- September 14, 2021 at 6:38 am #543432Michelle McQueenParticipantRegistered On: June 14, 2021Topics: 12Replies: 404Has thanked: 1511 timesBeen thanked: 1963 times
No, I’m not talking about what you’re thinking.. lol. What I’m talking about is the overall size of our bodies in general. Tall, short, fat, skinny, wide shoulders, narrow shoulders, big hands, small hands, etc. Its all about our physical body size.
Most women just aren’t that big especially in height. We males are usually just larger all over and it can be a big red flag dressed in public no matter what we wear or how much makeup we apply. Its not something we can hide. I read some girls here who go out enfemme all the time and I wonder if they are smaller in stature which would make it more easy to blend in…. idk. Maybe its just me because I’m a big guy but I just adore petite women. They always look so cute to me and I wish I were their size.
I’m 6ft 1in, 200lbs, with broad shoulders, big hands and feet so I’ve always wished I were shorter and much smaller in stature so I could present female more easily. A tall male is fine for getting things off the top shelf for ladies at the grocery store but a hinderance at being a cute female. Being so tall and large its not possible to cover that up so I’m spotted easily as a male even fully dressed at my best. Maybe at least seen as an Amazonian woman a head above most everyone else. Forget about any size heels. Flats, sneakers, or at most kitten heels are about all I can wear outside of the bedroom without bumping my head on door jambs. If I were shorter I could wear my 4in pumps that I love. Oh to be less. Having smaller feet would open up a much wider selection of heels.
So has anyone wished they were shorter, smaller, in order to pass more feminine? I know there is nothing to be done but accept what we have so how can us tall girls make our size more feminine?
Ok, useless rant over…. life just isn’t fair…. sigh
- September 17, 2021 at 2:20 pm #544731Michelle SkylarLadyRegistered On: March 18, 2021Topics: 0Replies: 24Has thanked: 5 timesBeen thanked: 76 times
I’m 6’9” 215lbs. In heels think, Attack of the 50Ft Woman. I would love just to be able to buy a pair of women’s skinny jeans or any jeans for that matter.
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- September 15, 2021 at 3:13 am #543819MartiBaroness - AnnualRegistered On: February 5, 2019Topics: 33Replies: 491Has thanked: 1956 timesBeen thanked: 2004 times
It’s easy for me to empathise. The same sort of thoughts re-occur to me from time to time. I’m 6 ft as well
My advice is pragmatism. We are what we are and can only work on whatever cards nature dealt us.
Anyway, at least in my case, being my age, high heels should be considered a health risk. A twisted or broken ankle is an accident waiting to happen. But I still enjoy my one pair of killer heels, which I can cope with for two microseconds at a time. When I’m sat down in my favourite chair, I find doing a bit of heel dangling is such a simple pleasure.
- September 14, 2021 at 8:13 pm #543677Beth GreenLadyRegistered On: February 24, 2021Topics: 27Replies: 455Has thanked: 2406 timesBeen thanked: 2357 times
I truly feel for you. Being on the opposite end of the spectrum I have issues that only short people experience. The issues are opposite but cause just as much anguish. I’m 5’4″, 135 lbs and loosing. (goal is 125) Shoes: women’s 7, dress: 10-12, bra: 36 without forms, 38 with forms (I also use smaller forms than most, like to keep it appropriately petite), even panties are small to x-small. I’m always the smallest in any group I’m in although lately I have been equal or taller than some of the women due to 4″ heels. (That’s a huge ego boost!) The smaller size makes it easier to look feminine but getting a proper fit is still a problem. The male form in small or large frame still has broader shoulders, barrel chest, narrow hips and no butt. I’m closer to a women’s frame but still have to work at it.
Anyway, be you large or small it’s a lot of work to be a woman, but oh so worth it.
- September 14, 2021 at 7:46 pm #543666Octavia LongLadyRegistered On: January 31, 2021Topics: 53Replies: 128Has thanked: 812 timesBeen thanked: 1028 times
I am smaller. 5’8” and have not been on a scale for a while. Last time was 175 but nothing fits now so I am hoping that I am less. I wish that I had hips and a butt. These are true girl struggles. No matter how good we look it will never be good enough. Pass or not. I know genetic girls that struggle with the same issues that we are dealing with.
- September 14, 2021 at 6:54 pm #543657Kyra KascadeLadyRegistered On: August 31, 2021Topics: 10Replies: 55Has thanked: 250 timesBeen thanked: 254 times
Oh wow, I feel this so much!
Biggest hurdle that has me worried to try and pass in public.
6’4″ 210 (currently, working my way down to 190 – was at 250ish this time last year)
Large hands, big feet, broad shoulders, and arms that definitely don’t look feminine. I’ll just have to settle with being amazonian in feature when en femme.
Making great progress with only doing feminine workouts to try and shape/sculpt but its a slow process.
Some day I’ll get there
- September 14, 2021 at 6:34 pm #543652JillianWDuchessRegistered On: October 13, 2019Topics: 6Replies: 253Has thanked: 736 timesBeen thanked: 995 times
I think a lot of us have the same problem. I’m 6’2” and 195. However I’m lucky to have rather narrow shoulders, small hands and feet. I now can easily wear a size 14 and size 11 shoes so I have little problem buying clothes.
- September 14, 2021 at 3:23 pm #543608Jamie WilliamsLadyRegistered On: July 26, 2021Topics: 8Replies: 70Has thanked: 173 timesBeen thanked: 450 times
I’m 6’1” as well, but pushing 245 pounds. Honestly, I wish more that I could lose the belly and handles. My height really doesn’t bother me. It’s my girth.
But I can’t pass as female anyway, so I just go out as I feel. It’s all about confidence, I think. Nobody has yet questioned why a big guy is wearing a skirt. Lol.
- September 14, 2021 at 3:19 pm #543604LeslieLadyRegistered On: September 14, 2020Topics: 21Replies: 289Has thanked: 3101 timesBeen thanked: 1267 times
I’m 75 so I don’t really pass too well. And I am 6’2” and 220 pounds. But oh god do I feel good dressed!!! I was shocked the other day in the grocery store to run into a young lady taller than me, so maybe we aren’t so strange? And have you ever seem pictures of janaemeriekroc ( look her up on Facebook) ! Granted she has fully transitioned with facial surgery but even when she was transitioning before the surgery she was a heck of a looking girl. The is also a documentary about her online. If you think you have issues passing, think again.
- September 14, 2021 at 1:39 pm #543571Charlene VictoriaLadyRegistered On: November 29, 2016Topics: 25Replies: 142Has thanked: 739 timesBeen thanked: 825 times
I have often thought how blessed I am in this regards. I am 5’9″ (probably a bit shorter now at my age ). A year and a half ago I studied what a cis-woman of my height and build (38″ chest) should weigh and what her BMI should be. The charts put the upper number at about 165 lbs. I made that my goal, started KETO and am almost there (started at 210 @ 170 now) I lost 6″ + in my waist (now @ 42), lost breast tissue which before could nicely fill an A cup bra or look really nice in a padded B cup. I now have no butt to speak of and have a thin older looking male face.
Ha, so I almost achieved my weight goal for a woman of my height and build but what is left is distributed errantly. (Waist is still at least 4″ bigger than my liking.)
No matter what we do we are not genetic women. Never will be, but there is hope. I am sure that foundation garment manufacturers don’t offer their products counting on their profits to come predominantly from the trans community. No ladies, I suspect there are multitudes of cis-women who buy and use hip, butt, and breast forms, inserts, corsets etc. They like we are not completely happy with what genetics has given them. I suppose we like they must learn to take what we have and do our best with it. And what’s left over we must learn to manage even as our genetic sisters do.
- September 14, 2021 at 12:30 pm #543545Olivia LivinDuchess - AnnualRegistered On: October 22, 2018Topics: 51Replies: 1700Has thanked: 8781 timesBeen thanked: 4730 times
I too am 6′ 200lb, other than the difficulty of finding a decent variety of shoes in my size, I’m ok with it. Although I’ve always been somewhat drawn to more petite women, I’ve also met more than a few larger ones that were quite striking in their appearance, alot can be said for proper ‘packaging’.
As Robyn Drake said, its usually a matter of our own personal mental placement in all of this. I don’t (ok….rarely) dress to create an illusion for others to admire, but rather to have my inner feelings visually expressed. Because I am now more confident with who I am, my feelings show through and I’m more readily accepted. I have had times when I’ve dressed in what I internally envisioned as being as cute as a button and had someone I meet use those same words back to me.
- September 14, 2021 at 11:25 am #543528Darcy GrigsbyLadyRegistered On: July 1, 2020Topics: 19Replies: 119Has thanked: 14 timesBeen thanked: 651 times
- September 14, 2021 at 10:37 am #543511ChloeCDuchessRegistered On: November 5, 2019Topics: 11Replies: 382Has thanked: 1037 timesBeen thanked: 1682 times
So, y’all come on over to the west coast of Michigan (think Saugatuck…and just north). You will all fit in quite nicely with the rather tall girls that are already here. For a gen male, I’m rather just a tiny bit above average but walking down the ‘downtown’ sidewalk, well, I feel rather small. Now neither me nor my spouse are dutch, but one daughter (who lives way south, btw) is taller than both of us and she would easily fit in here.
- September 14, 2021 at 10:30 am #543508Jen ScarletLadyRegistered On: May 2, 2021Topics: 8Replies: 105Has thanked: 832 timesBeen thanked: 571 times
I am jealous of your height Michelle! I am not sure anyone is individually happy with themselves!
Times are changing and women are getting generally getting taller and broader (for which I am eternally grateful as it makes more shoes available that fit me!).
Of all the women in my life, only one was under six foot. And I’m only 5′ 10″ myself.
- September 14, 2021 at 10:02 am #543501Elise MichelleDuchessRegistered On: January 3, 2018Topics: 23Replies: 326Has thanked: 404 timesBeen thanked: 1170 times
I’m with you Michelle. Six feet tall and about 225 lbs. Broad shoulders, barrel chest, arms like an ape. Lol. As a guy it serves me well. But in femme mode, not so much. Wish I was smaller too.
- September 14, 2021 at 9:18 am #543491Robyn DrakeAmbassadorRegistered On: March 19, 2019Topics: 52Replies: 561Has thanked: 817 timesBeen thanked: 1616 times
I’m 6′ 4 1/2″, around 225 pounds, always an athlete, so I have broad shoulders a large frame and well muscled. As I age I am losing some muscle mass but that is a slow process. So what do I do with this? I dress in a way that my outer self is congruent with my inner self. I think that an important aspect of your discussion is the question “why do I dress?”. Do I dress to assume the costume of a woman, to pass as a woman, to be a woman, for the thrill of sexual excitement, for self expression? For me, it has evolved into the latter. If I am dressing so that my outside is congruent with my inside, then passing does not matter. I know that I am going to get clocked instantly and I need to be comfortable with that when I am out in public. I love wearing 3-4″ heels, flowery blouses, makeup. It can sometimes be a struggle to own my space. But I have come to realize that when I feel the struggle, it is myself that I am reacting to, not anyone else.
- September 14, 2021 at 9:12 am #543488Bettylou CoxDuchessRegistered On: May 26, 2019Topics: 23Replies: 2473Has thanked: 5184 timesBeen thanked: 9365 times
Some aspects of male anatomy are truly inconvenient, besides “that” one. At 5′ 10″, I don’t stand out much when Dressed; I’m either in flats or wedgies. But oh, how I would love smaller feet. I’m a 12W men’s, and just finding ladies’ shoes to match my outfits is near-impossible. And I didn’t realize how large my hands were until I tried to buy false nails. My thumbnails are 17 mm wide; you won’t find those in the stores. On the “good” side, I’m a size 10 in jeans, and a 12 in dresses; both easy to find.
- September 14, 2021 at 3:27 pm #543609Connie TwirlLadyRegistered On: August 18, 2021Topics: 6Replies: 96Has thanked: 161 timesBeen thanked: 352 times
- September 14, 2021 at 9:02 am #543486Rachel WilliamsLadyRegistered On: November 3, 2019Topics: 4Replies: 126Has thanked: 309 timesBeen thanked: 413 times
Yes size does matter but for me it is from the other end of the height spectrum as being only 5ft 3 in I need to look to the “Petite” ranges but sadly those UK companies that do specifically cater for “Petite” tend not to have the same variety as in their main range and tend to assume that “petite” people are stick insects.
- September 14, 2021 at 8:44 am #543467Anya CarpathiaLadyRegistered On: September 8, 2021Topics: 2Replies: 15Has thanked: 8 timesBeen thanked: 67 times
Just wanted to comment. Size is probably only an issue if you are intimidated.
Tall basketball players in female competition look fab. But it might just be our society that expects certain modes. We are surprised perhaps when the male is shorter than the female partner. Thank fully it makes no difference them. It would be very sad to ignore the character in preference of size!?! But it happens as we know.
I suspect if data were collected we would find that what we assume is indeed fact. But I’m glad to think that many look beyond size to investigate and meet the character in question.
An interesting observation- worth personal consideration.
Anya ( Im “ little” with large ambitions!!!)
- September 14, 2021 at 8:43 am #543464LadyRegistered On: August 18, 2021Topics: 6Replies: 96Has thanked: 161 timesBeen thanked: 352 times
Lord yes. I’m 6Ft2, 13 Stone (180 in American), arms like a gibbon, feet like canoes, broad shoulders. There is no way on this good Earth that anyone would ever mistake me for a woman, no matter how much make-up and padding I shovelled on.
So, yes, I would love to be shorter, lighter, of more feminine proportions and with a reasonable face.
BUT……….. I don’t want to be a woman. I just want to look like one. I think they call it autogynophilia.
- September 14, 2021 at 8:19 am #543458Deborah SullivanDuchessRegistered On: February 27, 2020Topics: 2Replies: 718Has thanked: 3094 timesBeen thanked: 2922 times
Well Michelle I have been out with other cds that are tall like you and they are still beautiful. I times I am even jealous of their looks. I am 5’7″ and 135 lbs so I am on the average size for girls. Growing up I was petite in school and teased . Never big enough to play sports or get picked on teams. I wanted to be taller but now I am thankful for my size since my gender identity has changed for the most part. We all want what we dont have but dont let that deter you hon.
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