Hi Mandie, welcome to the CDH family. I consider myself transgender myself and not planning anything. I just live a female life right now and seeing how it goes. I have heard that intimacy is often lost when people come out. There is a fab article about the difference between cross dressers and transgendered people below, I’ll add it later in my post, but a big one for me is does your feminine side have a separate alterego, or are you the same or very similar as either gender.
If your wife is interested there is SOs section that is completely private from even the CDH management, where she can get support if she needs it.