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      Annaleigh Rose
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      The feel, the look, and the ability to step out of my male skin and be Annaleigh for even a few hours.

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      Harietta
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      It’s the Cinderella effect, meaning that I see myself at my best. It is elevating, and relaxing at the same time. Stimulating and calming.
      I am learning to deal with the Cinderella effect when it all has to come off….

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      Katey Doe
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      Hi, well for me it feels natural I feel like me when I dress, I know sounds strange. I just love the feeling I have when I slip Katey on.

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      Rachel Hayes
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      My favourite reason for cross dressing, eh?

      I mean there are so many happy elements to dressing.  Everytime I dress is an event for me.  I (try) to take my time and savour every moment and every action and each one gives me a smile and a nice feeling.  Yes, I realise that won’t last forever but I’m enjoying it while it lasts hehe.

      If I was pinned down to a decision, then it’s the way it makes me feel inside and about myself.  I mean putting on my bra and panties gets my heart racing in anticipation of what I know is coming.  Of course, they feel amazing on my skin but it’s much more than that.

      I know that what I’m doing is going to lead to being fully dressed (unfortunately without makeup yet) and the excitement just builds with every item that I put on.  Stepping into my heels is the last thing to my (current) look and when my emotions are at their highest.  Then I just go about whatever it is I’m dong, usually working, dressed with a massive smile and a warm fuzzy feeling in my heart.

      Love Rachel

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      Chesley Babble
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      Great subject. What is your reason? I would love to know why from a textbook point of view. How many behavioral specialists would it take to answer this for us? I have to defer to CD Heaven who wrote “I just love the look and feel of being a girl. The clothes are way more comfortable for one”.  The other night I was standing in the kitchen making dinner wearing heels, stockings, a knee length pencil skirt and a pull over top and asking myself why do I feel so relaxed, so comfortable and so normal dressed like this. I looked down at myself and thought if I could just be like this every day life would be perfect. I recall thinking I don’t ever want to put on male clothes again. The feel of a skirt around my knees when I walk is undeniably sensual. A skirt is without a doubt the most comfortable clothing item in the world. I understand why women don’t want men to dress like them.  They want to keep all the really great fabrics and clothing to themselves. 😊

      As to the question of transitioning for a sexual release or an emotional release. Both of course but as this evolved the emotional release was a far greater draw. I look forward to having my girl days which start out in the AM with a shower, leg shaving, makeup, hair, NAILS and whatever cloths fit the day.  Some days it is stockings, skirt and a blouse but other days it is boy shorts, sneakers and a tight stretchy tee.  Cold rainy days it is leggings and a long shaggy loose sweater. During the day I go about my normal activities.  Work at my desk, calls to clients, emails.  Cleaning the house, laundry, fixing things around the house, all the normal life stuff. Workdays is leggings and a baggy sweatshirt.  In the evening I always shower and dress for dinner with full makeup, perfume and heels.  Seating in the dining room with wine and candles. After dinner sitting in the living room reading is one of my favorite pleasures.   Books, magazines, you tube how to on makeup, you name it.  One hundred percent woman’s world.  Truly these are the times when I am the most relaxed and happiest and what feels like the natural me.  I would love nothing more than to have a girl friend to sit with on those nights and just talk girl all night long. I often stay up way past normal hours because I simply don’t want to stop being Chesley.

      In the end there is no one reason. Definitely the cloths but overall, the feeling.  It is wonderful to be sexy, sensual and feminine.  To have ultra-fine fabrics against my skin.  The light click of heels on the hardwood floors. To put on jewelry that helps to define me. To feel the silky swish of long hair on my bare shoulders. To smell like the women, I have walked by for years. And the nails.  I could do an hour about the nails. The hair in my moth all day long.  Sacrifices ladies.

      • #442652
        Blink To Pink Enchanted
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        C. What a lovely commentary. It’s a wonderful sensation to love being yourself. Thanks for sharing Chelsey with us.
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      Rachel Hayes
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      Why do I cross dress?  That’s a great question…

      Sure there is a sexual element to it, but it’s so much more than that.  Every time I put a bra on or put some lovely silky panties on, I get butterflies (I’m sure this will fade over time) and I just feel great.  Add to that a skimpy top and a short skirt or a short dress with some lovely heels and I just can’t stop smiling and I’m so happy.

      I’ve yet to attempt make up or my nails but I can’t wait.  They will just add to the femme and increase those feelings of gorgeous and sexy.

      I’m a realist and acknowledge it’s extremely unlikely I’ll ever “pass” (although I’d love a pro makeover to see what’s possible) but passing in public is somewhat secondary for me personally. The feeling of the clothes next to my skin and the being as girly as I can is so intoxicating and I love it so much.

      Love Rachel

       

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      Didi Phox
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      What a great thread.

      I never had childhood desires to dress. There was no trigger point or landmark event which made me crave those oh so sheer stockings. What there was, was many years of unhappiness, repetitive cycles of seeking out short term highs or quick ‘wins’ but never really being satisfied. In my adult life I knew something wasn’t right and that’s when I decided to seek out help and found Didi.

      Didi is my Yin to my masc Yang. Totally opposite in almost every way; hyper fem, extroverted and full of sensitivity and emotions. Whereas, let’s call him Paul, is traditionally rugged, introverted, logical and can easily compartmentalise how he’s feeling.

      It’s taken me a long time to realise that I can’t be any one of them and be happy, they come as a pair. If I neglect one of them, I can actually feel them emotionally rebelling. I love them both, they are who I am and what together they enable me to do.

      So the answer to the question is… harmony.

      My goodness, finally writing that felt amazing!!

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        Chesley Babble
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        I really enjoyed your comments about every one of you being in harmony. I agree 100%. I would have needed two pages to say what you said in a few sentences. You are spot on that you cannot ignore any of them. I was doing something outdoors the other day and asked myself if I would enjoy it as Chesley and the true answer was no. It is nice to be able to experience both worlds.

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        Blink To Pink Enchanted
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        Didi. I read your words with an exhaustive sigh embracing that awareness when the 2 parts come together. I know, that in those few words, you touched a place within that now has light. Be you!

        kisses.  P

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      Hippie
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      Okay for me. I have no interest in passing or becoming feminine. Me it’s all about the clothes, leggings, jeans and lingerie leggings are my top 3 favorites. Sure I own some dresses and a some other things.

      But them 3 kinds are the must have, no matter what. I not saying that will always be that way, but the way it is right now.

      Hippie

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      Joanna Dirksen
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      I guess its because I work in an office surrounded by lots of beautiful women who have beautiful taste in fashion. Their business attires are beautiful. I love the look of pencil skirts,  with tights and heels or boots. Their clothes are so comfortable and sexy. They are my role models.

      I wanted to know what it felt like to wear lingerie,  pencil skirts and high heels. I bought a few new outfits and I was not disappointed. I feel comfortable and sexy.

       

    • #435413
      Sherri Christopher
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      I just want to emulate all the women I have worshipped!

      Polly, that’s the way I feel as well. I grew up in the 50s and 60’s and that was the golden age for slips and I loved catching a glimpse of their lacey slips! I have a collection of retro slips from that era, Van Raalte, Vanity Fair and even JC Penney and it feels so good wearing them!

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        Lysette Anthony
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        Now you mention it, I used to love looking at my mother’s slips in the 1950’s

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        Sherri Christopher
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        You can see all of my slips and negligees on my profile cover photo. I hung them all up on the curtain rod in my room.

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      Blink To Pink Enchanted
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      I’m not sure the story below is the reason but it definitely pushed me “over the edge”. Something this simple.
      A few years ago I was in an airport waiting to board. I was sitting, reading probably, and I glanced over at young girl(you know, slouched with her legs in smooth leggings, spread wide). I wanted to be her with the smooth rounded mound that was so well defined in her leggings. That was a defining moment for me.
      P

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    • #435138
      Jade
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      Makes me feel alive, free, be the girl I was meant to be!! I love to feel sexy

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      Polly Stewart
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      I just want to emulate all the women I have worshipped!

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      nikki411718
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      It calms me when im dressed like a girl and i like you wished i was born a girl

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        LisaT
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        I have always been very tactile and enjoyed nice fabrics and clothing but was very masculine for my first 50 years.  I first dressed as a sexual experiment but a quickly found that it had released an inner femininity  which I enjoyed.  It wasn’t just that I love the range of designs , fabrics and colours but I loved the more empathic softer me that dressing released.  I sometimes regret that dressing can still be strongly sexual for me because I’m so peaceful when my persona is fully femme and I’m relaxed as a woman.

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          Chesley Babble
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          LisaT, thank you for my new word.  Tactile.  Girl am I tactile. After I shave my legs I love to run my hands over them and enjoy the purity of bare skin. Slip on a pair of stockings and there are no words to describe what I feel. And you are so right about the change in personality. Being fully femme is transcending.  It is enjoyable to be with that person.  Thank you for my new word.

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            Georgina
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            Mmm, yes. There are few things more sensuous than slipping nylons over freshly smoothed legs. A simple, yet delicious pleasure.

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          Kimmie
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          Although I started dressing when I was quite young, well before I knew anything about sexuality, it was both sexually exciting and soothing. (There is no contradiction there. I experienced arousal, but did not not know what it meant, only that it felt good.) I’m also very tactile. I love the feeling of feminine underthings and running my hands over my smooth legs.

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          Blink To Pink Enchanted
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          I think so many of us would understand and appreciate your journey, your turmoil s as bd your peaceful resolve. At your close I am reminded of a common expression, “whatever possessed me to do…”? We reveal inner portions of ourselves when least expected, often provoked by unusual experiences, leading one to say…”whatever possessed me to behave like that?”.
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      Genevïéve
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      It’s an addiction for me now… a feel-good addiction. Euphoric….

      I’m in my ‘Comfies’ from the time I get home, to the time Life gets in the way. I’m sure some of you girls can relate.

      As many of you have said… ‘It just feels right’. Don’t know how, or why… don’t want to know if truth be known. I’m just glad that you and I have been blessed with this little slice of Heaven… 🥰

      Peace and L❤VE  ……

      GEN… ❤

    • #432398
      Riley McCort
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      Agreed. Sooo much more fun to buy clothes and pick outifts!! So comfy, cute, n fun!!

      Riley 💋

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      Cindy Lou
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      Cuz it gives me wowzers in my trousers!

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        Roberta Broussard
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        Cindy !   you are bad !

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        Hippie
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        I bet many do and me to

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      Mikayla J
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      I honestly can’t explain why I do it. First time I dressed was as a 12 year old. I was at my neighbours during the school holidays and we were bored, so she decided to dress me up. I fell in love with it then and have dressed ever since. All through my teens I would wear my older sisters clothes whenever I was home alone. I would intentionally not go out with friends some days just so I could dress. Got caught by my sister twice but brushed that off as “teen experimenting” lol. Moved out of home at 17 with my pregnant girlfriend and stopped dressing after that, except for the odd occasion when my partner was out. After a few years I started to buy the odd pair of shoes and dresses from eBay and hid them in the shed where I knew she didn’t go. That’s how it was for the next 8 or so years until we broke up. Met my current wife a while later and moved cross country. She was pregnant and having my issues so I was taking care of all the house work and looking after her. I jokingly said one day “I’ll have to get a cute little maids outfit”, to which said laughed and said yea go for it. So I did. I ordered one of eBay and went and bought a pair of black strappy wedges to match (first time ever buying woman’s clothing in person from a shop). She didn’t realize I actually bought it until surprised her one day and walked in to the room wearing it. We both had a great laugh. Later that day after doing some house work, something clicked and for the first time ever, I decided to open up to someone about my secret passion. I was very scared but told her, and all she could do was hug me right and tell me how much she loves me and that it was ok. Later that day she pulled out some clothes from her wardrobe and gave them to me. That was 4 1/2 years a go. I now have a whole room dedicated to my shoes (well over 100 pairs), dresses, etc. She often shows me shoes and dresses to buy, for both me and her.

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        Sherri Christopher
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        Mikayla, thanks for sharing! I thought back on the first time I shopped in person at a store and it was at J.C. Penney at a mall. I knew what I was going to get and just did it! I bought a whole outfit, a beautiful cream colored jacquard dress with a full skirt, bra, panties, pantyhose and beautiful full slip that I still have! I was dressed in drab as my male self when I did it and I’m sure I got some looks from fellow customers and staff, but nobody hassled me and I paid for them and left. It was a beautiful outfit and looked good on me and it felt incredible wearing it and made me feel so femme!

        Back then, I was a member of a CD support group and I wore that outfit at my first meeting. Of course, I wore heels with it and a longer haired wig and full make up, dressed to the nines! After the meeting, we all went to a lesbian bar that was accepting of us and got to dance in that outfit as my femme self and it felt so good!

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        Mikayla J
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        Wow sorry, I didn’t realize how long that was. Got a bit carried away there haha

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          Serena Stevens
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          Don’t sweat it, Mikayla. Size doesn’t matter here (giggle).

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          Genevïéve
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          Thanks for sharing Mikayla… and no, it wasn’t too long at all hon… ❤

          Gen… ❤

    • #432343
      Emily Violet
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      My Reason for crossdressing

      Its something i just need to do. May as well ask why do i breath

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        Hippie
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        Right

    • #432174
      Andrea Stone
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      Putting on lingerie makes me feel sexy.

      However, putting on a blouse and skirt makes me feel I’m myself.  I relax and it’s just right.

      • #432216
        Blink To Pink Enchanted
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        Andrea. It’s like breathing fresh air.
        So this is something silly, therefore all laughing to yourself. I just love speaking words like blouse, bra, panties, skirts etc. part of my new language. Thankful I don’t have to speak periods and tampons. Hah! I love all the conversation on why one prefers a front clasp or hooked bra. All of it. Consuming. Anyway thanks for being you with me!
        Kisses
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          Serena Stevens
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          You’re speaking my language, B2P. I love speaking our language.

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            Blink To Pink Enchanted
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            Serena. And friends to share it with. Speak freely. Speak often.
            Kisses P

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      72christine
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      Well I dress because it just feels right. I just wear how I feel inside not what I look like to others.. You can say it’s just me being me not what everyone wants me to be. No I may never be excepted in either male or female groups but that’s OK I except me as I am.. The woman I always wanted to be.                                  Love Christine

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        Blink To Pink Enchanted
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        Christine. But you love it don’t ya’? Slipping into your skin. Your favorite things. I rather think I like that woman!
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          72christine
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          Yes I love it. I only wear women’s clothing I don’t have any men’s clothing

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            Blink To Pink Enchanted
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            Christine. Well, you’re not missing anything unless you like baggy, Ill-fitting clothing of harsh material. One exception. I melt when a man has on a well designed suit with starched collar shirt, old school tie and high shine shoes. Cuff links…why not!
            P

    • #432102
      Amelia Lawrence
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      I’m not really sure if I could pinpoint a specific reason. I like the clothes, the fashion, doing makeup, feeling beautiful…it’s just a thing that sometimes I enjoy doing. It’s not an everyday need, but when I do get a chance I usually have a lot of fun. I would not say I am unhappy in my male presentation, I just sometimes like to switch for a few hours/half a day and experience the other side of the coin.

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      Blink To Pink Enchanted
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      Hello Founder! Reason? More of a natural compulsion. Pink has to wear something? P loves how she looks in particular things. She’s very sensual in its truest sense. Im always touching the different clothing in a store – oh to wear soft clothing. Maybe a better question is what are my reasons for my preferred bra or what do I want in leggings?
      P

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      Hannah Srini
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      I love the clothing variety and the colors and print. Especially panties I have over 600 pairs I know overboard all from vs aerie and gilly hicks. I have a huge wardrobe and they are much more things than guys have. I love the feeling of the cheekies and thongs that ride up. It’s a very naughty feeling knowing I’m wearing a thong. I love to dress up and play too

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      Gloria Renee
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      I just love the feel of the dress / skirt against my legs. Unlike my childhood, I am craving the attention.

      I love the variety of clothes, like for the awards shows. You see all the men in tuxedo’s and the women are wearing beautiful dresses.

      Being pampered, but the main thing is the attention once the finished product is complete.

       

      Gloria

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      Andrea Hopkins
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      I have to some degree, been dressing as a girl since about 10, To me I feel more comfortable, sexy, and just more me.

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      Diana W
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      It just feels right.  I feel like I’m my true self when Dressed.  I’m more relaxed and happy. I don’t know how or why this started for me but I do know I can’t fight this.  I’m really not happy when dressed drab.

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      Haley Ann
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      Since I started by dressing in my mother’s things around 9-10 years of age, I can’t say my needs were only sexual at that time…but they were certainly of a sexual nature. My earliest memories of arousal and release happened while dressed in her lingerie or undergarments. For many years I did not dress, putting it aside like so many do. At around 40-45, I started dressing again in panties, hose, lingerie…and have completed Haley somewhat with a wig, breast forms, better make-up skills, 35 lbs weight loss. At 65, I think I look pretty hot and my dressing serves only to augment my sexual fantasies and to allow me to engage sexually with men. My desire to express my idea of feminine sexuality sometimes surprises or confuses me,  but I have given up on self-discovery and now believe in self-acceptance. I am a very sexual individual, and consider myself lucky that I can enjoy good sex with both women and men. Guess you can say I do it to get laid? Or does that make me a bad girl?

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        Serena Stevens
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        Not in my diary, girl! Unlike my drab side, I’m a clothes horse and a shoeaholic. Just set myself free from the closet two weeks ago and being a woman is so many things – liberating, satisfying, relaxing. I love being Serena because I’m coming to the conclusion this is who I really am but have chosen to hide for TOO long. It’s the make-up and clothes, it’s the mindset, it’s the mental sex now and (hopefully) physical sex @ some point later.

        Maybe I was afraid to go here for all those years. Now @ 60, I don’t want to look back. I want to explore, feel and love and be loved as a woman. Maybe it’s about finding that someone for me, Serena, and to hell with Scott! I’m loving ME!!!! 💄💋

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          Haley Ann
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          Serena,

          Its funny you say that, as my reasons for dressing remained focused on my sexual side, but I’m also finding myself wanting to experiment with other types of clothing, a blouse and leggings…not just ho wear🤪 I’m finding myself becoming more in tune with the emotions of having a manfriend, and it’s different and a little scary. Never would I have kissed a man as a woman would kiss a man a year ago, but last week I did, and when he held me close I could feel his love for Haley and how we make each other feel emotionally. I had never experienced that before, moving into uncharted waters!

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            Chesley Babble
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            Haley, I hope your journey is filled with years of smooth sailing.

            I am reaching that point were dinner out with a man and that hug and kiss is the next horizon. I was thrilled to see your post. I have my fingers crossed for you.  Don’t share the details!  I am already jealous. 😊

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            Becca Booty
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            This is very deep Haley. Thank you for sharing.  I’m trying to imagine what you’re feeling.

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            Serena Stevens
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            They just posted a pic of me in slacks I binge purchased yesterday. I never imagined doing that during my years of dreaming but when I saw them on the rack, I knew I had to have them & then found a pair of heels to go with them. LOVED IT AND LOVE MY SERENA TIME!!💄💋

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        Mae
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        I luv this line of conversation! I think if I wasn’t a Closet Girl … I would share in a lot of what you wrote. I don’t have the childhood experience that I read so much about. I started Dressing in my 59th year. I’m now 61. The first two years were self discovery. Now in my 3rd, I consider myself in a state of personal acceptance. As a Closet Girl I must admit wether I accept my feminine side isn’t relevant as my Closet protects those associated with me. I do enjoy the Liberty of both roles. It would be so satisfying if I could come home from work, change clothes, take a shower, get dressed and go out and about (MTF without it being an issue)

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      Amanda
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      This is one that has been on my mind for years. Like many of our members it started as a kid , dressing up in my mothers clothes. Once I left home I was able to buy my own clothes and makeup.I only ever dressed up in private but it was something I did regularly. At age 30 I married and my wife has no idea I do this. She’s currently away from home looking after her parents as her father has recently had surgery & I’m taking advantage of the situation. I dress up at night after the kids have gone to sleep & am confined to my room. I put a pillow behind the door to stop anyone entering. My youngest child is 15. So please don’t think I’m neglecting my parental responsibilities! I only get to do this occasionally and I’ve come to the conclusion that the reason I do this is that I f***ing love it. I’ve felt guilty in the past but over the last couple of weeks I’ve realised how much I love wearing sexy lingerie & heels. Nothing else makes me feel so sexy and happy.

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      Sherri Christopher
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      Sherri,

      I agree with your point that the template for each is as individual as our experiences and circumstances. I’m also much like you in your self outlook, except that while I sometimes have fantasies about being a cd with a man, I have no desire to act on them.

      Kimmie,

      Although when crossdressed, I fantasize about being with a guy, but I am kind of apprehensive about doing it in real life.

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      Charlotte Gainsbourg
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      I love the way female clothes feel, it is exciting, sexy and liberating. I feel I am me when I am Charlotte. I wish cross dressing was socially acceptable. Clothes are just a social construct and its a shame some people are so conservative and judgemental. CD makes me feel alive xxx

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        Mae
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        Yes; it would be such a treat. If MTF XDressing was socially accepted. I see and watch how GG’s have such liberties. Tomboyish to Ultra Femme in a matter of moments! Yes, a real treat to have that same accepted abilities

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      Jeanny
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      Like many I started early at 13 but the reasons for dressing at first were centered around the love of the women around me, the sexy legs heels etc.  I did not dress as a woman then it was simply some contact with the feminine clothing and the feeling the clothes against my body was very exciting.

       

      The years passed and after some purges the clothes were out of mind until about 15 yrs ago when I suddenly became aware of others online I could chat with when I stumbled onto a crossdress chat site. I began talking with some and suddenly the feelings were all rushing back to my youth and the first days I enjoyed female attire. All that with one very large difference. I was no longer satisfied with the clothing but now was striving to achieve a passable presentation of my femininity. Thats why I dress now I am in love with my femme self and feel soo much closer to that side of me when dressed.

       

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        Melanie Klein
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        I am compelled to wear girly clothes. I would like to chat with others in wellington Fl.

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    • #419018
      Kathleen
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      Wow I didn’t know I needed a reason. I just like the way it feels ans how calm I am I guess…

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        Genevïéve
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        x2

        Gen… 💋

    • #419013
      Shreya Shah
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      I think doing all household chores while wearing girly dress or maid uniform gives me girly feeling and they are way more comfortable to do these all work and even more beautiful than those boring mens clothes. So i think female fashion is something which attracts me towards it.

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        Agreed.

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      Requal Joanne Jones
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      My reason for CDing is to feel and get on touch with my female side. I enjoy and am comfortable with the feeling of the soft female apparel against my body. I am just a man who enjoys wearing female apparel. Nothing else.

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      Sherri Christopher
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      Well I started CDing at a young age (14) like most but because I LOVED how women’s legs looked in pantyhose and I had always been told that I had nice legs so I wanted to see how I’d look in hose too. Well the first time I slid on a pair of my aunts hose they felt wonderful and I felt like a girl and sexy.  LOVED that feeling.  But then it made me think about dressing up in hose for a man and well you know.  That’s when I became bi curious.  So my CDing is more of a fetish. I don’t want to be a woman I’m happy as a man. Just like to feel sexy n Fem from time to time.

      I’m really not like a lot of the people on here, some yes but not a lot.  But it can be fun here at times.   So that’s why I crossdress.

      Becca, it sounds like you’re comfortable in your own skin. Thanks for sharing your story! There’s not a template of how folks like us are supposed to be, we are who we are. I consider myself a crossdresser and I have no desire to transition  to being a woman full time. That’s fine if some folks want that, but it’s not me. My urge to crossdress is cyclical and there’s times when I CD the majority of days during the course of a week, and other times when I don’t CD for weeks at a time. I consider myself to be bi as well as I have fantasies of being with a man when I’m crossdressed and also being with an accepting woman, but I haven’t acted on being with a man yet.

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        Kimmie
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        Sherri,

        I agree with your point that the template for each is as individual as our experiences and circumstances. I’m also much like you in your self outlook, except that while I sometimes have fantasies about being a cd with a man, I have no desire to act on them.

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      Becca Booty
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      Well I started CDing at a young age (14) like most but because I LOVED how women’s legs looked in pantyhose and I had always been told that I had nice legs so I wanted to see how I’d look in hose too. Well the first time I slid on a pair of my aunts hose they felt wonderful and I felt like a girl and sexy.  LOVED that feeling.  But then it made me think about dressing up in hose for a man and well you know.  That’s when I became bi curious.  So my CDing is more of a fetish. I don’t want to be a woman I’m happy as a man. Just like to feel sexy n Fem from time to time.

      I’m really not like a lot of the people on here, some yes but not a lot.  But it can be fun here at times.   So that’s why I crossdress.

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        Leslies Ann Gray Girl
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        Hi Becca , yea you can deny all you want , but you are more woman than you want to admit . You wouldn’t be doing what you are doing , dressing and so forth if you were not . You will find a lot more happiness submitting to the woman inside . We all have . Leslie

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      I love to feel the things I don’t get to as a man. To take part in rituals like pulling on a pair of tights for me is electric and sensual. I love applying make-up especially eye make-up. Lipstick to round it all off. It’s more vast to find clothing items to make an outfit a look. I love moments to sneak away and spend as Kitty.

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      Michelle1139
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      Just makes me feel good inside and sexy.  I felt more feminine than masculine  for a very long time.  I think I should have been female and wish I was.  I may not look the best because of my size, but it feels so good.  I do need help with makeup if anyone can recommend a specific u tube or something.  I am getting old though, I am 66. Thank You.

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      Sarah Du Hessisse
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      Pure and simply it feel’s right, I just feel calm and relaxed. I enjoy being female and nothing else matters. Love to you all.

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      Maria Pink
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      I guess why I dress is in my history and it is a part of me I have had for a very long time but never let myself explore. Like a lot of girls on here I started young. I would sneak into my moms room when I had a chance and put on her clothes and hose. I was never caught but I did come close a few times. As I grew older I always had a fem side to me even though I had a masculine exterior. I would sometimes sit in class and fantasize about what it would be like to wear women’s panties and bras.  I would see the girls wearing their new clothes and congregating in the hallways talking about their outfits and other girl talk and wanted so much to join in but I didn’t want to be that weird kid (even though they probably thought I was already lol). In my mid teens I came to the realization I was bi-sexual (another story for another time) and that just prompted me to want to dress more although I was limited in what I could do since I had little access to clothes that would fit. In high school I was a 3 sport athlete, I had a few girlfriends and I had tried to hide away my desire to dress. A few noticed I did have a fem side and loved that. I never told them of my desires to dress but we did have some conversations about their outfits. We would go shop and talk about what I thought would look great on them but of course I was thinking of what it would look like on me as well.  I married while in college and she never knew my desires. Unfortunately she was a small girl and nothing of hers fit me. After a few years we grew apart and divorced. Out on my own again I started to buy my own. I had the wig, bras, panties, some make up, and hose. I met my next wife and like a lot of other girls here I purged everything and let it go again. For many years I resisted the cry to let my inner girl out. Now a few years after this last divorce I have felt the cry again. This time it came from a girlfriend that noticed my fem side and actually came out and asked if I had every thought about being a girl. I was shocked and played it off some but eventually I confessed I had and I liked to dress. We experimented together for a while but things just didn’t work out between us but when we were together and I was dressed with her it was some of the best feelings in my life. A few years later and now I have felt the call once again but this time I plan to explore that fem side I have held back for so long. When I dress I feel more complete like that is what I have been missing in my life. Even though I have many masculine features I still want to be that pretty girl I feel inside.

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      Heather Kendall
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      I guess I never really stopped to wonder why I do what I do. In the beginning it was all about the feel of the material, so much different from the clothes I wore as a male. As I moved into my 20’s it took on a sexual component as well as my enjoyment of role playing as a female. When I reached my 40’s I discovered there was an part to my personality, Heather. Perhaps she was already there but I had never truly noticed or allowed that part of me to come out in my daily life. Now I am a more complex person but a happier one for sure.

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      Sherri Christopher
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      Natalie, I relate to your journey with crossdressing and I also started as a young boy, 4 years old. My sister had a crinoline petticoat hanging in a first floor closet and I just had to put it on. I finally did and it felt heavenly, then my sister walked in on me and gave me a total shaming! That sure sucked! It didn’t stop me from CDing though, it’s been a life-long thing for me and now that I’m retired and approaching my mid 60s (yeah Medicare!!!) and live alone, I CD whenever I want! No more shame about it either, we are who we are, embrace it!

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      Leslies Ann Gray Girl
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      Hi , i am Leslie , how is everyone . I decided to chime in here on this . Why do we cross dress ? , Why? , Does any one know ? I think not , most of us started at a very young age , seeing our mom’s in their lingerie or sisters in theirs .Some of us are just cross dressers and some are trans , meaning wishing to be a total woman . For me it started at about 2 or so , i wore my mom’s panties , she had to pin them on me , and dresses later on . I would say most of us started at a very young age , and we couldn’t stop it . First, there is nothing wrong with being a cross dresser or being trans , we are who we are and it will never change for us , the urge will always be there and will never go away . I know this , i am in my seventy’s and have dealt with this feeling for my whole life , its always with me and i love it . Yes i was born a male , yes ,  but , i have never been totally a male , i have always had fem feelings and desires my whole life and i always will .I have finally realized i am female not male and i will never change , i cannot .  I say to you , don’t fight this feeling , be at peace with your self , you know who you really are and how you feel inside , don’t you ? Some of us must be in the closet , we may be married , have children , people around us who wouldn’t understand and this is how it must be . Please understand, you are just as fem as the rest of us , but in a stealth mode , and you are loved . One day we will be able to come out , all of us , ware our pretty dresses and make up , and sweet lingerie and enjoy being , finally the real person , woman , we are and were meant to be from birth .Please my lady friends , there is no explanation for being the way we really are , none , no one can seem to come up with one , it just happens to a select few , a very lucky few . Aren’t we lucky to feel as we do ? to be sweet and girly  , aren’t we ? , i think so .Trust me , one day , this will change for us , peoples attitudes will be different and we can be . Please ladies , for now stay safe , enjoy who you are , maybe to your self , but enjoy being a lady , being her, it will make you feel so wonderful inside i promise . Your friend ,  Leslie

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      Sazza Symons
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      I’ve had a lot of time to work out why as a biological man I dress as a woman. I’ve been doing it for many decades. It’s something that never goes away. I started it at 5 years old and I’m still doing it, and enjoying it. So why not embrace it.

      All I remember was at 5 years old admiring my sister’s skirt and having an overwhelming desire to put it on. That intense feeling has stayed with me for many decades. I guess it’s a form of comfort and relaxation. But I also love the clothes. Even as a young boy I was attracted to ladies wearing middle aged clothing. Calf length pencil skirts, nice blouses, heels, etc. I’ve never been into the young woman look. It’s been middle aged women look all my crossdressing life. Haha.

      It’s now a hobby of mine, I like to think.

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      Natalie Jones
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      Hi girls!

      I’ve always felt I was predisposed to wearing women’s clothing, like it was in me from birth. I’m not at all girlie or feminine but enjoy feeling that way. I can recall from an early age maybe 4 or 5 yrs old having interest  in lingerie , be it my mothers or  neighbor who hung her panties , bras and slips on the line outside . Around 8 I discovered a box of clothes in our attic , on top was a black sheer negligee . I couldn’t resist putting it on and the feeling was indescribable. I knew nothing about sex at that age so it wasn’t that . I can remember it almost felt natural. I did realize before long that it was a “sissy” type thing to do and I fought that feeling , actually for years . In my early  teens the desire to wear panties and other lingerie items began to fade but came back roaring in my late teens, and I began to purchase my own. I knew I enjoyed it , knew I couldn’t stop (I tried) but still didn’t understand why and always kept it a secret  . Now in my 60’s I enjoy dressing up , but dont do it often enough, underdress most workdays , but still don’t know exactly why. I enjoy the pretty skirts and tops and everything that goes underneath. But I have no desire to be a women, don’t do wigs or makeup . I guess I enjoy being a guy who enjoys wearing and feeling feminine. I just think it’s always been in me

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      Bee Dee
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      So this is gonna be a long one. So when I was very young my older sister used to dress me in her (Blue and red gingham) dresses, then hit me to make me cry so that I’d cuddle her (wierd, I know). This is true and I have a snapshot memory of it happening still. A few years later she was baby-sitting me while our mother was out somewhere. She stripped off and said I could touch her wherever I wanted but mother came home just then and there was a scramble. I hid her bra and knickers behind furniture and she retrieved it later.

      My mother used do the weekly shopping trips, get her hair done on Saturday’s (the busiest day of the week) and drag me along with her. This usually took the whole of the afternoon and into the evening.  Then a bus and train or a bus ride home, depending on which city she went to shop, we’d could get home after 7pm. She used to go to M&S, a very well know British highstreet department store. She would often go into the womens department with me as well and pick out underwhere. I would feel very embarrassed but she didn’t do anything in a hurry and I sware I spent half my childhood in there with all the pretty things just standing there, trying not to stare at the mannequins, made up in suspenders and stockings, bra’s and knickers.

      Years later in my teens when “things” started to change and hair began sprouting, I was alone one morning and I don’t know why but I looked in my sisters draws and found her knickers, suspenders and stockings. I put them on and…loved it. I must have had some guilt, because that was it until my twenties, looking at porn magazines with beautiful ladies in stockings and suspenders, panties and bra’s. Well the feelings swelled up again and my sister had moved out, so I checked out my mothers lingerie…loved it. Another gap of years until I was dating my wife. I pestered her to wear lingerie but she’s just not into stockings & suspenders or any sexy lingerie. I had a need which I had to fulfill. Obsessed with panties, thinking of wearing them 24/7. So one day I made to decision to go into M&S and get some. Toughest thing I’ve ever made myself do, I’m sure the shop ladies knew about me. I’m sure they know every time I buy lingerie in a store, whichever store I go to.  That day I bought a red and black lace 3/4 A cup padded bra, combined thong/suspender set and put them on before I went home, in a pub toilet. So turned on I nearly passed out. The sheer embarrassment of it will never leave me, non will the thrill…loved it.

      I think all of those early experiences and more brought me here. I always loved lingerie on women, Having had access to my dad’s porn magazines at a very early age helped I’m sure. Lots of photos of ladies in lingerie…loved it. Still do.

      Thanks for reading, it’s all true.

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      Erin Mondale
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      Always loved getting in touch with my inner woman.Plus the female wardrobe is more comfortable to wear and stylish.Fullime now,wearing the male wardrobe was getting boring and loved my female wardrobe more ditching the male wardrobe.

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      KHeart
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      I feel a certain comfort and security with myself when I’m dressed. It’s something I’ve struggled to accept for a long long time.

       

      Growing up, I was always insecure with my appearance but I was soo scared that I had such a longing to be dressed like a girl. It was hard during my teenage years as I always just thought it was a phase and that I’d grow out of it/get bored of it, but the desire just kept getting stronger and stronger. I remember crying into the mirror once just before a purge as I had seen the pattern of my past purges. I felt that it was my duty to be a man and that it was so unfair that I couldn’t get rid of these thoughts. I knew even then that I would just end up with more female stuff and more of a need and desire to dress and act like a woman.

       

      And… I was right, but I tried to stop purging in the future, even when I felt that way as it was costing me too much and I lost a lot of my favourite clothes.

       

      When I look back at that time, I wish I had just accepted who I was earlier and realized that it is okay to feel that way and that it is a part of who I am, and that is not a bad thing. It doesn’t define me as a person, as I was scared it would do. I wasted the best part of around 15 years trying to ignore and suppress and just deflect my feelings towards dressing, and all it has bought me was anxiety and feeling clueless about myself and a low self esteem.

       

      Nowadays, I feel happy and content as me. My past self would probably cry if they could glimpse at the extent I go to doll myself up and act girly, and my makeup and daily routines… but I wouldn’t have it any other way.

       

      I feel more free and accepting of myself then at any other time in my life, and as strange as it might sound, that feeling of acceptance doesn’t just only resonate with my feminine side. I’m beginning to be at peace with the male that I was born as in turn.

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      Started to notice it in real depth, desire etc when going through stress and some anxiety from certain life episodes, However since young i have been fascinated with women clothes and frequent desires to wear lingerie , be soft and demure but i fought against it as society demands. I would admire how women looked so comfortable, able to change their appearance etc (especially as i am not good looking) with so much choice. With these thoughts i still married but when handling my wife’s clothes especially silk, lace, tights my thoughts over time became stronger and more desire.  This led when having stress councelling to open up about these thoughts and eventually diagnosed by therapists to have strong crossdresser/transvestite personality and character which was causing personality issues. So, one evening i relented and put on my first lingerie in peace and quite and finally experience it……  now…..i love it, feel so natural, so calm, a belonging achieved and at peace with myself. I just wished i had so much earlier.   Now, i just must avoid getting caught out by my wife which i have achieved and improved as now sleep in a different room as my wife for some time now no longer desires making love and our relationship more a marriage of convenience and friends.  Each night now i sleep dressed in lingerie….happily dreaming of feminine desires.

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      Sherri Christopher
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      I have read through some the responses and I don’t know if there are others with my trigger for cross dressing though I suspect there are others. Seven years ago my wife of 35 years and lover of 40, died suddenly. In an attempt to remain close to her I wore her nightgowns and lingerie until my daughter returned from school for the summer. I did put her nightgown over a pillow and slept in the nude holding it. Things stayed this way for about three years. Online dating was not going well so eventually to reconnect with my wife and the feel of a woman, I began wearing items I had saved and slowly added attire she once had or I wish she had had. I joined several sex sites and had a couple of meetings with other cross dressers but they felt more like encounters between two teenagers the back of a car than intimate. I’ve backed off to dressing privately, to enjoy the feel of satin, lace, and stockings, and masturbating. I have been exploring bi-sexuality and have enjoyed the company of men and women, but have avoided bringing up cross dressing. I hope to find folks who care about enjoying intimate dressing and sex vs creating a porno movie.

      Denise, my condolences to you on the loss of your wife. I lost my wife to cancer 3+ years ago and I’ve gotten so much comfort from crossdressing. It’s a private thing for me and I love wearing vintage slips (Van Raalte and Vanity Fair slips are my favorites!) and retro lingerie around my apartment and I also love wearing slips and negligees when I sleep!

      I’ve been CDing since I was a little kid, just something I’m “wired” for and now that I’m retired, I’m very comfortable with it and I have my own place and I can CD whenever I want, it’s so nice! It’s also a huge turn on for me CDing, just the way it is!

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        Denise Sway
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        Thank you and my condolences to you. It seems like we both followed the same path in trying to keep some contact with our wives. As I noted I am new to CD and right now have limited it to lingerie, stockings,and shoes, and in private. I am trying a new venture. I have purchased a dress and bra for it. I just want to see what it like. I don’t do make-up or have wigs. I am not that involved in trying to look like a woman. Like I said it is a private thing for me. I hope we can keep a chat going. I’ll add I am 68, and live in Virginia.

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          Sherri Christopher
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          Denise, when I was young and pretty :-), I belonged to a CD support group and dressed up fully en-femme, wig, makeup, the whole nine yards and it was a lot of fun going to the meetings and sometimes we went out to bars and we’d also have special events such as dinners at party houses. I was in a fashion show during one event which was so cool! Nowadays, I keep my crossdressing private and at home. I don’t do makeup and I’ve grown my hair long and wear it down. I like wearing slips and retro lingerie. I hope you enjoy wearing your new dress! I donated my dresses to Good Will as they were dated and way out of the fashions of today (shoulder pads! 🙂 ) but I just may buy some new dresses. There’s a retro polka dot dress that’s meant to be worn over a crinoline petticoat (something else I love wearing!) that I’ve been eying that would be fun to wear! The biggest thing is to have fun with crossdressing! I left my shame about it a long time ago!

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      Abby M
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      I guess part of the reason is due to being overweight for most of my life, I naturally developed breasts. I feel in part because of that, I wondered what female clothing might feel like and how it might feel emotionally. I feel like growing up in the 80s and 90s toxic masculinity was rammed down our throats with action movies, and I felt the need to express and interest in what was considered masculine. However, I could not aspire to be these things because I was not athletic. I played videogames and always chose the male characters and when I exhausted all options, basically playing the game as a completionist, I began to choose the female options. I was amazed by different options for dialogue or outfit choices, and it made these things new to me again. I feel using these virtual characters allowed me to enact a fantasy of a typically submissive societal gender role and become dominant. I feel that cross dressing is an extension of this were I am able to assert in a sense masculinity and become dominant and more confident.

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      I’ve always been an effeminate male, some would call me metrosexual.  Well  I dress because it makes me feel like the person I truly am.  Am I transgendered I am not sure.  But I definitely like dressing and the way it makes me feel pretty.

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      I like women clothes

      wearing women clothes is a like a kind of sexual thing maybe a fetish or role play

      maybe hormones . some days  when ı didnt dressing , ı was angry . ıf ı dressing and femme I relax my mood more comfortable.

      sometimes  my testosteron increase but I use chastity and I take preventions xx

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      Mae
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      I think Deeann might be right. I didn’t start Dressing until a couple of years ago. Raised and lived in a macho world as was expected. I started with a fluke encounter with a pair of black Stiletto ankle boots. I have since gained a whole wardrobe and feminine persona. The feminine movements and mannerisms that I adore in GG’s is the very thing that captivates me and inspires me to Emulate.

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      Denise Sway
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      I have read through some the responses and I don’t know if there are others with my trigger for cross dressing though I suspect there are others. Seven years ago my wife of 35 years and lover of 40, died suddenly. In an attempt to remain close to her I wore her nightgowns and lingerie until my daughter returned from school for the summer. I did put her nightgown over a pillow and slept in the nude holding it. Things stayed this way for about three years. Online dating was not going well so eventually to reconnect with my wife and the feel of a woman, I began wearing items I had saved and slowly added attire she once had or I wish she had had. I joined several sex sites and had a couple of meetings with other cross dressers but they felt more like encounters between two teenagers the back of a car than intimate. I’ve backed off to dressing privately, to enjoy the feel of satin, lace, and stockings, and masturbating. I have been exploring bi-sexuality and have enjoyed the company of men and women, but have avoided bringing up cross dressing. I hope to find folks who care about enjoying intimate dressing and sex vs creating a porno movie.

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        Denise Sway
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        Thank you for reading my story. Did it strike a chord for you?

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      Michaela Cruz
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      My hook is definitely pantyhose and tights, but I also just like the fashion choices and all the other small feminine details. Girls clothing is just so much more expressive and artistic. I love transforming into my feminine self and getting dolled up in a variety of fashion and clothing. I think for me it’s a bit of an artistic outlet.

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      Michelle Last
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      In the beginning and for most of my life crossdressing has been a sexual outlet. I started out of curiosity when I was in sixth grade. My mother had shown me an Ann Landers article about a husband who dressed in drag for a Halloween party and then continued dressing up. Out of curiosity I tried on my sister’s pantyhose. Months later I began trying on my mother’s panty girdles, panties, and slips when I was home alone. The first time a slip touched my erect penis was electrifying. I began masturbating with one of my mother’s old half slips wearing only panties. ( I LOVE panties). When I got out on my own at 21 I began buying other items. Bras, basques, teddies, garter belts and stockings, etc. and I would dress up in these and masturbate then immediately undress and put everything away. At this stage of my life, (well over 50) it is still a sexual outlet, but it has also become something more. It is a thrill sexually, but it is also a thrill emotionally. And that is something that I feel compelled to explore with the help of “fellow” crossdressers.

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      Jennifer Lynn
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      Women have always had a more diverse selection of fabrics and styles. They can wear colors and prints that if men wore they would get ridiculed. But getting back to me, I have always felt more sensitive and emotional than most males. Even as a kid I would cry at movies and my friends would laugh at me. I always found myself having more girls as friends than boys. I think my wife picked up on all that and she started me on this path. Now I just feel calmer and more comfortable in my skin. I will admit I felt some sexual excitement when first dressing but that was short lived, replaced by a feeling of rightness. I knew that this was what I was meant to be.

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      DeeAnn Hopings
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      I doubt that there is a reason for crossdressing. It is likely something buried very deep within ones psyche. This is why it is so rare that people actually stop. The need/desire (for the want of a better term) simply never goes away. Any attempts at suppression are ultimately very painful and eventually the need/desire comes back strong than ever…

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        Mia Love
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        As mentioned here CD was much more of a fetish at a younger age.  It started very young.  My first ejaculation ever was while CD in my mothers lingerie at about age 11 maybe.  I can still remember it.

        For some periods of my life usually when busy I wasnt CDing at all.  But it definitely came back stronger than ever.  In my late 40s I have just decided to embrace it.

        I am married.  I do value the relationship.  We have raised a step-daughter together for a lot of years.  Most of our time and effort are put into her.  Raising her is very much a shared goal that takes 90% of our time.  My wife and I work in different cities about 2 hours away.

        CDing currently is more of a stress relief and a sense of peacefulness.  It is for sure something very deeply seated in my psyche.  I don’t think it is a choice.  It is not something that goes away.  I started very young and it has never changed.

        I live in Asia and am very attracted to ladyboys.  They are almost always very open to a CDing partner.  There are not words for how strong my attraction to ladyboys is.  In my 40s it is definitely my primary sexual desire.  There is an emotional need met that comes from a ladyboy that I can’t find any other place.  The desire is like a tsunami of fire.  I get a sense of serenity in the time I have had with some ladyboys.

        Balancing raising a step-daughter, marriage to my wife and a little bit of time with a ladyboy is a delicate balance.  My wife is Asian so she is pretty ok with the DADT mentality.

        We all do the best we can with the cards we have been dealt.  My step-daughter is super successful.  I derive a great deal of self worth from this.  My marriage like all is not easy.  I am looking for a long term relationship with the right ladyboy.  I havent found the right one yet.

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      LES TOLET
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      I CROSS DRESS CAUSE IT MAKES ME FEEL BETTER WHEN I’M DOWN BUT MOST OF ALL I LIKE THE FIT AND THE FEEL OF THE FABRI ON MY SKIN AND ALSO TO HAVE 5in HEELS ON AS WELL.

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      Ginah H
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      I love all the colors and patterns and styles of women’s clothing, the strappy tops and sandals, the materials of the clothes, I never found male clothing interesting at all, and although I greatly enjoy being a boy and will never change that, I’ll wear a sundress WAY before a suit! Not sure why I chose to try it, I think initially it was a strong fetish for me when younger, now I just prefer it, don’t think I own boy jeans or socks or undies anymore, no reason when there are far more fun styles in the women’s isle!

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      Michelle Bailey
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      I am sitting here this morning it is 6.30 am reading articles on the site ,wearing just a white bra ,forms ,white panties, pantyhose ,my rings and new earrings and I am in heaven  wish I could stay like this all day ,that is why I cross dress the feeling and love of female clothing , I wish it could be 24/7 but that will never happen  (or could it !  ) so I will enjoy what time I can cross dress   Michelle xx

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