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I just wanted to let the gals here know that it IS possible to open that closet door, even if it’s just a little.
I came out as gender fluid to a good friend of mine today. I let him know my name is Tara, I love to wear women’s clothing and project as female! I had a feeling he’d be okay with it, but I was extremely nervous about it. I showed him a picture of Tara and he accepted me for me and he said that whenever we hang out together, he’s fine if I want to project as male or female! He’d accept me either way! What a great friend!
So, it CAN happen, ladies! You CAN be accepted for who you are! You CAN open the door! Opening it a crack is the only way you can open it completely. I’m still working on that part, but the door is at least unlocked and partially open and letting in some sunlight!
AND, I couldn’t have done it without CDH! So, thank you all!
*kisses* tara 🙂
Wow! Congrats Tara and thanks for sharing the experience. That must feel so good to open the door a bit.
— Abbie 🥰
Tara….
Love your topic title!!!!
You had every right to be nervous…but you did it!!!!
Well done.
Sometimes that door is really stuck……but with steely will, a few deep breaths……..and a little oil!!!!…..who knows????
Grace ❤️
Congratulations Tara, that’s is one of the hardest steps to make as a CD. Sounds like you have a beautiful friend there. Good luck Amanda xx
Way to go, Tara.
I just did to the gal who cuts my hair. We have know each other 30 years. She was great. We even chatted about girls clothing. She is the only person besides my wife to know. It felt great to tell someone else.
Great to hear this news Tara. Make sure you put a stop under the door to stop it closing.
For me it was a life affirming experience to tell just one person. Now my door is off the hinges.
Know the person you are going to tell and even sound them out as to their thoughts on C.D. in conversation. The more you do it the easier it becomes.
Go girl.
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Congratulations Tara. Your friend is a really good friend and now you’re out to him you may find he has secrets too…. you never know.
I would love to tell some of my friends but its too risky because you can’t put the cat back in the bag. I’m moving toward androgny in every day life so hoping someone will notice and say something.
I’ve certainly made enough noise, figuratively speaking, for someone to have questions and say something, but the crew i work with is i think too nervous to say something to my face, but I strongly suspect they’ve said much behind my back already. If so, it hasn’t changed the work dynamic any. My door is open, and one person at work knows, whether she tells anyone else? I doubt it. It seems like sometimes people just don’t want to know, since pretending not to know is easier than asking and having things confirmed. Meh, whatever.
Bridgette
That is so lovely to hear.
Sadly as a former serviceman who works with 6 other former servicemen (Royal Marines) If I expect any sympathy I would have to look in the dictionary( I wont finish the rest of the saying)
Ideally I would love to tell the wife but am afraid she would tell friends on facebook (not in a malicious way)
I believe I have 2 choices, either inch the door open slowly and quietly or Kick the door open with handbag swinging screaming “What of it!”Hugs
Wilma x
Omg I’m so proud of you girl!! 🌼🌸💕
Well done you! That’s great! It surely feels good to tell someone, doesn’t it. A little nervy, but good. Now you’ve got a stronger friendship and an ally.
Bridgette
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It DEFINTELY felt awesome to tell someone! He’s always been such a good friend and now I think even more of him. My wish for all of you gals is that you have at least ONE friend like that!
*kisses* tara 🙂
Good for you, Tara, and I am envious!
I only have one good friend, and we have been best friends for almost 50 years, the only problem is I married his sister, so telling him would be telling the whole family, and as I have posted before, That wouldnt go well with my sons, sadly.
However, my wife has 3 nurses/PSW’s come in every week, and they all know now, and I am getting close to saying the heck with it,lol
Hugs, Regine👸💕
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