I've moisturised for as long as I've been shaving. I think I tried after-shave the once, but as Golumn once said: "Aaah, it burns! It burns!" So never again 🙂

I have very short hair now although in my teenage years it was very long (it was the 80s). I've never had my ears done and while I think it would be a change to wear different styles of earrings, I'm in bloke mode more than not, so I don't bother.

I don't like my nails to be too long because, as you say, they get in the way of doing things. I remember trying false nails one weekend (I think most TG people do) and even after shortening them to a more reasonable length, I was surprised how difficult everyday tasks became. Typing was a complete pain!

Hehe, indeed 🙂
When I got my ears pierced a few years back I thought everyone would a. notice and b.freak out. Neither actually happened, and while it was a moment of courage to go into the local Claire's and get them pierced it opened up the "world of earrings" to me 🙂

Hugs,
Vanessa

P.S. I did figure out how to type with longer nails (~ 1/4 inch) by keeping my fingers nearly horizontal to the keyboard, it made a pleasant clack, clack sound as I typed.

Hi,

I usually try to help loved ones and friends. For example, shopping can be a major issue and it's hard to find small boutiques that feel comfortable helping "us." So, i've found a few sites that are welcoming and if you call their offices they are very sweet, compassionate and understanding to the taller cross dresser.
kathrynkerrigan.com for shoes
katclothing for clothes

I'm freaked out by my cross dressing bf. I'm ready to leave him
but I love him too much! help me.

Hi Wendy,

I remember "coming out" to my wife - it was very hard on both parties and, to be honest, still is. I love her, she loves me, the bit that's hard for her is that the me she loves incorporates the "female" part of me, without that I wouldn't be the me she loves (hope you got that bit!!). Once the cat is out of the bag, it can never go back in and I do sometimes "assume" she's more ok with it than she is - I realise when the caustic comments come out followed by "I'm joking" when I know she isn't. It will be a hard slog for both of you, I know it's a shock, to him it will be a relief as hiding it is very hard work - very stressful - I've regularly thought I was losing it and there were 2 people in my head - now I accept it's all just me. All the best to you both and please, I understand it is hard, very hard, but do try to understand - don't let him run roughshod over you, but don't try to force him to give it up - it's part of him, and forever will be......it's like asking him to rip his heart out (well, that's how it feels to me). It's only society's prejudice that causes the problems, how long was it before women in trousers were accepted ? I know it's probably a pipe dream but the old adage of "clothes do not maketh the man" really is true.

Good luck and I sincerely hope you get a good outcome for both of you.

I am growing my hair long as I have straight hair and will look really good when its longer.I will have it combed back during the day and let it down at night when I dress up.I have ALWAYS wanted real long hair and now I am gonna let it grow as i love the feeling of hair running down the sides of my face.By this time next year it will be near the length I want it and may get blonde highlights as I am a brunette.Since I have been using conditioner more often it has been growing like crazy 3/4 an inch a month, a bit more than the average growth of 1/2" a month.

As I have often said, I do not even try to "pass"., I am simply a man who likes the feel of women's clothing. OTOH, I grow my hair long, but that is because, once every two years or so, I have it cut, and send it to locks o love, to be made into wigs for children undergoing chemotherapy. I feel it is an inexpensive and painless way to give back to society, as I feel we all should whenever we can. So right now, my hair is at that disgusting lenth where it is too short to tie back with any real success, but so long it is constantly in my eyes. LOL When I have to do things that require me to use both hands, like playing in theater pit orchestras, I simply hold it back on both sides with bobbie pins. I usually get a little ribbing about it, but I am comfortable in my sexuality, (both the masculine and the feminine sides) and just laugh along with them.

I had my ears pierced when I was 18. It was the 80's and I was into the rock scene, so I started out under the cover that they earrings and eyeliner (and yes, even some of the clothing) was all part of the rock and roll thing, but the underliing truth is that I knew I wanted to be a girl and adopted a very feminine, yet still rock and roll appearance.
(that was the wonderful thing about the 80's was that I could somewhat crossdress right in front of people without any of them knowing I was crossdressed. aside from actually wearing a dress or skirt, pretty much any other female clothing was fairly acceptable and cool.)

Since coming out, I have had some permanent hair removal done and also had permanent make-up. Black eyeliner and Full Magenta Lips. So I wake up every day with that much make up on already. I plan to do some other permanent make up and also some more hair removal.
I have also had long hair every since I was about 11 or12 years old.
Once I have some dental work done this June and finish the hair removal on my face, my next hurdle will be breast implants and tracheal shave.

For me it is all in the mind since the body I was born with doesn't match who I am inside (445 COGIATI) so I dress when I can and dream about maybe coming back as the bi woman I am in the next life ( if reincarnation is a fact). Until then I do all I can to live as the woman I really am with the means available to me. I even find my self with crushes on lesbian women and have major vagina and breast envy.  Best wishes to all of my sisters on this wonderful website. I love you all, Daphne

I just feel at ease wearing something feminine

Wearing women's clothes to me has a multiple affect on me, 1; it just feels good, 2; Yes, there is a sexual factor, enough said! and 3; I am a big male 6" 250#'s, in society I am supposed to be strong and tough. Wearing woman's clothes gives me a safe option to shed, that 'Superman' image and be the softer being I have in me. I have dated after my divorce (my cross dressing was not the cause, even though my wife knew) and had found only 1 woman who was 'Ok' with it but not really (Over the conflicted years I like many have 'purged' many times, I have not done this in 20 years, now) she was upset that I had more clothes than she did!, So, that being said, there are many reasons for men to cross dress, good or bad, complicated or not. It seems to boil down to most genetic women still want that 'Superman' ideal, yet he's still there under feminine clothes, maybe born in the wrong body, maybe not. it's still hard to find a understanding woman.