Crossdressing Success Story - An unusual success story

Thank you Johnny for sharing your thoughts with me. Oh yes, depression almost did me in but it's history now thank God. I'm a happy girl everyday and it tickles me. I'm so delighted to just be one of the girls at last that my joy and energy overflows like a flood washing over everyone I meet and like magic, a spell is cast over them. They cheer up and warm up giving me happy smiling faces in return, friendly and helpful. I hope you get some more time as Priscilla and those job restrictions wont last forever. You and the Mrs. both get a big hug.

I'm awestruck by the power your spirit can have when it burns as bright as a blue white star. I've cut the word impossible out of my dictionary. Good luck Johnny.

I'm happy for you too Tonya. Way to go girl. You're absolutely right. You get a big hug too. :)<<

What a coincidence Marty, I am a Senior Programmer Analyst experienced on the IBM iSeries machines programming in ILE RPG and CL for business and government applications. The last job I had lasted 7 years and paid $104,000.00 a year. I worked there as Gordon but it was obvious the whole time I was gender bent wearing low heel women's shoes, two pair of one inch gold hoop earrings, simple blouses, one inch acrylic nails with bright metallic colors like pink, raspberry, lavender and even bright red. Used to compare nail colors with my manager, Doris. Add an occasional A cup Bali bra, always wearing hi cut panties (Bali's Lacey Skamp was my favorite), medium length hair and you've got the picture. Most Halloweens I dressed as Shirley and won first prize a couple times.

So how much can you get away with? Plenty. I can practically guarantee you that once you have 3 to 5 years programming experience you could show up for an interview as Ronald McDonald and as long as you had a rational explanation they'd still seriously consider you for the position. There's never enough programmers and most companies can't afford to hire as many as they'd like to get all the projects they want to do done. I would look for another job but I don't have to work and am reluctant to give up my free time for a full time position. Unless your rich it always seems to be a compromise between time and money. If I decide to look for a programming job I will go to the interview as Shirley and make it perfectly clear that I'm going to work as Shirley or it's no deal.

There is one thing I remember that Henry Ford said that has burned into my brain since I started living as Shirley full time March 15th of this year, "You can think you can or you can think you can't and either way you're right." OMG! All those years I thought I couldn't I could've been Shirley rejoicing instead of Gordon the miserable and depressed for two decades. What a waste. It wasn't worth the sacrifice.
Don't make the same mistake. Follow your heart.

Hi Elisa,
I'll be darned if there isn't always a price to pay to jump that gender fence and no one seems to be able make it cost more than family. Expect the unexpected. Have a good counselor to help you through it. I have only one brother and currently he doesn't want to see me as Shirley and I'm not planning to see him until he does yet he has no problem talking to me on the phone as if nothing had changed. Go figure. I was living with my daughter when I suddenly went full time and we were fiercely at odds over her children seeing me for the first two months. Talk about anger and upset and hurt feelings on both sides. So I have paid and am paying the price but it is so worth it I would pay it again. I'm way too happy as Shirley to even consider going back to being Gordon for anyone or any reason at all, period. No way Jose.

Just from the little you've said I have little doubt that you'll be very happy as Elisa and filled with joy and energy. Just being yourself makes your spirit shine so bright everyone can see. That's what makes the magic work for you and you become beautiful and charismatic. The corpse of a fashion model is not attractive but a happy woman always is.

Good luck with everything Elisa Michelle. Break the chains and be free.
With hugs,
Shirley

Hi Antome. If I understand what you're saying correctly I can see why you might think I'm a transsexual but really I'm not. I have not undergone sexual reassignment surgery (SRS) and am unwilling to do so. For me SRS would be a pointless waste. I will keep the organs I was born with. I have no plans to get hormone replacement therapy (HRT). The feminizing effects of HRT would be nice but it also causes chemical castration and again I am unwilling to pay that price. I am transgendered, not transsexual, and there is a big difference. So yes I live as a woman and I'm very comfortable in the feminine role. It comes quite naturally to me but should not be confused with sexual orientation or actual sexual behavior. I've only been in relationships with women, never men, and that's the way it's going to stay. The extent to which a cross dresser feels feminine varies widely and I've personally met more than 300 of them. I met a cross dresser once who was nicely dressed from head to toe and he told me, "I don't feel feminine." I had no reason to doubt his word but it certainly made me wonder why he bothered to get dressed up if he had no interest in feminine expression. The difference between him, transsexuals and everyone in between is today considered a gender spectrum made up of infinite points. More appropriately in this regard I'd call it a transgendered spectrum. We can try to categorize people many different ways but the bottom line is human beings are not that simple.

According to the best statistics I've gathered cross dressers are about one out of a hundred men and transsexuals may be about one out of 10,000 but those who choose to live as women but do not transition like a transsexual are apparently very rare indeed and I happen to be one of them.

Good luck you guys. lol

Hey Shirley, So wonderful to hear an update from you hon!!
Thanks for giving back to the community, it's a blessing to have members of the transgender community like you.

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