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Having reached what I call my “trombone” year, my seventy-sixth on the planet, and having been crossdressing since my eighth year – perhaps earlier – it is surprising to discover that there can still be
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It wasn’t until entering my later 50’s and after my first and so far only heart attack that I began searching for greater meaning and true happiness in my life.
While I had begun cross dressing at 4 and as most of us hidden my light from the world living the normal life but on the surface only. I always knew what I wanted. How I wished so fervently I could just awake the next morning a new woman. Fully formed and ready to go.
I prayed nightly for it. I wished upon stars, lady bugs and the occasional fallen eyelash for it.
I don’t wish to detract from those irreplaceable special occasions that brought great pride and fond memories to my life. But few had defining roles and often denied me the very essence of who I truly am.
So here I find myself on a journey long awaited. One I am not proud to say I almost gave up on. Permanently.
In my darkest moments several months ago I decided that it was this or nothing. My journey continues with becoming 100% Phoebe as my primary goal or it ends.
So late in life I am finding that while life is scary and oppressive at times it is also resplendent with opportunities and rewards for those brave enough to risk their very selves to venture beyond the limits of their own safety and comfort.
Where we often find ourselves.
I think it important for our more mature trans person’s and crossdressers to share their journeys. Especially those just begining them.
It is too easy to look back at the youths venturing out and think it easy for them as they have beauty on their side.
I believe such lack of depth perception discourages many from becoming the ladies (and men) they desire to be.
With desire a market is built and technology follows.
As so much of our gender culture is focused and invested on providing service for the young, We, The more advanced ladies and gents have an opportunity to provide for our community in ways we never dreamed of.
Its time we made the “its too late for me” excuse an out dated concept.
Dear Phoebe;
Ah, yes, to use the approximation of a G. B. Shaw quote: “youth is wasted on the young.” This can be a difficult road.
Lynn you look very feminine in that attire, you certainly don’t look your age
Liz
Dear Elizabeth;
Thank you for the kind compliment. I don’t feel it, either. Except for getting up from a chair.
Lynn
Lynn, you look so lovely in that outfit. I too found great pleasure in spending some time with a man. Something special about being out with a guy and doing some indoor sports. Hugs and kisses
Dear Yvette;
Thanks. There seems to be some suggestion that we are in the minority within the CD community. Perhaps not.
Lynn
Lynn, you look so poised and beautiful. It is no wonder why you have no problem venturing out into the world! Hugs, Paulette
Dear Paulette;
“no problem” may be a bit overly hopeful.
Hi Lynn, I am sure you have had your share of ‘problems’. However, your article demonstrates very clearly you have discovered and defined the ‘secret’ of being a woman; that being it is not just a matter of dressing like a woman, but rather allowing that dominant feminine nature (most men try to restrain) to come forth and blossom. Wonderful advice!
Dear Paulette;
The internecine warfare and anger that is so prevalent within the “T” community has always been disappointing. There are as many forms of “T” activity as there are individuals. In the words of the happily not late but happily great Red Green, “We’re all in this together.”
Dear Lynn,
You are so right. I just dropped my membership from a “T” community because I never witnessed so much anger, frustration, confusion and most importantly, SADNESS as I did from that site. I am quite happy being Paulette! I guess that is why I am so happy to be here at CDH. Sure, we all have our issues with SOs, family being in public, etc., but by and large we are a long way from ‘needy’. I guess being an old girl like me has its advantages. Hugs, Paulette
Though it makes me seem guilty of “oldfartism,” I believe this is just more evidence of the disintegration of comity and politeness.
If it’s oldfartism Lynn then we are both guilty of it because I agree with you completely!
Very nice picture!
Thank you.
Again, very nice and attractive picture! Also, you mentioned that you had lived in the Chicago area. I am residing there myself currently.
Dear Margaret;
I was born and raised in suburban Chicago, but a career in the army has taken far afield, and I no longer live there. Thank you for the compliment.
Lynn
Dear Julia;
I have a favorite joke from the old cartoon “Super Chicken.” Super Chicken, upon suggestion that he use his super-vision replies, “If I had any supervision, I wouldn’t be dressed like this.” If I had any dress sense, I wouldn’t be dressed like that. Thank you.
Lynn
Dear Michelle;
It is actually my pleasure to have done so.
Lynn
As an older (72), ever-maturing trans woman myself, I well appreciate your discovery and enlightenment. May I also say you present an absolutely lovely, truly youthful, and womanly image. Congratulations and may your discoveries and realizations of womanhood continue for many years, as well the expansion of your dating life with men who appreciate a fulfilled trans lady. Hugs.
P. S. – Great outfit from blouse to shoes! Holding it together woman!
What a treat. Thank you.
You’re welcome and I hope to see more of you in chat or email in the future, A woman of your experience is a valuable resource for so many less experienced, unsure, reluctant young transwomen and transgirls. So happy that you have also come to realize and have started to satisfy your true needs and desires. Hope to talk with you again soon dear sister.
You look cute in that flower print dress For myself I am a bit camera shy!
Well, thank you. Admittedly the unacceptable photos outnumber the acceptable.
This is a beautiful article. It is not enough to appear a certain way, regardless of gender, but we all should FEEL who we are and cherish that emotion.
Kudos, dear, and good journey.
Dear Samantha;
Thank you. You characterize the matter accurately: to simply appear to be female, to cast an illusion, is not as satisfying as – though admittedly we cannot be female (I am aware this is rather controversial) – being overcome by the feeling of being so.
Lynn
yes, what a beautiful article. it’s amazing feeling being all dressed up pretty, being treated like a woman. knowing what real woman go through to look pretty. putting on make up,, butting on a bra and boob enhancers, panties, nylons, a nice dress or blouse and skirt, walking in heels, putting on a necklace, smelling pretty. and thank you for your service. have a nice day and Definity enjoy the feminine side as much as you can. being out of the closet must be a amazing feeling.
Dear Lucinda;
Your thoughtful comments are greatly appreciated. To dispel any misconception: while being out of the house is indeed an amazing feeling, I remain figuratively in the closet. I guard the wall between my male and female selves with extreme diligence.
Great article. I also am most satisfied dressing when i date a man or another CD. It is good to be appreciated.
Your comment is appreciated. Someone once pointed out that being in the company of a man reduces probing attention.
That’s a very good article. That’s a beautiful outfit your wearing Lynn, very attractive and feminine looking.
Hugs
Liz
I’m pleased you enjoyed the article. At this age it is – I think – best to be a bit conservative.
Trombone year… I like it, I’m 76 as well.
Yes indeed, to really experience the gender, it’s necessary to deeply within feel the gender. Putting on the clothes is not enough.
I satisfy that need by interacting with genetic women and have them treat me as one of them. Nothing is more fulfilling for me then to be out and about and speak with women who are strangers and hold conversations and share experiences with them being totally accepted. That is unless it’s being around women who know about my birth defect who treat me as one of them.
I’m currently undergoing electrolysis to have me beard removed. This requires weekly treatments. I’ve gotten to know the two receptionists in the office of my electrologist. I go to my appointments totally en femme and when the need arises, use the women’s restroom. To be in the restroom with these ladies and interact with them while washing my hands after the fact and have them act totally normal toward me is where it’s at. I’ve also gone to lunch with one of them a couple of times, just two women enjoying lunch together.
That is fulfilling.
Well, Patricia, the trombone year has moved on to the Sunset Strip year. Old tv show. Not much else has changed, though.
Thank you for the wonderful compliment; it is greatly appreciated.