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Sabrina (Brina) MacTavish replied to the topic "And so it goes…" – 21 hours ago
fun story! thanks for sharing 🙂
Sabrina (Brina) MacTavish replied to the topic "And so it goes…" – 2 days ago
I’ve had decent success on eBay. I’ve sold on it the past 4 years. It’s better than throwing it in the trash or giving it away. I still do with some, but those memories deserve a new home. Thanks for… Read more»
Sabrina (Brina) MacTavish replied to the topic "And so it goes…" – 2 days ago
thanks for the sweet compliment! 🙂
Sabrina (Brina) MacTavish replied to the topic "And so it goes…" – 3 days ago
Funny… Great comments. I think… for some of us… it might help to equate being a CD to a hobby enthusiast. It doesn’t always need to mean more, and sometimes it does. I believe that is where the acceptance comes… Read more»
Sabrina (Brina) MacTavish replied to the topic "And so it goes…" – 3 days ago
That’s a good plan… swapping. I bounce between sizes summer to winter and always promise myself to lose more weight, get in better shape, and fit into those items that are (truly and not just in my mind) to small… Read more»
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Sabrina (Brina) MacTavish replied to the topic "And so it goes…" – 6 days ago
Nice story! Thanks for sharing and the compliments 🙂 I agree on keeping some of those memories. I have some as well. It’s the random things that I’ve bought that aren’t necessary to save for “A maybe day”.
Sabrina (Brina) MacTavish replied to the topic "And so it goes…" – 6 days ago
The worst part of my biggest purge… all of the photos. I deleted every photo over a 5 year period from my initial Brina beginnings. I did it because I wanted to try another relationship free of her. We all… Read more»
Sabrina (Brina) MacTavish replied to the topic "And so it goes…" – 1 weeks ago
I remember growing up, the one phrase that my mother would use on me, “Because I said so.” My dad would chip in with, “Just because!” If there were ever a word that described my parents, because would be it…. Read more»
Sabrina (Brina) MacTavish replied to the topic "And so it goes…" – 1 weeks ago
They are much easier to take pictures in than videos… unless I want to win money on America’s Funniest Videos… I’m not a carpenter, my father was. My need for large power tools is nil. I’ve sold many of his… Read more»
Sabrina (Brina) MacTavish replied to the topic "And so it goes…" – 1 weeks ago
The only time I wear a hat is when golfing or fishing, so I get by with only a select few (I have a bucket full of others that have accumulated through various events…) I’d love to head to the… Read more»
Sabrina (Brina) MacTavish replied to the topic "And so it goes…" – 1 weeks ago
Good comments, Angela! Thanks for sharing 🙂
Sabrina (Brina) MacTavish replied to the topic "And so it goes…" – 1 weeks ago
Thanks for the comments. Yes, if I counted all the ones that I bought, tried on, didn’t like, gave away, sold on ebay, I wouldn’t be surprised if I bought the same one twice. I’ve settled on a style that… Read more»
Sabrina (Brina) MacTavish posted a new topic "And so it goes…" – 1 weeks ago
Living in Iowa (I assume the same could be said of other areas) there is an old saying, “Don’t like the weather, wait ten minutes.” I played my first round of golf this year on February 7th. For perspective, last… Read more»
Sabrina (Brina) MacTavish wrote a new post 1 weeks ago
And so it goes… Living in Iowa (I assume the same could be said of other areas) there is an old saying, “Don’t like the weather, wait ten minutes.” I playe
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Sabrina (Brina) MacTavish replied to the topic "I got a Letter!" – 3 weeks ago
That’s great! I’m still at DADT with my children, but we all know. Being on my own, I can do whatever I want, so that isn’t my issue. I’m blessed to have that! Most don’t. I try not to live… Read more»
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“…not because I need them, but because they are his.” Yes. I’m one of many readers that can relate to keeping some things that once were their parents. On the flip side, did I truly read that you had “35 wigs”😲before the eBay selling? Good for you in moving out some wigs, clothes..! I’m reducing collections, too: cassette tapes . 300+ mostly not prerecorded.
Brina , I really value your writings, your abilities and CDH long service.
🌹👏🏼🏆
Gratefully,
Connie, in Virginia
Thanks for the comments. Yes, if I counted all the ones that I bought, tried on, didn’t like, gave away, sold on ebay, I wouldn’t be surprised if I bought the same one twice. I’ve settled on a style that fits me. I still like to wear the extra-long ones, but wouldn’t out. I don’t do short or bobs… uggh, not me and the photos in them have long proved it. I have 3 groupings now. The whatever to wear on a daily basis while I type away, the long wigs that sometimes look great and some that I fight with the bangs in my eyes because I think they look great, and then those that I take most of my pictures in. I do the same with dresses and skirts. 🙂
Another thoughtful comment Brina. There are many reasons why people collect things, hoarders for example but there is probably other reasons why
Gathering things does cross sexes as you say. Look at hobbies males have and the amount of kit or accessories they ‘need’. Women partners do not understand, raise an eyebrow and let them get on with it. Then women collect things like clothes and all the accessories. The men raise their eyebrows and let them get on with it.
Neither seems to understand the reasoning but it is one of the same.
The difference is that men will ditch a bit of kit when a new upgrade comes along as the kit becomes superfluous, there the attachment ends. However women will have a sentimental attachment to things and have a deep seated reason why they want to keep it.
The pain of a purge is a very strong indicator of the woman inside us, it’s normal.
Good comments, Angela! Thanks for sharing 🙂
Brina, you never disappoint, another thought provoking article to which I can really relate…
I am jealous. Who would have thought to play a round of golf on 02/07 in Iowa ? For now, I am still trying to get my “swing” back after spinal surgery 3 years ago.. doctor says ok the spirit is willing but my body says “are you kidding”.. still trying though… you mentioned the polo shirts (I still have many colors and stripes not to mention of course shorts & chinos, no dungaree for this duffer) .. however you forgot all the golf caps accumulated lol!! And don’t forget the tees…
although my wife is my CDRevelation and we compromise with DADT, I try to remember her suggestion either man or girl wardrobe, buy something new similar item goes to goodwill.
unfortunately recently it doesn’t apply to my girl wardrobe 😉.. dresses and skirts out number my chinos and suits .. and panties far out number the boxers..I guess I am accused of collecting because “I want (not need) to have it” you have such a way with words ..
I appreciate and always look forward to your articles, Thank you, my friend
Warmest regards, Leonara
The only time I wear a hat is when golfing or fishing, so I get by with only a select few (I have a bucket full of others that have accumulated through various events…) I’d love to head to the shopping center with my long hair pulled through my cap, in my cute golf outfit, and wearing oversized sunglasses on my perfectly toned and tanned figure… Ah… nope, not likely. Thanks for the comments! 🙂
Hi Brina,
Thanks for another brilliant article!
I remember helping my dad go through things several times when my parents moved over the years. My dad was another depression baby. You mentioned saving any piece of wood no matter how small, and used screws, oh my yes. He passed away last year, my mom finally got me to take his toolbox on wheels. I too have some tools now that I know I will never use, but how can I throw away some of these tools that I helped him work on things with from my earliest memories?!
I’m thinking now too about some of the things I have collected over time, femme items, and otherwise.
I absolutely love your picture with the article! I’m another lover of 6 inch platform heels. I seem to gravitate toward that style. You look great in them!
Lara
They are much easier to take pictures in than videos… unless I want to win money on America’s Funniest Videos… I’m not a carpenter, my father was. My need for large power tools is nil. I’ve sold many of his already. I’ve condensed the camping and fishing items (still have too many–I have lots of my own as well.) He was also a massive photographer with slides, albums, and cameras galore. I will invest in a converter for them and the 8 mm videos. I gave a way nearly 80 pounds of used nails, screws, bolts, notes etc. All the drawers of items… so many duplications. He filled up the garage, building cupboards to hold things, built a shed, added a second one, and then put on a second level. Over the last 10 years he’d always say that he might need it but when he could have used it, he’d go buy new.
Thanks for the comments 🙂
Brina –
Thank you for a thoughtful article.
I can relate to what you said. I have an accumulation of things that I need to purge – fishing equipment, knick knacks., clothes, tools and more. My father was also someone who held onto everything. It took a long time to clean out his house when he passed. I have enough fishing equipment to open my own sporting goods store because 1- some of it was my Dad’s (tools as well), 2- I will use it one day, 3- can’t be replaced and 4 – because it is mine.
I’ve only been dressing for a few years but have accumulated quite a wardrobe. I have no intentions of getting rid of anything even though I may not have a chance to wear it.
I need to purge but have a hard time doing it. One day I’ll get serious and do what needs to be done.
XOXOSuzanne
I remember growing up, the one phrase that my mother would use on me, “Because I said so.” My dad would chip in with, “Just because!” If there were ever a word that described my parents, because would be it. I have my attachments, we all do. I have the complete book collections of my four favorite authors, two of whom I first started collecting when I was 14, nearly 50 years now. They are still writing. Oh, how I miss several of the shoes, wigs, accessories, and outfits that I have purged over the years. I had a perfect wig, it was me, and I’ve never been able to find one that is similar. I used to throw it away or give it to out of town thrift stores, now I sell the good items so another girl can get a bargain. Shoes have been the hardest for me to let go of, even when they don’t fit, but I am. I rotate through all my feminine attire but wear the same few items in male mode. I’ll keep working at it…
Thanks for the comments!
I really can’t put a word to describe my parents. They were so different. My mother was raised by the nuns so she was as stern as could be without showing any compassion. My father was a softie who loved hugs and kisses. I recall standing on the back seat of the car as a child with both my hands wrapped around my dads head while he was driving. I would rub my hands across his face to feel the stubble. Lol
Purged clothing. Omg, if only I could walk into a room and find everything I purged. Some of the sexiest shoes I have ever owned went to the wayside. Those shoes are not even available today. White and red steletto birdcage heels, oh, the patent pumps with toe cleavage, good lord, I have to stop thinking about it. The skirts with slits, and the blouses with ties in the front to make a bow. That’s it! Off to the closet to see what I can find to wear today. Lol
The worst part of my biggest purge… all of the photos. I deleted every photo over a 5 year period from my initial Brina beginnings. I did it because I wanted to try another relationship free of her. We all know how that worked out. Not saying I was a model, but I have never been in as good of shape as I was then, and I could rock the heels. Thanks for the comments! 🙂
Again Brina, thank you for another one of your great articles. Everything you said is so spot on and is so true for so many of us, from just wanting equal acceptance as a CD to hording. I don’t really like the term hording it sounds so harsh to me. I prefer the title, keeper of memories instead. Sure I do have those pieces of wood that I might use and many that I know that I never will, I just haven’t gotten rid of them yet. But I do have things like a brand new pair of panty hose that a dear friend of mine gave me when she worked for ” Legs ” there still in the plastic egg, never worn, just didn’t like the color, but I’ll never get rid of them because they were a gift, lovingly given to me by someone who excepted me as a CD and wanted to support me. That was 45 years ago. I know exactly were they are under a hand full of skirts that don’t really fit me but I love how they look and feel. Should I get rid of them, maybe, but why they still hold a dear memory in my heart. My grandmother who did go through the depression and came out of it with very little, did instill on me the need to fix what can be and reuse everything before it can’t be fixed anymore. I just took it a little farther and keep things because I might still might be able to fix them. It’s just so hard for me to throw away a memory that I can still hold in my hand and touch.
Thank you again for all you do for us.
Sherri
Nice story! Thanks for sharing and the compliments 🙂 I agree on keeping some of those memories. I have some as well. It’s the random things that I’ve bought that aren’t necessary to save for “A maybe day”.
Hi there. The weather, yes I am 700 miles north of you in Manitoba, temp range from 40 above to minus 40 and everywhere in between. The wigs I don’t know how I ended up with 40 or so but they are there. I can’t get rid of them, I just love em too much. At our CD Club I have implemented a swap meet policy, so we have one every few months. I have been able to move a few items to other girls. I would never purge, in fact, I have trouble believing CD girls actually can do that. We had one member who gave away his stash and promptly asked for it back 2 months later (our Den Mother had held on to it expecting he would return for it). LOL. Good article. My only regret about dressing as a woman is that I didn’t start it a long time ago. Like 25 years ago.
That’s a good plan… swapping. I bounce between sizes summer to winter and always promise myself to lose more weight, get in better shape, and fit into those items that are (truly and not just in my mind) to small for me to realistically fit into. I like to buy and have the moment when trying on something new to me. Many times, it’s a “No” so it needs to go. I like to sell them to others, as I can give a certain amount of information to help another person get something nice that has a decent chance of looking good on them. I’m with you on wishing I’d done it much sooner… Thanks for the comments 🙂
Brina,
Another great article. I haven’t been on the site in quite a while, but I had to read your article. I would easily qualify for Golf Digests worst avid golfer. Besides the money, I was always amazed at how much money I spent to suck at something in weather I would NEVER work in. Then water skiing. And RVing – the most expensive hobby yet! All that spent on CDing and I could have rivaled queen Elizabeth. I just came into this too late and too married.
Gwyn
Funny… Great comments. I think… for some of us… it might help to equate being a CD to a hobby enthusiast. It doesn’t always need to mean more, and sometimes it does. I believe that is where the acceptance comes in. Once you say, “This is ok, I’m ok” we can shake off the negatives and enjoy the moments. Thanks for the response. 🙂
Thanks for posting!! You are the first person that I have talked to on CDH for 4 years. Miss you and all the ladies! So glad you have accepted me again 🙂
thanks for the sweet compliment! 🙂
Great article Brina. I myself, need to do a purging of things I have collected over the years. I have way too much stuff in my garage, basement and outfits. I think eBay is a great place to sell these items. A little reluctant to list my cd items on eBay since I have never listed any of them. Well I need to start and this was great motivation. Thank you for sharing the detailed story. -Traci
I’ve had decent success on eBay. I’ve sold on it the past 4 years. It’s better than throwing it in the trash or giving it away. I still do with some, but those memories deserve a new home. Thanks for the comments.
As always a nicely written article. I don’t really know much about golf to say allot but I do have a fond childhood memory of a step daddie who I never connected with. Most likely due to who I had begun to come. He was always trying to change me, thought I should do things other boys did, IE: baseball, football, fishing etc. NOT! However, he was helping build a huge golf course just outside of where we live. My mother asked me to ride with her to go pick him up from work. When we got there he came out to the car and said come with me, weird I thought. But I followed him to a building and he filled a old milk pale full of golf balls and handed it to me said come on boy. Walked out to the driving range, showed me how to hold the club, set the ball on the tee then swing. It wasn’t good the first few swings but he said keep trying. In awhile I seemed surprised at my progress and by the time I swung and hit the last remaining ball it sailed. Yayyyy I was now on my way to become a professional golf player. However, needless to say, it didn’t happen. Sorry for long reply, couldn’t say it any shorter. Thanks Brina for this article and putting a smile on my face. 😍
fun story! thanks for sharing 🙂