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Crossdress in Style – Fall's Hottest Trends in Five Minutes Flat

by Vanessa Law

Categories: Fashion, Clothes and Shoes

Tags: crossdress in style, transgendered, transvestite clothing

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Published on: November 4, 2008

Badgley Mischka, Fashion Week 2008, Style.com

The leaves are changing from green to red, the sky is crisp and blue, and just weeks ago Fashion Week breezed through New York bringing the season’s hottest trends along with it. From Cosmo to Vogue, the top trends are hitting the scene . . . but who has the time to fumble through a billion magazines? So, in honor of all you gorgeous women with better things to do, here’s the best of Fashion Week!

Winter Floral

From Dries Van Noten to Ralph Lauren, designers stopped to the smell the roses with creations reminiscent of a beautiful winter garden. Make this trend your own with autumn hued florals or feathered frocks for a night out on the town. Try this rose satin pump from Colin Stuart for an instant wardrobe makeover.

Country Charm

Southern charm worked the runway this fall as some of today’s hottest designers went country. From rugged looks to charming ladylike designs, this season is all about hints of country living. Bring this trend to your closet with rugged vests, tweeds with country appeal or touches of plaid like this charming vest from Guess. Now that’s crossdressing in style!

Belle of the Ball

Nothing rings in the season like bell shaped gowns, dress and tops. Fitted in the waist, flared at the hip, this look gives a flattering and sexy silhouette. Take a peek at this sleek style hot of the runway. The best thing about this trend is that it draws attention to a woman’s natural curves making for a show stopping, jaw-dropping look for a Saturday night on the town. If you’re not blessed with natural curves don’t worry – the next trend is right up your alley.

Luck Be a Lady

Break out the tweed, cardigans and kitten heels. The era of the lady is back with a vengeance! Think Doris Day, Jackie O, a young Martha Stewart. Work it out in sweet florals, paired with a fitted cardigan, pearls and a killer pair of kitten heels for a look that is as charming as it is sweet. This is your chance to live out your feminine dreams.

Swing Batter Batter Swing

This season kicks the old fitted blazer to the curb and makes a hot date with flowing coats complete with swing and plenty of moving room. To the designer who brought this trend back to life, we say “Thank you!” Finally a fashion we can actually breathe in . . . now for the good news… Pair these billowy jackets with heels! These frocks are perfect for showing off a new pair of killer stilettos or a to-die-for pair of knee high boots.

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The Keys To Crossdresser Success

by Vanessa Law

Categories: Transgender Info

Tags: cross dresser, crossdresser success, transgendered, transvestism

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Published on: October 21, 2008

One of the common misconception is that transvestism means your life is destined for a hard battle from one failure to the next. Dragging around your shame and guilt it seems as if crossdresser success and life success are mutually exclusive. Yet reality seems balanced on this question. While there may be many in the transgendered community who are struggling to come to terms with their transgendered nature and at the same time live a fruitful life, there are others who manage to do both.

What is crossdresser success?

I think the essence of success is being able to fully accept and live as who you are, while at the same time making a meaningful contribution to your family and society.

Recently on a forum that encourages crossdresser success, tekla made an insightful comment that with her permission I’ve shared:

I see all too often a linking between sex and the rest of the life deal. People can be successful, motivated, achieving people regardless of who they are attracted to. Nor, as a visit to the successful transitions website shows are there any lack of TS persons with PhD, or who are doctors, lawyers, professors and other accomplished careers.

I would speculate that the difference is not in who you are attracted to, or what your GID status is, but rather what you choose to do about it, how you work with it, incorporate it in your life or if you just sit somewhere and obsess about it.

I said somewhere else that most TS don’t need therapy, they need a life – and in the end, that’s all therapy will tell you to do, go out and be the person you think you are, the person that will make yourself (and maybe others) happy.

If you liked driving around to music, and I did, try riding a bike with some iTunes, or my favorite, a skiing soundtrack (Big band and rockabilly and bluegrass do very well) or just walk. You still don’t need a destination, I ride for miles and miles every day with no real point, just for the workout and to be out in the sun, and doing something. I take a camara, so I can take photos of some of the things I see.

I’ve always been ashamed of it like I am taking part in some demonic ritual.
Hopefully you will find a way around that shame, and it can become someother, better type of ritual, one of joy, acceptance, and exploration.

No matter what your looking for, I know that person, or persons are out there. Find out what kind of things such people might enjoy, and get involved in that, join a group or two, volunteer or something.

Well said tekla!

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P.S. If you are struggling to find self-acceptance or the acceptance of others I highly recommend reading Helen Boyd’s book My Husband Betty.

A Call to Crossdressing Action – it's Not Just the Transgendered Who Suffer

by Vanessa Law

Categories: Transgender News and Issues

Tags: Amy Bloom, being a cross dresser and sex worker, crossdresser organizations, crossdressers, crossdressers action, crossdressing action, Gender Expression, gender non-conformance, married crossdressers, NORMAL, transgender discrimination, transgender how to be accepted, Transgender Rights, transgendered

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Published on: June 17, 2008

In Normal, a book written by Amy Bloom about transsexuals, crossdressers and the intersexed, an insightful comment about gender expression is given.

Not only is our society distressed by masculine women, feminine men, and the androgynous; even the big man who embroiders, or the wife and mother of three who has a black belt in tae kwon do, a buzz cut and no makeup in her gym bag, stirs a frisson of discomfort. Gender theorists love the gender nonconforming as examples of all sorts of things, fundamentalists fear and despise them, and whether they avoid our gaze or deliberately seek to disturb, they are the handy punch line for every fading sitcom.

I sometimes think that our culture is like the Church in the days of Galileo. We will not see, and we will silence and mock, even banish and punish, those who say that what is, is.

The insight isn’t that the transgendered struggle to be accepted by society needs to continue for a while. The insight is that the transgendered struggle is the struggle of all people who don’t fit into the classical model of gender. The transgendered are just those who happen to experience this “frisson of discomfort” most vividly.

I think this applies for crossdressers as well. The typical heterosexual part time crossdresser can go undetected and undiscovered by society. Her livelihood isn’t impacted by transitioning, her finances aren’t devastated by expensive surgeries (no girls, buy that expensive dress doesn’t count…) and her health isn’t jeopardized by a cocktail of hormones.

Largely, the impact of societies displeasure with gender non-conformance is limited to those few times the crossdresser ventures outdoors. She goes as undetected as the slightly feminine man, or slightly masculine woman. And she will benefit from the work of transsexuals and transgendered to bring acceptance to gender diversity.

My call to crossdressers action

If you’re a crossdresser, my call to action is to support the transgender community who is at the forefront of the struggle. Either through your time or financial support. A good organization to start with is the National Center for Transgender Equality.

Dear reader, please let me know if there are other organizations that are doing good work for the transgender community. I’d like to post a more complete list of transgender advocate organizations in the future.

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P.S. Look fabulous while making a difference for the transgender community with great advice from the World’s Best Crossdresser Guide

Let us take a piss!

by Vanessa Law

Categories: Transgender Info

Tags: crossdresser piss, Crossdressing Cure, transgender bathrooms, transgendered

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Published on: March 29, 2008

I regularly post on Yahoo Answers, answering questions about the transgendered and cross dressing. (My Yahoo profile). I really enjoy helping people come to terms with their transgenderedness, or that of a loved one. Recently Fire Falcon answered a question about the transgendered using the ladies bathroom, and I thought it was too good not to share with all of you:

[[One of my friends was ranting about how some transvestite was saying he wanted to be able to go to the ladies’ bathroom and all this other crap.]]
So what? A bathroom is for taking a leak and other such things. While I don’t necessarily agree with transvestites or crossdressers using the bathroom of the gender they are presenting as, I have no issue with it because GASP… Dressing like a girl and going into the men’s bathroom is asking to get your face beat in, and there’s already too much violence and hatred in this messed up world.

A transvestite, transgender nor a transsexual is coming in there to peer at your goodies or try and rape you– they’re coming to use the bathroom they feel is right for them, so they don’t get the crap beat out of them in the other bathroom. Calling the cops on someone who runs in, tinkles, washes their hands and runs back out is not only absurd, but borderlines on cruel.

For god’s sake, let people take a piss.

I think that pretty much says it all…

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Counselors should be advocates for the transgendered

by Vanessa Law

Categories: Transgender News and Issues

Tags: counselors advocate for transgendered, crossdressers, Gender Identity, transgender, transgendered

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Published on: March 24, 2008

This is the conclusion of research done by two PhD students at the university of Oregon, who spent years studying transgender issues. They explored the issues of discrimination in the workplace and transphobia that many in the transgendered community experience. They also lament the lack of qualified counselors available for the transgendered.

I think it’s wonderful that more and more researchers are devoting time to transgendered studies. When more people examine and question pre-conceived notions they advance the state of the art in our understanding. I think this can only be a win for the transgender community, as the medical profession gains a better understanding of who we are, why we are transgendered and how best to ensure we live healthy fulfilled lives.

I poked around the Internet some, and found a few valuable resources. Naturally wikipedia has a great article, I even found an article by our local Seattle and King County health department addressing transgender health as well as this great site which covers many issues transsexuals face. If you’re confused about where on the gender spectrum you fall, this gender test is a good place to start. It will give you some thoughts, and hopefully encourage you to seek counseling if you struggle with your gender identity.

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P.S. Don’t let your lack of self-confidence stop you from going out dressed. Hypnotize yourself into the confident woman you are!

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