- August 10, 2022 at 2:15 pm #669083Jess SecretParticipantRegistered On: February 18, 2021Topics: 15Replies: 467Has thanked: 1185 timesBeen thanked: 1951 times
I ask this in the context of those who aren’t necessarily full time, but more so of those for who it’s more of a “hobby” or “thing to do” and it’s occasional. Obviously all of us dress for various reasons, but those who dress spontaneously or on the spur of the moment, what are your reasons? Is it just something to do? Is it you have to be in certain mood at the time? Stress reliever? Is it simply to try on new purchases? And when you do dress in those situations, how do you decide on the specific clothes to wear?
In my case I wear lingerie or silky pjs to bed every night so it’s my nightly routine and because of my love of beautiful sleepwear, so no spur of the moment with me.
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- September 13, 2022 at 10:06 am #676406Sarah KanterLadyRegistered On: April 25, 2019Topics: 13Replies: 152Has thanked: 301 timesBeen thanked: 773 times
I think the biggest thing that brings on the urge for me is when I see a really well dressed, attractive woman. When I see a dress or an outfit that I really like, I always wonder if I could pull it off myself. I’m most often motivated by the beauty I see in others.
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- September 12, 2022 at 8:54 pm #676302Natalie SierraLadyRegistered On: August 20, 2022Topics: 2Replies: 33Has thanked: 50 timesBeen thanked: 168 times
I think the times Im knee deep in some very masculine activity such as working on a car covered in grease or a long work day . The urge to crossdress will come on . To me it represents cleaning myself up, maybe having a little bit to drink and letting myself relax and just enjoy feeling feminine for a bit. Not having to be so responsible or logical for a few hours. I used to push these thoughts away but I’m accepting myself more and more these days. For example, tonight I don’t really have a strong urge to dress but I’m still enjoying replying on this site and discussing crossdressing honestly. On the contrary to this, the times I have the least urge to crossdress are when I see or am with a woman I’m attracted to. I’m first and foremost a hetero man and that’s when my male self completely takes over.
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- September 12, 2022 at 5:59 pm #676261Miss LollipopLadyRegistered On: February 5, 2022Topics: 2Replies: 169Has thanked: 97 timesBeen thanked: 522 times
It still all began as a, ‘need’ Something primal. ..Maybe a deeper sense of the need to identify as, in the ‘physical sense’ due to an already existing connection with the mental and emotional state which had already awakened and identifying with.
It’s very difficult to pin-point and be able to put my finger on, in the literary sense of saying, “This is why”.. It’s just my ‘cargo’ my baggage that has been with me both everywhere and always. Just physically realized and now, accepted…
Blessings and good tidings,
x Miss L x
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- September 12, 2022 at 5:51 pm #676258Alexis ChoppenLadyRegistered On: August 3, 2022Topics: 1Replies: 3Has thanked: 6 timesBeen thanked: 23 times
I identify as genderfluid and i have certain things that kinda trigger me to feel feminine.
Nails. Heels.certain situations like if im having a meet up with female friends as soon as the “girly chat” starts i instantly wish i was there in a dress.
Its kindahard to put into words but i hope thismakes sense
- September 12, 2022 at 5:46 pm #676256Amy CatrelleLadyRegistered On: January 2, 2022Topics: 10Replies: 207Has thanked: 545 timesBeen thanked: 932 times
That’s an interesting question as it makes me wonder if it’s possible to be an ‘occasional’ crossdresser (excepting those who lack opportunities because of personal circumstances). I know that when I finally gave in to the urges last year I thought it would be something I’d only do every now and again. Heck, it’s not as if the urges were a constant bother for most of my life, yet I’ve spent more on clothes this last year than the previous twenty! I’ve had a bit of a respite over the summer, the long days and hot weather don’t suit tight underwear and nylons (or privacy). So for a couple of months I pretty much lost interest, apart from nightwear.
Now that the weather’s turning cooler and the nights are getting longer I can safely say I’m spending a lot more time on my ‘hobby’. Oh yeah, I still have no idea why I do it…but it’s fun.
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- September 12, 2022 at 1:31 pm #676201Abbie NormalDuchessRegistered On: June 13, 2021Topics: 13Replies: 678Has thanked: 1382 timesBeen thanked: 2804 times
So, I’m nearly full time now since I came out to my wife as transgender last year but until then I was a part timer and was doing that for 40+ years. I dressed because I loved how it made me feel and because I really got into this as a pre-teen I associated it with sex. Also, the only clothes I could easily get into were my mom and sisters underthings so that helped relate the sexiness of the clothes to the sex related activity. So generally I dressed en femme when I wanted sex and then hid it away as any self-respecting manly-man would do, LOL. Though there were some notable periods where I had the freedom to wear it whenever I wanted and I did, I felt complete but I would always bury it as needed. Over the last 15 years or so I’ve been underdressing more and more even when not frisky. Eventually I learned the excitement was caused by gender euphoria from being initially dressed as a girl and later a woman and I eventually decoupled my dressing from my sex drive. Now I’m thinking seriously about starting HRT, finally.
I hope that helps Jess
— Abbie 🥰
- August 11, 2022 at 12:34 pm #669336Toni PalmerBaronessRegistered On: June 22, 2022Topics: 3Replies: 13Has thanked: 28 timesBeen thanked: 110 times
~ I dress almost every day. I get this feeling inside that I want to look beautiful … not that I do, but by putting on makeup, pantyhose, a black dress or a tunic, some jewelry, letting my hair down, putting on heels and walking around my place, I do feel beautiful for a while.
~ I dress because I feel more at ease and calmer in my feminine self, I like her.
~ I dress because I enjoy all the sensual aspects of makeup and women’s clothes – the smell of lipstick, the colors, the softness of fabrics, the challenge of heels, the shiny slickness of pantyhose.
~ I dress because all the things I do to transform from my masculine-me to my feminine-me feels like a ceremony, I am calling up the feminine in me, meeting her, getting to know her, giving her some freedom to be.
~ I dress so I can imagine going out all dressed up and having fun with other crossdressers shopping, having coffee, dancing, sharing tips and fun ideas.
~ And maybe I dress up because it feels risky, like I might be found out by soembody who doesn’t know, like I want to be found out, like the unexpected might happen and who knows what will happen then?
- August 11, 2022 at 8:58 am #669288TammiLadyRegistered On: October 27, 2015Topics: 0Replies: 4Has thanked: 2 timesBeen thanked: 17 times
- August 11, 2022 at 8:54 am #669285Becky DavisLadyRegistered On: February 10, 2022Topics: 0Replies: 70Has thanked: 568 timesBeen thanked: 291 times
There doesn’t seem to be anything that drives me, like others it was such a turn on when I was younger. Earlier I just couldn’t get enough of pantyhose and always bodysuits leotards panty’s, and even thought about getting a sex change, it wasn’t so much I felt like a girl but I wanted to have my clothes to look and fit so much better, I’m sure this sounds strange to some. A big part too was I have always been very shy talking to girls, peer pressure and even my cousins always mad fun of me because I never even had a date till after high school, and a girl I started to date nothing ever happened but heavy petting, and even then they just teased even more about not going all the way with her. As the years went on I didn’t date much at all, and the few I did, didn’t ever go well so I think for me it was wearing their clothes, and the way they feel. I did get married and my dressing kinda went by the wayside once in a while I would wear a pair of her panties and bra when I would work in the basement, and when things started going south with the marriage and divorced I think maybe I started dressing more as maybe it was comforting to me. Today being in my mid sixty’s and by myself, I’ve giving up on finding someone to be with although it would be great to find that special person confide in about my way of dress. I dress all the time now and when I’m dressed I just stay home and feel safe, you people here have given me a place where I have never told anyone about what I have told you, is not an easy for me to do, but it helps…. Thank You
- August 11, 2022 at 7:50 am #669253Michelle SLadyRegistered On: August 11, 2022Topics: 0Replies: 3Has thanked: 1 timeBeen thanked: 19 times
Like so many it is hard to say. In fact, one of the reasons I joined this site was to try and understand my interests and what drives them. At times I dress for a sexual thrill. I still get a sexual thrill from dressing up (usually like a slut) but that often fades after the, well you can figure it out. The confusing part for me is that there are times when I feel the desire to dress for the sake of dressing and not to satisfy a sexual urge. This may involve dressing more completely (skirt, top, panties, bra, garter belt, stockings, heels, wig, and nails), just wearing lingerie under my male clothes, or some combination of the two. I truly can’t figure out why some days I go for a full outfit, some days it’s just lingerie, and other days I go full male.
I guess the best answer is a combination of things – (1) I love the feeling of lingerie and the thrill of wearing lingerie around people without them knowing; (2) dressing (whether just lingerie or complete dressing when I do that) makes me feel sexy; (3) dressing can be a stress relief as it allows me to be someone else for a time; and (4) at times dressing gives me a sexual thrill that I cannot get when in my male form.
In writing this post I have started to believe that, whatever the reason, I would ideally stay as a male most of the time but wear lingerie under my clothes everyday and wear heels as often as possible.
- August 11, 2022 at 4:31 am #669215AnonymousTopics: 0Replies: 0Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 0 times
I can’t even begin to say what prompts me…it just happens! Haley is always with me, she appears even when dressed in drab…so it seems that it has nothing to do with how I am dressed. However, when I am anxious, feeling edgy…that is when I have the strongest urge to allow myself to slip into her clothes and calm myself by just being me
- August 11, 2022 at 4:23 am #669213Julianna SLadyRegistered On: July 29, 2022Topics: 3Replies: 52Has thanked: 23 timesBeen thanked: 227 times
For me, its just something I’ve always wanted. When i was a very small child i thought i was a girl. That feeling has always been there. Ive always admired female clothing, and always wished i could dress like that. I have dabbled in it for years and years, but am doing it more now, and collecting more clothes of my own.
- August 11, 2022 at 4:13 am #669212Chloe ThermanRegistered On: August 11, 2022Topics: 0Replies: 4Has thanked: 1 timeBeen thanked: 13 times
I started dressing at 8 yo. Im 41. I love the way it feels on my skin. I love the way it makes me look. I love going shopping and picking out new panties,lingerie,clothing,shoes,make up,nail polish. I just feel better in woman’s clothing.
- August 11, 2022 at 3:56 am #669211Angela BoothLadyRegistered On: August 1, 2020Topics: 9Replies: 1150Has thanked: 4356 timesBeen thanked: 5144 times
As a child it was the need to dress. Why? I couldn’t really understand why I would want to wear my sisters dresses but knew I liked the clothes and wanted to wear them. I didn’t need any other prompting to take the opportunity to wear a dress and expand it by wearing everything and, a my sister grew, a bra as well. One thing leads to another and I am fully made up as a girl – and I like it!
It’s a desire that needs satiating. I came to realise that this is how I should be and now is my way of life.
- August 11, 2022 at 3:37 am #669208Janice WhiteDuchess - AnnualRegistered On: July 21, 2022Topics: 3Replies: 10Has thanked: 64 timesBeen thanked: 46 times
The answer for me, as I guess it is for others, is complicated. Sometimes I do not think about it at all, or even detest that I do it sometimes, then just like that a feeling comes over me and permeates me to such a degree that all of a sudden I desire to be Janice, to let her out. The desire increases once started and I will use techniques like plan out an outfit, or some other such thing to keep it bottled for a while. Eventually though I need to be Janice, a woman, as close as I can be. At the appropriate point, which is usually first suitable moment, I become Janice and all my cares go away for awhile. They are still there and I can noodle on them in my brain but I do not worry or fret about them. I am just Janice and at that point I like it that I do not care about the corset or the forms or the discomfort from all these things I am wearing, I just like being Janice and wish to stay for as long as I can until I need to return. Once done, I feel satisfied emotionally for a while. It is no longer sexual or anything like that, it is just that it is part of me and this time I get to embrace it much more fully than ever before. It is exhilarating. It also keeps me very busy at the moment which I like.
I know I will always like it and will always not like it depending on where I am at the moment. I just let those feeling pass and when the time is right I just go with what Janice wants right then, which usually is just being like any other female. When Janice I am incessantly thinking of how a woman would respond and trying to get rid of male way of thinking. It is this weird perfection thing or me just enjoying doing the details.
(Added after I wrote the rest: One thing I really enjoy about being Janice is the utter feeling sensuality that permeates my body. It is as if I feel each skin receptor when it is twitched at all. All the clothes and things make the feelings delightful, it is like a whole different world, like a door opened and I stepped in. This definitely pulls me to be Janice.)
In another life I might do it all the time but that is not this life.
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- August 11, 2022 at 12:47 pm #669347Toni PalmerBaronessRegistered On: June 22, 2022Topics: 3Replies: 13Has thanked: 28 timesBeen thanked: 110 times
Hi & thanks to Jess and Janice and Everybody, it’s liberating to read about all the things I (we?) love about crossdressing:
~ yes to the sensual – we get to indulge all 5 senses in just gettting dressed up while men get to indulge about one-tenth of one of the senses;
~ women are allowed to make themselves look sexy and it is wonderful to enter into that imaginal world; for me dressing up makes me feel more alive, my senses are alive, my skin feels sensitive, my eyes sparkle.
~ Dressing up I think of awakening Eros – that vital force within us that makes us want to really be alive to the world. Not just living, but alive, open, tingling and singing, there’s freedom in letting myself become so entirely feminine.
~ And I also love becoming softer in how I look, act, think, talk – not that we aren’t strong, to crossdress we have to be pretty strong to cross so many thresholds just to do what we do, but so strong that we can let go of strong and enter into soft.
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- August 11, 2022 at 1:59 am #669198Jill QuinnLadyRegistered On: July 24, 2021Topics: 1Replies: 169Has thanked: 1588 timesBeen thanked: 769 times
I honestly don’t know why I feel this need to dress as a woman, especially, when I’m happy being a man. Since I’m a heterosexual guy, it makes no sense to me to have these feelings and desires to dress as a woman. It’s very confusing, really.
The only two things that have saved my sanity are, accepting that I like to dress this way while understanding that there is nothing wrong with me, and my wife’s support and encouragement. Most days, I wear panties (God, I LOVE wearing my panties) but nothing else feminine, and that usually just fine. But some days, I really need to express my femininity, even if it’s only to me.
On those occasions, I put on a dress or a skirt and blouse along with a bra, one of two pairs of heels that I have (I really want more shoes) and a necklace that one of my girlfriends from this site bought for me. For me, dressing makes me feel feminine, pretty, and secured. It also relaxes me.
Sometimes, I wish I were a normal guy who doesn’t wear women’s clothes, but for the most part, I’m thrilled with being a transvestite! If I ever get the chance to go out en femme, dressed and looking very good, I’ll probably do it, but I don’t see that ever happening at this point.
- August 11, 2022 at 1:18 am #669192Rozalyn RichardsLadyRegistered On: July 27, 2022Topics: 0Replies: 180Has thanked: 185 timesBeen thanked: 645 times
I’m not sure why i love to dress i just do, my wife and i are both retired and because of the lockdowns we have had with COVID I’ve had to snatch an hour here and there because I’m still in the closet, the compulsion gets worse in the summer when i see all the women out and about in all their summer dresses and skirts and tops i look around and wish i could go out wearing a nice summer dress,
The stress of not being able to dress just seems to mount up and i know that unless i have a dressing up day soon, well i just get a bit tetchy, as soon as i get the chance to let Rozalyn out of the closet my stress levels disappear and all is right with the world, lol X
Hugs Rozalyn X
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- August 10, 2022 at 9:40 pm #669182Lara TuckerLadyRegistered On: September 29, 2021Topics: 2Replies: 1066Has thanked: 23573 timesBeen thanked: 3772 times
My wife and I are both retired, and together most of the time. Since I’m still in the closet, when ever I have a few hours, or more I will usually dress as much as possible. In between the once a month or so that I can do that, under dressing with panties a few days a week, and pantyhose, or thigh highs when the weather gets cool enough holds me over until I can fully dress again.
If I could I think I would dress completely a couple of days a week. I love my male life, but I also love feeling like a woman. I feel calm, and complete when I can dress.
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- August 10, 2022 at 8:38 pm #669173AnonymousTopics: 0Replies: 0Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 0 times
Why do I dress? I wish I knew. There are times when I get the urge, dress and am satisfied for a while. Other times, I want to dress long term. I’ve thought about going en femme 24/7, but haven’t seriously tried to do it.
- August 10, 2022 at 7:31 pm #669157Susan TalbotLadyRegistered On: June 28, 2022Topics: 1Replies: 247Has thanked: 2317 timesBeen thanked: 918 times
I underdress every day and I go all out dressed about 2 days a week sometimes 3. I also sleep in a nightgown. I try to balance out the male vs female. For me I would prefer to be female 24/7 but I love my SO and she means the world to me so I blend the male va female.
- August 10, 2022 at 7:10 pm #669152Brianna KayBaronessRegistered On: July 16, 2022Topics: 1Replies: 25Has thanked: 66 timesBeen thanked: 116 times
Good question Jess. When I first started, I couldn’t get enough. Dressed every possible moment I had and underdressed every day. After my divorce, I had 2+ years to myself and thought I was in heaven. But then I realized it wasn’t an every day thing. I dressed when I felt the need and wanted to feel pretty and feminine. Sometimes casual, sometimes to the nines! But not 24/7. Now I have re-married and found my perfect balance between male and female. I get one day a week to dress and watch our favorite soaps and just enough alone time to be all Brianna likes to be. I couldn’t ask for anything more.
You be you girlfriends
- August 10, 2022 at 6:15 pm #669126Trish WhiteBaronessRegistered On: December 2, 2021Topics: 3Replies: 357Has thanked: 1654 timesBeen thanked: 1344 times
For me I need no prompting it is an inherent part of me. I have a barely tolerant wife so being dressed is at a premium sometimes but the thoughts and desires are with me always and constantly. If, I had the choice I would be fem 24/7 but that is not to be so I make the best of what get. Thanks for posting this.
- August 10, 2022 at 3:38 pm #669098Kerri SmithLadyRegistered On: April 22, 2022Topics: 17Replies: 157Has thanked: 111 timesBeen thanked: 796 times
I dress because I always loved wearing womens clothes, sheer nylons on freshly shaved legs. Sexy high heels. Beasts cupped securely in an underwire bra. Feeling like a sexy woman. I love it
- August 10, 2022 at 3:23 pm #669088Rachel WilliamsLadyRegistered On: November 3, 2019Topics: 7Replies: 161Has thanked: 511 timesBeen thanked: 593 times
- August 10, 2022 at 3:15 pm #669086Pattie ObaritoLadyRegistered On: December 25, 2019Topics: 13Replies: 58Has thanked: 0 timesBeen thanked: 204 times
for me it is often spur of the moment. there are other times when I can think of nothing else, a relentless compulsion. there are also times when I suddenly have the house to myself or a long drive to go on and it’s on, baby.
sometimes out of habit?
It isn’t a stress relief for me, just an expression of what I would like to be able to do all the time. forbidden fruit, as it were. as I have mentioned before, my thing is almost exclusively bras. If I could do it unnnoticed, I would wear one everyday.
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