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A Few Thoughts on Masculinity So I grew up in kind of a conservative, rural area. Needless to say, any difference was not acceptable, much less challenging the standard
Gina replied to the topic Item you can't resist in the forum General Chat "Life as it Goes On" 6 months ago
Just when I think I’m the only one… I come here and am proved wrong.
I love bras! Lacy bras with an underwire (I know a lot of people hate underwires, but they really help push things up). Also find a bra that’s big enough around with a small enough cup is maddening. I’m still looking for that magical bra and panty set that fits just so.
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Thanks for mentioning the SAGE test. I took it and it was fun and fairly accurate:
<center>S.A.G.E. Test Results</center>Your Raw Score is: -435, which indicates that overall you are Androgynous
Your appearance is Masculine
Your brain processes are mostly that of a Androgynous person.
You appear to socialize in a androgynous manner.
You…[Read more]
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Thank you, Gina, for sharing your thoughts….I do not doubt a second, many of us have the very same ones, I for one, know I do…!!! Not sure of our age difference, I’ll be 72 in a month, and my entire life, has sort of mirrored yours, with one difference, me growing up in the “progressive” SF Bay Area, yet NOT in a very “progressive” household, nor surrounded by “like-minded thinkers”. And one thing we might even have in common, you may have read and viewed some of my Amazon products reviews…”small world, isn’t it”…I also search for them at times, and always try to share, at the minimum, a written review, if not always a picture, of a purchase I’m very fond of…!!! I agree with so much that you have shared with us….thank you again for writing this….”Happy Crossdressing to you and all”…!!!
Thanks, Tiny, I’m 61 so you’ve got about a decade on me!
I’m also 61. And this is the BEST time of my life ❤️
I dressed en femme most of the day and had a nice relaxing time
I feel most relaxed dressed in femme
Masculinity is a concept formed over time by society as an extension of the biology of man and women. Fundamentally we share the same bodies which chromosones changed certain parts to adapt the individual to the basic role with hormones doing the rest.
Men have emotions and perceived female traits within the psyche and also from body size and appearance.Conformity, societal attitudes and expectations will form what a male is and a female is and does in society which leads to the conflict. Things have improved for crossdressers and trans in some sections of society which has allowed more of us to be free, alas that isn’t always so.
What seems to be a common thought among crossdressers is that they feel more of a woman and show emotion as such. Is it a case that they have let the real emotions and feelings free allowing the actual person to thrive?
Just my two cents worth.
I think it is a fallacy to think human sexuality has only two choices. I think everyone is a mixture of the traits of both genders. I am a sensitive person, yet I enjoy sports like football. I like art and beautiful things, but I also like building stuff. I see similar ranges of interests and traits in the CIS women I know.
The world is a more interesting place than the traditional yes/no gender roles.
Oh Gina, I hope you are you are right about times and people changing. I never left my little back water town and now I have such deep roots and family it would be heart breaking to leave now. So I will probably never live my dream.
AnnaBeth
AnnaBeth I hope you can at least travel to some crossdresser conventions out of time to get out in the world sometimes. I have travelled to Port Angeles for the Esprit Gala twice (in May) and always have a wonderful time.
I’m hoping to find a CD event to attend in the San Francisco Bay area soon
Thank you for sharing this. Today it meant a whole lot to me.
Hi Gina,
I grew up in a semi rural area. I had similar experiences. I even remember one of my gym teachers saying “that a girl!” during a broad jump attemp for a Physical fitness test. There were a few kids that addressed me as Miss. I wasn’t outwardly feminine, I just wasn’t good at sports. In my neighborhood I had the sarcastic nick name of “Athlete”. These things really bothered me back then, but now I love being called “Girl” by my friends here!
Not too long after high school, I was working construction, and lifting weights. I told myself it was to keep in shape, but now I wonder if I wasn’t over compensating, and trying to fit into my “male roll” in society a little better.
I have reviewed a bunch of my pretty clothes, and shoes, as well as some tools, and welding equipment on Amazon. Lol!
I haven’t reviewed sports memorabilia. I’m probably still scarred from my youth, but I still have a hatred of most sports. I’m 63 now and i still remember those days of being bullied for being different as if they were much more recent.
I love dressing, but I’m mostly closeted as well. I think society is changing for the better, but we do have to be careful, the backlash against the LGBTQ+ community in areas similar to where we grew up is pretty frightening right now!
This community is pretty awesome for girls like us! I’m quite sure you fit right in!
Thanks for this article. It’s always good to hear that there are others with such similar experiences!
Hugs,
Lara
I love both the masculine and feminine aspects of my personality. In reality we are both. It’s artificial to try to be exclusively one or the other, no matter what genitalia we were born with.
I think that is a brilliant way to look at it! I love both aspects of my life too, although the feminine seems to be getting stronger as time goes on.
Oh Gina! I wish I could hold you so close right now! You are so one of us! Your story must echo with so many of our sisters here on CDH. Please know that you could never be ‘odd’ to any of us, and here, we all fit in! Be at peace about the beautiful gift of femininity that we share, however hidden it may have to be. But be hopeful, too. I believe the world is slowly coming to recognize us, accept us, and value us, especially as we all see more of the toxicity of ‘traditional’ masculinity. The world will be so much better as we increasingly embrace and express this beautiful gift we share, as women!
So true, how many mass shootings were committed by a man in a dress?
Thanks so very much Gina for sharing your thoughts and experiences. Not to often I comment on a article, but this one that you shared got me to thinking. I’ll be 68 in February, and I was never bullied, and was actually quite athletic. We all have our own thoughts and opinions on different agendas, but the fact is,that we can grasp the concept of having a feminine SIDE , as well as male side. The issue arises when other males do not grasp that idea, and NO MATTER WHAT, refuse to show any emotion or feelings whatsoever. It’s almost a crime for them to be seen as showing the least amount of sensitivity. No matter what the situation is. That…..for lack of better words,”is not being true to one’s self ” either.
Society???? Where I grew up in Michigan is probably much the same as what you are describing in Minnesota. Me for example, didn’t tell my wife about Danica till after we had been married 20 years. And that was 18 years ago. Lol. She’s supportive, but sometimes wishes it wasn’t there. She does like the fact that I don’t mind vacuuming and cleaning the house and doing dishes after Thanksgiving etc. I keep telling her ” that’s the female side of me that you married” and love about me. Anyway hon, I could probably ramble on forever, but thanks again for sharing such a thought provoking article.❤️❤️
I have to do housework too, But I have no choice – it is not my female side kicking in, My wife is physically disabled and can not do much of anything at this point.
Good for you to take care of her.
I grew up in Iowa as a farm kid with 4 brothers. We were about 7 miles to any town and went to school in the count seat, a town of less than 3000. I now live in a town of 1300 about an hour away from there. All of this is pretty conservative part of Iowa. Since I have started to come out more and more over the last 4 years I have had almost no push back at all. In fact I went to my 50th class reunion as Cassie last summer and was accepted by most. There was one of the guys I wanted to say hi to for just a minute but every time I moved his direction he turned and walked the other way. Today I am out as Cassie all the time except my main job. I even have gone to my small rural Catholic Church fully as Cassie and no one seems to be fazed at all..
Best of luck to you on your own CD journey.
. Cassie
Im 75 and the 1st time I went out as Terri was in 1977 or 8. Needless to say a lot has changed since then. Over the years I have had my ups and downs. But talking to and meeting others like myself has helped me so much.
I think we can pick the best of both worlds.
Gina, thanks for this article. No I have never given review of any product on Amazon but I have ventured out in Public for my nails ( mani / pedi) and out to a restaurant for a glass of wine and lunch appetizer. However I know my wife and daughter suspect I’m more feminine and question if I want to be a girl. I giggle and tell them I could never be a girl but deep down inside I say to myself, “but oh would I love to show my feminine side and look like a woman!” I try to go out in drag and perfect my makeup and feminine mannerisms about once per month. There have been close calls in almost getting caught some by strangers and some by missing something and my wife questioning what I have in my face ( left over mascara or missing a spot from makeup’s removal) sometimes it’s from my hair being in a wig product and all flattened. Regardless it is so exciting to have my hobby and I always look at the pictures and think sometimes I’m a beautiful woman and other times I clearly look like a man in women’s clothing. Mostly though I would say I look gorgeous and not being conceited, I do a pretty… pun intended… good job of being feminine.
,I enjoyed your post. I am still working so I am indulging my fem urges on Amazon, I have bought a whole wardrobe there and I feel safe. Have heard bad things abput Temu so stay away from there. Do not know if any other sites are safe – have not tried them. And too nervous to fem shop in stores. But yes, with the transgendered movement very public, it is okay for us cross dressers to leave the closet and it is encouraging to find that there are a lot of us. Alice Black
I like to use the Amazon lockers. It avoids embarrassing deliveries
I use the Amazon Lockers nearly all the time. I did do 1 order a few weeks ago and had it delivered(some things are too big for the lockers). Thought wife was going to be away but her plans changed. So snuck my stuff in.while wife was asleep(she sleeps late). Had email notification when arrived and it was brought right to my door.
My first comments to an article here and I trust there was a lot of though, feeling, and true life experiences involved. My hat off to you for sharing personal feelings.
Gina I am sending you Angel’s To guide you to your happiness
I love to wear my nail polish every day. I’ve had quite a few ladies commit on the color.
Kudos to you, I’m not there yet though
I just go with nude colors. Nothing too flashy except when I’m at home
Gina, Thank you so much for taking the time to share of yourself and your life experiences. Your ability to express yourself is so valuable, and is much needed in the world. I suspect many GM’s are afraid of their feminine feelings and this brings on the bullying tendencies. But, that’s just my opinion.
It’s so easy to hate
To me–Traditional Masculinity is nothing more than Roleplay –
Hi Gina,
Thank you for posting this heartwarming article of you finding your way.
I myself am no stranger to the world of being bullied at school. At one time, I had thoughts that if I could go back in time knowing what I know now, I would beat the daylights out of them. However, I soon came to think that I wouldn’t waste my time and instead do something worthwhile, like get to know the girls better.
Going out and about starts with one step, then another and slowly confidence builds.
Aurora Lynnette