Just a quick note… I have visited with couples where the wife/SO doesn’t have any issues calling “her” by the feminine name and “him” by the legal name, and a few where the SO just struggles so much to avoid using the legal (masculine) name all the time.
My own best female friend asked me in advance to forgive her if she ever called me “Clark”, since that is how she has known me for about 40 years. (I told her not to worry at all)
Cl… I mean, Gaby. 😉