Would you continue to dress if it were 100% acceptable?

This question may seem a bit silly since most of us here would love to be accepted in whatever clothing we chose to wear, but I’m curious about the consensus here. If you were suddenly able to wear feminine clothing with the same level of acceptance as male clothing, would you continue to dress?

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    Brittany Vai
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    Hi Ladies,

    Occasionally I reflect on my dressing in order to try and understand why it’s so important to me. I know I shouldn’t care, but societal “norms” are always lurking and they are hard to dismiss sometimes.

    So I started wondering. If I were able to walk out the front door tomorrow, dressed as though it had never been a problem to do otherwise, would I still do it (it may be important to note that I’m straight and not trans for the sake of the poll).

    There were a couple of reasons for asking myself this question. First, it seems like a lot of genetic women complain about shaving their legs, doing makeup, uncomfortable heels, pantyhose issues, etc. Would this also be an issue for me? Male attire is admittedly easier.

    Secondly, society tends to put the “fetish” label on male crossdressing, which annoys me to no end. Mainly because women crossdress everyday and no one bats an eye. Regardless, if the taboo were removed, would I continue to dress or would the “fetish” subside with sudden acceptance.

    I believe I would likely continue to dress. Perhaps 50% of the time in dresses and the remainder split between masculine/feminine jeans, leggings, so on.

    Anyway, sorry for the long post. I’m looking forward to seeing your answers. Have fun!

    -Brittany

     

     

     

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    I do NOT pay any attention to “Societal Norms” as they are always leaning to “THEIR” version of normal, and NEVER entail the ppl who are NOT “normal” …such as myself (a freak/ a ‘tranny’).  Tell ya what tho, I’ve had a lot of “persons” tell me they wish their girlfriends were a freak like me.  I’ll leave it at that.

    I’m the odd-one-out here.  I’m fortunate enough to have thrown ALL man clothes out the door save one pair of jeans (Naked & Famous “paraffin dipped” skin-tights ….Nikes yet I still wear leggings beneath.  I don’t “bind’ my legs with any type of sock (unless it’s thigh-high).  Why not?  Had a major heart attack over 25yrs ago, and to this day if I sit all day, one of my legs will swell up (edema of course).  Wearing tights is akin to “pressure hose” 30mm.

    However, I don’t do it for health reasons.  For all intents and purposes, I’m a chick model and that’s all anyone knows about me (unless they are my clientele, who have FULL disclosure for their protection, which is never needed).  Therefore, I’m normally up at 4AM, (if I slept at all), shower, check my look in a mirror then SIT DOWN and put my face on, THEN “body makeup” if any part of my skin will be showing.

    I haven’t dress as a man since “I cannot remember!”

    BEAUTY TIP!  lol… (yup! nuther one)!  hahah..   IF you love exposing one or both ‘clavicles’ (collar bones), try some ‘SHIMMERISTA’ (or ANY metallic, bronzing “glitter”).  place about 1/2-inch wide line on the top of ONE Clavicle and you’ll ROCK whatever you are wearing.  Got muscles with lovely ‘swells and concaves’ all over?   Highlight them with both highlight on the bumps and ‘go darker’ (lightly!) where the hollows are.  The finished product should make you appear “incredible” ….there are photos and videos of “HOW TO” on YouTube.  Use “BODY MAKEUP” as your keyword.  It’s WORTH IT!

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     Xina Oronoz 
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    I’m straight too. But I love dressing. I love my masculine side (whatever that means) and I love my feminine side

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     Abby Winters 
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    I would love to go out dressed everyday if I could.

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     sandra louise saunders 
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    I would certainly continue dressing as a woman if it was acceptable, I love wearing dresses but it is the accessories that make a woman as well . Being able to carry a handbag and wear pretty jewellery is part and parcel of the image. Also I could get my ears pierced and wear lovely nails all the time.

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     Alice Eliot 
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    My dressing isn’t fetish/sexual related, I just feel good dressed en femme. If it were 100% acceptable, I’d probably spend more time en femme than in drab, the ‘novelty’ wouldn’t wear off, the only problem would be different outfits every day rather than trousers/shirt/tie, I’d have to do a serious shopping trip.

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       Willow Flare 
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      I think you still do need to do a serious shopping trip, but thats just because

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     Sonia Pink 
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    I pretty sure if it were more acceptable I’d be dressed more often than not maybe even a total reversal of now ! , I love dressing and would do so much more if I could .xxx

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     Valerie Bird 
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    I have no way to prove this, but I think more men would crossdress than many people think, if society were totally accepting. If for no other reason than the fem appearance is so idealized by American society, especially if you’ve got a good figure.

    It’s silly, but I think some guys would do it just for the compliments.

    Me? I’d do it because I enjoy it, and frankly I’m a better looking woman than man, I think. That’s a low bar to clear, admittedly.

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       Isabelle O’Malley 
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      Low bar? No love…you’re quite beautiful!! So very beautiful!! Embrace how beautiful you truly are!! You are a shining peacock so full of life and harmony! 🥰❤️

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         Valerie Bird 
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        Thank you. Apols for missing this comment until now.

        I am pretty good at selecting flattering angles and light. I’m really not that good looking, lol.

        But I’m working on it. 😉

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     SARAH WILSON 
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    Thank you for the post. I believe for me it is more than the clothes.I would feel more like the woman i want to be accept as. Sara.wilson

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     Sa·man·tha 
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    If dressing were 100% acceptable then I would do it openly 100% of the time.  Only thing that would change for me is that I would leave my home with a lot less makeup a “t more often.  And btw Brittany the fetish label annoys me to no end also…it may be applicable to some but by no means all of us…a weird stereotype that ought to be done away with

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       Isabelle O’Malley 
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      I totally agree. I simply love the feeling of my clothes and draw a great deal of comfort when wearing them..that does NOT make me weird nor should I ever have to feel embarrassed or ashamed of needing to feel hugged all the time. I’ve yet to try makeup, a cute wig, or anything else to unleash the femme side of me (I do feel that day is coming soon though) but there is something wrong with people that would cast stones at others just because of what is worn.

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         Willow Flare 
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        It being a fetish doesn’t make it weird, it just makes it sexual.

        For some of us it is, for some of us it isn’t, and if you actually do any research at all there are 2 types: fetishistic transvestism, which is sexual, and dual-role transvestism, which is non-sexual. These are in addition to the trans individuals who are women full time.

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     Shayla Armstrong 
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    This may seem weird and kind of shallow, but even if it were accepted I wouldn’t do it unless my male peers(family and friends) decided to do it as well. Sorry , I’m just very self conscious. Hiding behind Shayla is apart of the thrill and everyone knowing my male self underneath takes away the excitement.

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       Willow Flare 
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      Doing for sex reasons seems weird to me, but that doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with it. The taboo nature of it is the attraction for you, from what it sounds like, and taboo can be fun

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     Gerella Enigma 
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    Not only would I continue but I would also ditch the forms for implants to fill out my bras naturally. Can only imagine what it would be like to have real “girls” in there.

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     Leslies Ann Gray Girl 
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    My answer to this is Yes, of coarse i would keep dressing as a lady . I dream about it , living were we are all excepted , wearing pretty clothes all the time. It would be so wonderful . Leslie

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     Davina Stone 
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    If it didn’t matter it would be wonderful to just choose how much effort to put into makeup, etc. and go as casual or dressy in any mode, just as genetic women pretty much do most days. As my daughter who’s a brand new psychologist (and whom I’ve not yet come out to as doing CDing) once said: “People should be able to dress however they like.”

    I’ve seen a waiter with femme hair and body, neutral clothes, and way beyond a 5 o’clock shadow. Don’t know where they are on the TG spectrum, but that’s bravely putting it out there.

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     Toni Marx 
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    Most definitely! A closet full of clothes needs to be seen. GG friends always compliment me on my legs, so pantyhose will be my day to day wear with my collection of skirts and dresses! Toni tends to be more expressive about what she wears and would love to be accepted if societies stigma was removed.

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     Paula1 
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    Oh yes how much easy would live be for us, I would still like to go in man mode some times but to be able to dress and have no judgment would be a dream come true

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       Willow Flare 
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      I agree with this. I would never give up boymode, but to be able to go out in girlmode openly would be pretty cool.

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     rhonda 
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    I think once you lured into crossdressing , you no longer have a choice but to continue

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     Patty Phose 
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    Absolutely

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     Chelly Kross 
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    Yes Brittany,<
    I would definitely dress more, probably everyday. It’s always been about the clothes for me. It started with a fascination for high heels and pantyhose many years ago,  then as I tried them on and started wearing when no one was looking, it grew into skirts and dresses and that was as far as it went for a while, until I met my current GF a few years ago.  I told here up front about my crossdressing  feelings and fantasies(first time I ever told anyone) and within a few weeks we had wigs, my very own make up and full blown feminization in progress. In our conversations about dressing I told her I was jealous, jealous of the fancy dresses, fancy shoes, shiny pantyhose, shiny make up she got to wear.  My blue Jean’s and Tshirt just didnt look as sexy as her attire looked.  But she expressed the same thoughts as you mentioned…… it’s not as easy and as exciting as it looks putting on makeup every day,  shaving legs every day, feeling like you have to “dress to impress” everyday or uphold a certain image.
    But with that said, I would like to know.  I would definitely find out for myself it was acceptable.

    Chelly

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     Colleen Rossini 
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    It is a bit of a silly question.  If we dress now and it isnt fully acceptable, y wouldnt we do it if it was

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     MarthaLouise 
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    I am a woman in a man’s body.

     

    It would be great to dress all the time and be a woman

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     Tiffany Alexis 
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    Oh hell to the YES!  If this happened I’d be crazy NOT to. I’ve only wished for this ten thousand times or more.

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     MarthaLouise 
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    Definitely.

    In reality I AM A WOMAN.

    So I will continue to dress as one.

     

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     anne-marie 
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    No question about this for me. Not only would I continue to dress ‘en femme’ but I would do so much more. It would mean being able to go to work ‘en femme’ without fear of discrimination or having to worry about the effect that I my be having on my clients e.g. would they still engage fully in therapeutic appointments with a guy in a dress.

    Then there’s tbe times when I’ve got home, changed into my evening attire i.e. skirt and blouse, then realised I need to go to the supermarket to pick up some milk or whatever. Now its change back to drab then back to femme after the shops – it’s a real pain so it would be great to not feel like I had to change and just bob off to the shop. I would also be able to saunter round the clothes section whilst there and perhaps make an addition to my collection.

    Come to think of it, would I continue to dress? Massive yes, I would probably become 24/7.

    Take care girls.

    Hugs.

    Anne-Marie.

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     Khloe West 
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    Lol! YES!!!

    My “daily look” as a handyman/contractor likely would equate to “tomboy”.

    On the flip? It can be a memorable  marketing and “branding” moment.

    Even when in denim bottoms and a T? Always from the other side of the aisle.

    Add the 24/7 painted nails and the daily shoes being Mary Jane’s?

    #ToughToForget #MakesAnImpression

     

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     Bobbi 
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    I was never one to beg permission, or forgiveness. Whether or not, society accepts me, is of no consequence to me.

    I suppose, I would rather society accepts me, but the fact of the matter is that I’m here, whether they like it or not.

    I will not change for anybody.

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     fiona moss 
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    Lol, i think this poll is definately going to be a yes!! i voted yes! i mean, why would anyone not dress if it was 100% acceptable, i for one would never be drab again!!! ahhhh we can only dream 🙂

    Fiona xxx

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     Tanya Dale 
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    I voted “yes”. I think I would dress 100% of the time but is this the lure of the unattainable, loving what I know I can’t have but if I got it would I love it? I love dressing but would I love it if I could do it all the time?

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       Brittany Vai 
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      Hi Tanya,

      “I love dressing but would I love it if I could do it all the time”?

      This is the exact question I ask myself occasionally, and why I chose to submit this poll. I think you phrased it perfectly.

      I dress because I love feeling feminine and being closer to that thing I admire so much (women). There are times when I feel like dressing, but also feel too lazy to do my hair, makeup, etc. That said, I likely wouldn’t dress every day for the same reasons genetic women don’t get dolled up everyday. It can be burdensome.

      Perhaps another way of asking this question would be, “Would I continue dressing en femme if it became mainstream or would I somehow embrace that “thing” that sets women apart and emulate that thing instead”. Rhetorically speaking, what would make dressing en femme special if everyone were doing it?

      Just food for thought.

      Thanks!

      -Brittany

       

       

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     Jessica V. 
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    Absolutely! OMG! Don’t know what would give out first, my heels or my credit cards! To be able to hear my stilettos click clack on my walk from my car to the front of a store would be such an amazing experience. To be able to walk hand in hand with my wife around the mall and try on outfits would be OUT OF THIS WORLD! love the poll but this is a no-brainer.

    😛

    Jessica

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     Barb Encourt 
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    Half of the fun is getting dressed elegant sexy fem or elegant sexy soccer mom style

    This morning I dressed nicely for my usual breakfast hour at Panera before I headed to the Office.

    I was so wanting to wear fem all day but I had to change into my regular good looking guy business attire before I came here to the Office

    I would happily wear fem most if not most every day if I could

    Barb.

    Barb

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     Lori Shane 
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    I would dress almost all the time and be rid of my fear of being out

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     Val’sheril Starsong 
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    How… how is this even a question?!  Honey, I’d be in a fancy dress every day, damn the inconvenience!

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     Stephanie Kennedy 
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    If that dream could come true that would mean I would be 100% acceptable. I would be truly free.

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     Caty Ryan 
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    My answer is yes and I would love to be able to “put my Caty on” and go about my business in the outside world without a care as and when I felt like it.. I’d also love to FINALLY do a complete body shave as that’s the one thing remaining I have not done to complete my femme self. (OK I did it once on a business trip 30 years ago, but got into deep do do with the then “boss” when I got home!

    It would be optional for me as there are times when the male me just feels like the male gear. So much easier and nowhere near as much prep time. BUT…. I would always be Caty undeneath the above if I could.

    The other factor is the 40+degC Australian summers. Its tough enough indoors with the aircon on on days like the above, so male me would wish to stay that way on these occasions

    Remember the famous old crossdresser saying, “CD’ing is a winter sport”.

    Happy dressing
    Caty

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       Caty Ryan 
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      I originally answered yes to this question, with the proviso that a/. its too hot in an Australian summer to look good, especially as I cant shave my body hair. and b/. sometimes I just prefer to be the laid back male me.IE Not fuss about clothes, hair make up etc.

      I’ve just had a lovely Caty weekend, Friday afternoon til Sunday morning. Came Sunday afternoon and the chance to be Caty again and except for underdressing, I just could not be bothered.

      It almost felt like the child who loves chocolate but ate too much!!.

      So I just fooled around and went for a walk in “male gear” until bedtime then back to forms attached, lingerie and pj’s on. That was fine, cos it does not take up much time.

       

      Caty

       

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         Willow Flare 
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        This totally happens to me too, but its more like my girl side gets tired out from having so much fun.

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     Michelle Brown 
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    My answer is YES .To me,its very fulfilling to be dressed enfemme.If I could ,I would,although my taser belt would have to be color co ordinated.

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     Michelle Liefde 
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    You have asked a very interesting poll question. The relief and comfort I feel when I get to express Michelle has been liberating and if it was socially acceptable, it would be even more freeing.

    Hug,

    Michelle

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     Anne Preuss 
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    It’s the whole societal thing that’s holding me back.   I certainly don’t dress because there is a risk factor, forbidden fruit aspect to dressing.  I dress because I love to look at the woman in the mirror.  The few times I have gone public, I loved the thrill of being what I truly want to be in public.  Omigosh, if tomorrow we could dress whatever way we wanted to without repercussion, I’d be dressing every day (and max out the credit card that same day).

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     Celeste Starre 
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    Yes,but only 100% of the time.

    Celeste Starre

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     Rene 
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    It’s a big yes for me, though there is a certain pleasure i get from “the secret” there are just so so many days i get up and want so very much to put on “Rene” and go to work, eat lunch and just…well… live my life the way i feel. I sort of dream of a world where i could choose, day to day or even hour to hour just how i wanted to dress without it being some big deal, without a “coming out” just business as usual. I could do my job every bit as good dressed in skirts as i do in pants, some days better!

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     Amy Myers 
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    There is definitely a bit the forbidden fruit, which can cause something of a rush for me too. However, I do have a kind of comfort level in women’s wear.

    I would likely be in the 50/50 camp. Certainly it is a lot of work getting dressed to look like a passable woman, and I don’t mean to the point of going all out like a party or club outfit.

    It would be great to just go out in a skirt and blouse when I don’t feel like my old blue jeans, instead of dressier men’s clothes. I’m in a small town, and lots of conservative folks here.

    Amy

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     Davida Mae 
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    1. Hi Brittany; This exactly  the topics I hope is shared. I’m a Closet Gurl so I have no outside of CDH to discuss these simple things. I must admit I get a sexual rush from dressing but as a Closet Gurl I am clawing at my Closet door. I don’t want to transition but I would like the freedom and option to wear my skirt and heels when my Gurl wants to step out. I haven’t tried makeup yet but I would like to try some Rose Pink Lipstick and some pink mist nail polish and some mascara without everyone losing their minds and destroying my life. I’m an older person… who is better and more  appropriate to wear a wig then somebody with male pattern baldness ? I like being male but sometimes I just want to be the Gurl
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       Val’sheril Starsong 
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      “Clawing at my closet door”… I may unabashedly steal this phrase, Davida.

      Also, try the makeup, it really makes a world of difference.  Yes, you’ll spend your time in the clown/raccoon phase but it’s a learning curve like any other art form.  If nothing else find a girl (genetic or otherwise) you trust and ask her to make you over.  And if you’re paranoid like me, Amazon is your friend… I have an account just for Val and get packages delivered to a locker for pickup; no one I live with has any risk of intercepting my gurl things.

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         Davida Mae 
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        HaHaaa; as a Closet Gurl I don’t know any other way to  describe the feeling

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  • #162230
     Dame Veronica Graunwolf 
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    Does anybody wonder why “Walmart People” dress so wacky and wierd, yet nobody is picking on them??!!.  Why pester us…..we look infinitly better than WP could. I have been in several Walmarts in Canada and only see the odd 1 or 2 and they are not nearly as bad as the internet lets on to be.

    Dame Veronica

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      Not to be a contrarian but as I understand it, “People of Walmart” are their own brand of comedy and they kinda get picked on a lot/ butt of many jokes sooo…..

      I believe I would likely continue to dress. Perhaps 50% of the time in dresses and the remainder split between masculine/feminine jeans, leggings, so on.

      Brittany, I could not agree more! I work as a general contractor so days where I’m in the office taking care of contracts/ paperwork I’d love to wear leggings and a cute dress, however construction sites demand a certain and specific kind of demeanor so I would advise anyone to look like a tough-son-of-a-gun if you want to keep a good handle on schedule and budget with your subcontractors.

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    I would love to be en femme all of the time.  The main reason that I am a crossdresser is the enormous appeal of the clothing!  I love all sorts of textures and looks, from rubber to leather to chiffon to satin to silk….  As many have said, women have great latitude in the clothing that they can wear; the variety seems endless.  I would love to walk in my closet and see only feminine clothing.

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  • #162182
     Rose 
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    Definitely yes from me too! In the last 12 months I have become more and more confident about being dressed at home at least. In particular I have purchased some outerwear made for tall women – perfect for me, I must say, and this has increased my confidence, so that I am willing to wear a blouse and women’s pants when venturing out of the house. So, if social norms changed (and they will need to shift quite a distance) then I would seriously think, say, about visiting clients in my work dressed, perhaps not completely as a woman but certainly in that direction.

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  • #162168
     Emily Rhodes 
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    Yes I would like and do for almost 85-90 percent of the time I love how I feel I feel like this is who I really am

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  • #162147
     Jacky Burnside 
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    Yes, of course I would. An easy answer for me because  when I am dressed, makeup on, and hair done,  feeling like a woman is so perfectly natural! It is the way I am supposed to be. I do not plan to transition, but if I could say the magic word and become a woman, I would in a heartbeat!

    Thank you, Brittany, for this question.

     

     

     

     

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  • #162130
     Camryn Occasionnel 
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    This is indeed a difficult question. I chose “Yes”, but a simple “yes” will not do.
    First off, I know that in my lifetime, crossdressing will never be 100% acceptable; however, for the sake of argument, let’s say that we all woke up one day, and we CDers could suddenly venture out in public fully or partially dressed as female, and be “accepted” – even those among us that could never “pass” as a woman. I wouldn’t be subjected to the ridicule I now face; no one would hassle me or beat me up; I could shop in the ladies’ section and no one would bat an eye, no matter how much I look like a man in a dress.

    It all sounds great!

    However, speaking for myself, I would still continue dressing in private, continue my closeted life. I would still continue to admire women and everything about them, because I do so long to look like them. It’s one of the reasons I crossdress. Imitation is indeed the sincerest form of flattery, as they say.

    For I am a crossdresser and will probably continue to be one until age takes its toll, accepted or not.

    And if this were the case, 100% public acceptability, would there be a need for crossdresser-friendly venues? crossdresser meetup groups? conferences like Keystone, Esprit, Leeds? Would all SOs suddenly become not only accepting, but encouraging?

    I would suppose the whole mission of Crossdresser Heaven might have to change. Much of it’s purpose is to serve a community that is almost 100% UN-accepted. If crossdressing were no longer taboo, would none of us be confused any longer?

    So, let that time come, if it ever does. I’ll still continue to enjoy dressing privately. However, I must say, it would be nice to no longer fear a knock at the door; to order pizza delivery or take-out Chinese, and answer the door dressed; to lounge on my patio with no concern about what the neighbors might think; to invite a ladyfriend (GG) or even another gurl (CD) over to dinner while dressed for the evening.

    So I did choose “yes,” but it’s just so…… complicated!

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     Gabriela Romani 
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    Ah, as I suspected… I’m the only “no” vote so far. But hear me out…

    Personally, it is not only about the clothes. It is about being able to present as a female and being accepted as one. So, if wearing dresses and skirts and heels was acceptable for men. But were cut for men, styled for men, etc, I would not be interested at all. I would continue trying to present as a woman. That’s also why I don’t agree with the argument of the double standard about how “women can wear men’s clothes and nobody says anything about it”

    if that was really a goal for lots of men, you would have already got stores and manufacturers to start carrying men’s pantyhose and heels and dresses, etc. Just look at South Korea where feminine men are role models to many young boys.

    Gaby 💜

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    • #162160
       Laura Lovett 
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      Gaby, I agree 100% with that caveat.

      My SO bought me some lace panties designed for men.

      I actually feel a little disgusted wearing them – really not sure where that emotion comes from.

      The whole thing is that I like women’s clothing specifically, and, like you, admire women and would love to present as one.

      However, I am also a man, with no real desire to change what nature has seen fit to give me, except to look after it nutritionally and physically.

      And mentally, of course.

      Wearing women’s clothing puts me in a special place in my mind that is soothing and healing, not to mention downright or maybe upleft positive and energised.

      If it were accepted only on the terms that mean wear clothes only designed for men, I would not agree to those terms!

      Love Laura

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      • #162181
         stephanie plumb 
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        I 100% agree with you. The thought of wearing girlie clothes designed specifically for men makes me shudder.  As for men’s knickers – I couldn’t possibly wear them.

        I have however occasionally worn  mens trainers/wellies  and  a  winter parka (albeit in a “feminine” colour – see my photo). I am just about ok with this on the grounds that it was for passing reasons.

        x Stephanie P.

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        • #162439
           Val’sheril Starsong 
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          Gonna jump on this bandwagon.  If I want to wear clothes designed for men, I’ll just wear men’s clothes.  It’s a hell of a lot easier and more comfortable.

          Val’sheril is in many ways my Shadow/Anima in Jungian terms.  She’s not content to just be wearing women’s clothes, she wants to be feminine, elegant, beautiful.  Yes, in a physical sense it’s very much smoke and mirrors but to look in the mirror and see a woman… well, it makes her/me very happy, regardless of the sort of chicanery involved in getting to that point.

          Thank you, Gabriela, for your insightful commentary.

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     Jasmine Andrews 
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    I would, although I don’t know that it would be every day. Of course, my job requires everyone to wear slacks and flat, black shoes with the provided uniform shirt, so on days I’m in the field it wouldn’t be much of a difference. But given how hot our office can be, the days I have office hours a skirt would be lovely.

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     Annie Sometimes 
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    What a great question! For me, it would be a dream come true!

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  • #162018
     Imogen Mann 
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    I would do it, and I would be able to do it all the time and 100% ‘better’ if it were the norm, because being fully relaxed in public, with no hint of caution or fear would lead to better posture, freer body movements, easier shopping wider scope for outfits, greater socialisation with other girls, and so a better understanding of fashion, and daily life as a female.

    Are my immediate thoughts.

     

    Imogen x

     

     

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  • #162013
     Jasmine Fletcher 
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    I would do as I prefer it comfort-wise.  As I’m “en femme” around 50% of the time now, I’ve gravitated towards clothing that is comfy, keeps me warm in Winter, cool in Summer and is practical to wear around the house while doing all those mundane tasks.    I now find my male clothes are rather heavy and uncomfortable and seem to cling in the wrong places.  And I need some tights under my male trousers at this time of year just to keep warm.   It must be my age.   🙂

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    • #162021
       Laura Lovett 
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      Not your age, Jasmine – I used to wear tights under my trousers when in my early 20s. I had a gardening job.

      The rest is spot on – I gave up male underwear a while ago. I’ve never found it comfortable, but previously felt very self conscious about wearing my preferred choice.

      Now I don’t care. It’s nobody’s business but mine what I wear underneath it all. People interact with the surface they see.

      An expensive suit, fresh ironed shirt and precision knotted tie tell people all they need to know. I watch the reactions!

      This comes from my love of Theatre. The costume and makeup tranform the audience’s perceptions of you. You are the character you’re portraying.

      Wearing lingerie keeps a bit of Laura with me every day, and it has a surprising benefit to my general mental and even physical health.

      Love Laura

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