Reply To: Dressing and progress – Fiona’s Paradox……

[April Sinclair]

I can understand that for sure when I was working full time and had kids at home I would have to plan when to dress and only once or twice a year then it was really quick or for a short amount of time. It progressed a little and was easier when they got older to just get a room at night suggested by my wife then I could take my time and not have to rush my dressing did this a few times a year but still had to be planned. Now that I am retired with just my wife and I it has worked even better as out of respect to wife I let her know that I am going to dress she was working away from home for awhile but now has a work from home job. She then has let me know ok go ahead twice over the las two years she asked that I wait till the next day or the weekend. The weekend she asked me to wait till she made us a nice dinner with wine made me feel acceptance from her when she did that. We have taken steps forward and some back as she tolerates April well at times and other times not as well. I understand that and try to dress when the urge is greater and feel the desire and need to do so last year was 20 times total with 14 being at home. The urgency to dress has found a balance as I now understand that if I cant one day then I will be able to the next day or within a couple of days. My wife is the only family that knows and she is my second wife nit the mother of my children even though she has been a better mother than their birth mother. My desire does increase before I go to scheduled CD events where I have the opportunity to dress in public. I have enjoyed and appreciate the balance now then what I had a few years back fir sure.