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Hey ladies! It’s Christmas time again (where did the year go??!!) and for many this is a great time of year to spend with family, friends and loved ones. For others, all the joy around them is merely a reminder of the lack of joy they feel in their own life. I, like many others, have been on both sides of that fence over the years. There were times growing up when Christmas morning was a magical time of gifts and giddiness, but others where I lamented that none of the presents were for Cyn. (I wrote an article a year or two back about that). There were years when my own kids were young and seeing their joy on Christmas morning along with that of my then-wife warmed my heart, but others after the divorce where I felt alone and despondent. In some years, I had the hope of maybe being in a relationship with someone but as the year went by, it fell through. And now-as I have gotten older and more and more relatives and even some friends are passing on, I wonder at times about whether I've lost the Christmas spirit.
But then I stop and reflect on all the POSITIVE things in life. I am “generally” healthy if slightly overweight and out of shape. I have a nice home and a decent job that I‘ve been at for 25 years. After discovering this site three years ago and moving along the road of exploring my gender feelings, I’ve come to accept who I am-a CD with at least SOME TG feelings, and a bunch of other eccentricities to boot, but someone who I like as a person. And even if I never find another life partner, I will have lived a good life, with the knowledge that I treated others as I would want them to treat me, not always as they themselves treated me.
And that brings me to the point of writing this. This site has been where I found a HOME- after many years of feeling like I was the only one in the world who felt like I did. The younger members here may not have even been alive in the times before the internet-when isolation was even worse than it still is sometimes today. The friends I have made here are a lifeline whenever I have times I feel like I am drowning in despair. And it is their love and support and kind words that sustain me. And more important than what I receive from the folks here is what I am able to GIVE-for it is only in giving of ourselves that we can find true happiness. I’m certainly NOT a trained counselor, nor an expert in relationships, nor a leader; but I DO have two ears that can listen, a voice that can share my own thoughts and support, and a shoulder to lean on for others when they are having their own struggles. And in doing those things, I am the one who is truly blessed. I say that not to toot my horn, but to implore each and every one of our members here to do the same-reach out to others; be a friend to someone who needs one, and just be here-whether in chat or the forums or commenting on articles. Make a difference with your PRESENCE not your PRESENTS-for THAT is the greatest gift of all.
I’ll be in chat more around the holidays especially Christmas Eve and Christmas Day so stop in if you aren’t too busy-or even if you are-and join all of us in making this truly Crossdresser Heaven!
Cyn
PS –a HUGE shout out and thank you to Vanessa who made this site possible with her vision and extraordinary effort to support those who follow in her footsteps!
You are gorgeous
Thanks for this wonderful post, Cyn! I've experienced a lot of what you said and I am grateful and honored to be a part of CDH! Have a magical holiday season and may the New Year bring us joy and happiness. Love, Lorrie
Roxanne would love to have loved ones to be with during Christmas! That would be ever so sweet! I would be a good, sweet Christmas girl for someone who wants to be close to me!
Roxanne Lanyon
Hi Cynthia,
What a lovely picture, you definitely make one cute Santas Helper! LoL But seriously, you are a very lovely lady and your words really touched my heart. You are absolutely right, everyone, (especially me), should take some time to reach out to those people who may be alone during the holidays. And I for one Thank God for directing me to this website. I was such a basket case when I registered but found support here and because of that support I found the strength to again address my crossdressing and come out to my SO. The support and acceptance I've found here has touched me so deeply, and has given me the courage to come out to my SO and actually start shopping again. I truly have developed a warm, fuzzy feeling for the gals here at CDH, I love you all!
I too lived and Crossdresse d before the internet and know what your talking about. I was so isolated and lived my life in shame because of my desire to dress. There were NO outlets or positive avenues in those days. Today there is information, stores , chat rooms, you name it, it's out there.
So I will also pay a visit to CRY on the holidays and hope see everyone there! Great Post Cynthia, I for one day Thanks. Hope Everyone has a Great Holiday Season!
Hugs & Kisses, Bren
hello Skippy nice to meet you and sorry for your loss, but life goes on. it must. i have been a x dresser for many years on and off. then internet came along and i am married, this site made me more happy to meet others like my self and meet new friends. we are not alone with this x dressing world. there is a good read that Missie cook wrote and its a good one. w don't know who is a x dresser, could be your Dr., neighbor, friend, co worker. i know am in my 50s and dress up when i can and love it, i under dress allot in winter to keep warmer and feel the sensation of the woman's cloths i am wearing. more comfortable to wear and style and color. its hard to come out to some one you know and tell them you are a cross dresser, getting caught is another. finding that certain person that will understand us and be OK with it is a tough find. my wife found out one year with a pic of me, she is getting better at my desire to dress up. she even gave me a a few pairs of girdles that she don't wear, so know i will. feeling the great fit of them is better then male cloths. i have more female cloths and make up then wife. there was a year she bought me a set of eye shadow as a joke gift. wish she would be more open and under standing and help with make up and talk like 2 woman. but maybe in time she will. i enjoy dressing up in female cloths more comfortable and great looks, with make up and wig and ear rings i am looking like a female. i am a 110lb person with a female figure. feel free to read my profile. thanks for your story. it was a pleasure reading and knowing i am not alone. real woman need to open up more with cross dressing. real woman do it all the time and that's OK with them. so why can;t us men dress like woman and be free. i could go on and on but we all have been there. have a great Holiday
Very pretty elf...Cynthia. Wishing you a very Merry Christmas and Happiness and good fortune in the new Year.
Dame Veronica
Very wonderful article. Merry Christmas !
looking beautiful Cynthia xx. I second your comments about CDH and about giving back. lovely article!
fiona xxx
Hey Cynthia. Thank you for sharing those beautiful thoughts. Warmest of wishes for the holiday season to everybody at CDH, Vennessa and her vision, and all the lovely people who frequent it to make it into the friendly community we appreciate so much.
Hi Cynthia,
Merry Christmas to you as well as everyone on CDH. A very nice article and I just want to reiterate that yes, Presence is a far greater gift then Presents here. I have received much love for just being in our community, thank you all. We are all truly blessed!
Well done ! Merry Christmas.
Season’s Greetings to everyone!! Merry Christmas ladies! Thank you Cyn! Try not to be too Cyn-ful - - forget that; be as sinful as you can!! Happy New Year!!!!!!!
Thank you Cyn! You captured how many of us feel about being part of our community. And I know that your presence here is certainly uplifting. So Merry Christmas, my dear friend and sister! And a Merry Christmas, Happy Solstice to all of my amazing CDH/TGH sisters and brothers!
Merry Christmas Cyn.
