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- July 1, 2022 at 9:34 pm #659787
Sooooo, I did a thing tonight. I got dressed in a casual outfit, white cutoffs, blue top and some wedge sandals. Tried my best with the makeup and wig, of course had on padding shorts for hips and butt and my C forms in place. Don’t think I was really passable, but I went in to that store nonetheless. Purchased one item through self check and walked out. Nervous, yeah of course, but I can check that off my list now. Don’t even think anyone looked at me other than the greeter and the driver of the car trying to get in the empty parking spot I walked by.
Oh, I did wear a mask this time as I have a facial feature that stands out and I was in my own town. Baby steps, but I am actually taking them now.
You too can do it!
Thanks for your support ladies!
- July 1, 2022 at 9:49 pm #659788
Congrats Twilla! Hope this is the first of many more outings.
For many of us, the biggest obstacle to going out isn’t our environment, it’s what’s in our heads.
- July 2, 2022 at 2:16 am #659810
Oh yes Emily. Oh yes.
Diane
- July 2, 2022 at 6:39 am #659841
I third that. I have been out many times. That first moments out is the hardest. Then you settle in realizing everyone is not pointing and yelling MAN IN DRESS.
The real tough one is jumping on a Plane and realizing you can’t run back to your car and change.
- July 2, 2022 at 2:14 am #659809
Hi Twila,
A bit nerve wracking, but it is a very special thrill.
And, you know what, Twila? You will do it again!
Nice, very nice.
Big hug to you girl,
Diane
- July 2, 2022 at 4:11 am #659826
That’s great. To me, being dressed in public is the ultimate crossdresser experience.
- July 2, 2022 at 6:25 am #659837
Going out the first few times can be scary and exhilarating all at the same time.
- July 2, 2022 at 1:52 pm #659906
Yes Jojo, scary and very exhilarating at the same time.
- July 2, 2022 at 6:32 am #659838
Hello Twilla, Congratulations on your first outing as a lady, you always remember that first day out. It is a great feeling even though a bit nerve racking, but you did it well done. Hope it will be the first of many & you will get more confedence as you go along. Take baby steps at first as you say, then you will get more daring & stay out longer, may be all day in the future. Keep going, love Helenmarie
- July 2, 2022 at 6:33 am #659839
Congratulations Twilla! You do know it only gets easier and easier now, right? 🙂
The one thing that cdh and the gals here have shown me was that my fear of being “out” and ridiculed was greatly overblown, and the only one concerned about it all was …. Me!
99% of the people just couldn’t care less about me, or my clothes.
Stevie
- July 2, 2022 at 1:51 pm #659905
I told my therapist that I was afraid of being ridiculed. She told me that while possible, it is highly unlikely.
Be brave Diane, be brave.
- July 2, 2022 at 8:19 am #659856
That is so wonderful Twilla! I am so happy for you! I have recently started going out presenting as Deanna and it was so scary at first but even after my first time, I am getting more comfortable doing it. Still super scary though. Good luck in your future outings.
- July 2, 2022 at 10:39 am #659885
Hi Twilla great job girl yes that first time is a bit overwellming to say the least then it so much easier after that congrats to you and hope for many more trips soon as you have the nerve staged up do it again he he .. I will tell you about my first trip out was just back in late march at the keystone conferance in Harrisburg PA. Wife said if i tried to hold back in hotel room she would kick me out the door and yes wife went with to conferance.. But she didnt get the chance as when Stephanie came to life i was out the door before her such a wonderful week with wife in hand and meeting so many CDH ladies there it was a blast of girly fun..
Stephanie Bass
- July 2, 2022 at 10:58 am #659889
Hi Twilla, YOU GO GIRL, its a little scary, but, people really dont pay that much attention to others, its more in your head. I get braver every day…keep it up, its exillerating
Xx
Brianna - July 2, 2022 at 2:33 pm #659908
Twilla, congrats on your first time. As many other gals told me after my first time out it can get very addictive. And I’ve found that to definitely be the case.
- July 2, 2022 at 5:20 pm #659925
Hi Twilla,
Congratulations on your first outing!
Alice
- July 2, 2022 at 5:55 pm #659938
Way to go Twilla. First time is always hard. Here’s to many more ‘hard’ adventures out.
Cassie
- July 2, 2022 at 5:57 pm #659939
Congratulations, Twilla! That first step out the door can be tough, but you did it! As someone else here said, it does get easier over time. You gradually learn more about how to best present yourself in public and thereby gain confidence. And when you are able to radiate confidence – not some nervous “deer in the headlights” look – you actually can “sell” your image better to the people around you.
- July 2, 2022 at 7:46 pm #659959Anonymous
Good for you, Twilla.
- July 2, 2022 at 7:54 pm #659963
Ladies, thanks so much for the further encouragement as I continue my journey! Y’all are certainly 100 in my book!
A testament to why I joined this community!
- July 4, 2022 at 7:15 am #660178
You are so brave! Bravo, Twilla!
- July 4, 2022 at 8:01 am #660184AnonymousLady
Way to go Twilla! But I hope you realize that the first step in going out leads to more and more because you just can’t get enough of being out in your wonderful girly clothes! You will also find most people are just too busy to notice anything other than the 2 feet in front of them. Again, congratulations on going out and enjoy your life to the fullest!
- July 7, 2022 at 3:12 pm #660990
Way to go it gets easier every time
- July 7, 2022 at 8:25 pm #661039
That’s more than I’ve ever thought of trying. Well done.
- July 8, 2022 at 8:14 am #661097
Congratulations Twilla,
I remember the anxiety and thrill of going out and about for the first time and, as been mentioned by the other ladies, you will want to do it again. I have found that the more you do it, the more you want to do it.
In my own experience, it seems that once you are out and about and are seen in public, then the anxiety lifts. It is like, ‘Well, I have been seen now so there’s nothing more to worry about.’
Those are my own thoughts anyway.
Just be yourself, Twilla and follow your dreams.
Hugs,
Aurora Eden
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