My first full make up

[Nika]

I just have to share my recent experience.

Up to now my wife has been ok with me wearing lipstick around her. I asked if I could experiment with her base/foundation as I need to figure out my shade.
My wife said I could get her make up kit and find some things I could use.

She gave me foundation, blush, eye shadow and mascara, I could not believe my luck. I will say she was a little uncomfortable seeing me once it was all on and we had a great conversation but I am just so happy she allowed that for now.

Take care you lovely ladies.

Nika
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[April Sinclair]

Awesome good for you glad that she was open and shared in the experience with you. I am happy for you. How did your conversation go what where her comments and questions to you?

My wife doesn’t really like watching me apply makeup not what she envisions her man doing. A little easier after I am done but then she comments you use way to much makeup I say I need to for contouring beard cover to try to look presentable she responds you wear more than 80% of women. I say I am trying to blend in the best I can to look classy and present the best female image I can she says your big almost 6’6 235 lbs you move and talk like a man people know your a man. I say I enjoy it and want to emulate a woman in appearance the best I can for the canvas I have she has gone out with dressed 4 times the last 2.5 years and has had fun she knows it is a part of who I am she just wishes I didn’t have this desire or hobby.

[Nika]

Firstly, your photos are gorgeous and you look so happy 🤗.

My wife also has limited makeup experience but she shared what she could with me, how to apply various items, what to watch out for etc.

When it was all applied she got a little uncomfortable because I did not look like the man she married so (in a way) it was good 🤣🤣🤣

We chatted about how she felt and what compromises we/I could make like focusing on foundation, blush and highlights but leave the eye shadow and Mascara for now.

I’ll focus on that (at least I know her colour works on me 😊) for now and see how it goes.

I have learnt that she is trying and if I give her space she let’s me try things (like closed shoe short heels instead of stilettos 🤣🤣🤣

All the best on your journey, try talk about what your wife is comfortable with and let her grow with you, I hope it helps.

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[April Sinclair]

Thanks I do believe in many photos I look like a woman I dress at home mainly but have been out in public to CD trans get togethers with our sisters so to speak for the most part 25-30 times and I have the desire to go out same atmosphere or get togethers about 8 to 12 times a year is my goal. I love being a man and also love dressing like and trying to appear like a woman.
Best to you Nika communication is key

[Ashley Konners]

That’s so great Nika, sounds like your wife is somewhat ok with it but don’t push to hard. Baby steps is what I use with wife.

[Suzanne Martin]

Nika –

Happy for you that you were able to do that and your wife was helpful.

Last year my wife and I were shopping and she said while we’re here lets look at make up for you.  She surprised me when she said that.  We went to the cosmetic section and she picked out foundation, pancake powder, blush, eye liner, mascara, lipstick, make up brushes and make up sponges as well as a cosmetic bag to hold it all.  I was very happy that she did that for me.  When we got home she took the time to do my make up for me explaining along the way.  Again I was surprised when she did that but it was nice.

I only do make up on occassion when I’m home alone and depending on how much time I have depends on what I use.  I do put on lipstick every morning while she is still sleeping.  I love the lipstick marks left on my coffee cup, it is such a girly thing.

Good luck with your make up, practice, practice, practice.

XOXO
Suzanne

[Nika]

Oh wow, that is amazing, we are so similar, I also love to put lipstick on every day and I love the marks it leaves ony glass. 🤗

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[Leah]

that’s awesome she opened p her makeup bag to you.  A step in the right direction.

[Wanda Ovahear]

Nika and Suzanne, great experiences. Thanks for starting the thread and sharing. Ashley, great advice, it’s in our natures to be boundary pushers but you don’t want to push too hard or go too far. There’s a theory in education called Zone of Proximal Development. It’s that optimal point where your students are taking in and accommodating/assimilating learning effectively. I think there’s a zone like that bringing along our SOs.

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