Do you have a learning disability, or did you find school unusually difficult as a child?

Do you have a learning disability, or did you find school unusually difficult as a child? I have a learning disability, although it was never properly diagnosed it was suggested by teachers and some specialists that I may be dyslexic. I think these days I'd be diagnosed with an executive function disorder, but as a child in the 80s I was just lazy and disorganized. I heard some time ago, I forget where possibly on a podcast, about a correlation between learning disabilities such as dyslexia and a tenancy to being on the transgender spectrum. This got me to wondering if there is something about brain chemistry, structure or development that people with learning disabilities and those on the trans spectrum share. Just wondering how many of my CDH family have a learning disability of struggled in school.

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    DeLora
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    Do you have a learning disability, or did you find school unusually difficult as a child?

    I have a learning disability, although it was never properly diagnosed it was suggested by teachers and some specialists that I may be dyslexic. I think these days I’d be diagnosed with an executive function disorder, but as a child in the 80s I was just lazy and disorganized.

    I heard some time ago, I forget where possibly on a podcast, about a correlation between learning disabilities such as dyslexia and a tenancy to being on the transgender spectrum. This got me to wondering if there is something about brain chemistry, structure or development that people with learning disabilities and those on the trans spectrum share.

    Just wondering how many of my CDH family have a learning disability of struggled in school.

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      Meran Berwyck
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      I hated school.  Most of it I hated math.  I was not good at it, and couldn’t understand it.  I remember asking myself “when will I ever need to multiply or divide fractions?”.  I was good at science, English, and spelling.  I even hated Social Studies & History,  but now I’m a big fan of history!  I hated reading, too.  However, at home, I used to thumb through the Encyclopedias we had, page by page.  I’d always find something that sparked my interest and actually read about it!  My niche was mechanics after HS.  But I didn’t use my knowledge as I should have.  I worked hundreds of different jobs all my working life.  (I’m retired now).

      My father forced common sense into me as well.  With that and my knowledge of physics, I scored very high on the IQ scale.  For those who think I may be smart, IQ isn’t what you know, it’s how you use what you know.

      I wasn’t a ‘troublemaker’ in school, but I got in trouble for associating with troublemakers.  I wanted to learn at my own pace, not force-fed as they were doing.  Yeah, I was against authority who didn’t respect me.  Still am.

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      Charlotte Biggam
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      Not exactly CD or learning difficulty, but during a professional conversation about autism someone told me that more than half the patients at the Tavistock and Portland Clinic (the only NHS GRS clinic, they said) have autism.

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      Mary Thompson
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      I have a learning disability now.  I had a stroke as a result of an operation that went bad.  The doctor tried to do a biopsy on my brain and he caused a bleed which caused a stroke.  Now I have a real difficult time remembering anything that is new.   I still remember things from when I was 2 years old but I have trouble remembering things that happened 2 minutes ago.

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      Bubblie Commen Loco
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      Well lemme see, when I was in middle School and like in the 5th grade as I can remember, I was struggling with math (what child really doesn’t struggle with math!) so I was failing the subject because I just didn’t understand or really didn’t want to try to, I was placed in S.E. for math. But by the time I got to High School I didn’t need any more special education course’s. Wound up doing extremely well never failed a 6weeks throughout my 4years of High School was on All A honor Roll AB honor roll more, . I do think that the SE course that I was in truly helped me with understanding how to work out problems, thank you….
      Bubbles…

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      Bobbi Watt
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      Hi my name is Bobbi I have a twin sister and I am dyslexic look at a twin study . When I was in school my mind was on other things like the girl in side me . Today I learn things a lot faster knowing what it is all about .Thank you

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      Alysha
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      Hi DeLora,

      Yes, I here you, I have the same problem but I went through school in the 50’s and 60’s. I was called stupid and many times sat in the corner because I mistook WAS as SAW just that’s the way I saw it. (If there is any typo or misspelling please understand). Now that I’m in my 70ies I find that I use GOOGLE a lot to correct the spelling, but it does correct for run on sentences or just bad writing. Somehow I got through life fine, was in a business with a partner for thirty years that pulled in a 6 digit salary, retired now and able to do what I choose with very little limits.

      I would say the brain works wanders and one compensates for the disability. Thanks for the post, more people I hope will understand.

       

      Hugs

      Alysha

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      Daisy Marie
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      Hey ladies,

      During my childhood I was that typical hyperactive child who didn’t queue at school or simply wanted to do certain things according to my taste, not following orders. Nevertheless, I was far beyond the average when it comes to learning skills and intelligence.

      After some sessions with psychologist, neurologist and many situations when my parents spanked me as well, I got “on rails” and both intelligence and trauma flourished.

      When I was 17, I was accepted as a engineer student in one of the most known universities in Brazil. Three years after, my first major depression arose (and almost took my life).

      Only during my second depression (in 2016, after coming back from UK to Brazil) I received a diagnosis of ADHD (predominantly hyperactive). I took stimulants during one year and stopped because of the side effects (I felt I was close to a heart stroke many times). Nowadays, I feel much better from both ADHD and depression, despite that in certain dull days I still feel typical things of both of them happening with me. Therefore, it’s likely that I’ll have to cope with those symptoms (or fake alerts) for a looooong time…..

      xoxo

      Daisy

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      Dana-Leigh MacRoberts
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      there needs to be more research in the area of transsexualism/transgenderism. on the surface there seems (i stress the word seems enough) to be some overlap between the compulsion to cross-dress and other mental illnesses not just learning disabilities but more disabling kinds of mental illness like schizoaffective disorder , clinical depression, and border-line pd. there is evidence of trans brains being wired different then the brains of the same birth sex but no one knows why or what that even means at this point. we as individuals and as a group have alot of soul searching to and alot of empirical study to get done. all my theories lead me to some place between hard science and the spirit world ,so who knows  maybe this a gift of clarity through madness or a step in evolution.

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      Jackie
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      I definitely did, I have adhd which was so unknown back then. My mother was called many times to come to the school and get me. For any of you who don’t like me for who I am I don’t care. ADHD and Bi Polar Depression are serious diseases that must not be overlooked or made fun of. 

      Jackie,,,, *Wild Child*

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      Aaron F
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      No but I have autism.

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      Isabel
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      Hi Misti,

       

      I don’t have a learning disability, however I do hava a physical disability (visual) which did make school more difficult.

      Isabel

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      Jessica Ray
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      Yes! My infant and junior school days where terrible.

      They new something was wrong but could not pinpoint it, so I went to reading school to try and sort it all out in which I excelled.

      Secondary/Comprehensive faired better but still issues with writing grammar but left further education with four o levels and 2 A levels.

      Still have some issues with grammar but a lot better. My partner notices I forget people’s names a lot but never dance steps. I am a Dance Teacher. I cannot handle a knife and fork in the correct hands but able to dance both male and female equally as well.

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      Anne Preuss
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      I don’t think I had any learning disability linked to some physical abnormality in my head.  Rather, my learning disability was based upon external environmental factors…an abusive father in childhood, a mother who was so dispirited about life that she lost any real interest in my development as a person and student in school.   When I have a singular goal in mind, I am quite capable of going after it with sustained short and long term determination.  I was an angry, unmotivated C+ student in grade/high school but the realities of life after high school graduation forced me to take responsibility for myself or face negative lifelong consequences resulting in a BSME and MBA.  Definitely my brain is wired differently….if not, why do I wish all the time I were a cisgender woman?  So I don’t see some brain abnormality linked to a learning disability as influencing my desire to dress but what else is “going on inside there” that I am unaware of?

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      Falecia McGuire
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      Hey Gang,

      I don’t know if we’ll ever figure this thing out, but we can’t be defensive about psychological or cognitive correlations.  While I’m not troubled by the associated implications, I’ve always felt the autogynephilia theory made sense.  Clearly there is something in our brains that draws us to this fascination.  Years ago, so many of us got so angry about Blanchard’s analysis and today it’s hardly mentioned.  Aren’t we kind of enthralled, captivated, excited, and overwhelmed by an image of ourselves as women?  It might be psychology, but is that so bad?  A functional disability could be a gift in disguise, I guess.  Many of us are kind of savant-like in certain aspects of our lives.

      FAM

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      Sa·man·tha
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      This is something I spent a bit of time last summer pondering also DeLora.  Thanks for posting it up.

      Crossdressing in itself strikes me as kind of a compulsive activity, and maybe even a touch dissociative for some, as evidenced by the binge / purge thing, the third person references to your feminine side, etc.

      Me?  I don’t have an official diagnosis either.  I’m guessing we must be about the same age DeLora.  I read at a college level by the time I was in 3rd grade, which made them regard me as intelligent, but my mind is erratic & undisciplined in its operation, singular focus is difficult and generally I didn’t do very well at school.  I find the way school is structured to be rigid & bureaucratic, both as a child and now as a parent.  The thing I’ve noticed is that ADD medication turns me into superwoman.  But, I didn’t have the diagnosis then and I’m not going to worry about it now, this is just how I am 😊

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      Ellie Hope
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      I’ve always had trouble with depression and focus. So many times my attention would wander even as I tried to my best to stay focused. Eventually, I came to understand that this was a problem for me a I began to fight it by constantly reminding myself not to drift off into the ether; stay focused. Later in life, my wife, a psychiatric nurse practitioner, noticed these issues and helped me begin medication and treatment. These have changed my life and improved my self esteem. Whether this has any correlation with my transgender feelings is not clear to me. I often wonder if my low testosterone level is playing a role, allowing my estrogen to testosterone ratio to be higher than is typical. But regardless of the reasons, I cherish my feminine side.

      Hugs and love
      Ellie

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      K Swim
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      I didn’t vote here. Admittedly, I had bad grades during most of my earlier years in school due the fact that I didn’t want to do it and didn’t care. I only improved because I was getting near the end and I came to realize that passing was the absolute quickest way to be done with it….without becoming a high school drop out.

      The only struggle I had was keeping the secret that I was in love with female swimsuits and knew that my life would become miserable if that secret ever got out. I knew that it was possible that there were others out there just like me, but trying to find them could ruin my efforts to keep the secret.

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      Gail
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      I had always had a hard time with school, my mind would wander all the time & when it came to Algebra I’d still be taking it if it wasn’t for the Draft Board!

      Somehow though I made it thru, with street smarts and Grades of C & D’s (hey they’re the best),  get’s you out of doing a lot of Smart Stuff, like “CONJUGATE AMO” ETC.

      So Yes I did have difficulty, until I went back to Collage under the GI Bill–seemed I got a lot smarter seeing and doing things during my military duty. I maintained and finished with a 3.65 GPA

      But now, I have no interest in reading and when I do read I can’t seem to get a grasp on any two pages.

      My Best to all————GAIL

      Girly Gail

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      Misti
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      I cant say was LD per se, but I did have a tough time concentrating and doing well. I was considered “relatively smart” per testing and in higher level classes, but I struggled to understand my school work. Nothing came easy for me, I wasn’t one of those kids who got it right away or read something or did it once and it clicked, I had to do things repetitively over and over again to a point of neurosis- OCD. Once I got it though it was pure gravy.

      M

       

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