I think it’s fine to notice when someone puts in the effort to look nice. But I think it’s completely wrong to expect it, at least in more casual circumstances.
We have no more right to expect a woman to live up to our idea of femininity in fashion or makeup than they do to tell us to live up to their idea of masculinity. People are busy and are less concerned with appearance in casual settings. We want people to accept us for who we are, whether we are wearing a skirt, a dress, woman’s pants/jeans, or male drab. We should give them the same level of acceptance.