Cassie, there are a number of us on this forum who have had to deal with how our crossdressing or being transgendered is viewed by churches and those who go there.
I was brought up in the Episcopal Church and find that I am now accepted there as a trans woman.
However, many of my family members and acquaintances go to evangelical or fundamentalist churches. I am NOT, in any way, accepted by them. I have sent them all sorts of info on being transgendered, medical, scientific and even Christians who are trans, and they won’t accept that either, what I’m doing is wrong, selfish and a very stupid choice. I have been told emphatically that they do not understand, don’t really want to, and will not talk with or see me as a woman.
We only have one choice faced with such attitudes, it’s time to move on and live our lives, tough love.
Hugs Cassie, wish you well,