When you accept the fact that life is not always fair, you will get less angry. Sure there are many things in life that aren’t fair, but we just have to deal with it, and work towards it being a little fairer in the future.
I came across an old film from the 20-30s for a scenic site in Colorado. The woman was dressed in boots, judphers, and a shirt and tie…a very masculine outfit. It was perfectly acceptable. If a man were in a dress, wig, et cetera it would have been scandalous. These days, while not totally acceptable, seeing a man in a dress is not scandalous, so we have made some strides. Times change, too slowly at times, but they do change. Carefully point out when your wife wears “mens things” and just maybe she will understand. Mine does.