Reply To: help ! partner to newly(ish) out CD

[Davida X]

thank you everyone for your responses and care. It is great to feel heard and have some other perspectives. This is just my version of our story and he would probably tell it very differently. He has told me that he is not having sex with anyone else, and he wouldn’t unless we had talked about it first,  and I choose to believe this. Our sex life is pretty dormant ( this predates this year and is due to my lack of interest in sex) and I have recognised that this is not fair to him – once again an issue that predates any talk or my knowledge of CD. I think he is doing the best he can but I do think that he is behaving without respect and selfishly. thank you to others for saying this as I feel understood. this really is an amazing group,  I have been reading many other people’s stories and it is very helpful to me. x