what makes you want to dress up

would like to know what makes us want to dress up in female cloths

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    • #386888
      Lucinda Hawkns
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      that was a great answer you gave,   could not pass the physical ,

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      I used to tell my wife it was a compulsion I couldn’t resist, and because the clothes felt so comfortable and so “right” on me.  Then one day recently, we were  talking, and she said she couldn’t understand why I like Dressing so much…and without thinking, I replied “Because I’m really a girl; I just can’t pass the physical”.  Could I have stumbled upon a profound truth?

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        Jennifer Lynn
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        I think you are exactly correct. My wife was correct about me which I now know. We just need to accept the reality of who we are regardless of others perception of us.

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      Lucinda Hawkns
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      i know what exactly you mean, woman’s clothing is lots more comfortable to wear, wide selection of color and fabric, style.  i love woman’s clothing over men clothing. i would prefer to wear female clothing every day if i could.    men clothing is yes very boring and no selection of style or fabric.      i love every ones responds to my post. thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings.

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      Several things make me want to dress up:

      1  it’s amazing to look like a gal, to transform myself from male to female

      2  it’s so much fun to be dressed with other crossdressers, to share the thrill of it…

      3  and it’s a turn on… I feel sexy, quietly flirty

      4  love to connect with other cds

       

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      It’s hard to believe, but we never locked the doors to our house. My father also always left his car keys in the car while it was parked in the driveway. Small town life I guess.

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      Wendy,

      I know exactly how you felt as a latchkey kid having been one myself and exploring my mother’s clothes in the same way and how you feel now and the wonderful way the stress leaves your body.

      • This reply was modified 1 month ago by Kimmie.

      Those were the days !  Latch key kids were common back then, I was surprised I never lost the key to the house.

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      Wendy,

      I know exactly how you felt as a latchkey kid having been one myself and exploring my mother’s clothes in the same way and how you feel now and the wonderful way the stress leaves your body.

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      Sharon Wiltshire
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      For me there is no “want” to dress up.  I have an absolute raw “need” to express my gender, and what is inside me.  Without it I couldn’t and wouldn’t exist.

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      I remember when I touched my mom’s pantys for the first time.  They were hanging in the bathroom, and it felt so smooth and silky.  Everytime I had to use the bathroom, I would touch it, loving the soft, smooth, silky feel.  One day after school (I was a latch key kid), I decided I would try it on.  Being a latch key kid meant my parents weren’t home but being a kid also meant I had no concept of time, as I was almost caught one time.

      When I put on the pantys, it felt heavenly, the soft, smooth, and silky feel of the material against the skin.  Compared to the tighty whiteys I wore which felt like burlap, dull, coarse, and not smooth at all.

      When I got older, I raided my mom’s closet even more, and discovered a plethora of  clothing, way better than guy clothes which was either a button shirt or t shirt and pants (BORING).  Plus the softer material for women’s clothes was so nice.

      As my CDing progressed, one reason for dressing is the wide selection of women’s clothes.  There is so much possibilities, from dresses, skirts, blouses, under garments like pantys, shapewear, and my fave one piece swimsuits.  What do guys have ?  either swimming jammers or trunks, neither are really that exciting.

      The feel of the material for women’s clothes seem to be much softer, silkier, and way smoother.  I think they must use recycled burlap for guy’s clothes because none of it feels that great against the skin.  In fact, it feels like 80 grit sandpaper.  Men’s fashion is dull, just look at award ceremonies, it is either a tux or suit/tie for guys.  But women have gorgeous evening gowns, in all different colours and materials.

      My biggest reason is stress relief.  Having to copy with work, home, and financial responsibilities takes its toll on me, and being able to dress up and put on pretty clothes/makeup gives me a way to cope with the stress.  Once I put primer on my face I can feel the stress evaporate from my mind and it gives me a sense of tranquility as I know I will be transforming into Wendy.

       

       

       

       

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        Wendy,

        Crossdressing has a calming effect on me, my wife regularly mentions that Caroline is way more relaxed than male me.

        -Caroline

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      At first it was my wife, she wanted to feminize me, she said I made a better woman than a man. As time went by I came to embrace being a woman and realized she was right. I feel calmer and more at ease than I ever did as a man. Besides who can resist the wide variety of different styles, fabrics, colors and prints that we women can wear. Men’s clothing is so plain and drab. I will dress as the woman I am until my last day on this earth and will be dressed as I take that eternal slumber.

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      I am just jealous of female clothing. I love very soft fabric like satin. I love the decorations.. lace, embroidery, gathering. I particularly like the silhouettes and ways of using collars and sleeves, and skirts and shorts or whatever, which have no parallel in male attire. In drab I can be a bit of a dandy. I like to look sharp.

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      For me it is simple, sometimes I just feel the need to be Simone and sometimes to be my alter ego. I love both personas, and love being in each of them. There are times I want to be male and others I want to be female, and that is where it comes in. In the right persona at the right time just is right!

      When I am female I feel totally female, walk and act that way too. If I close my eyes I can feel a female body around me. Then when I am male I revert to being male. Both feel right at the time, and wrong at others.

      I am one of those who wishes there was a pill or some device to change gender back and forth when needed, that would be me in the morning!

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      thank you for telling me all that well appreciated, i can not find you for some reason

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      Hello Lucinda

      I am lucky enough to have meet such a special girlfriend. That’s a story in itself. But if my girlfriend Tiffany doesn’t need male me. She allows me to be Natasha. She loves Natasha very much. They are BFF. Since 2003 I have been wearing women’s clothing. If you read my posts you will see how Natasha has a I dont care what others think attitude. So I am Natasha 85% of the time. I always felt I was different. I myself and my girlfriend enjoy Natasha. She’s kind, loving, respectful, loves everyone. When people meet Natasha for the first time they really take to her. Male me. I could care less about meeting people. Male me is fully opposite. Thus the story on how I meet my girlfriend. Its a miracle on how I meet her. I will post about it sometime. The story was told to some girlfriends on here. I truly believe God said those 2 are perfect for each other. So it happened.

      Hugs

      Natasha💋

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      To me yes it is dressing up but really is wearing my female clothing I should have worn all my life ie should have been born a woman .Over the years chances of wearing female clothing have been few and far between ,buying clothing then purging it only to buy more ,but now I am slowly building up my collection mainly bras, panties and other underwear ,I am a closest and underdresser which I now do everyday and I realize this is what I should have been ‘in’  my life .not cross dressing but born a female ,it is now to late in life to transition and as mush as I would love to ,I have a wife and three lovely daughters to consider ,so for that reason things will stay as they are but hopefully with the chance to wear my female clothing for longer periods .  Michelle  xx

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      I agree with everything I have read, they all apply but the best one I read compared getting dressed up as an addiction. That’s exactly what it was for me over the years, when I was dressed I was fine but when the time came to go back to being a male again, I would dread it & start planning my next dress up session. Then, just like a drug, when I would dress up, I would find myself wanting to do noticeable things to myself to make me look more like a woman, I tried fighting this urge but eventually it won out & I went out & had my ears pierced & my eyebrows waxed into ultra thin, arched lines, this did not sit well with my wife at the time, a few weeks later & I had my shoulder length hair styled into a feminine look & I got acrylic nails applied. By this point I was wearing panties, bra & pantyhose all of the time even under my work clothes, then I stopped wearing socks & started wearing makeup all of the time, that’s when my wife left me. Everything that happened to me in the past never stopped me from wanting to be a woman, in fact it made me the woman I am today.

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      Hello

      I just dolly up nearly everyday. Unless my girlfriend needs male me for something. But when I have to be male me. I am not too happy

       

      Hugs

      Natasha 💋

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      Laura raises an excellent point.  Look back in history relative to what men were wearing and, in many cases, using extensive make-up?  Is cross dressing really that different from then to now?  There have been so many major social changes in the past 20-30 years, maybe there will be a time when we “ladies” will be considered perfectly acceptable out in public.

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      For me,  it’s being able to NOT be me for awhile.  It lets me step away from my life.  It allows me to  do something that’s just for me.  It relieves my stress and I can just relax and forget about everything else.

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      Jin Crocker
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      It just feels right.

      At latitude 45° it is often too cold to always go naked.

      My wife tells me to.

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      Sarina
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      For me, it’s an everlasting desire to be my most beautiful self, to see myself smiling back in that mirror. It feels so natural. Since I currently only dress in private, there’s a tinge of sadness whenever I have to take my makeup and dress off.

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      For me, it is the feeling of serenity I get when en femme. It is as if the burdens and stresses that accumulate in my real male life have been cast away for a while. Then, when I have changed back, I’m rejuvenated and the burdens seem lighter and the stresses easier to overcome.

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      Plus…what sort of pin head puritanism doctrine in the 19th century decided henceforth for evermore that only women shall wear high heels, lace, petuli and lavender, ,akeup, rouge, silk, pink and pastel shades, long curled hair, jewellry?

      Huh?

      Aren’t we all just getting back to where we once belonged?

      Go back in time, and men wore high heels, lace, long curly hair…

      It’s only fashion, and we are our own fashionistas, bucking trends like Broncos.

      Love Laura

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      Myself I just love seeing myself all dolled up. Makes me very happy. Honestly I am more confident & comfortable dressed to the 9’s than being a man. The day just seems so much better. As a male nothing really happens. When I am all dolled up. Everyone says hello. Guys hold doors open for me. I even get compliments from older people. One time a elderly couple were behind me at the store. I had a lot of items. I told them go in front of me. The elderly lady said to me. You were surely brought up properly young lady. She said your a sweetheart…. I just felt so amazing.  I said. Awe….thank you…

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      Jennifer Heels
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      I really don’t know why… i can go a few weeks or months, and even a year or so without dressing and then one day i wake up and NEED to dress. It comes from DEEP Down inside of me. And it is NOT a sexual thing, or a kink, or whatever you want to call it BUT a Deep NEED to dress. Never understood it and probably never will.

      Jennifer

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      Lucinda Hawkns
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      good point on that, people are gay or lesbians or cross dressers WHY? no answer to that is right.

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      Genivieve Bujold
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      I have come to this conclusion, I think it is the weather that makes me want to dress in a feminine manner. When it is warm and sunny, I want to dress all girly, when it is cloudy and cold, I want to dress all girly! Oh yes and everything in between also makes me want to dress all girly too!! 😉💋

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      DeeAnn Hopings
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      I don’t think this question really has an answer.

      If we reply “I like the feel of the clothes” for example, then why do we like the feel of the clothes? What compels us to feel that way?

      If we say “It is a compulsion”, then why is it a compulsion?

      Basically we are one question away from one that we cannot answer. My guess is that there is something different about us at a fundamental level. After all, do we know why people are gay or bisexual? No we don’t? Crossdressing and transgenderism are no different…

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      Plus…what sort of pin head puritanism doctrine in the 19th century decided henceforth for evermore that only women shall wear high heels, lace, petuli and lavender, ,akeup, rouge, silk, pink and pastel shades, long curled hair, jewellry?

      Huh?

      Aren’t we all just getting back to where we once belonged?

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      Genivieve Bujold
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      I get an intense desire to be feminine, which drives my interest in dressing as a woman. Over the years that desire has never gone away and seems to growing in intensity. I have also evolved in my dressing from being interested in looking like a girl to being committed to be a girl when dressed. This has influenced me in how and how often I dress. I’ve had the opportunity to date a man on a few occasions and have been a women with them. It is so very femininely affirming for me!

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      I can’t give a specific reason as to what makes me want to dress, but I can tell you it is the sensual feeling of the soft fabrics against my skin the slight and sometimes not so slight constriction from some of the garments.  The look of the different colors and textures that I look down and see on me when I am dressed.

      AAlso it is escape for me, I am looked to be the strong, confident decision maker/problem solver.  Always with a level head and a plan.  It allows me to slip out of that role for short time.  It allows me to be the venerable one, which I think that my dressing is triggered by stressful times and situations.

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      Lucinda Hawkns
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      good post.   thanks for sharing.      I love dressing up in female clothing as they want to call it.  woman do have the pretty things to wear, satin or silk panties, lacy bra;s, colorful nylons,  make up and great smelling perfume, nice dangle ear rings, nail polish, heels. pretty dresses, sexy skirts.  in which is all a pair of shorts, a blouse is a shirt. I have more female cloths then male cloths.  I even under dress during the winter, some times I even undress during the spring time

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      Hippie
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      I wouldn’t call it dressing up. To me dressing up. Is putting on my Sundays best for chruch.

      To me its more of a fashion statement. I wear womens clothing because I like how I can wear it with my beard and make it work for me.

      I have this whole macho thing going on. Don’t mess with me. I know this is going to sound weird as hell. But some how I feel like a powerful punk rocker when wearing. I don’t feel more girly or feminine. It kinda the reverse for me.

      Its just hard to explain.

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      <p style=”text-align: left;”>When I’m alone I love the way panties feel against me and how sexy they look and make me feel</p>

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      Brittany Lov
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      <p style=”text-align: center;”>Yes , I can only Imagine i was born a male for a reason , but know one ever explained to me exactly what that reason was or is  … lol ..  my male body and the strength that it possesses , has helped to serve protect and Save many people throughout my life I’m sure most were very grateful I was who I was . Or maybe the answer was more simple , to be father to my son .. But with that having been said I’ve always had an impulse ,a desire,  a need to dress like a girl since my earliest memories of childhood I’ve always thought there was some kind of big misunderstanding , kind of like I must have stood in the wrong line at childbirth , I have never wanted anything more in my life than to just be a woman it is always just kind of felt right , I still feel that way</p>

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      love of female underwear

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      Deborah Sullivan
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      I just wanted to be a girl in every way. I am more comfortable doing things as debbie.

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      The delicious, elevating sensual energy!

      Plus it makes me hor ny.

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      Gail
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      For no reason whatever, I am overcome with an uncontrollable feeling of wanting to look and feel pretty, to act and be Feminine. To look at myself wearing a pretty, frilly pastel dress with heels. Lovely Lingerie so soft, flowing and sweet.

      To feel tender and vulnerable, desiring a wonderful girl to girl relationship with a Pretty Female.

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      Heather Jameson
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      I was definitely born in the wrong body. It took me years to figure myself out and find some inner peace away from the torment in my mind. I don’t dress everyday but when I look in a mirror I’m looking at Heather.

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      Alexis Tresse
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      What makes me want to dress up is the knowledge that once I am fully dressed up, the touch of long hair by wig along my neck and down my back creates pleasant sensations inside me. Household chores are more pleasant when I’m dressed up. Maybe because doing those chores makes me do different things that create new stimulations. Without dressing up, in the same long hair wig alone I look freakish.

      Wearing new and more varied things is more fun. Even for chores I accessorize with bracelets and a necklace.

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      Anne Preuss
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      I was definitely born in the wrong body.  Wearing women’s clothing just looks and feels more natural to me.

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      When I first started, it was the feeling of the clothing.  Particularly if it was something silky.  And back in the day, even when it wasn’t there would be a silky slip or half slip.  It was definitely a turn on for me, as it made me tingle from a very young age.

      Later I also liked the way a skirt or dress looked.  Ir’s in our genetic makeup to be attracted to things that are smooth and symmetric.  The reason the typical image of a black cat on Halloween with it’s fur standing out at odd angles is ugly and scary is the exact opposite of this phenomenon.  To me there is beauty to the smoothness of a skirt.

      Now, in addition, I am more relaxed when I’m dressed.  It just “feels right.”  I love the different types of skirts, from A line to pencil, from short to long, and how they move when I move, caressing me as it brushes against my legs as I walk.

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      Bobbi Watt
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      Peace and getting rid of stress . I had a older sister that wanted to be a beautician when she grew up and she would work on me . My mother was kind  but the only thing she cared  about was if  my father was happy. He hated his job and was a bastard and he liked my older bother more than me . So what makes me want to be a woman is being pretty and being at peace and feeling safe . Thanks girls stay safe and well and be what makes you happy

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      Terri
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      Im 71 yrs old and first dressed i think at age 12 or 13. For years I struggled with it. When I almost committed suicide in my 30s I saw a therapist.  It helped me. After that I stopped asking why. I said if I find the reason,  what would it change. After that Balance became the keyword in my life.

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      lyndsey
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      i always thaught about the sexy giorls in school or area , and would dream of therre being so sexy and etc, i decided i was gona become her

       

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      I started young, around 10 or 11 with me wondering what it felt like to have stockings on my legs. One day while I was home alone I got up the nerve to try on a pair of Moms and her girdle. I remember how fantastic it felt. 55+ years later it still feels fantastic. I just love how it feels to wear women’s clothes. I like to feel feminine. It’s not really a hobby but more of a mind set. While I don’t wish to transition I would like to experience having a real women’s body for a day. Wish I could dress more fully and more often. So I guess my simple answer to why is….I just like to.

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      Jane Borden
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      I was an only child and close to my mother. She was a strong woman and it was pre tights, when women all wore stockings with suspenders. I would help my mother dress-sometimes doing up rear suspenders.

      I became obsessed with stockings and started taking hers to my bed at night and wearing them. I was probably about 8 at the time, so no masturbation and certainly no ejaculation.

      I was discovered by my father, wearing a pair of stockings in bed, but I explained I was cold and they kept my legs warm. He accepted that and I continued.

      So this was continually re-enforced and I began to imagine strong women, in high heels, walking all over my body, whilst I wore lingerie.

      At the time-very late 50s- the main erotic magazines available were Beautiful Britons and Spick and Span. These two specialised in upskirt photos, or coy ladies lifting their skirts to expose panties and suspenders. I became old enough to masturbate and I think that this lingerie fetish just transitioned to my wishing to be fully dressed  as a lady.

      I have dressed ever since-but only recently going out en femm, as I am lucky enough to have found a lady who is as turned on as me by my habit-and will join in.

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      Kimmie
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      My best guess at the moment is that it started during childhood. My best friend as I was starting kindergarten was a girl,who loved a couple houses down. At some point during time, we began playing doctor. I have no memory of exactly how or when we stared, but we continued that activity for a few years, growing rather bold in that we found places to play in which we could both be naked.

      Looking back, it was quite sexualized, at the time, neither of us knew anything about sex. When we stopped playing, perhaps growing out of those activities, I missed the closeness.

      Here is where the guess work comes in. I think I started dressing in my mother’s clothes to “recreate” the feelings of closeness with a female that I had lost. Being dressed gave me both serenity and sexual excitement. Now, who would not want to feel those feelings?

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      Patty Phose
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      I love the clothes and how I feel when wearing them. It’s wonderful.

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      Anne-Marie
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      Hey Lucinda. As you acknowledge not really a yes / no question.

      The short answer is that non of us really knows the core reason why we want to dress-up.

      Some of us point to feelings that we were born in the wrong body. Others feel that it’s the tactile feel of the clothes whilst for some it’s a sexual thing. There are probably as many answers as there are stars in the sky and each one of them having validity and I would guess that for many of us out story has a perplexity of reasons as to why.

      I can remember the first time I wore a pair of my sister’s knickers. It was very traumatic and short lived. I was about 6years old and hated the experience.

      Fast forward to age 11 and my trying on one of sisters knee length skirts. The rest is history. I didn’t have any thoughts of feeling like a girl or wanting to be one at that time – that was to come. It – the skirt – was just there. I had the opportunity and a deep desire of wanting to know a that it would be like to wear that skirt. Little did I know where that simple act would lead.

      So for me the genesis was a question and the chance to answer it.

      These days though, it is far more complex. All the usual suspects are present be if feeling sexy, feeling (what I think it would be like to be) womanish, feeling a sense of sisterhood, the touch of silly lingerie against my skin, the feel of sheer stockings over new shaved legs, the way I like the look of being dressed, the peace it brings to me, the relief from my stressful life, feeling like dressing takes my along the path to become a woman and that’s something I increasingly desire.

      Take care girls.

      Anne-Marie

       

    • #333852
      nicola
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      I feel more comfortable dressed and love the feel wearing female clothes

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      Sally Drinkwater
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      I like it.

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      Great question I don’t think there’s a really an answer for it I believe we were born this way why do I love to wear feminine clothings and act like a girl I don’t know I have ever since I put on my mom’s pantyhose at 5 years old I’ve always wanted to dress like a woman and act like a woman like I said I don’t think any was no the answer I just only thing I could say is we were born this way

    • #333769
      Caty Ryan
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      My reason for dressing,which goes back many,many years

      is my lack of affection from a women,I love women,if I was

      a women i’d be a lesbian.

      I’ve been married for a long time & get no love or affection from my SO

      so when I shave my body & put nylons & high heels with sexy lingerie,& see my painted toes in the shower I can feel like the women that is missing in my life.

      Does anyone else see themselves this way?

      Hi Danelle,

      Dont feel like this now, as I have  a loving SO, (tho “things” could do with a bit of improvement!!).

      But I digress!!

      For almost 30 years I was in a marriage just like yours. The last half was sheer misery. She hated my CD’ing with a passion and there little or no affection coming my way. So when I could be Caty  I “made love to her” in the mirror and my mind…

      Then when I met my wonderful new SO, for quite a few years, I felt like a reformed drug addict, I did not “need” to be Caty so she “went to sleep” for a few years. But as we all know, “it comes back” and with me a (lovely) vengeance!!

      Caty is me and I am Caty for at least half of my day. (Underdressed and thinking about what I have on under my “day drab” then under my “night drab”. Escpecially with my “sticky” breast forms that allow me to sleep braless.

      Hang in there

      Caty

       

       

       

       

       

       

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      Cece X
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      I seldom dress up, so it has not ever felt like a routine or a lifestyle. It is always thrilling.

      The few times as a child that I tried on my mother’s bra or pantyhose was exciting but I do not think I wanted to be so much like a girl but to experience my mother’s femininity. I suspect I did not do it often because as a youth there are so many new adventures awaiting and besides I was afraid I might get caught and punished. Even though no one ever told me not to wear mom’s undergarments, I felt the pressure of conforming to societal norms so my parents would not get angry.

      In my 20’s, on occasion I would grab items from the hand-me-downs that neighbors gave my mother. These included blouses, pants and panties that could almost pass as men’s wear. Wearing these clothes brought to the surface some of my latent homosexual identity, but as even as I enjoyed that I also began to repress those feelings again. I enjoyed the clothes for a while, but I was having sexual intercourse with women, so I purged.

      In my 30’s, I started buying my own lingerie and it was driven by erotic impulses. It started all of a sudden when I went to a discount clothing store looking for men’s wear and happened to spot a gorgeous corset across the floor at a ridiculously low price. Then I started buying panties, a garter belt and stockings. Once I had a complete outfit, I dressed for my best male friend, with whom I had sex sometimes. He was not at all interested, so I started to dress alone, look in a full-length mirror, lift up my skirt and masturbate. That was hot. I also had a steady girlfriend and was trying to figure out how to tell her in the hopes that she would be supportive and help me dress, but I never worked up the courage.

      Now I am in my 60’s and what inspires me to dress up is my bringing home a new piece of wardrobe. I enjoy looking in a mirror and seeing how the outfit transforms my figure, and I also enjoy the feel of the bra around my chest and back and the stockings on my legs. It is not an erotic drive anymore and I do not masturbate, although I do sometimes fantasize about someone feeling my butt or riding his or her legs along my stockings and up my skirt. Alas, I do not have any close female friends anymore and so I have been telling a few more male friends about my dressing up and none have been supportive or encouraging. This is also why I do not dress up often; I feel quite lonely when I dress up.

      Perhaps the “wanna feel girlish” experience has not really been a major factor in my dressing up. I have never wanted to shave my beard or body, paint my nails or wear make-up, or embellish my femininity with jewelry, earrings, perfumes or heels. I have never seriously considered trying to pass as a woman. Maybe the link between all the adventures I have had in wanting to dress in women’s garments has been a varying balance of the adventure of experiencing a lower level of femininity with a little bit of eroticism.

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    • #333741
      Paula F
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      I voted both ‘yes’ and ‘no’.  It depends on what point in my life we are looking at.  The ‘no’ answer is because at the beginning, once my sister had dressed me that first time, I just knew it was ‘right for me’.  I was too young for it to be sexual and really didn’t understand why I didn’t fight being dressed up, as most boys would have I think.  But the continuing of doing it was just something I knew was what I was supposed to do, even though somehow I understood that letting my mom see me in a dress would be seen as wrong.  I think that comes from my sister urging me to not let our mom see me dressed, that it was a secret only for me and the other girls in our Barbie group.

      When I started through puberty, the ‘Yes’ answer would apply.  I HAD to be dressed as a girl as much as I humanly could.  It made me feel the best I could, mentally and emotionally, but it was still just as important to keep it secret then too, the mid 70’s.  I was almost caught several times by family and non-family, but barely was able to either hide or get undressed with lightning speed.

      Then came my first ‘crush’.  I didn’t have a clue as to why I needed for him to see me dressed as Paula, but something told me I needed to let him see and that I had to let him know, somehow, that I was attracted to him.

      After I matured, I simply accepted how and who I was, and the rest of the world could be da***d.  I was who I was and I was going to be that person.  The clothes didn’t make me want to be her, although I felt much more comfortable in women’s clothes than I did in male drab.

      The revelation that I was a victim of one of ‘nature’s  cruel jokes’ of being in the wrong body slowly dawned on me after seeing my first counselor and voraciously reading everything I could get my hands on about CD’ing, TG, and Ts.  In my mid 20’s, I finally met and fell in love with myself, as I was and still am to this day.  The final answer will be when I work out if I would be happier to have full transition, or to just be me as I am now, which is happy.

      PaulaF

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      Sa•man•tha
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      the feel of the clothing.                better fit              born in the wrong body

      All of the above.  But mainly, “born in the wrong body”.  I’m not actually sure I’d totally call it wrong, because it is how it is and I feel that there must be something I’m supposed to get out of that experience.  But it’s definitely not how I see myself nor what I would prefer.

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      Dani Bryn Denali
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      What makes me want dress up? I’ve been trying to answer that since I’m 6 yo. Women’s clothes feel wonderful, I know we all agree on that, but, maybe it’s not something we are supposed to understand. Possibly we girls, are just supposed to simply accept that side of us. For 41 years, I’ve been trying to figure it out, yet, I’ve only come up with a glass-is-half-empty answer. I guess I’ll just hafta keep on scratching my head over it…through my wig.

      Bear Hugs to all of Sisters!

      dbd💜

    • #333653
      Danelle Tino
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      My reason for dressing,which goes back many,many years

      is my lack of affection from a women,I love women,if I was

      a women i’d be a lesbian.

      I’ve been married for a long time & get no love or affection from my SO

       

      so when I shave my body & put nylons & high heels with sexy lingerie,& see my painted toes in the shower I can feel like the women that is missing in my life.

      Does anyone else see themselves this way?

       

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      Sammatha
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      To be a sexy girl and escape normal life.

    • #332206
      Lisa Fox
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      Hi Lucinda,

      I cannot disagree with anything any of the other ladies posted here, so I can only add to the growing list.  I don’t know of a simple answer.

      To me, it’s almost like an addiction.  When I am not Lisa, I can’t wait to dress again.  When I start there is exhilaration and anticipation.  When I am in full mode,there is a sense of peace, control, and contentment with who I am.  When I look back a pictures, all I want to do is improve.  But it is more than just the feel of the clothes.

      I never felt like I was born in the wrong body, and happy with my male side, but it’s an inner need. And the male side of me does feel embarrassed when that blue undertow comes along.

      I have often wondered if its nature or nurture…or a combination of both that brings out this inner need and the pink cloud.

      Whatever it is, I need that side of me, and it makes me happy.

      Hugs,

      Lisa

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      Rozalyne Richards
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      I find it’s a need in me to dress up, the more i dress up the more it calm’s the (beast) in me, not that I’m saying that I’m a beast, everything is a lot calmer and serene when I’m Rozalyne less chaotic everything is in perspective, if i could be Rozalyne 24/7 i think i could be a better person xxxxx

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    • #332199
      Amy Myers
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      Lucinda, I wanted to add a couple of things.

      I’ve never really felt I was born in the wrong body, though there were times through my teen years that I did envy the girls, I thought they had a better world, being feminine. I realized much later that many of them envied us boys, though I don’t know why. A bit of the old “grass is greener” thing I guess.

      Now I feel like I could live most of my time in women’s clothes, if I were brave enough to cross all those bridges I’d need to actually do it. Though I wonder what would happen after a few months of living the life as it were, I started to long for the simplicity of my male garb.

      Just don’t know the answer to that either.

      The other thing, and a poster put this out on the forum here sometime last year, “Would you still dress if all you had were Soviet era clothes and underwear?”. Interesting thoughts, and after some thinking, I believe my answer is a definite YES! Of course I love the short and sparkly outfits, check out some of my recent pictures, where I can show off my legs, but I’d still dress if I only had the plain vanilla stuff to wear.

      Nothing we say ever seems to answer the “Why”, does it? We just do, and are what we are.

      So I don’t know if my post is of any help to anyone.

      Amy

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      I agree with all the  girls, there is not just a right and unique answer, there are a multiples factors that encourage those desires that make us a special person, beautiful women, sexy and feminines…

      kisses a lot to all my girly friends

    • #332054
      Lucinda Hawkns
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      thank you all for answering the poll   its nice to know,  yes all of the above is good too. this is my first time trying to set up a poll in which has answers to but did not come out right. but we all got the idea.

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      Caty Ryan
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      Simple answer…

       

      “All of the above”

       

      Caty

       

    • #332032
      Amy Myers
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      Lucinda, that’s pretty much impossible for me to say for sure. I can give some reasons though! I love the look and feel of the clothes, and they can make me feel something that no male clothes can, a feeling of sexiness, and attractiveness.

      As a male I’ve never thought of myself as an attractive guy, maybe that’s just a long standing insecurity stemming from when I was younger, and the “jocks” always seemed to get to pretty girls, and I was left out.

      Last year I started going out, and I simply love getting dressed, even in plain jeans and a stop to go to the mall (when we could do that!), but even better is too get totally dolled up to go to a private party in some short skirts!

      Though the real reason why I first started, I really don’t know. Something buried deep inside me I suppose.

      Amy

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      DeLora
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      If only I knew the answer to that, it would be so much easier explaining my self to others.
      I know I feel better mentally when I dress regularly.
      If I don’t dress for a week or 10 days I have an overwhelming need to dress.
      I do not hate my male clothes and I am comfortable with my male body, I just also feel comfortable being a bit more feminine.

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    • #331893
      Amanda Woods
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      I have dressed on and off since early teen years, and I love the way the clothes feel and make me feel, it is also very relaxing, and a break from the daily grind as a man.  I love to feel feminine and pretty, just need to learn how to make the outside match what the inside is feeling, love to all you lovely ladies out there and stay safe.

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      Deborah Sullivan
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      so wonderful feeling like a real woman and being sexy

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    • #331884
      Michelle Dixie
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      I absolutely love everything about it. The look and feel of the clothing, the look and feel of wearing sexy underwear, high heels, my breast and wigs and makeup. Plus it takes away the roughness of feeling like a man. I explore and feel my female side as much as I can. I really have a different way of looking feeling about everything in life. if I was a lot younger I would seriously consider transitioning and right now I am considering finding a relationship with a man. I would love to be sexy, alluring and desirable.

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      Frederick Huestis
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      I just feel more feminine as a woman.

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      Brenda Stevens
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      I love the look and the feeling dressing in silky lingerie, putting on a dress and heels. I have a very feminine side that just seems to be part of who I am.

    • #331841
      Gillian Brown
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      I wish I could answer this question! I don’t know why I started but I do like the soft silky feel of female clothes (especially lingerie) against my body.

    • #331768
      Celeste Starre
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      Not sure how  “what makes you want to dress up” is a yes or no question but I did answer yes.

      To answer the question though , I like how I look in the clothes and how I feel in the clothes. I like feeling feminine and I do not like feeling masculine.

    • #331728
      Giselle Reeves
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      to me it’s a compulsion

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    • #331723
      Lucinda Hawkns
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      there was suppose to be a few answers on this poll  what makes you want to dress up so please answer yes then explain why.    my answer is the feel and fit of the clothing and also I feel that I was born in the wrong body I should of been born a female.

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