your fitting room choices you were not dressed en femme?When I began looking for women’s clothes I had no idea what size I would wear in women’s clothes. I recall strolling through the women’s wear department just marveling at the myriad choices. Sometimes a clerk would ask if I was finding everything…my response was “…something for my wife, but I don’t know what I’m looking for.” Shortly after that I changed my story. It’s about the time I began referring to me as my twin sister. I didn’t know what size to try, so I asked a clerk what size they thought I might be, becasue I wanted to get something for my twin sister. And went on to say that she can wear my clothes, but I don’t know what my size is in women’s wear. Well, that’s how it started for me. I found my size with the help of a sales clerk in the misses women’s wear department at Macy’s in Kansas City, Missouri. I still shop Macy’s but only when they promote sales. I mostly shop JCPeney’s. I go to Goodwill, too. But I’ve found that JCP has a Final Clearance section that offers new clothes, never worn and clean, at up to 80% off. Some more than that! And the shoe section oftentimes offers $120. shoes for $9.99…seriously! I encourage you to check into JCP. For only a few dollars more than a charity store, you get the lastest fashion and styles at a fantastic price…and you have peace on mind that it will be new and clean. And the clothes are grouped by size… If you shop en femme, just go into the fitting room and step into a stall, close the door and LTDB to your heart’s content. But beware, some of the items you will try will tug at your purse strings…
Thanks for stopping in and sharing your memories with me, Danni. I hope you have found inspiration and encouragement from my experience?
Take care and stay safe
June
What a wonderful story June!! My inspiration is everyone here at CDH, all the great stories of going out en femme. I have been here at CDH a little over 3 years now. A little over 2 years ago I went to Ulta to have my hair colored while dressed as Cassie. I nearly got sick before I went in, but since I had made the appointment and mentioned the adventure here at CDH in my mind I was committed to do it.
Then a little over a year ago I arranged with my niece to get my nails done at a salon and since have gotten them done I think 6 times and love every minute — they are colored even in drab at work!!
Close to the beginning of this year I had the idea of going to my 50th class reunion as Cassie — did that to. Went and got my dress at the local Torrid store. The dress was a lovely floral pattern with the cold shoulder look, the lavender and purple flowers on the dress went closely with my nail colors at that time.
Now I have gotten another idea, I applied at the local Torrid store as Cassie for a part time seasonal job. Had my interveiw this past wendsday.. If I do get the job and it goes well for Torrid and myself ( yea I am more than a little scared) I am thinking of retiring from my full time job (I’m 68) and taking on more hours at Torrid.All of this has come about from what I have read here at CDH and wanting a piece of these adventures. Not to bad for a girl living in a small town central Iowa.
. .. Cassie
Hi Cassie!
Your story is filled with drama, trauma… and joy! I hope your family is accepting of Cassie.As I state In my story; Of the acquainted I’ve made here on CDH, many have turned into friendships. And many of those have encouraged and inspired me.
I live part time in Oklahoma, and the rest of the time my wife and I live in our RV traveling the country. My zipper got stuck in Denver. I don’t think I would have had as accepting an experience in Tulsa as there. People in Denver are more open minded. I suspect Small town Iowa might be like Metro Tulsa. I’ve had numerous challenges in Tulsa. I’ve dealt with each by taking charge of the situation. I’ve got stories about those, too.
I hope you realize your “idea” and things work out for you at at Torrid. Good luck with that and with your continued journey.
Thanks for stopping in and sharing your memories with me. I really appreciate it.
Take care and stay safe
JuneThanks, June. As I have said here before, I feel I need to share my successes out as Cassie to pay it forward. Let others know about some of my successes and hopefully give them encouragement to go out and be their best feminine self. Hope all can find enough acceptance to help them become everything they want/need to be.
.All my best to you
. Cassie
Fantastic article, June. CDH provides support, encouragement and inspiration for me as well. It is my only public outlet for this side of myself, and that is mainly due all the wonderful, inspirational girls I’ve come to know here.
Thank you for reading my article and leaving me a note, Mona.
In this article, I’ve only identified two of the many who have encouraged and inspired me. I have not been diligent in thanking those from whom I draw inspiration. This may seem odd, but in a way, thanking someone for inspiring me gives me a creepy, cheap feeling. I feel like they would feel I would be patronizing them to thank them. It’s not like thanking someone for an act of kindness, or fulfulling a request. Does that make sense? I wrote this article with the thought that I could extend thanks through sharing the result of their impact on me. And do it in a way that everyone would benefit from it. I hope it works out that way.I’ve only been going out en femme for three years. The first time I stepped out was on a dare from one of my CDH friends, that I could do it. That was an adventure captured in notes and photos. Every time I step out en femme is an adventure for me. I maintain a file with photos and briefs of every adventure. I’ve got lots of stories to share. Stay tuned…
Take care and stay beautiful
June
I never knew LTDB had a name, but I have been doing it for years, I will use it next time I explain where I am going, thanks it’s girls like you that inspire me to go out into this world.
Hi Rebecca!
I doubt you will find a definition for LTDB in Webster’s Dictionary or Wikipedia. I coined that acronym after JB, from the article, had been posting lots of photos from fitting rooms. LTDB just came to me while poking fun at her for not buying much of anything she was trying on. It is all in good fun.So you’ve been doing it too? I’ve been at it for less than six months. My closet is rather sparse, so this LTDB thing is a challenge. I have been buying lots of what I’ve been trying. June’s closet runneth out of room!
In comparison; I’m still a “newbie” to this phenomenon called crossdressing. I have received the encouragement and inspiration to take this adventure to higher levels of enjoyment and excitement from many CDH friends. I’ve only been going out for three years. Every outing is an adventure with moments captured in photos and noted in June’s journal. I haven’t been diligent thanking those who have contributed to my success. Part of my intent here is to thank those who have encouraged me along the way. And I hope those who read my articles find encouragement and inspiration.
Thanks for sharing your memories with me.
Take care and stay safe
June
It’s a good topic, I would say the girls here at CDH & all around the world that inspire me to keep on doing what I’ve been doing for so many years. I try encourage myself to be the inner woman that I am, it gets really hard dealing with the wife, but when I transform into Jennifer everything goes away. So I thank you Mona for the article, and just keep on doing what your Hearts desires girls.
Hugs& kisses
JenniferBeautifully and entertaingly written. Words that make you feel you are there. A lovely outcome, a beautiful dress, and inspiring and wise last paragraph..
Thank you, Linda!
It was a somewhat harrowing experience. I was frustrated by the zipper hang up, and very nervous to approach the woman for help. Then when I realized she was going to see my back, I was scared! Going through with seeking help was better than the alternative of destroying the dress. It all worked out though. I think anybody in the same situation can have as good an outcome as I experienced if they approach it with confidence. I hope all who read this story realize that.
Thanks for stopping by and reading my story and leaving me a line. I really appreciate that.Keep smiling pretty lady…it looks good on you!
June
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Hi June,
Great story, it got me to thinking I wonder if there is any member of CDH a that has a twin sister and how much they’re alike? As for AnnaBeth even though I’ve had always had a feminine side, I only gave her a name 3 years ago and the I tried to suppress her until recently when she re-emerge. I think AnnaBeth always had a voice but until recently it had no gender. Now the voice is definitely a she.
hugs
AnnaBeth
Hi AnnaBeth!
Thank you for reading my story of when and how I met my “twin sister.” It is a story from “our” past. If you’ve read any of my other articles, you will know a great deal has changed since acknowledging June. I once was reserved and secretive. That was then…
Assuming a feminine name acknowledges the fact, and gives identity to, that other gender lurking just below the surface of our masculinity. It’s reassuring to me to know I am not the only one hearing “voices.” It’s assuring to know that I really am sane!
Thank you so much for sharing your experiences with me. I really appreciate that!
I hope you found a connection in my story and will join me in future adventures. Meanwhile, I hope you will show the world around you that you are your own kind of beautiful.
June
Love the story June, you had me shopping right there with you, with the same feelings. I’ve over and over have done the same,” it’s for my wife” but I gave that up for “it’s for a good friend who’s feeling down”. The sales help always respond with, ” you’re friend is very lucky”, which is a true statement I am very lucky. Now over the past few years being a very happy member here at CDH, I now simply say that I’m buying something for me, I don’t feel any shame or guilt anymore because it’s true, it’s for me and I hope it fits. If it doesn’t fit, you’ll see me tomorrow when I come back in to return it and hopefully you’ll have it in MY size.
Sherri
Love this. How does the sales associate act when you say it is “for me.” I bet they don’t even blink and help you like they would help anyone. That has to feel great!
Yes it does Christina, it really does.
Hi Christina!
We have evolved a great deal since meeting “our “twin.” While I’m still cautious; If you’ve read any of my other articles, you will know that June is no longer reserved or secretive. That was then… So, when I go shopping for clothes, or anything else, June initiates conversations, and yes, it feels “great” to engage others. While I have had encounters with those less than accepting of who I am, they are a minute percentage, and do not detract me from being my own kind of beautiful.
Thank you for reading my story of when and how I met my “twin sister.” I hope you were able to relate to some part of it. And that you will get out there and show the world around you that you too are your own kind of beautiful.
June
Hi Sherri!
Thank you for reading my story of when and how I met my “twin sister.” It is a story from “our” past. If you’ve read any of my other articles you will know that a great deal has changed since met. I was once a reclusive crossdresser. That was then. Today, it is all about June…regardless of the clothes I’m wearing.
Curious to know if you have taken articles of clothing into fitting rooms where you shop? I’ve taken up the “sport” of Look (L), Try (T) Don’t or Did (D) Buy (B) LTDB. I learned it from a “fellow” CDH member. It’s fun to try on different clothes and snap photos in front of the fitting room mirror. It can sure burn a couple hours quick, too.
Thanks for sharing your experiences with me. I really appreciate that!
I hope you were able to relate to some facet of Sherri’s development in my story. And that you will join me on future adventures as June continues to explore this phenomenon called crossdressing.
Meanwhile, I hope you will show the world around you that you are your own kind of beautiful.
June
A tried and tested way to buy clothes in drab is ‘It’s for the wife/girlfriend’. I suppose ‘It’s for my twin’ is a bit different and, being unusual catching them off guard so could that be more acceptable. There is a logic as if it were for wife/girlfriend and you started to say her size was the same as yours the suspicions would start. I like the idea of being a twin as in a lot of respects we are a twin.
Hi Angela!
Thank you for reading my story of when and how I met my “twin sister.” This story is from my past. Continuing to listen to the inner voice; June has evolved a great deal since that meeting. If you’ve read any of my other articles you will note that June is no longer reclusive. June no longer lies about who she buys what for. June has found an inner peace that shines through as her being her own kind of beautiful.
I really appreciate your comments, Angela. Thank you! I hope you were able to relate some element of June’s development to Angela’s. And that you will get out and show the world around you that you too are your own kind of beautiful.
June
I enjoyed your story, but I’m going to let you in on a secret. Most stores don’t care who they sell to. They are in the business to sell, and if you are willing to buy, they are not likely to pass judgement. Your money is the same color as any woman, and has the same worth. If you are happy with their service, you are more likely to come back and maybe tell others in the same situation, so it is a win-win situation.
My first few times getting clothing for me I was afraid I’d be questioned or that people in line behind me might notice, but each time I wasn’t noticed, and they rung up the sale without question or problem.
One time I bought some high heel shoes in sparkly silver and another pair in the same style in black. A few days later I wanted it in red, but online searching showed most places were out. But I expanded my search and found there was a pair in my size in a store 10 minutes from work. I went into the store at lunchtime, walked right over and there they were. I picked it up and walked back to the register. The cashier finished ringing up the woman ahead of me.
Seeing how quickly I was in and out at the register, she asked me “Did you know what to get, or were you told what to get?”” I told her I knew what to get, and then sheepishly added, “They’re for me.” She told me it was all right, and we got into a brief discussion about the shoes.
I walked out happy having secured the shoes. She was happy she made a sale. Did it bother me that a stranger knew it was for me? No.
Try one time to drop the twin sister act. You may be surprised.
Hugs
Hi Alison!
The story of when and how I met my “twin sister” happened quite some time ago. As I continued to give heed to that inner voice June has evolved into the persona she is today. If you’ve read any of my other articles you will note June is no longer the reclusive crossdresser she was.
You may not have picked up on the fact that June was developing in a not-so-accepting time and place. To debunk your secret: Today, there is greater acceptance, or perhaps tolerance is a better descriptor, due in part to laws addressing Discrimination and Diversity in The Workplace. Not all stores and sales associates accept us because they are only interested in the all-mighty dollar. They may, and some do, harbor ill feelings toward those of us who engage in this phenomenon. I know they find us repulsive. I know this from personal experience. While most outing experiences have been pleasant, there is a minute percentage that have not. The metaphor I used about the dog in the yard is the way it is in Tulsa, Oklahoma. As I read through your comments, it is apparent you are fortunate to reside in a much more accepting area. I’m so happy for you, and somewhat envious of that.
Thank you for reading my story. I hope you found some element of June’s story to relate to. And that you will join me on future adventures as June continues to explore this phenomenon called crossdressing.
Meanwhile, let’s get out and show the world around us that we are our own kind of beautiful.
June
June, thank you for your article on the origin of the “twin sister”.. you mentioned to me that you were working on the article..and you piqued my interest and finally you didn’t disappoint with your most interesting article.
If I may, I would like to add my experience in buying feminine clothes.. At Christmas, I have the opportunity to buy clothes for my wife so Mommy would have presents from Santa and the children..I would go to the women’s department (in drab) and have no problems picking out blouses, pant suits (Kathy was a school administrator), nightgowns and bathrobes…fast forward a few years and Leonara is embracing her feminine side..now, I continue to buy (in drab but Leonara will buy for herself very soon) I buy for Kathy and Leonara at the same time. Leonara is a woman’s 10 and Kathy is a petite 8… in checking out the sales associate will comment that they are different sizes.. my response “yes I Know”. Let them guess.
I have purchased items online now and rather than have them shipped home, I pick them up at the store.. I am sure the sales associate sees the order. Dresses, blouses, skirts, intimates, and strappy heels or pumps.. hmm
let them guess… Leonara will eventually buy as her true self… Thank you June for your inspiration and thank you ladies for reading my response.. warmest regards, Leonara
Hi Leonara!
It is heartwarming to read that you find inspiration in me. Heartwarming and flattering. I am humbled.
When I first shopped for June as June it was an eerie feeling. It still is sometimes. Especially when there are women looking along the same rack as me. Or when I am shopping for a bra. That one really makes me nervous. The longer I stay in the less the anxiety, unless someone speaks to me. Then I get dry in the throat and hardly have a voice. My voice sounds really weird until I clear my throat and get past the first few words.
I admire your desire to go out as Leonara. I wonder though…are you being “coached” by an inner voice? As I contemplate my closing question; I wonder if I would have followed through on the dare from years ago, if I had not recognized that voice in my head?
Thank you so much for taking interest in my story. I really appreciate you leaving me your thoughts and comments. I look forward to reading about your next outing.
June
great story, when my Gf and I go to buy for Clarissa, we alway buy for her mother, except for the other day where we were in a shop where her mother is known and she and my GF are about the same petite size, my GF said it was a gift for a friend of hers, because the saleslady said the size was to big for my GF. I think we might try to buy for my twin sister.
Hi Clarissa!
Since acknowledging my “twin sister” and used her as a ruse, I had not been questioned. However, I have been asked to see photos. So, I carried a couple photos to show. Now that I go out as June I don’t refer to the ruse, except when I shop for June as me. But that is seldom anymore. I still keep my “twin” close at heart though, and I still listen to that inner voice.
Thanks for taking time to read my story and leave me a note and memory. I really appreciate that.
June
All I can say is “Wow”! This story of your evolution into who you are today, truly lets me know that I am not alone. I have been at the store, so many times in the past and used lies. And like you, knew there were times I know the sales person saw right through them. But somehow, I was more comforted by the ruse. Of course, things have changed over the years, now my wife and I go shopping together. We laugh, talk, and compare items, like two girlfriends but I am still in drab. I haven’t been able to take it to the next level just yet. My wife has told me if I were to, she would no longer go with me shopping and may even leave altogether. So I may never take the next step, but I am so happy it all worked out so well for you. Thank you for sharing, hugs.
great artilcle, love the perspecive of the twin sister. I think we have all been in that position.
Hi Leah!
Thank you for reading my story of when and how I met my “twin sister.” That seems like so long ago. June has evolved a great deal since then. She is no longer a reclusive cross dresser. That was then…
Most recently I posted a photo on CDH of June wearing a store vest where she works part time. I showed this photo to coworkers and told them that my twin put on my vest and snapped a few photos for fun. Now they want to meet my sister…maybe later.
I hope you found some element of June’s story to relate to. And I hope you will join June on future adventures as she continues to explore this phenomenon called cross dressing.
Meanwhile, let’s get out there and show the world around us that we are our own kind of beautiful.
June
I haven’t got a twin sister – but I think I may well do now! I have an actual sister – and we look very much alike – to tell you the truth, I think that as long as I get my voice right, I could pull this off – she is also very tall and (if I get my makeup right!) I would defy anyone to tell the difference… Thank you so much for a fantastic idea as to how to get out and about a little more; Holly needs to be a little more public!!! Love you: Holly XXX
Hi Holly!
My “sister” gets the credit for making me say what I said. It was not my idea, but hers, that made me blurt out I was looking for something for her. This story is about when and how “we” met. A great deal has changed since we’ve met.. “We” have been much more adventuresome. If you’ve read my other articles you know that I am not reserved and secretive any more. That was then…
If you hear an inner voice; listen to it. I hope that you do “get out and about a little more” showing the world around you that you are “your own kind of beautiful.”
Thank you for reading my article. I hope that you found something that you can relate to. And that you will join me on my next adventure as I continue my exploration of this phenomenon called cross dressing.
June
June:
What an interesting an incredible story. And what an interesting and incredible question.
I can totally understand you’re considering yourself as your own twin. I think that is quite healthy and positive in nature. It is like you have found a way where you can accept and embrace both sides of your full and true self. I commend you for that. There may come a day when you find that you have outgrown the need for this distinction within yourself. Then again maybe you won’t. Either way is perfectly fine if at the end of the day you are able to be perfectly comfortable in your own skin no matter which twin you are shopping for.
As to the answer to your question. I have to say that I have really thought of it in the way that you have presented it here. I can’t say that I consider that I hear a voice. But having said that, I do find that I experience what I only know how to refer to as longing and desires. The more and more that I give myself the permission and the space to express that innate, distinct essence of femininity that is inside of my very being, the more that I find myself wanting, longing, and maybe,even needing to express that side of myself. The more that I find myself wanting, longing, and maybe, even needing to take steps into transitioning. Now, to be completely honest with you, I have mixed feelings of just how far I want that transition to take me. But I do know that I want to jump into the rabbit hole.
I do know that I want to experience life as a woman. I don’t know, of yet, if I want it to be a full blown transition, or if I just want it to be an occasional vacation. I do know that I want to jump into that rabbit hole and see just how far it will take me.
More to the point of specifically answering your question, I would say that there is something inside of me that is telling me that now is the time for me to take that lea into the rabbit hole. That something doesn’t come in the form of the voice that you have described. For me it is more a deep inner sense or feeling. It is also a strong desire that just somehow feels right.
I do know that before I leave this life, which is hopefully not for a long, long while, I want to know once and for all if I can be happy and content presenting to the world at large my feminine side. If that leads me to a deep level of transitioning, fine. If it leads my to discovering that being a closeted crossdresser is all that I want or need, fine. But at the end of the day I want to explore and to discover.
I hope that I have answered your question.
Respectfully,
Jessica Ann
Hi Danielle!
Thanks for reading my story of when and how I met my “twin sister.” This is a story of my past. June has evolved a great deal since then. She no longer lies about who she is buying what for. I don’t buy clothes for my wife. I used to, but gave up on that because she has returned every article of clothing I have ever bought her. So, I don’t do that anymore. I buy more for June. Being that I do it as June, I enjoy the LTDB thing I learned from Jackie. Fun fun fun!
Most recently I referred to June as my twin when I showed coworkers the photo I posted on CDH of June in the Lowe’s vest. Now they want to meet June…maybe later.
I hope you will join me in future adventures as June continues to explore this phenomenon called cross dressing.
Meanwhile, Join me in showing the world around us that we are your own kind of beautiful.
June
Fab, my experience has always been good. We are interesting because we aren’t ‘moaning mini’s’ when shopping, so we brighten up what is usually a boring day for an assistant. We are different! Choosing where you go is just good sense.
Interesting questions June. I hear Tonya in my head all the time. Just the other day, while at a doctor’s appointment in male mode, I noticed the receptionist nails and Tonya immediately told me that the receptionist had very nice nails.
Brilliant story and intriguing, though id o think the sales lady knew ! but certainly its a way to view yourself from a different perspective, But i can relate to having the need for a helping had to hold someone to guide you you on your travels and advise you.
as without this help the journey can be slow.Take Care
Wendy
Hi Ginny!
I have been asked to see photos of my “twin” out of curiosity…or proof. Not long ago I posted a photo of June in my work vest here on CDH. I failed to switch out the name tag on the vest before the next day at work. When a coworker asked if my name was June I replied, no that’s my twin sister’s name. And went on to fabricate a tale about her putting on the vest and snapping a few pics around the house over the weekend. Well, there is a thread of truth to that. Then they asked to see the photos and they were amazed at the resemblance! It was like a feeding frenzy…everybody wanted to see a picture of my “twin.”
I haven’t used the ruse for a couple years now because June shops for June. Sometimes June shops for me. I guess because I know what size I wear, I go straight to the size on the rack so I’ve not been asked if I need help from a male sales clerk. June has been asked by an associate at Home Depot and Lowe’s to help me find what I came in for…but I declined the assistance telling them it’s more fun to search for what I need.
So glad to read that you do get out.
I’m curious to know if I’m nuts or if others, like you for instance, hear a voice or perhaps their subconscious, talking to them?
Thanks for reading my story and sharing your experiences with me. I really appreciate that, Ginny.
Take care and stay safe
June
Thanks for sharing the story — it will be helpful for my future shopping!
Great well written article, June! Congrats!
But I’ll ask a question: have you considered that voice in your head, your twin sister, is more than simply a voice in your head? Have you considered that “she” may in fact actually be your male self’s twin sister, the spirit essence or soul of his vanished twin sister. Profound, yes? Possible? Absolutely…
Science tells us 1 in 80,000 pregnancies results in live birthed twins. Yet science since the advent of ultrasound tells us one in eight or ten pregnancies yield multiple embryos. Most vanish, absorbed, encapsulated, or birthed as a mass, not still birthed, mostly unnoticed.
But what of their essence spirit or souls? Most chose to cross the veil. But some chose to stay. Perhaps that voice in your head is something more, much more.
I wrote an article I posted here on CDH some time ago titled Vanished Twins which you might find interesting. Honestly, I can’t remember if you commented or not. But I go into more detail.
For me, Jules, the concept of vanished twins has resonated with me and given me a deeper understanding of who, my female self truly is. This has given me both peace and joy – a tons of fun?
Fun…? Absolutely, as I and my brother, the true owner of this body talk, kid, and humor each other as only true twins can…
Hugs,
Jules
Beautiful story. Loved it!
great thanks for sharing your journey to buying dresses and all that at a store. i do the same thing. it’s for my sister or wife deal, but it’s really for me, i did one time ask if i could try it on for my wife was the same size as me. the skirt was a great fit so i bought it., i still have this black skirt. i have managed to have more female clothing then wife does and even wear them more then she does. i under dress every day. i am medically retired so i am a stay home dad or should i say stay home mom. but i have to watch it for we have a 23-year-old son still living with us. my wife knows i dress up and seen me getting dressed up, but she will not help or like to see me dressed up so i stay in my bedroom and play my Xbox 1 games or watch T.V. but when i have to go to kitchen for a drink or something to eat she can see me walk by and also smell the perfume on me. the other day i was dressed up, wife was in bathroom i put on perfume near the bathroom door, she replied you put on perfume, when she was done, she came out and seen me dressed up. she replied you have everything on, i said yes except heels and lip stick. She just walked away to living room and that was that. She is somewhat excepting me dressing up but would rather not see me dressed up. when the time is right, she will tell me i can do what i like to do, that is a sign that our son is at work. i wish i could go out in public dressed up and go shopping for more make up and perfume and some clip-on earrings, but i have to buy online for society is not ready for us cross dressers. real women cross dress all the time and get away with it, so why can us cross dress and go out shopping and have fun and look pretty and show the world we can look pretty and passable.