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Registered On: November 1, 2019Topics: 10Replies: 14Has thanked: 348 timesBeen thanked: 322 timesOn occasion I have worn some of my wife’s clothes without her knowledge. She does not know that I cross dress. It has always been when I am the only one at home and I want to be feminine for a short period of time. I am always careful to try and replace the items back in just the right place from where I borrowed them. I am curious if others on this website might do this too? We are close to the same in size so I do not stretch or damage her clothes. I know others will tell me I shouldn’t do this, but the urge to dress up is strong sometimes. I cant be the only one who does this. Have you borrowed others clothes without their knowledge?
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I do dress in my wife’s clothes sometimes as well. She has however given me permission as she knows I am a crossdresser, maybe she does not know the full extent but she knows and supports me none the less. She has told me I can wear anything of hers I want as long as I will not permanently stretch it out. I have a wonderful wife.
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I can’t get my head around how many of you do this and can’t see what a massive breach of ownership this is, which part of “this doesn’t belong to you” were you not taught? Unless something is offered, it is not yours to wear. Let alone that wearing someone else’s underwear is incredibly unhygenic and a huge danger for women’s PH balance that can cause long-term issues.
Just adding more issues to a problem, and another thing to come clean about to your SOs…
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I wear my wife’s clothing all the time. She is a bit smaller than I, so not all fit and I don’t overdo it or stretch them out. She is somewhat of a clothing hoarder and never throws clothing out, so if I use the less worn items, there has never been any problems. I’ve been wearing her clothing secretly ever since we started dating in college, 25+ years ago. She has some absolutely beautiful Boden wrap dresses that seem to fit me very well. I certainly have many favorites. But its not just dresses, I wear her panties, tights, bras, tops, skirts too, even some “old” shoes that I can fit into. Always in secret though. It is somewhat disconcerting when she wears a dress that I have recently worn. Also, when we get catalogs I often will tell her that she would look great in this one or that, thinking all the time how I really want it! I have so many memories of wearing her clothing. Such a crossdressing history. If only she would accept…
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Registered On: November 18, 2020Topics: 10Replies: 433Has thanked: 1840 timesBeen thanked: 1991 timesClearly the majority is correct here, borrowing your significant others clothes has a chance to blow up in your face very badly. I did it for the longest time I’ve been married over 20 years and only had the talk with my wife earlier this year. I think it was in the middle of my second sentence to her when I said “well yeah of course I was wearing your things but I was always careful to put them right back” not knowing at the time what a no-no it was. Hearing this didn’t bother her at all, she was just perplexed as to how she never noticed, honestly I was confused as well because she’s such a neat freak, at any rate my wife once again showed me how lucky I truly am.
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Good for you Cindy Lou and that’s at least as long as I’ve been borrowing clothes from my wife’s closet. She doesn’t mind at all and she’s a super organized neat freak just like your wife! As long as I put everyting right back in its original place. It’s easy to do if you just take the item off the hanger and keep the hanger in place in the closet. It’s also easier if you’re the same size as your own wife like I am so you don’t have to stretch everything out.
My wife knows my wardrobe for Scarlett is now as extensive as her’s and she’s always welcome to borrow anything she wants out of my three closets as well!
I always exercise and shower before each and everyone of my photo shoots so the only thing I ever have to worry about is getting makeup on a small area of something like a turtle neck top. However, with those Mr. Clean Magic Erasers we have at our disposal now, removing makeup from any type of clothing is a piece of cake!
Take care girls and Happy Thanksgiving from Scarlett, her Sexy Redhead, and our corgie doggies – Sully and Scarlett!
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Youre certainly living the life Scarlett! My wife and I can share some clothes, some others are too small for her 😉 but as for shoes, were almost exactly the same size and she’s got quite a collection, I should know, I bought half of them for her.
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Same here Cindy Lou and the reason why if you looked into my three closest and her three closets, you couldn’t tell whose closet you were in because I’ve picked out just about everything she has in all three of her closets. She leans on me heavily for my femme sense of style. She won’t even buy a purse if I’m not there to give her the two thumbs up on the purchase. I even help her pick out her makeup!
Before I retired, I held a high profile job with the Department of Defense and I used to purchase all of her clothing and footwear. Now she’s the one with the high profile job and she pays for most all of her clothes and footwear with me there to coach her up!
I never thought I would see the day, Cindy Lou, when we could shop together in the girl’s, lady’s, and junior’s departments at the same time with her picking out her dresses, tops, and skirts and me doing the same for Scarlett and us putting all items in the same shopping cart and then checking out at the same register together. She usually has me go first purchasing all of Scarlett’s things and then she purchases her things right after I’m done.
We are both very blessed and lucky to have the wives we have! It took years and years to get her but I never ever have to purge or go back into any cross dressing closet ever again!
Happy Thanksgiving again girlfriend! XOXOXO Scarlett
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- Registered On: November 18, 2020Topics: 10Replies: 433Has thanked: 1840 timesBeen thanked: 1991 times
Thanks so much for your response Scarlett. For the last little while I’ve also been helping my wife add some pizazz to her wardrobe. She has taste and style but works really hard and just doesn’t have the time to put the thought into it. I totally get what you mean though I just love it when she asks for my opinion on how an outfit looks, like you said I never thought I would see the day. In the meantime keep posting and putting up your lovely pictures, you’re an inspiration.
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Thank Baby Doll! You wouldn’t believe the hundreds of times each year I hear the words “inspire” or “inspiration” from these girls. They seem to really enjoy my keen sense of style! I guess you can tell I put a lot of work and energy into each and everyone of my photo shoots done all alone right here at our dream home in Northwest Florida.
Can’t wait for you to see the results of next week’s photo shoots scheduled for Monday and Thursday of next week!
XOXOXO Scarlett
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Registered On: May 26, 2019Topics: 17Replies: 1703Has thanked: 3020 timesBeen thanked: 5708 timesIn the past, (before Bettylou, actually), I wore one of my wife’s dresses a couple of times when she was away at work. But now that I am out to her, I have my own complete wardrobe, next to hers in the closet. We do share a few items of clothing and jewelry.
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Registered On: November 11, 2020Topics: 26Replies: 557Has thanked: 1683 timesBeen thanked: 2197 timesHonestly, my wife and I are very different sizes. I’m much taller and a lot slimmer. Our shoe size is very different too. I’m a bit jealous of the girls here that can share clothes with their wives. I have never even discussed the idea with my wife because of our size differences so I don’t know how she would feel about it otherwise.
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Why yes, Vanity, I do it on a regular basis even though my femme wardrobe is as extensive as hers now!
She allows me to borrow whatever I want because we are the same size and she can borrow anything she wants from my wardrobe. The only restriction be places on me is I have to return the item exactly where I found it from.
She’s a first class organizer and has everything in her massive closet laid out by dresses, tops, skirts, dress slacks, and jeans and everything is organized in each section of clothing from light colors to dark colors left to right.
I’m Scarlett’s room, it’s basically mass chaos. The only thing that looks organized and neat are the many 54 inch long dress breathable travel bags I keep up to seven dresses or tops or skirts in. I purchase them on Amazon from “Bags For Less” for just over 7 bucks per travel bag and once you start using them to store you clothing in, you’ll never be able to stop buying them. I have at least 50 of them with many of them in a huge temperature controlled storage unit that’s 20 feet by 20 feet in size and it’s right across the hallway from my wife’s storage unit that’s the exact same size. Both of us love to shop and have a ton of femme clothing! So we have to spend two days every six months exchanging our Fall and Winter clothing items and footwear for our Spring and Summer clothing items of footwear. Trust me, it takes several trips to swap everyting out every six months.
The only thing we don’t wear the same size in is footwear. She’s an 8.5 and I’m an 11.
Great question and glad you’re almost in the same situation I’m in!
XOXOXO Scarlett
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Registered On: December 18, 2018Topics: 10Replies: 92Has thanked: 403 timesBeen thanked: 587 timesWore her a few items of her clothes in my early days. Still have fond memories of a particular bathing suit. But now in my mature years, I totally agree with other girls here – don’t do it. You say she doesn’t know about your CDing. If/when she finds out, it’s likely to be a huge shock – both in terms of the act itself and the secrecy over many years. And in the fact that you wear her clothes and it takes it to a whole other dimension of difficulty.
Find a way to purchase your own clothes – either online or at stores. I shop exclusively at the fine ladies emporium known at Goodwill (thrift store). I have no problem finding amazing dresses. I shop openly among the racks of women’s dresses, skirts, tops, etc. Guess what? Nobody seems to notice or care. Checkout folks often compliment my choices and most assume I’m buying for my wife. Also, it’s worth checking out the shoe selection – it is a happy day when I find an elusive pair of size 12 heels (probably donated by a fellow CD in the midst of a purge).
Good luck,
Mona
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Registered On: November 4, 2020Topics: 2Replies: 52Has thanked: 213 timesBeen thanked: 183 timesWhen my not really gf found out the second thing she said was keep you g.. D… Hands off my clothes and I f…… Mean it. I didn’t wear her stuff anyway because no matter how careful I could be she would know in like .01 seconds. Once when we were out of town at family’s house she got me to come outside and talk. She had started and was flooding and asked if I had some underwear she could borrow. Lol of course I did.
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Wow that brought back some memories! Since I am now with my 3rd wife, I have learned a thing or two as the years have passed. While married to my first & second wife, there were occasions when I borrowed some of their things, stocking, panties, lingerie, and with the first one, I was able to borrow her heels as well. Did my best to always put things back as they were, and to be sure I wasn’t wearing deodorant or cologne. There was never a time when they asked me if I was borrowing their things, nor was I ever caught. At the time I felt too ashamed of what I was doing to even bring it up in conversation, nor did I have an understanding of why I felt the urge to dress. At the start of my 3rd marriage, I had reached the point where I had a few things of my own (thank you internet!), and I had them well hidden, so she never knew that I was dressing while she was at work. After our kids were born, I had decided to purge once again, and it was almost two years from that time until we had ‘The Talk’. Fortunately for me, she was more understanding that I expected, and willing to listen to what I had to say. Since that moment, Heather has her own wardrobe, while not extensive, it has a nice selection of outfits, heels, and (oh my) way too many panties! There have been times when she will leave out a top or dress for me to wear, because she feels it would look nice on me. Once in a while, she will even offer up a few of her lingerie items that I can borrow for our evening together. We do laugh that there is one dress that we both tend to like, and it is the only one I have ever worn outside of the house. I’m glad that she is accepting of who I am, and likes knowing that I can be her husband or her BFF. It has all come about because we are honest with one another, and we have found a place for Heather in our marriage. I guess the one thing that I know for sure is that it’s been a matter of respect and love that makes it work for us. As a result of that, I have always felt that her things are just that, her things, and I would not take anything without first asking her.
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I introduced my wife to Patty a couple of weeks after we met. I wasn’t planning on it but she surprised me showing up at my place and seeing lots of women’s clothes lying about. I had been dressing often for a couple of years and had a very nice wardrobe. I decided to tell her the clothes were mine. I wore them for fun and to parties.
She seemed suspicious and asked me to show her. I went in the bedroom and purt on one of my favorite and sexiest outfits with wig and makeup . The whole deal. When I walked out, she was stunned. she could not believe how pretty and sexy I was. She also found it hard to believe I was the same person. I looked so different. She liked it.
I dressed often at home with her. We even became girl friends going out together often doing girly things, especially shopping.
I never wore her clothes, at least not many of them. We are too different in size. Her things are just too small for me and mine swim on her. But when she has something I really love we try to get it in my size also and visa versa. So for the most part we have our own and separate wardrobes.
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yes I have as well. The issue is if she finds out that you’ve been wearing her clothes and she doesn’t know your a CD it may be a bad result. I would buy your own. Woman are very funny when it comes to their clothes as well they are very observant, She will notice things are out of place and eventually catch you. My wife found out about me due to her panties. She never caught me but when we had the talk she went right to the panties and said I knew you were wearing my panties. Buy your own that way you can avoid the double whammy!!!
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Same here, although I wish my lady had more lingerie to choose from especially more thongs. I guess I’m the more feminine one.
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Registered On: October 18, 2020Topics: 3Replies: 91Has thanked: 166 timesBeen thanked: 362 timesWhen I was young I would sneak moms clothes but they were always to big for me. Skip to later years and married, I was always much bigger than my wives so nothing would ever fit. I always had to buy something for me to wear but I didn’t usually buy much. Now I am buying everything I can get my hands on. I figure this way I will lose weight since I will have no food money left.
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Registered On: March 26, 2020Topics: 12Replies: 757Has thanked: 2425 timesBeen thanked: 3722 timesIt’s certainly not wrong to borrow your wife’s clothes – sometimes (not iften!) my wife will put items of her clothing on me.
Never borrow her clothes without asking!
Yeah, most married cross dressers have, and I am no exception – although not since I’ve had my own femme wardrobe – treat it like a golden rule 🤗
If you find the urge hard to resist, buy similar items for yourself…
Love Laura
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Early on, I wore my mom’s and my sister’s clothes. When I got married, I wore a few of my wife’s things, but limited it to panties and a few dresses that tended to be a bit larger. Eventually, I stopped wearing her clothes and now keep a few clothes that I bought for me that I like and where them when I can.
I think my wife would know now if I wore any of her stuff and since she despises my dressing, I would not wear anything of hers as she does not know about my time as Janice.
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Registered On: September 27, 2016Topics: 3Replies: 215Has thanked: 143 timesBeen thanked: 855 timesFor a short while I “borrowed” my wife’s panties. They didn’t really fit so I soon just started buying my own. I strongly agree with the people urging you to stop. I suspect most women would consider it an invasion of privacy and make it harder for her to understand and accommodate your dressing. The internet and online shopping helped a great deal. (Now, the problem is keeping myself from buying too many things!)
I started by wearing my mom’s clothes when I was quite young. The problem then was not stretching anything out, but rather being sufficiently carful that she didn’t notice.
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Registered On: November 15, 2019Topics: 4Replies: 284Has thanked: 26 timesBeen thanked: 710 timesNot really without her knowledge as we share a closet, panty drawer, and hair things. She often puts me into her things to show me off to her friends. I have my own girl things and she sometimes wears mine!
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I have but she never wears her skirts. I would tend to get sweaters that she had worn out of the laundry bin, my theory was that washing them should help remove some stretching. Once I built up my own collection I stopped but will take things out of the goodwill bag if she is getting rid of something. Generally they are too short in the arms so I wear them a few times and then off to goodwill they go.
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Before I came out to my wife as CDer, I did wear her clothes. She would take evening courses at the university so that would be my golden chance to dress up.
We are approximately the same size, with me being a tad bigger. I can tell you that women will know (women’s intuition ?) that someone has been wearing their stuff. To them, their clothes have a certain fit, and even if you are very close in size, after wearing it a few times you put that fit out of whack, and they will know. Even if you put the clothing exactly in the same spot, the clothes you wore will leave your smell/scent on it, and women can pick up on that smell. It doesn’t smell like them anymore, it smells more like you.
My wife knew for a long time that I have been wearing her stuff, but she didn’t say anything. Not until I came out she said she had a strong hunch I wore her stuff because I stretched some of her clothing.
After coming out I stopped wearing her stuff and bought clothing just for Wendy.
Trust me, it is a very fine line you are walking on. And they just know.
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My wife recently lost a good bit of weight (good for her). And as she has gone through her closet, choosing which things to donate away, she has picked a few things out for me, and put them in my “Stephanie Closet.”
She even lies to me, and tells me they look better on me than they did on her.
My coming out as a crossdresser was a little bit of a shock to her. But recently she has been more accepting. And now she’s picking out clothes for me. I feel wonderful.
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Registered On: September 1, 2015Topics: 6Replies: 1221Has thanked: 77 timesBeen thanked: 1274 timesat one point of time i was wearing my wifes dresses and skirts, she found out and told me not to wear her dresses i am stretching them out. so i started to buy my own dresses, skirts , blouses, nylons, panties, bra and even pads, make up, perfume, ear rings. she found out a few years back that i was cross dressing but did not say any thing to me about itll i started to strech her cloths out, she was a thin person at 1 time and now she can not fit into her dresses. so i took over her dresses, skirts, blouses. i even got my mothers blouses when she passed away in 2013. i only dress up when our 23 year old son is at work and wife will tell me i can do what i like to do and i do , i feel happy, less depressed, no panic attacks. and mostly feminine, the way i should be feeling. the clothing is so much more comfortable to wear, better fit and looks sexy on me for i have a feminine figure body.
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Registered On: October 9, 2020Topics: 20Replies: 534Has thanked: 5618 timesBeen thanked: 2326 timesI didnt borrow my wifes clothes, as she is “now” a tiny woman, and nothing would fit, but i would be terrified of her finding out, so when I decided to embrace this, i bought my own.
Now, since coming out on the weekend, she has gone into her closets and found all the stuff she had bought too big, and given them to me:-)
So,I am a triple lucky girl:-)10 users thanked author for this post.
- Registered On: September 30, 2020Topics: 10Replies: 90Has thanked: 156 timesBeen thanked: 534 times
When I come out to my wife, she said don’t wear her undergarments, including bras.
We both agreed that was a bit grotty. And I havent. Everything else has been tried on.
I have since lost 45kg. None of her clothes fit me. Back then I had to be careful not to stretch anything… very careful.
Buy your own clothes.
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Registered On: August 24, 2019Topics: 10Replies: 433Has thanked: 374 timesBeen thanked: 1967 timesTough love here V. You’re asking for trouble. Sooner or later it’ll find you. The only thing worse than your wife discovering you’re a CD is her discovery that you secretly wear her things. Just get your own clothes and find a good place to hide them. Better yet, find a way to tell her. Coming out is always better and you get to keep some dignity. Plenty of girls here on CDH can help you with that.
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Registered On: July 26, 2020Topics: 50Replies: 1431Has thanked: 6671 timesBeen thanked: 7931 timesHi
I am single, but if anyone even went near my clothes or make up, I would go ballistic!!!!….and touch my heels??…you really wouldn’t like me when I’m angry…
haha, smiles, grace xx
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Registered On: August 27, 2017Topics: 71Replies: 719Has thanked: 4 timesBeen thanked: 2324 timesThis would have to be the biggest “no no” any crossdresser can undertake. “hell have no fury etc etc”…
Even tho anyone who indulges in the above thinks they will get away with it long term is deluding themselves. Sooner or later a mistake will be made, wrong drawer, dress not hung back properly and if the “lady of the house” is anti crossdressing, the next step for the offender is a divorce lawyer.
So think about it very carefully and in this Covid day and age, just go buy your own things. starting with lingerie and make up. No retail business is gunna knock back your “hard earned’s”, they are losing to much from the Bug as it is.
If personal shopping is too difficult, get a paypal a/c or your own credit card and go hire a parcel locker or PO box.
That’s how I’ve bought 80% of Caty’s things for years..
Good luck
Caty
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Registered On: November 17, 2018Topics: 118Replies: 1374Has thanked: 2031 timesBeen thanked: 5905 timesNo, its taboo for me…. almost. I have never borrowed any of her things that she wears close to the skin. The only exception I have made was for a waterproof jacket. I didn’t have a femme one at the time.
My wifek new I am a CD, but not that I went out dressed in public.
She found (I stupidly left some photos open on the computer) a picture of me wearing it. It went straight into the charity bag! She said she couldn’t bear to wear it again because it would bring back the memory of that photo.
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My SO and I have been together for 20 years and thank goodness she is on a weight loss kick. I get all of her hand me downs 🥰. She is a smaller chest then me, so bra hand me downs don’t happen. But we both wear a 10-12 jeans so we share a lot. Male mode is becoming a faded memory, when it comes to buying new clothes for him. Some times when we used to go shopping we would toss clothes up and over and find things the other liked. And a few times fought over getting the same dress. But Josie would fill it out better 💖😂
We both like our own things for sure. It’s been so much easier since she accepted Josie with open arms.
💖🤍🖤💜💙
~Josie
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Registered On: September 21, 2018Topics: 212Replies: 71Has thanked: 196 timesBeen thanked: 280 timesI haven’t worn my wife’s clothing in years… though she did recently give me a bra (underwire, she can’t wear them, she bought it by accident) but even with my largest forms the cups are too big.
funny, she frequently “borrows” my wedges and heels…
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My wife and I share the same shoe size (9M), other than that my wardrobe is mine all mine. I haven’t ‘borrowed’ another woman’s clothes since i got my drivers license.
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My wife is a size 4-6 I’m 10-14 so sharing is a no go… I just stand at her closet and drool
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Oh yeah. Used to wear mom’s clothes when I first started and I took the utmost care in making sure they were placed exactly as I had found them. Still borrow the fiancés clothes and still take the same care in placing them back the exact way in which they were found. It’s just part of the deal. It’s what we do until that courage from nowhere comes into play and we go out and get our own clothes to wear. This depends a lot on if we feel we have a secure hiding place for said clothes.
Borrowing clothes has and will be a part of what we do. For a lot of us it’s how we started. And for others it’s how they continue. Having been a CD for a very long time I have a great understanding of this . I started this way and I still do it to an extent though I feel bad about it now as I don’t want to damage my fiancés clothing but she isn’t cool with me having my own so ya gotta do what ya gotta do to help the urge for away. Even if it’s just a few minutes of bliss.
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Yes I have done the same thing, I’ve done with my moms and sisters when I was a teen and I’ve done it with a few girlfriends that I have had over the years I didn’t know that I enjoy dressing up, sometimes it is not easy keeping it a secret nor getting caught which I have a few times
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Registered On: October 11, 2020Topics: 19Replies: 791Has thanked: 4885 timesBeen thanked: 3194 timesI did it for AGES. We can wear many of the same clothes, I mean she’s got female hips and I’ve got male shoulders, but most everything else is comparable.
As I write this I am wearing a pair of her tights and pumps. We do have different styles and tastes though.
As far as without her knowing……all those years I thought I was so clever, turns out she suspected for years anyways. You may be in the same boat, just saying.
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