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I go out shopping and doing pretty much what ever I want as a girl but for me the biggest challenge is going out to eat by myself, well today I did it , drove straight to the mall ,and walked into one of the breweries dressed and by my self. Granted it was 2:30 most of the lunch crowd was gone. It went well. I ordered jumblia had water to drink and after I was done I used the ladies restroom. Every time I go out I gain confidence
Hi Vanessa, a win for you. Picking a later time too have lunch is a smart way to gain confidence. We ladies need to challenge ourselves as to where we go, time of day/night, what we dress in.
After some time I found that some people were shocked and had grump wtitten on their face, other people just smiled.
So hold your head up. When I buy clothing, makeup, I use my femme name. In shops they call me Jane.
A confidence boost.
SO Vanessa live your life. We deserve it.
Jane
Ordering jambalaya with water at a brewery? Congrats on your confidence, wine or beer would have been a better choice.
Eileen
Way to go, Vanessa.
I do a lot by myself too. Being solo lends you to focus more on yourself. I think mostly because you don’t really have any other distractions. Going out alone is something that you rarely see a GG do. They almost always have someone else like a GF along. Giving you someone else to focus on, instead of yourself.
I don’t let any of this stop me, I just remind myself of it from time to time. I must admit that it would be so much more fun to have a GF to get together with some times.
I am quite comfy eating out with a friend but still self conscious of doing it alone. I only do it at the fast food places like at the mall when alone. I have the need to feel busy and occupied and not a wallflower while out en femme
Hi Deborah, great to see you out and about. Yes, we should tastefully chic, not timid when out enfemme. After aifelong struggle we should shows confidence and poise.
Live life and enjoy
JaneFor most if my work life I traveled. I had some years where I had expense reports for 48 or 50 weeks out of 52. Sometimes I traveled with others, but most of the time I was by myself. I would always have a couple of magazines with me. Not the staple-in-the-center magazines, but ones that were bound and with color photos in heavy glossy paper. One of my all time favorites was (and still is) MOTORSPORT magazine from the UK. It’s a wonderful magazine as it has coverage of current racing, races from the past, road tests of current and past interesting or groundbreaking cars as well as articles about various companies (why they succeeded, why they failed, etc.). However, as time evolved, I would travel with various iPads that I have owned. Being a motorsports fans since childhood, reading about things that was interested in and didn’t have to cook was a Win/Win.
Congratulations on conquering another first! As all the other ladies said, big confidence boost.
That’s fantastic to hear! Congratulations on taking that step and facing your challenge head-on. Going out to eat by yourself can indeed be a big step towards building self-confidence and independence. It’s like crafting an apple snicker salad – combining different elements to create a delightful outcome.
It sounds like you handled the situation with grace and ease, just like putting together the ingredients for a perfect apple snicker salad. You ordered your choice confidently, enjoyed your meal, and even utilized the ladies restroom comfortably.
Remember that every little step you take, whether it’s trying out new experiences or crafting something like an apple snicker salad, contributes to your personal growth and confidence. Keep pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone, and each positive experience will continue to reinforce your sense of accomplishment. Enjoy your journey of self-discovery and empowerment!
I have gone out to eat many times now while enfemme. The first couple of times it was at a Denny’s and I was a bit self conscious about eating alone as most women will dine with a friend. To get over this I brought along some work from the office to do while while sitting there.
When the waitress took my order she asked if she needed to rush my order since it looked like I was working. I smiled and thanked her and told her that I was just catching up on some things for the next day. She then made sure that set my order to the side of the table away from my work when she delivered it.
Now it more common to see a lone woman texting on her phone or personal tablet while having a coffee or lunch. Dining alone though for dinner as a woman still is not that common (at least to me). This might have some people take a second look just because one is alone. That is why I usually take something that looks like work with me such as papers or a small tablet if I dining alone.
I have done this too and treated me like any normal woman.Plus no problems when I went into the women’s restroom.
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