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      Jamie Williams
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      My love of femininity is rooted in an early lack of confidence in finding a girl that wanted to be with me. There was a sense of ‘since I can’t have the girl, I can make up for it by being girly’.But that has since grown into a general comfort in expressing my feminine side.
      While I was married and things were going well, the desire to dress was somewhat dormant. But as things soured, the desire grew once again. And now that I’m divorced, I’ve decided to just go for it. I’m not really concerned about finding a girl (or maybe a guy) anymore. I just feel better when I’m dressed and girly.

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      Wilma
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      For me it is the clothing, women’s clothing always looks more fun and freer fitting.
      I love the feel of the shiny materials Satin and such.
      All I have at the moment is some Satin underwear but hope to get more adventurous in the future.

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      Peaches Victoria
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      Because I’m a girl period 💁🏿‍♀️long story short

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      Cindy Lane
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      It just feels natural for me to wear female clothing. I feel at home when I am dressed as a woman.  I also love female clothing and enjoy shopping for them, but hate shopping for male clothing.

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      Michelle Houston
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      It liberates my fem side of me. Wearing panties and dresses excites me and I am taken my senses to another level. Feel free and feel happy. I also get a sense that this is who I should be.
      since a very early stage in my life even before been a teenager I would get my moms panties and hid in a closet and just rub them on my face. It felt confusing but I loved the sensation. So I tried to suppress the desires but could not stop. So I started cross dressing in my teens and then I convinced my girlfriends to give me their panties to wear them. So we’re turned off but others loved theidea and started to dress me up. Then I got married and on our first Xmas together she gave me a pair of red panties. The rest is history. Such support has made it easy to continue the masculine side and nourish the fem side.

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      Patricia Gil Hernandez
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      Just gotta be me, there is no reason for any of us to apologize for who we are. Women wear pants, boots, and not always from the girls section. Besides they don’t have nylons, dresses, or cute high-heels in the boy section.

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        Wilma
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        I have done my “shopping” on line and what I don’t like is all the models are original women, I want to know how I would look in them.

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      Leslie
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      I agree with so many of the things said. My reason for crossdressing is simple BECAUSE I HAVE TO!!! It is who I am!

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      Sherri Christopher
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      That’s awesome Sherri! If he’s anything like my guy I’ll bet he’s really turned on by those lingerie shows!

      Yes, Jess, he is always appreciative of my lingerie shows for him. I’m a tease and that and my retro lingerie style is a big turn on for him!

      Sherri XOXOXO

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      Sherri Christopher
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      Leslie

      Thanks Leslie! He appreciates me and I appreciate his attentions (I love using double entendres! ).

      Sherri XOXOXO

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      Jess Secret
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      From my early teens I developed a serious fascination with beautiful/romantic/bridal lingerie & sleepwear. How gorgeous it looked, and from that the urges and desires to wear it and feel beautiful were too strong to not indulge. It started with my mom’s lingerie and the being able to go lingerie shopping for my own lingerie was heaven. Wearing it to bed was amazing and a huge adrenaline rush, especially seeing myself in the mirror for the 1st time. I felt like a bride on her wedding night and I wanted to experience that all of the time from that point on. Now all these years later I’ve grown my lingerie wardrobe exponentially and I have a great boyfriend to wear lingerie for. It’s simply amazing, there’s nothing like wearing beautiful lingerie.

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        Sherri Christopher
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        Jess wrote:

        Now all these years later I’ve grown my lingerie wardrobe exponentially and I have a great boyfriend to wear lingerie for. It’s simply amazing, there’s nothing like wearing beautiful lingerie”

        Lingerie really does it for me as well. Back in the day I had an aunt that I saw a few times in a beautiful slip and all of the wonderful lingerie underneath and she was wearing heels and I wanted to be her! I found a lady who sells vintage slips, lingerie and dresses online and I asked her to let me know when she came across slips that are my size and I’ve gotten some beautiful Van Raalte and Vanity Fair slips that new, aren’t made like that anymore with the pretty lace and ruffles and now I can at least dress like my beautiful aunt! It feels so wonderfully feminine under a dress too! I also *love* sleeping in a slip and lingerie!

        There’s a guy I met online and he loves my retro lingerie style and I give him lingerie shows and it’s been “fun!” for the both of us! 😉

        Sherri

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          Leslies Ann Gray Girl
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          Sherri , How lucky he is , to have such a sweet and beautiful lady showing him her body in her lingerie , i hope he realizes how lucky he is . Leslie

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          Jess Secret
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          That’s awesome Sherri! If he’s anything like my guy I’ll bet he’s really turned on by those lingerie shows!

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      Michelle McQueen
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      I dress in order to let Michelle out of her prison for a time to breath and express herself. She is always sad to go back so I allow her visitation rights by underdressing with panties and a bra every day. She would make my life miserable if I didn’t let her out.

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      Krissy Richards
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      Im always much happier to present myself as a female as ive always felt very different to other males as not motivated by what hangs between my very female legs as was never really into the kinda things that other boys were into? Whilst they were out ‘sewing their wild oats’ i found sex, love very confusing as i was so shy that the girl i was with or could of got with would ask me why i never wanted to make love or sex? And when i did finally shed the L PLATES i found it very painful physically and was scared of being asked why i looked so feminine and why i had no body hair? I was around 12 and these hairs started growing and id feel dirty if i didn’t have them shaved off or waxed. Then other hairs would grow and id get rid of them. So by the age of around 14 i was a smooth boy with a body that looked very female and didnt have any urges to make love to girls as was more interested in looking like them and finding out wear they had bought all these wonderful items of clothes and why did my body look more suited to wearing a skirt and why was so many girls sayings i had amazing legs and they wished their bottom was a peachy as mine. I used endlessly gaze at catalogues and dream of being the model posing in lingerie or a beautiful little black dress? I was enthalled by everything female and wanted everything all the girls had. I can remember thinking to myself why are girls clothes so cool and doesnt that colour lipstick look good on me! Growing up in the late 70s early 80s the lines between males and females became blurred and i can remember so many bands that wore make uo even some that dressed like females and it was something beguiling and something i had great interest in and obviously it rubbed off on me and its never gone away and id always take any chance to be like a female, i can remember going to parties fancy dress ones and it was a running joke that id always go as a woman no matter what the theme was id be there in my dress and heels its always something i embraced and was very happy to blur the lines between genders. I can remember when culture club had there 1st ever song out and people couldnt work out what sex boy george was? I used to look at him and think what a beautiful person i want to be like that, back then there was so many people doing it and i found it mesmerising and couldn’t get enough of it and from them days i became the person i am today! Not defined by anyone and if i want to be like the way i am then that makes me happy. And ive always lived my life that way.

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      Julie Clarke
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      My mother was very beautiful I would occasionally see her putting her stockings and tights on, i was very young about 7 year’s old and just felt the urge try her tights on to see how they felt, in my bedroom was an airing cupboard with clothing in I found my mother’s lingerie in it I just felt the urge to try them on, I slipped the panties on and tucked my bits between my legs even though a little large on me felt and looked so good next tights and a bra I was in heaven, when home alone trying on dresses, I was hooked and never looked back, this was 50 years ago, I now have a lovely wardrobe.

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      Liz Craig
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      My inner female side comes out and this is a part of my life

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      Krissy Richards
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      I think being brought up surrounded by girls and having no male influences in my early made into the almost female i am,i was never interested in male things and being around girls it turned me into one,well it certainly gave me nudge that way and once i tried there was no other way to live. My girlfriends would buy clothes and id be in awe of them and ask them to try them on and after that i was hooked 🙃

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      Krissy Richards
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      Ive always felt different and at first i thought i may of been gay but nope! Its because i feel like a woman and cant get on in the male world, when i was at school all my friends were girls and i felt happy around them and even let them into my secret of being a crossdresser and we would go out into town as girls and i was looked upon as one of the girls, i even let them a couple of times give me a make over as at the time i was a very fit size 8 with shoulder length hair and as a dare i even kissed a boy and he didnt know i was a girl. I wrote to him to say i really enjoyed myself and would like to see him again but he was really scared of his friends finding out i was a boy and alas nothing came of it later on in life i had a couple of boyfriends where they knew i was male and it was great but then i was raped by this boy and his friends and since then ive never really trusted bio males and im much happier having relationships with girls like us or women that are happy to let me be me xx

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      Julie Clarke
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      Love the smooth materials and the way I feel and look makes me relaxed

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      Sherri Christopher
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      What is my reason for crossdressing, hmmm I have been dressing in one way or another for nearly 50 years so its a massive part of my life, so there is no reasoning behind it, it is just that it feels so right and natural for me to do, yes in the past I have felt shame and guilt about wanting to dress as a woman like so many others have said on here.  I am now at a place in my life where I am more than happy  with the crossdressing road I am on and to have a understanding wife makes it a lot easier, I appreciate that a lot of ladies are not as fortunate as I am and my heart goes out to them as I know the stress and frustration of keeping such a big secret from their loved ones or the problems coming out to a loved one who does not understand the need to dress as a woman can bring.

      Samantha x

      Samantha,

      You’re fortunate to have a wife that accepts your crossdressing, Good for you, girl! I told my wife about my crossdressing before we got married. She was sometimes accepting of it, but for the most part, she didn’t care for it and knew that I did it, but did not want me to CD around her, so I hid it from her. Staying in our marriage was more important to me than CDing. Unfortunately, cancer took her from me and the kids 4 years ago. After mourning for her, I decided to move forward in life and retired from my job and I moved to a new place by the Rockies and I have my own place now. I can dress anytime I want and also sleep wearing my slips and it’s given me much comfort. I’m doing OK now and life has been good! BTW, I’ve been crossdressing for 61 years, since I was 4 years old, so it’s a part of me and I’m not ashamed of it anymore!

      Sherri

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      Samantha Jo
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      What is my reason for crossdressing, hmmm I have been dressing in one way or another for nearly 50 years so its a massive part of my life, so there is no reasoning behind it, it is just that it feels so right and natural for me to do, yes in the past I have felt shame and guilt about wanting to dress as a woman like so many others have said on here.  I am now at a place in my life where I am more than happy  with the crossdressing road I am on and to have a understanding wife makes it a lot easier, I appreciate that a lot of ladies are not as fortunate as I am and my heart goes out to them as I know the stress and frustration of keeping such a big secret from their loved ones or the problems coming out to a loved one who does not understand the need to dress as a woman can bring.

      Samantha x

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      Bailey Vogel
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      I’ve had limited experience crossdressing before the last few months, so I hope I can add a different perspective. I find it hard to explain how right it feels wearing women’s clothes and presenting myself as a women, even if it is only in private. I love showing off my female form, especially in pink, and women’s clothes are incredibly comfortable.

      I suppose the best reason I can come up with though is that dressing as a women helps me feel more like myself, and reduces stress for me. I really love my feminine side.

      🙂

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        Krissy Richards
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        I was always dreaming when I was younger what it’s like to be female then it just happened one day I found myself with a strong urge to try on tights and lingerie and ever since it’s just been something I have to do because I enjoy embracing my femme side and truly think everyone male should try it once in their life! So go for it you’ll love it. Embracing my femme side is the best thing I’ve ever done and I’ve no regrets at all. I look forward to dressing everyday

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      Debbie Werner
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      The place where it takes me, cloud9!

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      Charlotte Walker
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      Myself I feel more relaxed. The feel of feminine clothes on my skin is a lovely feelin. I am happier when I can be full femme. I get excited and happy when shopping for a dress love going through the clothes rail and finding something suitable. Then rushing home to try the dress on.

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      Frederica Woodbridge
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      This sums me up best……

      “But in truth, cross-dressing is grounded in a highly logical and universal desire: the wish to be, for a time, the gender one admires, is excited by – and perhaps loves. Dressing like a woman is merely a dramatic, yet essentially reasonable, way of getting closer to the experiences of the sex one is profoundly curious about – and yet has been (somewhat arbitrarily) barred from”.

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      This is a very interesting question – but not one I feel I can give an adequate answer to.  I was very young when I started wearing my sisters panties; I’m not sure why I did, but they just looked so different compared to my own underwear and once I’d noticed them I thought they looked so soft, and the close fitting feeling was certainly interesting.  I was far too young to have any conscious sexual feelings about the experience – though that came a few years later – but I remember it felt so, so right.  A couple of years later I progressed to wearing tights – and that felt even better – probably the first sexual feelings I ever had; the feeling of the nylon on my skin was just unbelievable – and it remains my favourite sensation.  After that, skirts and bras just seemed a logical extension, and when I could finally afford them, some high heels and a long wig just rounded off the experience.  I never felt that I was really a woman; just that this was something that made me feel complete… and also just felt so, so sensual.  Nowadays it’s more of a matter of not feeling quite right if I don’t dress up.  Hope this helps – no matter how vague it is……  Unsure Inga.

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      Abbie Normal
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      It’s complicated?
      I’m not 100% sure if it started as something sexual or I just made it that way shortly after as a coping mechanism. Crossdressing in the late 70’s wasn’t a popular choice it seemed to 10 year old me. Now I really feel like it’s a part of my identity in a non-sexual way but being a man is also part of that identity. Sometimes I have a stubbly face and am in jeans and a T shirt, usually with panties on underneath, sometimes I fool myself into thinking I could pass as a woman in a dark room. I know that I smile more and really feel like I’m home when I dress en femme lately but that might be because I’ve been away from it for a while? When I put on the wig and breast forms I invariably say “ oh, there you are…” like I’ve been missing.

      Good question!

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      Bettylou Cox
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      I think I answered this question shortly after I joined CDH 2 years ago; but that was before I understood and fully accepted myself. Now, I know what the answer is: Because I’m really a girl; I just can’t pass the physical. The Pink Fog overtook me just a bit over 5 years ago; I’ve been actively Dressing for only about 2 years, but when I step into a dress or skirt or hook up my bra, it feels as natural as if I had been doing so my entire life. I’m not crossdressing, just dressing.

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      I mean, does there need to be a reason? Other than the fact that there’s both a male and female spirit inside?

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      Denise Longo
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      Always thought I was a girl in the wrong body. Thin and not good at boy things, I thought I should have been female. Hated fighting and conflict, avoided physical contact and in general had a softer side. tried mom’s clothes and was hooked, till I outgrew them and then went into hibernation until getting our of the service. Married a wonderful girl who didn’t like it so I stopped at home and dressed when I traveled.
      Wife has passed now, so I have more time and clothing and dress some part of every day. That is the only time I am pleased with myself. I enjoy bright colors, looking pretty (even though I am not} Love the camaradarie of women with each other and their ability to express their feelings and be free of strict societal behavior mores.
      Still have family who don’t know, so have to be careful and keep drab handy in case someone drops in unannounced since my illness and loss. Would like to meet others like me and be able to relax in an accepting environment.

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      Dream
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      This is the question that we struggle with. My dad asked this question when I was caught with my sisters panties in my dresser at the age of 6. I was scared as s–t. Even at that age I knew it was wrong but something inside compelled me, drove me, and drove me crazy till I had them in my hand. At the time I had no idea or any idea what to say. I imagine a lot of the CD community asked why at this age. When actually having to answer that question to someone who you be leaved to be your love at the time, well for myself I made up why a wore female clothes. I have a feminine side, it relaxes me, I like the way it feels, and they are more comfortable. When in our own minds we really didn’t know. Most of them are true but for me it was a balance between desire and guilt. I had an mostly controllable dersire to wear panties and dresses and all that my female counter[parts wore. I have never understood why they don’t wear what I so long to wear.
      In my mid 40’s I reached out for help. I found a great councilor she listen to what I had to say. She helped me get the monkey off my back. The monkey was the guilt I carried for 40 years. Once the guilt was gone the reason I dress was in front of me like a giant billboard.

      I dress because I LOVE WHO I AM.

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      Chelseyw
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      I can’t completely answer that. I first dressed very young. Probably 6 years old or so, it just felt right. As I got older I tried to suppress it. I would go months where I never thought about it, then months when it consumed me. Most of my life I never had clothes and lived with roommates so had to suffer. Now I have my own clothes but wife and kids so almost never alone. I did tell my wife over a year ago, it comes up every once in a great great while. Basically a DADT situation. My life has been fairly difficult from the time I was a child, perhaps it’s an escape from the real world. I do believe it was something I was born with and have no choice. There is something about the way I feel when dressed. No one has ever seen me, I’m at the point where I would like that to change. Have to see where things go from here!

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      Rhonda
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      For me its nothing sexual it is just me becoming as close the the woman that I was supposed to be. I’ve known my entire life that I was supposed to be female and something went wrong. When I am Rhonda I feel whole and like my self. When I have to go out in boy mode that is when I am pretending.

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      Revel
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      Different reasons for me.  Like many, I love the feel of feminine clothing, and transforming into a beautiful woman. I find it joyful, sexual, and most importantly, relaxing. When I cross-dress, it makes me happy, and keeps my mind calm. It’s a great stress reliever. Revel keeps me balanced and level.

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      Sherri Christopher
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      Early on I mean that 10 yr old kid it felt right somehow, later it became sexual but still it just felt like that missing part. Now it’s still somewhat sexual but really it’s about finally embracing the femininity that I love in myself.

      Katie,

      Yes, for me, the sensual of wearing vintage slips and lingerie and the sexual have gone together for most of my life. It’s taken a long time for me to come to acceptance over this and finally, while entering my senior years, I’ve come to accept of who I am! I’m a M-F crossdresser, who loves being en-femme, but is happy being my male self as well!

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      Kimberly Lynn
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      Too bring out the women that is inside to the outside and too have a place that accepts that when the person inside doesn’t match the outside you fall into a deep depression and when she comes to the surface it for that time she is on the surface you feel like yourself not the person on the outside Kimberly 💜💜🦄

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      Katie Time
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      Early on I mean that 10 yr old kid it felt right somehow, later it became sexual but still it just felt like that missing part. Now it’s still somewhat sexual but really it’s about finally embracing the femininity that I love in myself.

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      Genevïéve
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      The ‘Pink Fog’ is getting thin… 😢

      Gen ❤

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      Mandy Sheman
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      Wow what a thought provoking topic. And so many answers that would match my own. And questions as well.
      I started youngish yes mom’s clothes. I’d shelf my desires for long periods of time trying to be “normal” portraying the macho male I was expected to be. You know the bad boy tattoo covered biker, trucker and of course the boyfriend that was hated by every girl’s parents lol.

      But I always had a softer gentle “pink” side I kept hidden. Well it took a failed marriage “totally unexcepting of CDing” and god knows how many failed relationships to come to terms with myself, and trust me I’m still a work in progress!

      Yes as many it was all about sex in the beginning. But it evolved into so much more. When I get dressed I feel good, no great about myself. I just feel comfortable in my own skin as a woman. Will I ever be a woman full time? Probably not, I’m 60 now so I think that ship has sailed. I still portray/pretend to be a mans man in my professional and a lot of my social life.

      Do I have issues, Definitely! I know that and I’m working on them.
      It’s so comforting to know I’m not alone and developing a new network of friends that can relate

      Okay I’ve babbled enough. Just thank you to the girls in this community that excepted and reached out to me.

      Love you
      Mandy 😘

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      Sherri Christopher
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      Mainly, is because crossdressing is a compulsion with me. I only crossdress when I feel compelled to do so. Getting too old. Had this habit since I was 5yrs old. That was 60yrs ago. Still, won’t mind being female; but it’s not happening this late in life.

      Carica Catture,

      I’ve been crossdressing since I was 4 years old and I’m 65 now, so as with you, it’s been a life-long thing. I’m replying to your post because I relate with your situation. My CDing is cyclical and I can go not having the urge to CD for a week or so, sometimes a month and I have gone through a period of years not CDing but then I start again. I never wanted to transition though and as with you, at this point in my life, that’s not something I’d do. That’s why I refer to myself as a crossdresser and not transgendered as I have no desire to transition.  Cancer took my wife 3+ years ago and I retired and moved out West and have my own place now and I can CD whenever I want. I especially love wearing vintage slips and lingerie. I’m fortunate to still have a full head of hair and it’s long and I wear it down when I dress and I feel feminine and content, comfortable now in my own skin.

      Sherri

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      Jeannie Jones
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      I love the panties and dabble in other clothes but no makeup or long hair and do not go out dressed. I do however always have panties on and do not care if the nurse or doctor sees them. I love fit and feel of panties and feel so girly in them even if all other clothes I have on are drab.

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        Bobbisue Jones
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        I agree somewhat with Jeannie Jones.
        I love wearing panties, they are so comfortable.
        I wear them every day & don’t care what doctors or nurses think!
        I don’t know how far I want to go in this journey yet. I do feel,No want, to get a bra. I have always loved breasts and bras are an essential part of the love.
        I think part of my obsession is jealousy. I believe, subconsciously, I want breasts. Due to a period of time with low T, my estrogen kicked in and I now have about a good handful of breasts. I can’t wait to get a bra for them.
        Sometimes, I think I should have never started T shots and just let estrogen do it’s job. Guess thats a discussion to have with my therapist!

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      DianaCD22
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      I was very shy and quite when I was young. I loved looking at the girls and admired how they looked and acted. I fully dressed for the first time way back in 8th grade wanting to emulate the beauty and grace the girls displayed. It was something I couldn’t have.

      After that one episode I didn’t dress again for years.  It came back in my mid 20s after my fiancé dumped me. Again I wanted to emulate the beauty and grace of the feminine character. I find women’s fashion and style so much more desirable men’s. It is so diverse and interesting with all the options. The clothing, makeup, jewelry, and hair are so delightful. There is always something new to discover and new ways to experiment with.

       

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      Ella
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      Because I love women so much that I want to be like them to experience their own feelings; but then I return to being a man to be able to give her all the love I feel.

      Ella

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        Diane Ladysmith
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        That makes total sense to me, I can absolutely relate to that motivation. Thanks for sharing!

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      The reason that I dress is, that is the true me. I am destined to transition. I am trying to untangle and work through all the issues that are stopping me. In some ways, I have already started.

      I saw a quote that said “it isn’t crossdressing if you are transgender.” I’ll go with that.

      Eva

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        Hi Eva, loved your comment and the quote. Hadn’t thought of my femme desire that way. Enjoy your lovely journey as you transition.

        Debbie Lynn, she/her

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      Really don’t honestly know as many people have said. Started with the love of wearing tights at around 5 years old. Was a teenager before started adding clothes to the tights and progressing to fully dressed. Was sexual at that point and still is to an extent.

      Thought of getting dressed fills me with an almost nervous excitement. Love the sensation of putting on the underwear and doing my makeup. Looking in the mirror at the end result gives me an amazing buzz as I see another me. The feeling of walking about in heels and feeling a dress or skirt brushing against your tights is just so sweet.

      The desire to dress isn’t always there with me but it’s never far away.

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        Oh yes, I revel in that lovely buzz brought on by the feel of silky panties & a camisole against one’s skin & of nylon-clad legs crossed or rubbing together while walking in heels–a better high than a couple of cocktails usually.

        Georgina

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          I can certainly understand

          I started at a young age loving the look of ladies nylon clad legs and sexy heels .

          then I tried on moms hose and silk slip and have never looked back.The sensation of the silky hose on me sent me into extreme pleasure even to this date.

          The feeling of dressing and walking around just feels so sensual

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            Becca Booty
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            Sandra I agree with you 100%. When at 14 I put on my aunts pantyhose for the first time I felt so Fem n sexy.  Loved the way my legs and butt looked in them too. Actually made me want to wear them for a guy.  I still love the way they feel on me.

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      Carica Catture
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      Mainly, is because crossdressing is a compulsion with me. I only crossdress when I feel compelled to do so. Getting too old. Had this habit since I was 5yrs old. That was 60yrs ago. Still, won’t mind being female; but it’s not happening this late in life.

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      Stephanie Partime
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      Honestly…..I’m still trying to figure that out. Right now I would say the tactile feel of the clothing items and how each piece responds differently to the environment. Maybe it is me, but I feel like I can sense the subtle air currents on my stocking covered legs…especially when I wear a skirt. It’s arousing, exciting and liberating all in one. I just ordered my first bra and I am dying with anticipation to see how it will feel.

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    • #467517
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      I do it for a number of reasons.

      It is a rush and I feel like a different person.  Its definitely a turn on and exciting.  Its amazing how your whole demeanor and persona can change when you slip on a sexy pair of heels.  I love looking sexy and the idea that in my short little skirt I could turn on a woman and a man.

      I love the way heels make my legs look and how they make me feel.  I am very short and when I put them on I feel tall, sexy, and powerful.

      I have had feminine feelings for a long time and when I am dressed I feel at ease with them.

      I have not ventured out much dressed but Jade has many more adventures on her bucket list and her adventure is really just getting started.

       

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      Rachel Hidden
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      It depends.

      Most of time it is because the feminine feel. The look, texture of the clothing, feel of clothing lines. Basically all the differences between being in male dress vs feminine.

      There are times however where it’s about sexual desire. Wanting to feel sexy and treated like a sexy woman, act like a sexy woman.

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      As it is for a lot of us CDs in the beginning it is sexual. As I did it more I realized that it was actually my “other side”. Im VERY comfy en femme and love it. There is SO much cute stuff out there to wear. As I was getting dressed one note for our “girls nite” I told my wife ” One reason I love dressing is that there are so many cute things to wear! Starting with matching bra n panties to jewelry and accessories!! Just love it. Occasionaly I do get a little tingle when I start slipping a sexy little thong on. Cant deny lol. Im 5′-9″ and 150 slime athletic build and a smaller clitty bump that grows nicely. That makes it very easy to hide in a tight pair of panties. Love doing my make up and hair. Its all so fun.
      Riley 💋

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      The feel, the look, and the ability to step out of my male skin and be Annaleigh for even a few hours.

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    • #452511
      Harietta
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      It’s the Cinderella effect, meaning that I see myself at my best. It is elevating, and relaxing at the same time. Stimulating and calming.
      I am learning to deal with the Cinderella effect when it all has to come off….

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    • #443061
      Katey Doe
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      Hi, well for me it feels natural I feel like me when I dress, I know sounds strange. I just love the feeling I have when I slip Katey on.

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      Rachel Hayes
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      My favourite reason for cross dressing, eh?

      I mean there are so many happy elements to dressing.  Everytime I dress is an event for me.  I (try) to take my time and savour every moment and every action and each one gives me a smile and a nice feeling.  Yes, I realise that won’t last forever but I’m enjoying it while it lasts hehe.

      If I was pinned down to a decision, then it’s the way it makes me feel inside and about myself.  I mean putting on my bra and panties gets my heart racing in anticipation of what I know is coming.  Of course, they feel amazing on my skin but it’s much more than that.

      I know that what I’m doing is going to lead to being fully dressed (unfortunately without makeup yet) and the excitement just builds with every item that I put on.  Stepping into my heels is the last thing to my (current) look and when my emotions are at their highest.  Then I just go about whatever it is I’m dong, usually working, dressed with a massive smile and a warm fuzzy feeling in my heart.

      Love Rachel

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      Great subject. What is your reason? I would love to know why from a textbook point of view. How many behavioral specialists would it take to answer this for us? I have to defer to CD Heaven who wrote “I just love the look and feel of being a girl. The clothes are way more comfortable for one”.  The other night I was standing in the kitchen making dinner wearing heels, stockings, a knee length pencil skirt and a pull over top and asking myself why do I feel so relaxed, so comfortable and so normal dressed like this. I looked down at myself and thought if I could just be like this every day life would be perfect. I recall thinking I don’t ever want to put on male clothes again. The feel of a skirt around my knees when I walk is undeniably sensual. A skirt is without a doubt the most comfortable clothing item in the world. I understand why women don’t want men to dress like them.  They want to keep all the really great fabrics and clothing to themselves. 😊

      As to the question of transitioning for a sexual release or an emotional release. Both of course but as this evolved the emotional release was a far greater draw. I look forward to having my girl days which start out in the AM with a shower, leg shaving, makeup, hair, NAILS and whatever cloths fit the day.  Some days it is stockings, skirt and a blouse but other days it is boy shorts, sneakers and a tight stretchy tee.  Cold rainy days it is leggings and a long shaggy loose sweater. During the day I go about my normal activities.  Work at my desk, calls to clients, emails.  Cleaning the house, laundry, fixing things around the house, all the normal life stuff. Workdays is leggings and a baggy sweatshirt.  In the evening I always shower and dress for dinner with full makeup, perfume and heels.  Seating in the dining room with wine and candles. After dinner sitting in the living room reading is one of my favorite pleasures.   Books, magazines, you tube how to on makeup, you name it.  One hundred percent woman’s world.  Truly these are the times when I am the most relaxed and happiest and what feels like the natural me.  I would love nothing more than to have a girl friend to sit with on those nights and just talk girl all night long. I often stay up way past normal hours because I simply don’t want to stop being Chesley.

      In the end there is no one reason. Definitely the cloths but overall, the feeling.  It is wonderful to be sexy, sensual and feminine.  To have ultra-fine fabrics against my skin.  The light click of heels on the hardwood floors. To put on jewelry that helps to define me. To feel the silky swish of long hair on my bare shoulders. To smell like the women, I have walked by for years. And the nails.  I could do an hour about the nails. The hair in my moth all day long.  Sacrifices ladies.

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        C. What a lovely commentary. It’s a wonderful sensation to love being yourself. Thanks for sharing Chelsey with us.
        P

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      Rachel Hayes
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      Why do I cross dress?  That’s a great question…

      Sure there is a sexual element to it, but it’s so much more than that.  Every time I put a bra on or put some lovely silky panties on, I get butterflies (I’m sure this will fade over time) and I just feel great.  Add to that a skimpy top and a short skirt or a short dress with some lovely heels and I just can’t stop smiling and I’m so happy.

      I’ve yet to attempt make up or my nails but I can’t wait.  They will just add to the femme and increase those feelings of gorgeous and sexy.

      I’m a realist and acknowledge it’s extremely unlikely I’ll ever “pass” (although I’d love a pro makeover to see what’s possible) but passing in public is somewhat secondary for me personally. The feeling of the clothes next to my skin and the being as girly as I can is so intoxicating and I love it so much.

      Love Rachel

       

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        Haley Ann
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        Rachel,

        I have been dressing since I was about 10, and at this point I wear something nearly every week day, even if just doing my stuff around the house. Still very sexual for me, and I am not ashamed of that…but the butterflies? I still get them every time I put my panties on, or shave my legs in the shower, or paint my toenails! I hope they don’t ever go away for you either😉

        Haley😘

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      Didi Phox
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      What a great thread.

      I never had childhood desires to dress. There was no trigger point or landmark event which made me crave those oh so sheer stockings. What there was, was many years of unhappiness, repetitive cycles of seeking out short term highs or quick ‘wins’ but never really being satisfied. In my adult life I knew something wasn’t right and that’s when I decided to seek out help and found Didi.

      Didi is my Yin to my masc Yang. Totally opposite in almost every way; hyper fem, extroverted and full of sensitivity and emotions. Whereas, let’s call him Paul, is traditionally rugged, introverted, logical and can easily compartmentalise how he’s feeling.

      It’s taken me a long time to realise that I can’t be any one of them and be happy, they come as a pair. If I neglect one of them, I can actually feel them emotionally rebelling. I love them both, they are who I am and what together they enable me to do.

      So the answer to the question is… harmony.

      My goodness, finally writing that felt amazing!!

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        Amelia Love
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        Hello Didi;

        When I read your thoughts on why you do it I knew exactly how you felt. I think that was kind of my feeling when I wrote my topic “This is how my day feels” and “harmony” was a word I could not quite reach as to how I felt the male and Amelia worked together and the understanding they have for each other. It resonates very strongly as to how I go through my day too. Just a bit more of the sentimental part of leaving Amelia behind. We work together for each other. Thanks for striking a chord and finding the missing word to complete how I feel.

        Hugs Amelia 🎀

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        I really enjoyed your comments about every one of you being in harmony. I agree 100%. I would have needed two pages to say what you said in a few sentences. You are spot on that you cannot ignore any of them. I was doing something outdoors the other day and asked myself if I would enjoy it as Chesley and the true answer was no. It is nice to be able to experience both worlds.

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        Didi. I read your words with an exhaustive sigh embracing that awareness when the 2 parts come together. I know, that in those few words, you touched a place within that now has light. Be you!

        kisses.  P

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    • #438607
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      Okay for me. I have no interest in passing or becoming feminine. Me it’s all about the clothes, leggings, jeans and lingerie leggings are my top 3 favorites. Sure I own some dresses and a some other things.

      But them 3 kinds are the must have, no matter what. I not saying that will always be that way, but the way it is right now.

      Hippie

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      Joanna Dirksen
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      I guess its because I work in an office surrounded by lots of beautiful women who have beautiful taste in fashion. Their business attires are beautiful. I love the look of pencil skirts,  with tights and heels or boots. Their clothes are so comfortable and sexy. They are my role models.

      I wanted to know what it felt like to wear lingerie,  pencil skirts and high heels. I bought a few new outfits and I was not disappointed. I feel comfortable and sexy.

       

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      Sherri Christopher
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      I just want to emulate all the women I have worshipped!

      Polly, that’s the way I feel as well. I grew up in the 50s and 60’s and that was the golden age for slips and I loved catching a glimpse of their lacey slips! I have a collection of retro slips from that era, Van Raalte, Vanity Fair and even JC Penney and it feels so good wearing them!

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      • #438882
        Lysette Anthony
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        Now you mention it, I used to love looking at my mother’s slips in the 1950’s

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        Sherri Christopher
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        You can see all of my slips and negligees on my profile cover photo. I hung them all up on the curtain rod in my room.

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      I’m not sure the story below is the reason but it definitely pushed me “over the edge”. Something this simple.
      A few years ago I was in an airport waiting to board. I was sitting, reading probably, and I glanced over at young girl(you know, slouched with her legs in smooth leggings, spread wide). I wanted to be her with the smooth rounded mound that was so well defined in her leggings. That was a defining moment for me.
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      Makes me feel alive, free, be the girl I was meant to be!! I love to feel sexy

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    • #434265
      Polly Stewart
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      I just want to emulate all the women I have worshipped!

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      It calms me when im dressed like a girl and i like you wished i was born a girl

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        I have always been very tactile and enjoyed nice fabrics and clothing but was very masculine for my first 50 years.  I first dressed as a sexual experiment but a quickly found that it had released an inner femininity  which I enjoyed.  It wasn’t just that I love the range of designs , fabrics and colours but I loved the more empathic softer me that dressing released.  I sometimes regret that dressing can still be strongly sexual for me because I’m so peaceful when my persona is fully femme and I’m relaxed as a woman.

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          LisaT, thank you for my new word.  Tactile.  Girl am I tactile. After I shave my legs I love to run my hands over them and enjoy the purity of bare skin. Slip on a pair of stockings and there are no words to describe what I feel. And you are so right about the change in personality. Being fully femme is transcending.  It is enjoyable to be with that person.  Thank you for my new word.

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            Mmm, yes. There are few things more sensuous than slipping nylons over freshly smoothed legs. A simple, yet delicious pleasure.

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          Although I started dressing when I was quite young, well before I knew anything about sexuality, it was both sexually exciting and soothing. (There is no contradiction there. I experienced arousal, but did not not know what it meant, only that it felt good.) I’m also very tactile. I love the feeling of feminine underthings and running my hands over my smooth legs.

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          I think so many of us would understand and appreciate your journey, your turmoil s as bd your peaceful resolve. At your close I am reminded of a common expression, “whatever possessed me to do…”? We reveal inner portions of ourselves when least expected, often provoked by unusual experiences, leading one to say…”whatever possessed me to behave like that?”.
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      Genevïéve
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      It’s an addiction for me now… a feel-good addiction. Euphoric….

      I’m in my ‘Comfies’ from the time I get home, to the time Life gets in the way. I’m sure some of you girls can relate.

      As many of you have said… ‘It just feels right’. Don’t know how, or why… don’t want to know if truth be known. I’m just glad that you and I have been blessed with this little slice of Heaven… 🥰

      Peace and L❤VE  ……

      GEN… ❤

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      Riley McCort
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      Agreed. Sooo much more fun to buy clothes and pick outifts!! So comfy, cute, n fun!!

      Riley 💋

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      Cindy Lou
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      Cuz it gives me wowzers in my trousers!

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        Roberta Broussard
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        Cindy !   you are bad !

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        Hippie
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        I bet many do and me to

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      Mikayla J
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      I honestly can’t explain why I do it. First time I dressed was as a 12 year old. I was at my neighbours during the school holidays and we were bored, so she decided to dress me up. I fell in love with it then and have dressed ever since. All through my teens I would wear my older sisters clothes whenever I was home alone. I would intentionally not go out with friends some days just so I could dress. Got caught by my sister twice but brushed that off as “teen experimenting” lol. Moved out of home at 17 with my pregnant girlfriend and stopped dressing after that, except for the odd occasion when my partner was out. After a few years I started to buy the odd pair of shoes and dresses from eBay and hid them in the shed where I knew she didn’t go. That’s how it was for the next 8 or so years until we broke up. Met my current wife a while later and moved cross country. She was pregnant and having my issues so I was taking care of all the house work and looking after her. I jokingly said one day “I’ll have to get a cute little maids outfit”, to which said laughed and said yea go for it. So I did. I ordered one of eBay and went and bought a pair of black strappy wedges to match (first time ever buying woman’s clothing in person from a shop). She didn’t realize I actually bought it until surprised her one day and walked in to the room wearing it. We both had a great laugh. Later that day after doing some house work, something clicked and for the first time ever, I decided to open up to someone about my secret passion. I was very scared but told her, and all she could do was hug me right and tell me how much she loves me and that it was ok. Later that day she pulled out some clothes from her wardrobe and gave them to me. That was 4 1/2 years a go. I now have a whole room dedicated to my shoes (well over 100 pairs), dresses, etc. She often shows me shoes and dresses to buy, for both me and her.

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        Sherri Christopher
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        Mikayla, thanks for sharing! I thought back on the first time I shopped in person at a store and it was at J.C. Penney at a mall. I knew what I was going to get and just did it! I bought a whole outfit, a beautiful cream colored jacquard dress with a full skirt, bra, panties, pantyhose and beautiful full slip that I still have! I was dressed in drab as my male self when I did it and I’m sure I got some looks from fellow customers and staff, but nobody hassled me and I paid for them and left. It was a beautiful outfit and looked good on me and it felt incredible wearing it and made me feel so femme!

        Back then, I was a member of a CD support group and I wore that outfit at my first meeting. Of course, I wore heels with it and a longer haired wig and full make up, dressed to the nines! After the meeting, we all went to a lesbian bar that was accepting of us and got to dance in that outfit as my femme self and it felt so good!

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        Mikayla J
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        Wow sorry, I didn’t realize how long that was. Got a bit carried away there haha

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          Serena Stevens
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          Don’t sweat it, Mikayla. Size doesn’t matter here (giggle).

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          Genevïéve
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          Thanks for sharing Mikayla… and no, it wasn’t too long at all hon… ❤

          Gen… ❤

    • #432343
      Emily Violet
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      My Reason for crossdressing

      Its something i just need to do. May as well ask why do i breath

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        Hippie
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        Right

    • #432174
      Andrea Stone
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      Putting on lingerie makes me feel sexy.

      However, putting on a blouse and skirt makes me feel I’m myself.  I relax and it’s just right.

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        Andrea. It’s like breathing fresh air.
        So this is something silly, therefore all laughing to yourself. I just love speaking words like blouse, bra, panties, skirts etc. part of my new language. Thankful I don’t have to speak periods and tampons. Hah! I love all the conversation on why one prefers a front clasp or hooked bra. All of it. Consuming. Anyway thanks for being you with me!
        Kisses
        P

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          Serena Stevens
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          You’re speaking my language, B2P. I love speaking our language.

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            Serena. And friends to share it with. Speak freely. Speak often.
            Kisses P

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    • #432108
      72christine
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      Well I dress because it just feels right. I just wear how I feel inside not what I look like to others.. You can say it’s just me being me not what everyone wants me to be. No I may never be excepted in either male or female groups but that’s OK I except me as I am.. The woman I always wanted to be.                                  Love Christine

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        Christine. But you love it don’t ya’? Slipping into your skin. Your favorite things. I rather think I like that woman!
        P

        • #432120
          72christine
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          Yes I love it. I only wear women’s clothing I don’t have any men’s clothing

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            Christine. Well, you’re not missing anything unless you like baggy, Ill-fitting clothing of harsh material. One exception. I melt when a man has on a well designed suit with starched collar shirt, old school tie and high shine shoes. Cuff links…why not!
            P

    • #432102
      Amelia Lawrence
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      I’m not really sure if I could pinpoint a specific reason. I like the clothes, the fashion, doing makeup, feeling beautiful…it’s just a thing that sometimes I enjoy doing. It’s not an everyday need, but when I do get a chance I usually have a lot of fun. I would not say I am unhappy in my male presentation, I just sometimes like to switch for a few hours/half a day and experience the other side of the coin.

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      Hello Founder! Reason? More of a natural compulsion. Pink has to wear something? P loves how she looks in particular things. She’s very sensual in its truest sense. Im always touching the different clothing in a store – oh to wear soft clothing. Maybe a better question is what are my reasons for my preferred bra or what do I want in leggings?
      P

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    • #426830
      Hannah Srini
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      I love the clothing variety and the colors and print. Especially panties I have over 600 pairs I know overboard all from vs aerie and gilly hicks. I have a huge wardrobe and they are much more things than guys have. I love the feeling of the cheekies and thongs that ride up. It’s a very naughty feeling knowing I’m wearing a thong. I love to dress up and play too

    • #425176
      Gloria Renee
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      I just love the feel of the dress / skirt against my legs. Unlike my childhood, I am craving the attention.

      I love the variety of clothes, like for the awards shows. You see all the men in tuxedo’s and the women are wearing beautiful dresses.

      Being pampered, but the main thing is the attention once the finished product is complete.

       

      Gloria

    • #423981
      Andrea Hopkins
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      I have to some degree, been dressing as a girl since about 10, To me I feel more comfortable, sexy, and just more me.

    • #423945
      Diana W
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      It just feels right.  I feel like I’m my true self when Dressed.  I’m more relaxed and happy. I don’t know how or why this started for me but I do know I can’t fight this.  I’m really not happy when dressed drab.

    • #423878
      Haley Ann
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      Since I started by dressing in my mother’s things around 9-10 years of age, I can’t say my needs were only sexual at that time…but they were certainly of a sexual nature. My earliest memories of arousal and release happened while dressed in her lingerie or undergarments. For many years I did not dress, putting it aside like so many do. At around 40-45, I started dressing again in panties, hose, lingerie…and have completed Haley somewhat with a wig, breast forms, better make-up skills, 35 lbs weight loss. At 65, I think I look pretty hot and my dressing serves only to augment my sexual fantasies and to allow me to engage sexually with men. My desire to express my idea of feminine sexuality sometimes surprises or confuses me,  but I have given up on self-discovery and now believe in self-acceptance. I am a very sexual individual, and consider myself lucky that I can enjoy good sex with both women and men. Guess you can say I do it to get laid? Or does that make me a bad girl?

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        Serena Stevens
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        Not in my diary, girl! Unlike my drab side, I’m a clothes horse and a shoeaholic. Just set myself free from the closet two weeks ago and being a woman is so many things – liberating, satisfying, relaxing. I love being Serena because I’m coming to the conclusion this is who I really am but have chosen to hide for TOO long. It’s the make-up and clothes, it’s the mindset, it’s the mental sex now and (hopefully) physical sex @ some point later.

        Maybe I was afraid to go here for all those years. Now @ 60, I don’t want to look back. I want to explore, feel and love and be loved as a woman. Maybe it’s about finding that someone for me, Serena, and to hell with Scott! I’m loving ME!!!! 💄💋

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          Haley Ann
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          Serena,

          Its funny you say that, as my reasons for dressing remained focused on my sexual side, but I’m also finding myself wanting to experiment with other types of clothing, a blouse and leggings…not just ho wear🤪 I’m finding myself becoming more in tune with the emotions of having a manfriend, and it’s different and a little scary. Never would I have kissed a man as a woman would kiss a man a year ago, but last week I did, and when he held me close I could feel his love for Haley and how we make each other feel emotionally. I had never experienced that before, moving into uncharted waters!

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            Haley, I hope your journey is filled with years of smooth sailing.

            I am reaching that point were dinner out with a man and that hug and kiss is the next horizon. I was thrilled to see your post. I have my fingers crossed for you.  Don’t share the details!  I am already jealous. 😊

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            Becca Booty
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            This is very deep Haley. Thank you for sharing.  I’m trying to imagine what you’re feeling.

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            Serena Stevens
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            They just posted a pic of me in slacks I binge purchased yesterday. I never imagined doing that during my years of dreaming but when I saw them on the rack, I knew I had to have them & then found a pair of heels to go with them. LOVED IT AND LOVE MY SERENA TIME!!💄💋

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      • #424180
        Mae
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        I luv this line of conversation! I think if I wasn’t a Closet Girl … I would share in a lot of what you wrote. I don’t have the childhood experience that I read so much about. I started Dressing in my 59th year. I’m now 61. The first two years were self discovery. Now in my 3rd, I consider myself in a state of personal acceptance. As a Closet Girl I must admit wether I accept my feminine side isn’t relevant as my Closet protects those associated with me. I do enjoy the Liberty of both roles. It would be so satisfying if I could come home from work, change clothes, take a shower, get dressed and go out and about (MTF without it being an issue)

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    • #423182
      Amanda
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      This is one that has been on my mind for years. Like many of our members it started as a kid , dressing up in my mothers clothes. Once I left home I was able to buy my own clothes and makeup.I only ever dressed up in private but it was something I did regularly. At age 30 I married and my wife has no idea I do this. She’s currently away from home looking after her parents as her father has recently had surgery & I’m taking advantage of the situation. I dress up at night after the kids have gone to sleep & am confined to my room. I put a pillow behind the door to stop anyone entering. My youngest child is 15. So please don’t think I’m neglecting my parental responsibilities! I only get to do this occasionally and I’ve come to the conclusion that the reason I do this is that I f***ing love it. I’ve felt guilty in the past but over the last couple of weeks I’ve realised how much I love wearing sexy lingerie & heels. Nothing else makes me feel so sexy and happy.

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    • #419531
      Sherri Christopher
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      Sherri,

      I agree with your point that the template for each is as individual as our experiences and circumstances. I’m also much like you in your self outlook, except that while I sometimes have fantasies about being a cd with a man, I have no desire to act on them.

      Kimmie,

      Although when crossdressed, I fantasize about being with a guy, but I am kind of apprehensive about doing it in real life.

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        Haley Ann
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        Kimmie,

        All I can say is if you fantasize about that, at some point I hope you decide to take the leap. There is nothing that makes me feel more feminine, more beautiful, and sexier than when a man takes me in his arms and pulls me close…and tells me how beautiful I am! When that happens, what happens next will just come natural to you😉

        Haley😘

    • #419113
      Charlotte Gainsbourg
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      I love the way female clothes feel, it is exciting, sexy and liberating. I feel I am me when I am Charlotte. I wish cross dressing was socially acceptable. Clothes are just a social construct and its a shame some people are so conservative and judgemental. CD makes me feel alive xxx

      • #424191
        Mae
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        Yes; it would be such a treat. If MTF XDressing was socially accepted. I see and watch how GG’s have such liberties. Tomboyish to Ultra Femme in a matter of moments! Yes, a real treat to have that same accepted abilities

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    • #419085
      Jeanny
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      Like many I started early at 13 but the reasons for dressing at first were centered around the love of the women around me, the sexy legs heels etc.  I did not dress as a woman then it was simply some contact with the feminine clothing and the feeling the clothes against my body was very exciting.

       

      The years passed and after some purges the clothes were out of mind until about 15 yrs ago when I suddenly became aware of others online I could chat with when I stumbled onto a crossdress chat site. I began talking with some and suddenly the feelings were all rushing back to my youth and the first days I enjoyed female attire. All that with one very large difference. I was no longer satisfied with the clothing but now was striving to achieve a passable presentation of my femininity. Thats why I dress now I am in love with my femme self and feel soo much closer to that side of me when dressed.

       

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        Melanie Klein
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        I am compelled to wear girly clothes. I would like to chat with others in wellington Fl.

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    • #419018
      Kathleen
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      Wow I didn’t know I needed a reason. I just like the way it feels ans how calm I am I guess…

      • #419031
        Genevïéve
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