In a lot of my posts/responses, I’ve shared a lot of what is me, but there’s still a whole lot more. While venturing outside of my home in dress, I’ve never gone anywhere near where others might even slightly be in close proximity so I can’t comment on the original question. But as for me (and as me), I’ve found I’m very self-aware, that is, I’m constantly evaluating what I’m doing and especially around others, how I’m interacting with them and they with me, and how I should be acting and/or responding, not just verbally, but emotionally, physically etc. So I tend to watch rather closely, without trying to be obvious, and maybe try to pick up cues from others I’m interacting with.
And I notice that with some women (not all, but some, single and married), I get the feeling that I’m getting a lot more than just the cursory glances and acceptance of my being part of whatever group. Like more smiles directed my way, more attention being paid to what I’m saying, or suggesting, more so than to other males in the group. I don’t think it’s anything like flirting as such, but I do think women do pay attention to men, just not necessarily in the same way or to the almost leering degree that men seem to do to women. Maybe it’s something women do over time, that the little time most cross-dressers are able to spend, it’s not something that is readily noticeable. Or, maybe they’re picking up that I’m paying attention to who they are, not what they are and they’re just naturally returning the favor, but I do wonder sometimes about what’s going on.
Oh, and I’ve never, ever felt that about other males I’m around – as far as I can tell – we’re all just ‘guys’, hangin’ around, spittin’ and chewin’, cussin’ and leerin’, except I don’t do any of that, because I don’t find it interesting in the least. When I do look at other women, it’s to see how they’re dressed, how they hold themselves, how they just go through life…and I sigh.