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    Stevie Steiner
    Founder
    Registered On: June 11, 2020
    Topics: 88
    Replies: 2002
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    Hi girls, I hope you are all well.  I felt a need to address some issues that have come up lately.

    There have been several girls who have moved on recently for one reason or another.   Some have had family crises, some have ended their journey, some feel shame- there are many reasons.  And yes, some have been banned for improper behavior or repeatedly flaunting site policy.

    Many members do not see the reasoning because the offending post has been removed, or never see the abusive PM’s we receive.  Many rely on second hand information and rumours to understand it and never get the whole picture.  Or they get a warped picture….

    Concerning Hollys’ ” what’s going on” post (since deleted), please understand that insulting the staff or our site is not tolerated – obviously.  And – I’m glad someone shared this – being divisive and trying to get members to leave is just wrong.  It is frankly petty and a cheap shot, and you will be banned for it.   We strive to make this a safe and secure site for all, but people and policies must be respected.

    Management does encourage everyone to contact us if you have concerns or issues.  Give us an opportunity to address the situation and do NOT rant in the forums.  No, management does not explain all the decisions they make – that would take forever – but we will try to clear up any confusion or disinformation.

    CDH may not be everybody’s cup of tea, but we work to make this a secure place for us to share our journeys, and the joys and pains that come with it.

    I’d like to think of us as an extended family.  We may have our differences, but we are all here in it together.  And I love the strength that gives us.

    Thanks!

    Stevie

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    • #612496
      Astrid Lenore
      Lady
      Registered On: March 3, 2019
      Topics: 22
      Replies: 512
      Has thanked: 403 times
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      Can I once again give a shout out to all our moderators and the hard, thankless, and often tearful work they put in out of the generosity of their own hearts?  Bless them for keeping this site from becoming another cesspool of internet cringe. <3

      4 users thanked author for this post.
    • #611994
      Regine Kelly
      Lady
      Registered On: October 9, 2020
      Topics: 44
      Replies: 1448
      Has thanked: 20372 times
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      Could someone please give me a link to “site Policy”, I cannot seem to find it and would like to re read it
      Thank you

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    • #611746
      Terri Anne
      Ambassador
      Registered On: February 7, 2018
      Topics: 33
      Replies: 1285
      Has thanked: 1911 times
      Been thanked: 2792 times

      Well Done Stevie,

      Thank You,

      Terri Anne

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    • #610946
      Tina Que
      Lady
      Registered On: April 14, 2021
      Topics: 58
      Replies: 298
      Has thanked: 1196 times
      Been thanked: 1764 times

      I don’t read every post but it seems to have calmed down considerably in the last month. I would think this is due to moderator’s actions.

      Thank you for making CDH a safe place to post.

    • #610908
      Michelle Skylar
      Lady
      Registered On: March 18, 2021
      Topics: 3
      Replies: 243
      Has thanked: 907 times
      Been thanked: 909 times

      Many years ago I witnessed something happen in a forum that wasn’t being properly moderated (my opinion). The end result was deeply disturbing. This is the first forum I have participated in since leaving it.

      I will miss some of the members that are no longer here but I would never want to see something like that again.

    • #610907
      Lara Tucker
      Lady
      Registered On: September 29, 2021
      Topics: 2
      Replies: 1183
      Has thanked: 26192 times
      Been thanked: 4320 times

      Thanks to all that keep this a safe and friendly place!
      Love, and hugs,

      Lara

    • #610899
      Mandy Wife
      Baroness
      Registered On: September 12, 2019
      Topics: 11
      Replies: 264
      Has thanked: 166 times
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      It saddens me what’s happened recently.  So many people I used to talk to have gone (for whatever reason) and unfortunately it just doesn’t seem the same.

      The SOs forum is pretty non existent and no-one posts any more, I’ve tried a few times and maybe just am occasional reply.  I hope thats a good thing and people are happy in their relationships, but there were also those of us who are supportive and who did post but it just all seems to have died off.

      Shame really as I learnt as much from reading other dressers and SOs posts and that “educational” side now seems to be missing, which is why I joined CDH in the first place.

      • #612497
        Astrid Lenore
        Lady
        Registered On: March 3, 2019
        Topics: 22
        Replies: 512
        Has thanked: 403 times
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        Not much I can do on the SO side of things (being a happily celibate CD) but on the educational side, I hope if you haven’t gotten the memo already please feel free to ask away, either in public forum or private message if you’re feeling shy.  And bless you for being here in the first place, it means a lot to us and especially your SO.

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      • #610904
        BillieJay
        Managing Ambassador
        Registered On: September 21, 2018
        Topics: 2195
        Replies: 354
        Has thanked: 1074 times
        Been thanked: 1869 times

        I don’t know if Mrs Jay takes part in the SO forums but she does chat with my friends in public chat.

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    • #610879
      BillieJay
      Managing Ambassador
      Registered On: September 21, 2018
      Topics: 2195
      Replies: 354
      Has thanked: 1074 times
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      And in response to a question posed yesterday we currently have 34,907 members on the site.

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      • #610883
        Cerys Burton
        Lady
        Registered On: February 2, 2021
        Topics: 70
        Replies: 223
        Has thanked: 210 times
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        How many are active/regular contributors, I wonder. I’m admin to a FB group (non CD) that has 10,000 members, but only about 100 are active/contributors. A lot of the non contributors will like posts, but not actually post anything. The vast majority are dormant.

        Cerys.
        PS. I’m not actually looking for, nor requesting an answer…. Just wondering.

        • #612498
          Astrid Lenore
          Lady
          Registered On: March 3, 2019
          Topics: 22
          Replies: 512
          Has thanked: 403 times
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          Hoping this doesn’t come across as overly jaded but welcome to the internet.

          2 users thanked author for this post.
        • #610906
          BillieJay
          Managing Ambassador
          Registered On: September 21, 2018
          Topics: 2195
          Replies: 354
          Has thanked: 1074 times
          Been thanked: 1869 times

          We have a LOT of people who make an account to look around but never post anywhere.
          I don’t have the stats on how many active members we have, but I’m betting 1% would be a peak.

        • #610885
          Michelle McQueen
          Lady
          Registered On: June 14, 2021
          Topics: 29
          Replies: 1664
          Has thanked: 11474 times
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          Hi Cerys

          I’m not a moderator but from looking at poll numbers it seems like there are about 200 members who regularly visit. One would think with that many there would be more lively forums but most probably just lurk.

    • #610192
      Lynda Jones
      Baroness - Annual
      Registered On: September 1, 2021
      Topics: 0
      Replies: 151
      Has thanked: 1592 times
      Been thanked: 547 times

      Thanks for all your time a energy keeping CDH free of rants and rages.
      Lynda

    • #610191
      ChloeC
      Duchess
      Registered On: November 5, 2019
      Topics: 14
      Replies: 629
      Has thanked: 2335 times
      Been thanked: 2996 times

      Having been a mod on another somewhat similar site, I fully and thankfully appreciate all the work that the moderators here put in to keep this a safe, welcoming, sharing site. Thank you.

      Hugs, ChloeC

      p.s. it wore me out.

    • #610082
      BillieJay
      Managing Ambassador
      Registered On: September 21, 2018
      Topics: 2195
      Replies: 354
      Has thanked: 1074 times
      Been thanked: 1869 times

      To add to this a bit, we don’t publicly shame people for infractions. You may only see that someone disappears, whereas they’ve been coached privately by the managers more than 10 times and the behavior and complaints about them are still coming.
      I don’t put up a post every time someone has an image pulled for a full butt showing, we coach and go on. But when it keeps happening there’s an issue that needs to be addressed.
      None of the managers removes an established member without discussing it with all of the managers.

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