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Moira Stuart replied to the topic "Healing and Help!" – 4 months ago
This was a wonderful article to read. Your wife’s suggestion was so important. Any honest reading of the New Testament reveals that Jesus is Love. While I, too, was raised in a religious house with traditional attitudes and values, it… Read more»
Moira Stuart replied to the topic "Healing and Help!" – 4 months ago
This was a wonderful article to read. Your wife’s suggestion was so important. Any honest reading of the New Testament reveals that Jesus is Love. While I, too, was raised in a religious house with traditional attitudes and values, it… Read more»
Moira Stuart posted a new topic "Shopping in the Big City" – 4 months ago
(Disclaimer: I took the selfie accompanying this story with the Snapchat My Twin filter. It makes me look younger and more feminine than I actually am.) My wife—we’ll call her Rachel—blows hot and cold on my dressing. She does not… Read more»
Moira Stuart and Sarah Kanter are now friends 7 months ago
Moira Stuart wrote a new post 1 years ago
The picture above is the first one I have submitted to this forum without any alterations. On the previous two, I used a SnapChat feminization filter that made me look younger and prettier than I actually am. I
Moira Stuart wrote a new post 2 years ago
(Disclaimer: I took the selfie accompanying this story with the Snapchat My Twin filter. It makes me look younger and more feminine than I actually am.)
My wife—we’ll call her Rachel—blows hot and cold on my
What a great experience, thank you for sharing.
Hi Moira, thank you so much for the article. I am so happy for you that your wife is very accepting and supportive. It’s something that I can only fantasize about. My wife has always known about my cross dressing, I told her before we were married, but at this point the best she can do is tolerate Trish and has no desire to be involved what so ever. Begrudgingly she does allow me to shave my body, pluck my eyebrows and piece my ears so I guess I count those blessings. Have a great day and tell your wife I think she is an awesome lady.
Cheers,
Trishhello
You are special. And I think have a special wife. I’m sure if I ever get the nerve to get out of my closet, she will leave me.
Fabulous experience I’m quite jealous. Hope you have many more x
wow what a fabulous wife you have, to have you get all dolled up and go out. looks like she is getting more use to you being dressed up. yes my wife knows and tells me when i can dress up for we have a 23 year old son still living at home. my daughter might know i cross dress, and my niece most likely knows for i had her dress me up for Halloween one year. my daughter seen a pic of me dressed up and i forgot to put it away, she showed mom and daughter said its his body not hers. well that is how it goes i guess. i started with a pair of tights in a school play when i was in about 5th grade. the feel of tights was so amazing feeling i wanted to try on more what society calls female cloths. ever since i have been cross dressing, but it did go away for some years and came back stronger and i know under dress and dress up at home when our son is at work and feel the sensation of being a female in which i feel that i should of been one when born. my body is thin and feminine looking 110lbs and not a lot of hair on legs or head, HAHA getting old. now 59 and have more female cloths then wife does and even wear them more the she does. she wears pants and shirt and looks more like a man wearing pants and shirt besides having big boobs in which i don’t. My wife gave me a few things of her moms that passed away about 1 1/2 years ago from cancer, she gave me a black dinner dress that her friend gave her and my wife gave it to me thinking it might fit, i said hear i will take it and try it on later. yes it does fit and i told her that it does fit and i am wearing it know , in which i was under dressed, she replied i kind of figured you would be wearing it. wife gave me some ear rings that was her moms and i wear them when i can. i have my moms clothing also when she passed away in 2013 and my dad in 2013 68 days apart from each other. for me going out dressed up i did 2 times 1 time for Halloween and the next time to go to a Buffalo Bells meeting. i had a great time with all the girls there. i was in heaven. well i love your story and thanks for sharing it makes me feel good that some wife’s will under stand the cross dressing world have a great day. Lucinda
Moira
Thanks for sharing. I’ve only recently disclosed my crossdressing needs to my wife but we still haven’t had ‘the talk’ about mutually agreed limits. It could go either way, but I suspect I have a better chance at convincing her to accept it if she thinks I’m semi-passable . She’s always been a ‘girly girl’, and I hope that she might take an interest in helping me.
Geraldine, Canberra, AustraliaI’ve been out for several years now. Church, malls, dinner and even working for the USAF as a simulator instructor pilot. I’ve only encountered a very few males who have given snide comments. Most people just want to go about their business and don’t care that I’m not a GG.
What a wonderful story. I would love to have an experience like that one day but alas my wife does not approve of Mellissa at all.
Hi Moria – this is my first time responding in any way on CDH so your story is a success. My wife is very supportive of Monica although we have limited most of Monica to the house. We did travel before covid to Toronto where Monica received a full makeover and we walked around the city center for the day. I was terrified and elated at the same time. We have discretely walked around a few other cities but nothing as public. Looking forward to mainlining some outings like yours soon. Thanks for sharing and for helping me engage.
I told my then Bride To Be all about Julie. I wanted her to know everything up front before we got married. A day or so later she presented me with a gift – a gorgeous silky nightgown – grey with black lace trim and spaghetti straps. I was over the moon! She wanted me to model it for her, which I gladly did. She later told me that it was a test(?!?). She had had some not so good relationships in the past, so she was a bit gun shy. She thought maybe I was making up this story to get out of marrying her. When she saw my reaction to the nightgown, however, she knew I was serious, and she accepted Julie along with the Man She Was Soon To Marry.
my very feminine and welldressed SO are fully accepting my crossdressing. She does not like when I wear makeup and wig she says that she think I change to much when fully dressed and made up, she just don’t fancy the full monty but really like me in just female clothing and when we shop girl clothes with me in male mode. Sometimes she buys me girl stuff as a gift or suggest I buy a certain blouse or some nice tights or a cute skirt
That’s a lovely story, Moira, and you are indeed very lucky to have a wife willing to go the extra mile with you to support your inner self. It saddens me to read so many of the comments showing that for the majority of us, even if out to our SO, have our dressing and feminine expression still largely under cover, reinforcing the guilt, shame and feelings of unacceptance that have plagued us for a long time (decades in my case). My wife has been very good to me since I came out to her only 2 years ago and has even encouraged me to dress when I want to at home, but I find myself still wracked with those negative feelings and so only ever feel comfortable dressing when I’m on my own. I couldn’t possibly dress in public yet. This is such a complex thing for so many – my heart goes out to all of us as we negotiate this difficult path.
Hi Moira. Very cute picture! Sounds like an amazing step in your journey as a couple. My wife and I are moving in the right direction, but we’re taking baby steps. She has made an offer or two about the future, but they were vague and unfulfilled as of yet. Good luck!
Melinda
Hello Moira!
I really enjoyed reading your experience, good for you. Sounds like you were totally emersed in the moment. My wife is accepting as well. I came out to her 3 months after we were first dating. It is an amazing feeling to have support to be who you feel inside.
Hugs,
Vanessa
Moira Stuart wrote a new post 2 years ago
I took the picture accompanying this article with the Snapchat My Twin filter. It makes me look decidedly younger and prettier than I really am. I start with this because I did the same with my previous
I like your post..I too have no desire to go on HRT, surgery, or become a woman.. as I often say, ” I like stratching my testicles. They comfort me.”
It’s great that you honor your wife, without sweeping issues under the carpet.
Hi Moira,
You are blessed to have a partner who helps you along and seems to ask the right questions and work with you.It is not only for you but others to tolerate your identity, then accept and finally embrace. It works hand in hand for the journey to where you want to be.
I know I’m blessed. I’ve read SO many accounts of sisters whose significant others could not accept this.
Thank you for having posted your insights, Moira.
I love this Snapchat filter – it does a miracle with our pictures. For me, it worked as a primary acceptance tool, something like “this is the girl you can be/become”.
Also, having a long lasting relationship like yours is amazing, especially when your preferences aren’t considered as a no-no for your wife.xoxo
DaisyShe and I go back to high school, when both of us felt unacceptable. She is an amazing athlete and human being. High school sucks.
Thank you Moira,
You are right, every situation is diffetent in my case in thies is a cuestion of fluidity and completness, I am both male and female.
And everyday combination of these two polarities is my goal now that I tecognize and beguin to accept what I always hide in my subconscience , my strong and sensual female side.
And keep on working myself…
Kisses
Sonia
Moria, first you look amazing. Thanks for your article. I am a man and do not want to become a full time woman. I do however, love cross dressing and feeling feminine.
YES.at Except, don’t let the complexity confuse you. Your identity is at least partly female. Whatever that entails.
Lexi, talk with her. Be honest. It’s the best path forward. Rehearse what you’ll say and listen to yourself saying it. Is it honest? Really? If yes, say it. Because not saying it cheats both of you.
Thank you for this Moira. It sounds so similar to my own feelings. Your wife wounds like a wonderful person.
Moira
You really do look beautiful and I am pleased your wife is so loving. Take Care and well done babe.
Rachel
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Moira Stuart wrote a new post 2 years ago
Negotiated Limitations “You’re not a girl, but you are girly,” said my wife. I looked up from my crossword, puzzled about what had motivated her comment. She was
My wife & I used to go out as two women shopping/dinner/daytrips ect a lot– I was the nervous one & would restrict myself — She died suddenly a couple yrs ago –Now I’m more fearful than ever — I think mostly about keeping my job/house ect with only one income now– so far I have’nt been able to find like minded Friends in my area– I’m hoping that will make the difference–
any Advice??
Moira,
I’m relatively new here, I went back and read your articles and saw both your older and current pictures and you are beautiful! Thanks for the articles. My wife is accepting and while she has seen Rachel dressed, she prefers not to. I do my best to ensure my clothes, and makeup are all put away before she comes home. This is a challenge and I find myself revisiting my path at least twice to make sure I don’t leave anything, even a towelette with makeup on it visible, sometimes in a rush just before she returns. Going out with her while dressed will likely never happen, but your wife gave you such a gift by doing that. I think we all see acceptance, and not having that is a disappointment. Really enjoyed your articles – Thank you!
R.
Rachel, thanks for your kind and affirming response. I just went back and read all three of my posts and I saw how large a part my wife played in them all. I must kind of like her! 😉 She clearly loves me and I am one lucky person. And when I say “one”, I mean both sides of me. Thanks again.
A lovely encouraging story Moira.
I have gone through the same sequence of discussions with my wife and we are at the point where I have dressed in her presence and gone shopping with her. She even met the woman who does my makeovers. I cannot agree with you more about the need for more and more honest discussion.
Thanks Leslie! And I’m happy for you.
Moira –
Thank you for sharing your story. It is nice to hear that your wife has accepted you for who you are. Like you when I came out to my wife she asked me the same questions and I replied the same way. She felt betrayed and didn’t want to talk about it for some time. Eventually she spoke with someone and we started to talk. She recommended therapy for me to understand my feelings. I’ve been in therapy since and it has helped me tremendously. My wife has become more accepting and has bought clothes and make up for me. As you said communication is very important.
Thank you for creating an opportunity for others to share their experience.
XOXO
Suzanne
PS you look fantastic
Thank you so much–especially for that last line! My wife says that when people see Moira but don’t get a good look at my face, they think, “That’s a tall woman!” I am happy that you and your wife care enough to put in the work. I have high hopes for your relationship.
Thank you Moira – as you know it is a work in progress – I always hope I’ll be able to do some of the things you mention – as the saying goes “patience is a virtue” – I am able to do more now than I was before and appreciate that I can – one day at a time
XOXO
Suzanne
Moira,
thank you for sharing such a wonderful story relating your wife’s acceptance of your crossdressing.. the photo of the “real” Moira is very elegant…
unfortunately, my wife met Leonara by accident and of course she felt betrayed . We talked.. I answered the questions “no not gay” and once in awhile I prefer to present my feminine alter ego…she has mentioned CD is a part of me which she continues to process and for now prefers that I dress when she is not home… that is a compromise that has kept our 50 years marriage status quo…
Moira , give your wife a hug for all of us she is very special.. Warmest regards, Leonara
And you give yours a hug, too!
Moira your story gives me hope I have been attracted to women’s clothing since I was very young like others I would wear my sister’s clothes when ever I had the chance after getting married I would occasionally try on some of my wife’s clothes I know how wrong that was. I now have my own wardrobe and have been out in public many times but have still not had the talk with my wife recently I have been thinking it’s time she knows the truth about my Crossdressing and thanks to stories like yours I will find the courage. Thank you!
Only you can know how she might react, but if it is at all possible I think telling her is far better than her discovering it on her own. Courage!
Moira,
First of all, you are lucky to be married to such a special lady.
Second of all, you look lovely as your real self.
Thanks for telling us your story.
Fiona
Yes, I am fortunate. And thanks for the compliment.
Thanks for sharing.
Moira: What a delightful picture. The charm and poise you exude remind me of another Maura of Rizzoli and Isles fame. I found your story compelling in that I am of a similar age. In my case it was my wife who insisted on bringing out my ‘girl’ side, which I was unaware of, as I was of a macho jock mindset, only to then have her dump me for the best man from our wedding. Albeit only after completely emasculating me before friends, family and associates in a manner that changed my life dramatically, in that I went from successful executive to bouncing between being a lowly domestic for various couples and a waitressing position at a truck stop off the Jersey Turnpike Thankfully one of the women I wound up working for fell in love with me and moved us to NH, where we had a wonderful life for some forty years before she recently passed away. Needless to say I was and still remain devastated, however she gave me the fortitude and confidence to live my life to the fullest, even though I have remained a domestic by trade until this very day. To wit although some will still ridicule me when out in public, the majority of the people who have come to know me in the town I live in are mostly receptive, albeit most often with attitudes of superiority. Something I have accepted as my due given my social status, however I wouldn’t change things for the world, as I am most happy with where life has taken me. I say this to let you know that while your life may not be the fullest one that you might like, it sounds like you have a blessed one compared to so many of our sisters. I totally agree with you about the importance of open communication, for I wouldn’t have ever had the blessed life that I did with with Sally if i hadn’t ben open and honest about the fact that I was content to be a maid for a woman like her when others were trying to convince me to go back to what I then saw as my failed manhood. To that end i am happy for you that your wife has been wiling to grow, and as such I would encourage you to find ways that benefit or bless her while you are in Moira mode. I would love to chat sometimes via email, or by phone although I am not sure how to go about that, in that the previous time I left a message with my email address it was removed with a message stating that CDH does not allow that exchange of information. Nevertheless I would love to hear more about you and your experiences here, as I am sure I would have similar remembrances to those of your own, which have as you stated generated a similar reply of: “You can’t possibly be old enough to remember that.”, which I find oddly comforting and complimentary. May the Lord bless you and your marriage. Appreciatively yours, Gracie
Wow. So much sadness. I am impressed by your resiliency. I cannot “chat” as that would involve sharing an email address and that violates my wife’s and my agreement. Happy to go back and forth in these comments, though I am not sure how many people can see what we might share. And the historical event was the funeral parade for JFK.
Dear Moira: I understand the established boundaries in regards to your wife’s desires and I respect them, especially in light of some of the dramatic changes I willingly went through in trying to keep the woman I loved placated. Unfortunately in my case my former wife at the time was not willing to reciprocate with anything approaching a quid-pro-quo, for at the end of the day it was all her way or the highway, resulting in my unconditionally surrendering to all her terms. Ones that not only included a trio of changes of a emasculating physical nature, but an even greater number of emotional ones as well, which in the moment brought me to a ‘wanna-curl-up-and-die outlook on life. Albeit in the end however none of the humiliations I endured did anything to remove the joy I came to realize over having become a lowly domestic for my betters, in that it was a scenario I believe life always intended me to fill. I know that most, but especially an arrogant jock as I had led myself and others to always believe I was, would be put off by that notion, however I not only came to accept my plight with a smile when her and her lover channeled me into being their submissive servant, but I even found myself at peace when she eventually showed me the door after serving their every need for the better part of two years. To wit I came to see all that transpired as both my manifest destiny, as well as being in my own best interests, in that it led to my finding the true love of my life, who I adored until the day she passed.. As for the historical event you mentioned I remember it quite well, as I was in the sixth grade at the time, with an Irish Catholic mother and grandmother who both worshipped the ground JFK walked on. In closing I see that there is a means for exchanging ‘private’ communications on this site, to wit if you ever desire to communicate further I am willing to do so in that regard, although my life is an open book and I would have no problem with furthering any future ‘personal’ dialogs utilizing this format as well. Regardless be blessed and happy in all that you do. Appreciatively yours, Gracie.
Well written. Thank you for sharing. It’s articles like this that keep me coming back to CDH.
Good advice Moira. Honest communication!!But be very careful everyone — if I hear it is ok for me to do one thing (like shopping en femme) BE REAL SURE like where you can go,what you can wear (if you sometimes go over the top there) and maybe if you should avoid people you both may know.
Cassie
Moira
I am just seeing your post and appreciate and understand your story on a personal level. I came out to my wife about 2 years ago after being married for almost 40 years. She has known about my dressing for almost as long as we have been married but never really wanted to know. Our recent journey has been serious and with a lot of ups and downs; however, we love each other and although she is not interested or necessarily happy with my dressing, she is tolerant and gives me space to do it with some firm boundaries for the time being. It sounds as if you both are farther along on this journey then we are, so I hold out hope that we can navigate whatever comes up as I am not sure how my attitude will change in the future. I do know that dressing is part of who I am, and I need to find joy wherever I can.
Thanks for sharing,
Evie
Eva, I am so sorry not to have replied sooner. I don’t check this site very often (as you can tell). My wife is a wonderful person and that helps me respect her wishes. Sounds like you may have a similar relationship. I sure hope so. Because we both know we will never stop needing to express our feminine identity.
Evie, I am also sorry I did not use your actual name.
Moira
No worries – I actually like Eva or Eve. My wife also understands that I will never stop although she is concerned that I will want to transition. I admit I have mixed feelings about all of this, and the thrill of dressing certainly does not seem less intense as time goes on. I would love to hear how your journey is going. The two of us continue to work on issues that in the larger context seem minor, since, at the end of the day, we are committed as partners and love each other.
Hugs
Eve