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    • #371619

      For people who profess to want to be, act, look and feel like a woman I am amazed how un-lady like we really are.

      Imagine meeting a a couple of ggs and saying “hello girls, you look nice, are you wearing any panties?” What colour are they, what are they made of, how do they feel?

      Imagine meeting family, hello mother, sister, aunt, grandma, I hope we’re all wearing our panties today? What colour are they, what are they made of, how do they feel?

      If anyone ever heard a girlfiend, mother, sister, aunt, grandma ask this question the chances are they are a man trapped in a womans body.

    • #371627

      Hi Sally

      I totally get where you are coming from. Certain threads on this site I have never heard women talk about. I have always worked surrounded by predominantly women and mostly loved it. I have become part of the team and often feel they do discuss things among themselves they would not when men are about. Relationship problems, health issues etc, and yes sometimes fashion, make up etc but always complimentary. Have never heard discussions about types of underwear apart from how uncomfortable they are🤣

      Saying that I have never been in the changing room with them, perhaps some things are for women’s ears only!!!

      Also they have grown up with these fashions, perhaps experimenting with different underwear, make up, fashions, shoes etc during their teens so maybe have all these questions answered as part of their growing up, which underwear to wear with which outfits? etc.

      ❤️B

    • #371644

      Think of this as a sleepover of some just teen girls experiencing many new things with their friends for possibly the first time. ” hey, those are some hot panties, where’d ya get em?, I love that colour”, but because we can’t actually see our other participants, we have to ask. Now, because we always have an influx of newer girls, at the next ‘sleepover’ the same question may be asked by someone who wasn’t there.

      Most here didn’t get that, or anything even close as we grew up, we’re excited, quizical know that that this topic will be common to all so it feels safe for those that are shy and just starting to find their way in talking to others about dressing.

      Many of us try to add threads with deeper meaning to engage the masses and if anybody has things that they feel would be of interest, by all means write it up.

      Lots of us profess to trying to emulate the femme, women, gg’s…..GIRLS. Cuz 🎵girls just wanna have fun🎶. Using my own mental definition of what a LADY might be, is not something I personally aspire to.

    • #371645

      Hi Sally What we wear for under wear is really no ones business. I think its a little creepy if some one does ask. I think it is important to know what type or color of underwear should be worn with your choices of outfits. Trying to look seamless takes some effort. There are some woman that just do not care They wear what they want and if there under wear shows so be it. There are somethings that should be left to imagination.

      Luv Stephanie

    • #371660
      Stevie Steiner
      Managing Ambassador

      What a strange, ignorant, and disturbing question to ask someone.  Is that some sort of pick up line?  I will  choose who I share my pantie details with, thank you very much.

      ( okay, before you ask …. they are red, lace trimmed, and damn sexy! )  lol.

      Stevie

    • #371661
      IsabelB
      Lady

      Sally, a very good point very well made… 🙂

      Isabel x

    • #371665
      Anonymous

      So what is the difference between a woman and a lady?  For every 100 people you ask this question, you’ll probably get 100 different answers.  To me, a woman is a female of the human species who is past the age of puberty.  A lady is a woman who  conforms  to certain arbitrary standards set forth by a segment of society.

      Would you call a Ford a Chevrolet, or would you call a Chevrolet a Ford?  Of course not.  The point I’m trying to make here is that you call the cars their proper names out of respect for the inventor, among other reasons.  So who invented women?  You don’t have to get very far into the bible to answer that question.  Interesting to note that the bible refers to women many times, but never refers to ladies.  I prefer to use the inventor’s name when talking about female human beings.

      Of course there are many types of women.  Housewives, Victoria’s Secret models, office secretaries, nuns,  movie actresses, and prostitutes, just to name a few, are all women.  As cross dressers (M to F), I believe we should be totally free to “work the complete spectrum”, without put-downs or any other type of negative speech, when dressing in private or public.

    • #371673
      Anonymous

      Honestly I couldn’t imagine any woman asking me what type of panties or bras I have on or me asking them the same question dressed as Carla or in guy mode. My personal dressing is mine to know and not for anyone in public. Yes if asked here I will answer but it is still my choice to do so. I have been asked by other women where I got some of my shoes from and answered them without reservation. In public I do act like a lady, I don’t bend over to show my rear, I don’t take long strides or swing my arms, I don’t show more skin than is appropriate and other things that would shout out “hey look at me”. I’m aware of how I look and how I act in public. My Mom always told me I should always be socially acceptable while in public.

      Carla

    • #371706
      Anonymous

      This is the way I look at this, there is a wide spectrum of crossdressing / crossgender people in society. I think at one spectrum you have males who just like to dress in woman’s clothing. At the other end are people who are women stuck in the wrong body. And there are many in between. I can picture the end of the spectrum who are guys who like frilly clothes, but totally identify as a male, might be inclined to compare notes on underwear.

    • #371709

      [postquote quote=371665]
      A lady only reaches into the gutter to help someone up.

    • #371710
      Kimmie
      Lady

      I think Olivia’s generous and thoughtful answer has it exactly right.

    • #371731
      Ashley
      Lady

      Kinda related… on some forums I’ve been on, they have “spoiler” tags, where you can have part of a post hidden from view of anyone who doesn’t want to see or read it. (usually you have to click a button or something to read it) Anyway, maybe for more sensitive things here, we could have “TMI” tags?

      Basically, yeah, there’s stuff I’d rather not read/discuss, but I also don’t want to stop anyone who may feel the need to talk about those things. Here might be the only place they can. CDH is a super-rare place on the internet, in that it’s judgement free and safe to talk about a wide range of things.

      (We should probably also have spoiler tags, we do have an arts & entertainment section too!)

    • #371742

      HI Sally,I know what your saying and I wouldn’t dare talk  about some of these topics face to face unless I was real comfortable with a friend.

      However this is probably one of the only outlets a lot of girls have to talk about things and feelings that may have been pent up for years.

       

      So I know what your saying and I am glad we have a place where girls can act as Olivia stated like its a slumber party.

      Love Patty

       

    • #371744

      I get this point and agree.

      It’s like, imagine your wife, girlfriend, or even a curious, shy cross dresser stumbled on this forum – what might they think?

      There are plenty of sites that only concern themselves with the titillating side of our art, and I love this site for the much wider and more restrained focus.

      Maybe another forum is needed for the more “specialist” topics.

      I feel an odd sense of ownership and responsibility for this site, and for the greater good of cross dressers everywhere and how society perceives us.

      I may not have that balance right, but it’s where my heart is.

      We’re just people who love clothes – and I guess some like to talk about “unladylike” things.

      I don’t really have a problem with that – I’m not a real woman – but I think the General topics forum isn’t really the place for sexy talk.

      Just my $0.02 😘

      Love Laura

      • #371839

        Laura

        Are you seriously saying that you think simply discussing undergarments should actually be considered “sexy talk” ?

        And if the general forums is not the place among adult crossdressers on a support site, where would you and others suggest?…..

        Back in the closet perhaps?

        Thank you, but NO (being polite)

        Olivia

    • #371836

      GGs talk about some crazy stuff in profoundly frank and sometimes disturbing ways when guys aren’t around.  Asking if the other girl is wearing panties would probably not even approach sounding strange to many of them.

      Provided they know each other first.  I don’t believe anyone would talk like that in person to someone they just met.  I do believe they would easily do it in s forum format like this. Why not?  We’re not that different… especially grannies.  They know A LOT and are sometimes more than happy to share!

    • #372463
      Anonymous

      I work with a lot of GGs, some are really good friends, and I know for a fact that some of my GG friends talk about what style of knickers they are wearing and some of them show each other their knickers. I don’t think when we talk about what our favourite underwear is we are being any different than GGs.

    • #373392

      I do have to say that posts imploring us to “act like ladies” often make me laugh.

      I work with women and anyone who has been alone with women knows that they are every bit as raunchy and “dirty” as men are.

      They talk about sex, underwear, any topic you can imagine.  More so than men, worse than men, in my opinion.

      You ever join an online social media group comprised mostly of women? I am in several.  And all they talk about is sex and men, men and sex, and would surely talk about underwear if the topic arose.  Nonstop.

      The myth of the proper, prudish “lady” is just that…a myth.

    • #373654
      Anonymous

      Ladies are prim and proper, but naughty girls have more fun.

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