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redsonja replied to the topic "Good Intentions" – 3 months ago
Your article truly resonates with me. Lately, through studying Stoicism, I have realized that my reputation is beyond my control, and with that the urge to declare Sonja to my world has grown considerably…..but….
redsonja replied to the topic "Just a guy wearing women’s fashions" – 4 months ago
Great article to which i related. Its only since late last year and chatting with friends here that i became the crossdresser i wanted to be. Before that i was mostly a guy wearing womens fashion. Happy crossdressing with no… Read more»
redsonja replied to the topic "Just a guy wearing women’s fashions" – 4 months ago
Great article to which i related. Its only since late last year and chatting with friends here that i became the crossdresser i wanted to be. Before that i was mostly a guy wearing womens fashion. Happy crossdressing with no… Read more»
redsonja replied to the topic "Your Unique Identity" – 4 months ago
I like your observation of blending the male and female identities into one. This is one reason I love the character of Red Sonja, a mix of physical feminine beauty and the mindset of a warrior.
redsonja replied to the topic "Your Unique Identity" – 4 months ago
I like your observation of blending the male and female identities into one. This is one reason I love the character of Red Sonja, a mix of physical feminine beauty and the mindset of a warrior.
redsonja replied to the topic "Adrenaline & Fear" – 4 months ago
I’m sorry to hear this. As a parent of two sons, even if they were caught crossdressing, it would never occur to me to verbally abuse them nor surpress their confidence.
redsonja replied to the topic "Adrenaline & Fear" – 4 months ago
I’m sorry to hear this. As a parent of two sons, even if they were caught crossdressing, it would never occur to me to verbally abuse them nor surpress their confidence.
redsonja posted a new topic "Adrenaline & Fear" – 4 months ago
Just reading these two words conjures a rapid montage of all the times I nearly got caught crossdressing when I was still living in the secret comfort of the closet. My mind had created many narratives of being caught wearing… Read more»
redsonja posted a new topic "Adrenaline & Fear" – 4 months ago
Just reading these two words conjures a rapid montage of all the times I nearly got caught crossdressing when I was still living in the secret comfort of the closet. My mind had created many narratives of being caught wearing… Read more»
redsonja posted a new topic "If Only You Knew :)" – 4 months ago
“Daddy, I’m going to be in a school play.” “That’s good, son.” “Erm, not really….they want me to play the wicked queen. I need to dress as a woman!” I begin to smile. “Dad, it’ll look stupid!” Wider smile. “I’m… Read more»
redsonja wrote a new post 4 months ago
First Walk in Public I’ve been dressing up at home a lot lately. At home… alone. Safe in the closet as usual. Looking in the mirror, I thought about how many
Glad you enjoyed your first experience dressed in public. It is very satisfying to do that. I remember my first time out. I got all dressed up at home. My wife was doing some volunteer work.
I had pulled my car into the garage earlier so non if my neighbors could see me. So I got in my car fully dressed and left the garage. I was on my way. I was very nervous.
I choose a mall which was about a half hour away. When I got there I took a deep breath and got out of my car, knees together like a lady does. I had never walked in my heels as far as I had to that day. Thank goodness there was a bench by the entrance to the mall. I sat and rested foe a few moments. Finally I told myself that it was now or never. I entered the mall and walked down the long corridor finally spying the Victoria secret store. What better place to test myself.
As I entered the store I was greeted by a friendly sales lady asking if she could help me. I told her that I was interested in seeing the panties. She took me to the panty section where I chose 5 pretty pair. She then directed me to the checkout lsdy. She smiled noticing my pink polished nails saying how pretty they looked. Said that I had chosen some nice panties. After I paid I turned to walk out and looked at the bras curiously. The floor sales lady asked me if I wanted to be fitted for a bra. I froze and was about to say yes but chickened out, this being my first time out in public dressed completely feminine. So I declined the offer. In hindsight I wish I would have been fitted for that bra. After all I knew that they must hsve known that I was a crossdresser. But they treated very nice just like any other customer.
All in all I was very proud of myself for finally getting out there in public dressed up completely feminine. It gave me confidence to do it many times since then.
Totally relate to the “now or never” moment and I respect your courage going into the mall…I’m not sure I’m confident enough just yet to do that. I guess for now one step and see where it takes me.
Yes one step at a time and choose safe places to go
Thank you for your kind words Julie. I will write about the next adventure soon.
Congratulations Sonja. It’s that one leap that can change your life forever and it went without hitch as you chose the moment well. It’s an inspiration to all those who are one step from opening the door. Thanyou for sharing.
Thanks Angela…the experience has certainly emboldened my wishes to be Sonja more.
sounds like a lovely experience and know how nerve racking it is at first but now it only gets easier and even more fun. Its something very rewarding and satisfying and now your hooked
Thank you Deborah. I realize the issue is largely a mental challenge and I feel it will get easier the more I go out en femme.
First time out is exhilarating, and a forever memory. Good for you.
Thanks Elaine
Sonja I loved your story on your first walk out and you made me so happy for you. I recently went out for a drive and got my nails done and had lunch at a quiet restaurant. It was exhilarating. Thanks again for sharing your story and hey, “you look good behind those Foster Grants “ or were they Ray Bans? Either way you’re awesome! Love hugs and kisses. -KIP
Thank you Kaitlyn for your kind words. I haven’t a clue what brand the shades are!
Congratulations on your first time out Sonja. It is certainly an exhilarating and liberating feeling. I have found that the more I do it, the easier it gets. Now I’m at the point where I get out at least 4 days a week and my confidence is growing every time. It is also wonderful when you have a positive interaction with someone. Much of our authentic time is spent in solitude and anytime we can have interactions just enhances the overall experience. Stay out there sister!
I will certainly stay out there. Today I’m hoping to buy some clothing for the next adventure
Way to go Sonja! I have gone on a few walks myself. It’s very liberating.
It certainly is
One of the things I enjoy is going to the golf practice range enfemme. I’ve always enjoyed golfing and now that I’ve been been enjoying dressing enfemme in public I decided to combine my two favorite things. My next goal is to go to a regular golf course like that. Another plus is that I’ll be able to use the ladies tee on my first shot on each hole.
I get the same excited feeling every time I go out. It just feels so good. Hugs 🫂
Desire ladies , the cravings you get when going out in femme for the 1st time and it goes well or better than expectations.
Now that craving is enhanced.and YOU WILL do it again, Until it becomes “normal” to go EVERYWHERE in femme, every day! That’s my experience,. nice.
That’s very encouraging to hear!
It just happens. I’m scheduled today a doctor adopt. & going in a dress bra panties, wig, red nails full enfemme, and it’s become normal. But to the Doc, I’m male.
Great article. I can’t wait for the day I make my first walk outside.
Sonja –
Thank you for sharing your experience. I hope to one day be able to get out and about. I can only imagine how thrilling it can be. Hope you have mroe opportunities soon.
XOXOSuzanne