Tagged: In death
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- October 22, 2021 at 2:21 am #562899
When you die is it your wish to be put into the coffin en fem? Hope nobody is offended by that.
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- October 22, 2021 at 3:21 am #562904Anonymous
I have thought about that, I hope to start living full time for the rest of my life so that idea would be ok with me.
- October 22, 2021 at 3:29 am #562909Anonymous
No coffin for me. One of my favorite songs about this is John Pryne’s , Please Don’t Bury Me.
Woke up this morning
Put on my slippers
Walked in the kitchen and died
And oh what a feeling!
When my soul went through the ceiling
And on up into heaven I did ride
When I got there they did say
John, it happened this way
You slipped upon the floor
And hit your head
And all the angels say
Just before you passed away
These were the very last words
That you saidPlease don’t bury me
Down in the cold cold ground
No, I’d druther have ’em cut me up
And pass me all around
Throw my brain in a hurricane
And the blind can have my eyes
And the deaf can take both of my ears
If they don’t mind the sizeGive my stomach to Milwaukee
If they run out of beer
Put my socks in a cedar box
Just get ’em out of here
Venus de Milo can have my arms
Look out! I’ve got your nose
Sell my heart to the Junkman
And give my love to RoseBut please don’t bury me
Down in that cold, cold ground
No, I’d druther have ’em cut me up
And pass me all around
Throw my brain in a hurricane
And the blind can have my eyes
And the deaf can take both of my ears
If they don’t mind the sizeGive my feet to the footloose
Careless, fancy free
Give my knees to the needy
Don’t pull that stuff on me
Hand me down my walking cane
It’s a sin to tell a lie
Send my mouth way down south
And kiss my ass goodbyeBut please don’t bury me
Down in that cold cold ground
No, I’d druther have ’em cut me up
And pass me all around
Throw my brain in a hurricane
And the blind can have my eyes
And the deaf can take both of my ears
If they don’t mind the size- October 22, 2021 at 3:46 am #562913Anonymous
Lol, Raquel,
I’ll match your song and raise you one poem !
Woodland Burial by Pam Ayers
Don’t lay me in some gloomy churchyard shaded by a wall Where the dust of ancient bones has spread a dryness over all, Lay me in some leafy loam where, sheltered from the cold Little seeds investigate and tender leaves unfold. There kindly and affectionately, plant a native tree To grow resplendent before God and hold some part of me. The roots will not disturb me as they wend their peaceful way To build the fine and bountiful, from closure and decay. To seek their small requirements so that when their work is done I’ll be tall and standing strongly in the beauty of the sun. Marti xxx
- October 22, 2021 at 5:23 am #562931Anonymous
Marti, that’s lovely. And way more reverent than my post. 😄
- October 22, 2021 at 5:34 am #562933Anonymous
hi Raquel,
‘Your’ song, ‘my’ poem, there’s room for both.
Marti xx
- October 22, 2021 at 4:37 am #562924
No. Jewish tradition is to be buried in a shroud, sort of like a sheet with ties that is wrapped around you. This is for both males and females.
- October 22, 2021 at 5:07 am #562925Anonymous
Frankly, I wouldn’t care one way or another.
- October 22, 2021 at 5:18 am #562928Anonymous
No offense here, and having just recently lost my wife, I have had to think about this. My answer is “No”. I have requested a military burial, in my USAF uniform.
Lulu
- October 22, 2021 at 6:03 am #562939
I have told my wife if she buries me in a suit and tie I will come back and haunt her. I would really like to be buried in one of my favorite nightgowns.
- October 22, 2021 at 9:44 am #563002AnonymousLady
I keep telling my family I want to go Viking style. Throw my carcass and stuff in a big pile and burn it. I figure I won’t need this body when that time comes.
🍷C - October 22, 2021 at 9:58 am #563009Anonymous
Hi…
If I die while I’m at home…I will be en femme anyway…
So if a couple of neighbours can put me into a black bin bag…….then it’s 3 – 2 – 1…into the back of the dustcart as it goes by….job done…
I probably won’t feel a thing!!!!
Grace xx
- October 22, 2021 at 10:03 am #563010AnonymousLady
Grace I want to be a fly on the wall when they find you in your beautiful bright outfit slumped over your computer logged on to CDH with one of your gloriously humorous posts half written and your long lost and mangled umbrella laying next to you. Oh the hilarity of the comments and expressions that ensue. 😂😂
🍷C
- October 22, 2021 at 10:09 am #563013Anonymous
Oh yes…myself and my umbrella….
both knackered but as one….
lying
in a statein state!!!!!!Haha xx
- October 23, 2021 at 8:11 am #563409Anonymous
I trust you have made adequate provisions for Olivia Grace? Better check if you would be picked up if your in a black bin back, round here you would be left on the pavement that’s for sure. Bins only you see, just thought I mention it other wise you could become a trip hazard or worse still someone might mistake you as a glamorous guy for the top of the bonfire if it’s November. Mine you that could be to your advantage financially speaking.
Lol Amanda xx
- October 23, 2021 at 10:37 am #563421Anonymous
Omg….my worst nightmare…becoming a glamorous guy!!!!!!
Nooooooooo
- October 23, 2021 at 1:23 pm #563456Anonymous
Well I understand how that sounded , but I thought “Dummy” was rather insulting Grace. Anyway Guy Fawkes wore some extremely flamboyant clothes, maybe just maybe he was a CD.
Am I forgiven?
Lol Amanda xx
- October 23, 2021 at 1:36 pm #563464Anonymous
“Penny for the Grace”…now there’s a thought…haha xx
- October 23, 2021 at 4:00 pm #563504Anonymous
A “Penny” Grace, most come round our way with a card reader.
- October 24, 2021 at 12:02 am #563604Anonymous
😂🤣😂👍 xx
- October 22, 2021 at 11:50 am #563037
painted toe nails.
- October 22, 2021 at 1:15 pm #563059
It is not something that I had thought about. I came into this world with no clothes so I suppose I go out with no clothes. Not really.
I am a man who enjoys the delights of female apparel to relieve the stresses of life, so I will no doubt go out in male attire.
- October 22, 2021 at 9:30 pm #563191
I’m going the cremation route so, nope.
- October 22, 2021 at 10:10 pm #563192Anonymous
No death for this girl going to live for ever once they get the freezer fixed. Cryogenics.
- October 22, 2021 at 10:58 pm #563197
I’m going to be buried en drab. The world is better off with fewer men,s clothes. If I could bury all male clothes I would rid the world of ugly garb. All living beings could then look and feel a lot prettier.I surely wouldn’t want my last act on earth to be selfishly depriving someone the pleasure of enjoying a pretty dress! . I’m just saying… If we could donate our fine apparel to all the needy men in the world wouldn’t that be a dream come true?
- October 23, 2021 at 12:18 am #563212Anonymous
Imagine Donna in among the ice cream and popsicles….😂😂
- October 23, 2021 at 6:59 am #563318Anonymous
LOL Grace be between the Rocky road ice cream and the dream cicle popcicles.
- October 23, 2021 at 3:09 am #563230
I have signed my organ donation card many years ago, so once they have anything useful, i am going the cremation route, so I guess I will be O natural.
Hugs, Regi👸💖 - October 23, 2021 at 3:33 am #563239
Funerals / memorial services / whatever your tradition is are not for the dead. The dead one being memorialized is not there except in body. The funeral is for the living; to help them in the grieving process which they will have to manage for a certain amount of time after the funeral is over. For some it is less, for others it is more.
All who know me, know me as a male. (Except the ladies here 🙂) I am more or less important in their lives as a male. Therefore as delightful as the thought is of being buried as a woman, for the sake of others I will be buried as a male. As far as my personhood, though I understand myself to be a woman at my soul level, I have lived my life as a male for the sake of others. For that same reason I will be buried as a male.
PS – thank you all for accepting me as a woman. I find much comfort knowing I can come here and be authentic with no impunity.
Kindly,
Charlene
- October 23, 2021 at 6:14 am #563299
Sure am!
But before the funeral, my kids will open the flood-gates on my online presence and make sure everyone knows about the real me! Only come to my funeral with an accepting and open heart. And then have a wake like no other! I’m buying all rounds!
I’ve signed my donor card too. Still have some salvageable parts.
Then sprinkle whatever’s left in my favourite Forest.
🤗 Barb
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- October 23, 2021 at 6:41 am #563307
Hello Sarahjayne, Yes I am to wear my ladies clothes when cremated. I have left instructions in my will as to where to find the box with the clothes in it, that I would like to wear. love Helenmarie
- October 23, 2021 at 6:57 am #563316Anonymous
Hi Sarahjayne,
For all the nice sentiment in the poem I posted, it’ll be a cremation for me I suspect – the kids will do what they want to do. It’s occurred to me that being wrapped in one of my favourite sarongs would not ruffle any feathers.
Marti xxx
- October 23, 2021 at 7:02 am #563319Anonymous
Sarahjayne,
Not having a traditional funeral, all pre-paid. Straight to the crematorium no mourners attending, then the ashes are returned to the family, who can celebrate my life how they choose. Not bothered what they dress me in either. My thoughts are why pay thousands of pounds to funeral directors when it’s better off helping the family especially the grandchildren. Set it up ages ago £1000. all in, probably saved, three to 5 Thousand pounds or more depending on when I actually do die.
Lol Amanda xx
- October 23, 2021 at 7:53 am #563406
Hi Sarahjayne For one reason or another I have been thinking a lot about when my time comes to an end. I have been taking the time to make sure those who are left behind will be ok. Cremation of my body is what I settled on would best for me. Sadly, aside from my wife a the few I have met and enjoyed so very much will never know about how I truly really felt. It would be so nice if we all had a second chance to come back and be what we all wanted to be. I have grown so tired of my brain not matching my body . I would love for others after my time has come to a end, to finally understand and get the answers to the question I have had my whole life, WHY am I like this. WHY do I enjoy and feel so much more happier when I get the image of a woman when I look in the mirror. So I am going to do what I really love and enjoy while I am still alive Shopping I know their is a bargain out there that every one missed.
Luv always Stephanie
- October 23, 2021 at 12:58 pm #563445Anonymous
Ok another one is wanting those marching dancing funeral guys carrying my casket to the sea.
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- October 23, 2021 at 2:04 pm #563471
The total aspect of burial is, to me anyway, a really difficult issue to confront. And I’m getting to that age where I will have to confront it, sooner rather than later. In the next 80 or so years, over 7 billion people will die. That could require a lot of new burial plots that will have to be found. Most cemeteries I’ve seen are beginning to run out of space, and that includes lack of land nearby.
My father, his parents, his brother, and more generations back are buried in a family plot back in the state where I grew up. I’ve visited it several times and had a marker made for my father’s site as he died accidently years ago and my mother didn’t have that kind of money then. My SO’s parents and brother are buried in a plot in the state where she’s from. She has stated she wants to be cremated. My mother’s ashes are in a burial plot on her church’s grounds. My stepfather’s ashes were dropped over the golf course where he got the heart attack that killed him.
I’ve been torn for quite awhile about being buried or cremated as I’ve been undecided if there is an afterlife or not. If there is, I’m even less sure that my earthly body would be required, and I would hope that our earthly clothes would be totally superfluous.
If I were to be buried, the only reason for a suit or dress would be mostly to appease the sensibilities of the mourners. And if I would decide that it mattered that much to them, then I’m ready for cremation, and a nice nightgown covering me would be more than enough.
- October 24, 2021 at 1:00 am #563617
My family knows I am to be cremated. Whatever they decide to do with my stuff is up to them, there’s a lot of it.
My memorial service will be the length of 1 compact disc, all songs of my choice, the last song is a sing-along, “Werewolves Of London”. My sister questioned that decision, but my neices think it’s a unique, cool idea.
NO mourning allowed/aloud.
PaulaF
- October 25, 2021 at 4:21 pm #564299
A. Not offended.
B. getting cremated, so doesn’t matter what I wear.
C. I’ll be dead, so I don’t care what I’m wearing when I get cremated.
If there did happen to be an afterlife, I’m pretty sure that you’ll be looking like the “self image” that you see in your mind’s eye, not whatever you were wearing after you’re dead. So think up a cute outfit to wear on the red carpet to the pearly gates… 😉
xoxo
Rayna
- October 22, 2021 at 6:24 am #562945
Thank You! Your so sweet
- October 22, 2021 at 8:12 pm #563182
My toenails are always colored. I change the color when I get tired of the color. (That could be an hour, or a few weeks.) Or the polish is worn and needs re-doing.
What ever color they are, will be the color they are.
- October 23, 2021 at 5:58 am #563295Anonymous
You might want to research this plan. I did. My local medical school won’t accept bodies without all the parts.
So it’s either organ donation and cremation or burial, or body to science, not both.
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