Robyn Devine
Registered On: October 24, 2020
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Hi Robyn,

First off, great topic!

Second to (try) and answer your question from my perspective.

– Initially hiding for me was because I really did not want anyone to know.  I hid from family members, girl friends and now my wife (although she knows I like to dress at times) and kids.  My kids however are all grown, 2 do not live with us, 1 does.

– When I told my wife my collection of things was not very big, I did not own much.  That has changed in the last 2 years.  Got to the point I could not hide certain things, shoes/boots primarily.  Now I “hide in plain sight” if you will.  Sometimes I am not certain if my wife really does not notice, she is not clueless, or just decides to look the other way.

– “Hiding in plain sight involves this……(IMHO)……doing so allows me to “come out” without me actually having to say anything.  I’m not courageous enough to say it myself.  So at times I think I purposely leave some items in relatively plain sight where they could be seen by her at times.  Then she would be the one to say something.  I know, that is awful and a sign of weakness.  I don’t want to lose what I (we) have.

– When I do dress in my hybrid mode, I do have to do so in private.  What is equally difficult is getting undressed in the evening.  I have to be sure I do it quickly, and at a time where I am fairly confident I will not be interrupted, and caught by my SO.  Again, cowardliness on my part.

I guess in short the “hiding thing” is more complicated than it may seem on the surface.

Love and hugs,


I don’t consider it cowardice at all.

I look at it as your trying not to break the hearts of people you love and not upset their whole life.

Thats called love and compassion.

xo -Robyn 🤗❤️

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