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Hi Ladies,
Occasionally I reflect on my dressing in order to try and understand why it’s so important to me. I know I shouldn’t care, but societal “norms” are always lurking and they are hard to dismiss sometimes.
So I started wondering. If I were able to walk out the front door tomorrow, dressed as though it had never been a problem to do otherwise, would I still do it (it may be important to note that I’m straight and not trans for the sake of the poll).
There were a couple of reasons for asking myself this question. First, it seems like a lot of genetic women complain about shaving their legs, doing makeup, uncomfortable heels, pantyhose issues, etc. Would this also be an issue for me? Male attire is admittedly easier.
Secondly, society tends to put the “fetish” label on male crossdressing, which annoys me to no end. Mainly because women crossdress everyday and no one bats an eye. Regardless, if the taboo were removed, would I continue to dress or would the “fetish” subside with sudden acceptance.
I believe I would likely continue to dress. Perhaps 50% of the time in dresses and the remainder split between masculine/feminine jeans, leggings, so on.
Anyway, sorry for the long post. I’m looking forward to seeing your answers. Have fun!
-Brittany
I would do as I prefer it comfort-wise. As I’m “en femme” around 50% of the time now, I’ve gravitated towards clothing that is comfy, keeps me warm in Winter, cool in Summer and is practical to wear around the house while doing all those mundane tasks. I now find my male clothes are rather heavy and uncomfortable and seem to cling in the wrong places. And I need some tights under my male trousers at this time of year just to keep warm. It must be my age. 🙂
Not your age, Jasmine – I used to wear tights under my trousers when in my early 20s. I had a gardening job.
The rest is spot on – I gave up male underwear a while ago. I’ve never found it comfortable, but previously felt very self conscious about wearing my preferred choice.
Now I don’t care. It’s nobody’s business but mine what I wear underneath it all. People interact with the surface they see.
An expensive suit, fresh ironed shirt and precision knotted tie tell people all they need to know. I watch the reactions!
This comes from my love of Theatre. The costume and makeup tranform the audience’s perceptions of you. You are the character you’re portraying.
Wearing lingerie keeps a bit of Laura with me every day, and it has a surprising benefit to my general mental and even physical health.
Love Laura
Perfectly normal progression. I have gone from every time I dressed it was as an absolute stereotypical short skirt high heeled slut look to now dressing to suit the occasion. Currently sitting here in a sundress and pair of flip flops to suit the weather. I’ve calmed and spend a lot more time en femme so no rush.
If its cold one of my ladies vests will go under my fleece, a pair of tights under my jeans (if not wearing a skirt).
It’s a great place to be
I would do it, and I would be able to do it all the time and 100% ‘better’ if it were the norm, because being fully relaxed in public, with no hint of caution or fear would lead to better posture, freer body movements, easier shopping wider scope for outfits, greater socialisation with other girls, and so a better understanding of fashion, and daily life as a female.
Are my immediate thoughts.
Imogen x
I would, although I don’t know that it would be every day. Of course, my job requires everyone to wear slacks and flat, black shoes with the provided uniform shirt, so on days I’m in the field it wouldn’t be much of a difference. But given how hot our office can be, the days I have office hours a skirt would be lovely.
Ah, as I suspected… I’m the only “no” vote so far. But hear me out…
Personally, it is not only about the clothes. It is about being able to present as a female and being accepted as one. So, if wearing dresses and skirts and heels was acceptable for men. But were cut for men, styled for men, etc, I would not be interested at all. I would continue trying to present as a woman. That’s also why I don’t agree with the argument of the double standard about how “women can wear men’s clothes and nobody says anything about it”
if that was really a goal for lots of men, you would have already got stores and manufacturers to start carrying men’s pantyhose and heels and dresses, etc. Just look at South Korea where feminine men are role models to many young boys.
Gaby 💜
Gaby, I agree 100% with that caveat.
My SO bought me some lace panties designed for men.
I actually feel a little disgusted wearing them – really not sure where that emotion comes from.
The whole thing is that I like women’s clothing specifically, and, like you, admire women and would love to present as one.
However, I am also a man, with no real desire to change what nature has seen fit to give me, except to look after it nutritionally and physically.
And mentally, of course.
Wearing women’s clothing puts me in a special place in my mind that is soothing and healing, not to mention downright or maybe upleft positive and energised.
If it were accepted only on the terms that mean wear clothes only designed for men, I would not agree to those terms!
Love Laura
This is indeed a difficult question. I chose “Yes”, but a simple “yes” will not do.
First off, I know that in my lifetime, crossdressing will never be 100% acceptable; however, for the sake of argument, let’s say that we all woke up one day, and we CDers could suddenly venture out in public fully or partially dressed as female, and be “accepted” – even those among us that could never “pass” as a woman. I wouldn’t be subjected to the ridicule I now face; no one would hassle me or beat me up; I could shop in the ladies’ section and no one would bat an eye, no matter how much I look like a man in a dress.It all sounds great!
However, speaking for myself, I would still continue dressing in private, continue my closeted life. I would still continue to admire women and everything about them, because I do so long to look like them. It’s one of the reasons I crossdress. Imitation is indeed the sincerest form of flattery, as they say.
For I am a crossdresser and will probably continue to be one until age takes its toll, accepted or not.
And if this were the case, 100% public acceptability, would there be a need for crossdresser-friendly venues? crossdresser meetup groups? conferences like Keystone, Esprit, Leeds? Would all SOs suddenly become not only accepting, but encouraging?
I would suppose the whole mission of Crossdresser Heaven might have to change. Much of it’s purpose is to serve a community that is almost 100% UN-accepted. If crossdressing were no longer taboo, would none of us be confused any longer?
So, let that time come, if it ever does. I’ll still continue to enjoy dressing privately. However, I must say, it would be nice to no longer fear a knock at the door; to order pizza delivery or take-out Chinese, and answer the door dressed; to lounge on my patio with no concern about what the neighbors might think; to invite a ladyfriend (GG) or even another gurl (CD) over to dinner while dressed for the evening.
So I did choose “yes,” but it’s just so…… complicated!
Yes, of course I would. An easy answer for me because when I am dressed, makeup on, and hair done, feeling like a woman is so perfectly natural! It is the way I am supposed to be. I do not plan to transition, but if I could say the magic word and become a woman, I would in a heartbeat!
Thank you, Brittany, for this question.
Definitely yes from me too! In the last 12 months I have become more and more confident about being dressed at home at least. In particular I have purchased some outerwear made for tall women – perfect for me, I must say, and this has increased my confidence, so that I am willing to wear a blouse and women’s pants when venturing out of the house. So, if social norms changed (and they will need to shift quite a distance) then I would seriously think, say, about visiting clients in my work dressed, perhaps not completely as a woman but certainly in that direction.
I would love to be en femme all of the time. The main reason that I am a crossdresser is the enormous appeal of the clothing! I love all sorts of textures and looks, from rubber to leather to chiffon to satin to silk…. As many have said, women have great latitude in the clothing that they can wear; the variety seems endless. I would love to walk in my closet and see only feminine clothing.
Does anybody wonder why “Walmart People” dress so wacky and wierd, yet nobody is picking on them??!!. Why pester us…..we look infinitly better than WP could. I have been in several Walmarts in Canada and only see the odd 1 or 2 and they are not nearly as bad as the internet lets on to be.
Dame Veronica
Not to be a contrarian but as I understand it, “People of Walmart” are their own brand of comedy and they kinda get picked on a lot/ butt of many jokes sooo…..
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I believe I would likely continue to dress. Perhaps 50% of the time in dresses and the remainder split between masculine/feminine jeans, leggings, so on.
[/quote]Brittany, I could not agree more! I work as a general contractor so days where I’m in the office taking care of contracts/ paperwork I’d love to wear leggings and a cute dress, however construction sites demand a certain and specific kind of demeanor so I would advise anyone to look like a tough-son-of-a-gun if you want to keep a good handle on schedule and budget with your subcontractors.
- Hi Brittany; This exactly the topics I hope is shared. I’m a Closet Gurl so I have no outside of CDH to discuss these simple things. I must admit I get a sexual rush from dressing but as a Closet Gurl I am clawing at my Closet door. I don’t want to transition but I would like the freedom and option to wear my skirt and heels when my Gurl wants to step out. I haven’t tried makeup yet but I would like to try some Rose Pink Lipstick and some pink mist nail polish and some mascara without everyone losing their minds and destroying my life. I’m an older person… who is better and more appropriate to wear a wig then somebody with male pattern baldness ? I like being male but sometimes I just want to be the Gurl
“Clawing at my closet door”… I may unabashedly steal this phrase, Davida.
Also, try the makeup, it really makes a world of difference. Yes, you’ll spend your time in the clown/raccoon phase but it’s a learning curve like any other art form. If nothing else find a girl (genetic or otherwise) you trust and ask her to make you over. And if you’re paranoid like me, Amazon is your friend… I have an account just for Val and get packages delivered to a locker for pickup; no one I live with has any risk of intercepting my gurl things.
HaHaaa; as a Closet Gurl I don’t know any other way to describe the feeling
There is definitely a bit the forbidden fruit, which can cause something of a rush for me too. However, I do have a kind of comfort level in women’s wear.
I would likely be in the 50/50 camp. Certainly it is a lot of work getting dressed to look like a passable woman, and I don’t mean to the point of going all out like a party or club outfit.
It would be great to just go out in a skirt and blouse when I don’t feel like my old blue jeans, instead of dressier men’s clothes. I’m in a small town, and lots of conservative folks here.
Amy
It’s a big yes for me, though there is a certain pleasure i get from “the secret” there are just so so many days i get up and want so very much to put on “Rene” and go to work, eat lunch and just…well… live my life the way i feel. I sort of dream of a world where i could choose, day to day or even hour to hour just how i wanted to dress without it being some big deal, without a “coming out” just business as usual. I could do my job every bit as good dressed in skirts as i do in pants, some days better!
It’s the whole societal thing that’s holding me back. I certainly don’t dress because there is a risk factor, forbidden fruit aspect to dressing. I dress because I love to look at the woman in the mirror. The few times I have gone public, I loved the thrill of being what I truly want to be in public. Omigosh, if tomorrow we could dress whatever way we wanted to without repercussion, I’d be dressing every day (and max out the credit card that same day).
My answer is yes and I would love to be able to “put my Caty on” and go about my business in the outside world without a care as and when I felt like it.. I’d also love to FINALLY do a complete body shave as that’s the one thing remaining I have not done to complete my femme self. (OK I did it once on a business trip 30 years ago, but got into deep do do with the then “boss” when I got home!
It would be optional for me as there are times when the male me just feels like the male gear. So much easier and nowhere near as much prep time. BUT…. I would always be Caty undeneath the above if I could.
The other factor is the 40+degC Australian summers. Its tough enough indoors with the aircon on on days like the above, so male me would wish to stay that way on these occasions
Remember the famous old crossdresser saying, “CD’ing is a winter sport”.
Happy dressing
CatyI originally answered yes to this question, with the proviso that a/. its too hot in an Australian summer to look good, especially as I cant shave my body hair. and b/. sometimes I just prefer to be the laid back male me.IE Not fuss about clothes, hair make up etc.
I’ve just had a lovely Caty weekend, Friday afternoon til Sunday morning. Came Sunday afternoon and the chance to be Caty again and except for underdressing, I just could not be bothered.
It almost felt like the child who loves chocolate but ate too much!!.
So I just fooled around and went for a walk in “male gear” until bedtime then back to forms attached, lingerie and pj’s on. That was fine, cos it does not take up much time.
Caty
Half of the fun is getting dressed elegant sexy fem or elegant sexy soccer mom style
This morning I dressed nicely for my usual breakfast hour at Panera before I headed to the Office.
I was so wanting to wear fem all day but I had to change into my regular good looking guy business attire before I came here to the Office
I would happily wear fem most if not most every day if I could
Barb.
Absolutely! OMG! Don’t know what would give out first, my heels or my credit cards! To be able to hear my stilettos click clack on my walk from my car to the front of a store would be such an amazing experience. To be able to walk hand in hand with my wife around the mall and try on outfits would be OUT OF THIS WORLD! love the poll but this is a no-brainer.
😛
Jessica
I voted “yes”. I think I would dress 100% of the time but is this the lure of the unattainable, loving what I know I can’t have but if I got it would I love it? I love dressing but would I love it if I could do it all the time?
Hi Tanya,
“I love dressing but would I love it if I could do it all the time”?
This is the exact question I ask myself occasionally, and why I chose to submit this poll. I think you phrased it perfectly.
I dress because I love feeling feminine and being closer to that thing I admire so much (women). There are times when I feel like dressing, but also feel too lazy to do my hair, makeup, etc. That said, I likely wouldn’t dress every day for the same reasons genetic women don’t get dolled up everyday. It can be burdensome.
Perhaps another way of asking this question would be, “Would I continue dressing en femme if it became mainstream or would I somehow embrace that “thing” that sets women apart and emulate that thing instead”. Rhetorically speaking, what would make dressing en femme special if everyone were doing it?
Just food for thought.
Thanks!
-Brittany
Lol! YES!!!
My “daily look” as a handyman/contractor likely would equate to “tomboy”.
On the flip? It can be a memorable marketing and “branding” moment.
Even when in denim bottoms and a T? Always from the other side of the aisle.
Add the 24/7 painted nails and the daily shoes being Mary Jane’s?
#ToughToForget #MakesAnImpression
No question about this for me. Not only would I continue to dress ‘en femme’ but I would do so much more. It would mean being able to go to work ‘en femme’ without fear of discrimination or having to worry about the effect that I my be having on my clients e.g. would they still engage fully in therapeutic appointments with a guy in a dress.
Then there’s tbe times when I’ve got home, changed into my evening attire i.e. skirt and blouse, then realised I need to go to the supermarket to pick up some milk or whatever. Now its change back to drab then back to femme after the shops – it’s a real pain so it would be great to not feel like I had to change and just bob off to the shop. I would also be able to saunter round the clothes section whilst there and perhaps make an addition to my collection.
Come to think of it, would I continue to dress? Massive yes, I would probably become 24/7.
Take care girls.
Hugs.
Anne-Marie.
It is a bit of a silly question. If we dress now and it isnt fully acceptable, y wouldnt we do it if it was
Yes Brittany,<
I would definitely dress more, probably everyday. It’s always been about the clothes for me. It started with a fascination for high heels and pantyhose many years ago, then as I tried them on and started wearing when no one was looking, it grew into skirts and dresses and that was as far as it went for a while, until I met my current GF a few years ago. I told here up front about my crossdressing feelings and fantasies(first time I ever told anyone) and within a few weeks we had wigs, my very own make up and full blown feminization in progress. In our conversations about dressing I told her I was jealous, jealous of the fancy dresses, fancy shoes, shiny pantyhose, shiny make up she got to wear. My blue Jean’s and Tshirt just didnt look as sexy as her attire looked. But she expressed the same thoughts as you mentioned…… it’s not as easy and as exciting as it looks putting on makeup every day, shaving legs every day, feeling like you have to “dress to impress” everyday or uphold a certain image.
But with that said, I would like to know. I would definitely find out for myself it was acceptable.Chelly
Oh yes how much easy would live be for us, I would still like to go in man mode some times but to be able to dress and have no judgment would be a dream come true
I agree with this. I would never give up boymode, but to be able to go out in girlmode openly would be pretty cool.
I agree – I identify to myself as a demigirl, which leaves demiboy as the minority part of me. It wouldn’t seem right to turn my back on either one, would it? So if it were 100% acceptable to wear anything I wanted, I’d have fun mixing and matching girl and boy clothes into eclectic outfits. But I’d only own girl bluejeans 🙂
Most definitely! A closet full of clothes needs to be seen. GG friends always compliment me on my legs, so pantyhose will be my day to day wear with my collection of skirts and dresses! Toni tends to be more expressive about what she wears and would love to be accepted if societies stigma was removed.
If it didn’t matter it would be wonderful to just choose how much effort to put into makeup, etc. and go as casual or dressy in any mode, just as genetic women pretty much do most days. As my daughter who’s a brand new psychologist (and whom I’ve not yet come out to as doing CDing) once said: “People should be able to dress however they like.”
I’ve seen a waiter with femme hair and body, neutral clothes, and way beyond a 5 o’clock shadow. Don’t know where they are on the TG spectrum, but that’s bravely putting it out there.
Not only would I continue but I would also ditch the forms for implants to fill out my bras naturally. Can only imagine what it would be like to have real “girls” in there.
This may seem weird and kind of shallow, but even if it were accepted I wouldn’t do it unless my male peers(family and friends) decided to do it as well. Sorry , I’m just very self conscious. Hiding behind Shayla is apart of the thrill and everyone knowing my male self underneath takes away the excitement.
I have no way to prove this, but I think more men would crossdress than many people think, if society were totally accepting. If for no other reason than the fem appearance is so idealized by American society, especially if you’ve got a good figure.
It’s silly, but I think some guys would do it just for the compliments.
Me? I’d do it because I enjoy it, and frankly I’m a better looking woman than man, I think. That’s a low bar to clear, admittedly.
Low bar? No love…you’re quite beautiful!! So very beautiful!! Embrace how beautiful you truly are!! You are a shining peacock so full of life and harmony! 🥰❤️
I suspect that you are right. There wouldn’t be anything to stop men from giving skirt / dress wearing a go. Once they had tried it, I think many men would find they liked wearing skirts / dresses and therefore repeat. This would then encourage more men to ‘dress’ and on and on and on.
Take care girls
Anne-Marie
My dressing isn’t fetish/sexual related, I just feel good dressed en femme. If it were 100% acceptable, I’d probably spend more time en femme than in drab, the ‘novelty’ wouldn’t wear off, the only problem would be different outfits every day rather than trousers/shirt/tie, I’d have to do a serious shopping trip.
I would certainly continue dressing as a woman if it was acceptable, I love wearing dresses but it is the accessories that make a woman as well . Being able to carry a handbag and wear pretty jewellery is part and parcel of the image. Also I could get my ears pierced and wear lovely nails all the time.
I do NOT pay any attention to “Societal Norms” as they are always leaning to “THEIR” version of normal, and NEVER entail the ppl who are NOT “normal” …such as myself (a freak/ a ‘tranny’). Tell ya what tho, I’ve had a lot of “persons” tell me they wish their girlfriends were a freak like me. I’ll leave it at that.
I’m the odd-one-out here. I’m fortunate enough to have thrown ALL man clothes out the door save one pair of jeans (Naked & Famous “paraffin dipped” skin-tights ….Nikes yet I still wear leggings beneath. I don’t “bind’ my legs with any type of sock (unless it’s thigh-high). Why not? Had a major heart attack over 25yrs ago, and to this day if I sit all day, one of my legs will swell up (edema of course). Wearing tights is akin to “pressure hose” 30mm.
However, I don’t do it for health reasons. For all intents and purposes, I’m a chick model and that’s all anyone knows about me (unless they are my clientele, who have FULL disclosure for their protection, which is never needed). Therefore, I’m normally up at 4AM, (if I slept at all), shower, check my look in a mirror then SIT DOWN and put my face on, THEN “body makeup” if any part of my skin will be showing.
I haven’t dress as a man since “I cannot remember!”
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I don’t think it is a choice I believe we were born this way it chose us aren’t we lucky
I pretty much do it now. I have a closet full of clothes, only 3 shirts and on pair of pants are men’s. About 20 percent are well into the butch side of women’s clothes and so I can come off as androgynous at the very least and masculine for those who know me only as my male self. I don’t remember the last time I dress in totally male outer wear. It’s been 40 years since I wore men’s underwear. I do occasionally wear a man’s polo shirt (one of the three shirt a fore mentioned.)
It is an interesting question, I’ve thought about it myself. The short answer for me is yes.
Dressing might lose a tiny bit of appeal for me if it was perfectly accepted, since it would lose its aspect of “I’m going to be me and if you don’t like it, **** you!” but it wouldn’t change the fact that I love to do it.
Male clothes are easier and more practical, and I do like how they look sometimes, so I’d probably still wear them at least sometimes. Women’s clothes are more comfortable and fun to wear, so I’d probably wear them any time I couldn’t come up with a reason not to.
So yeah, for me in that theoretical world, I would probably spend my time about 20% all male, 30% some kind of mix, and 50% all fem.
Hi Brittany ,
100% without a doubt
I dream of being able to just walk out the door whether I am wearing my dress or not or even not put together perfectly. Although I think there is a small component of my dressing that is a rebellion, the largest and most compelling part is the need to honor the woman inside my male shell. To be able to wear what matches my inner self and not worry about repercussions would be the dream of all dreams!
Definitely yes. It is getting better for us to be in the public all the time. In 5-10 years in some cities it will be almost normal but then again I am a Pollyanna 😘
I thoroughly enjoy my male self, and all the great things about being a guy, however, being feminine, both in feelings and expression make my other persona very desirable. I enjoy playing golf with my guy pals, smoking a stogie, telling lies and kibitzing each other about their play. But, I must say – when I see lady players on the course, I can’t help being envious of their outfits and they way they relate to each other during their round of golf. I’d love to wear panties (I do always underdress with panties and sometimes petti-pants), a bra , a nice little golf skort and ladies sleeveless top with nice make-up, while playing a round. That said, I’d likely dress feminine about half the time when out and about. I’d even likely wear some make-up most of the time.
Yes absolutely 100 percent of the time.
As I understand the question, could I wear my girl clothes all of the time, but with wig and makeup optional, and still be acceptable? Oh, yes! You bet your donkey I would!
Of course I would keep dressing but still not full time. My deepest dread is being known as ‘the man in a frock!’ Every time I dress it is all the way (full make up) or no way.
Popping to the shops half dressed in a mini skirt and work boots would have me squirming with ambarrassment.
Sally xx
wearing a mini skirt and work boots that should get reported to the fashion Police.
Mini skirt and sneakers, or heels, great.
Here in Texas, and maybe someother places too, there are a disturbing number of GG’s in skirts and cowgirl boots that venture out in public, believing that they are making a fashion statement.
And they are!
That statement is “Help me. Please!” “Call the Federales!” The 5th Amendment against self incrimination DOES NOT apply.
I have yet to see any self respecting CD sister committing such an offense, and I have been around a long time. Except at a club in Dallas once.
If you see one in the wild, do not approach them alone. Keep your hands and arms inside the car at all times, and please do not give them any alcoholic drinks.
This has been a public service announcement.
PaulaF
Brittany.
Does your works have a femme option for remale employee’s and if so, given the choice, would you opt for the femme uniform?
Just re-visiting my previous post here (is it really almost 2 years since I posted this?)
If I had to wear a uniform and a femme option was available, I would love to opt for that but I guess I would bottle it as I don’t pass well at all and that means I would be rather embarrassed wearing a femme uniform.
If I could pass however, I would already be 24/7/365 so it wouldn’t make much difference if I wore a femme uniform or other femme clothes – whatever company policy dictated.
Take care girls.
Anne-Marie.
YES of course i would dress .. in fact, today i put on a pair of nude pantyhose, my running shoes and shorts, with a holiday themed shirt i went to the convenience store to buy lotto ticket and a fast food place to buy some dinner. the nude pantyhose is about the same color as my skin so unless the pantyhose shined or dulled for some reason, NO One knew i had them on, i.e. no one stared or made any comments to lead me to believe that they knew.
The last few weeks I’ve been running around with fleeced leggings with shorts over them to the store very early in the morning when not many people are there. No stares or complaints from that either.
wish i could be on heels and walk around in society in guy mode. i got some cute heels that would just look fantastic 🙂
Good Morning,
It might surprise many that this is even a reasonable question, but human nature being what it is, there some of us who can only guess at the accurate response. Do we want to be different? I’m pretty sure of my answer after seven decades in this body. I really enjoy women’s clothing. I like it on women, I enjoy clothing store displays, and I love the way it fits and feels on me. I wear women’s styles and sizes in all my jeans and in many of my other clothing choices, even when I’m totally presenting as a man and virtually no one notices. So I’m pretty confident with my yes. But, if it were 100% acceptable, I’d probably wear the appropriate women’s clothes for whatever occasion most of the time. I have never worn men’s sandals and stopped wearing men’s boots when I was pretty young. But I love women’s sandals, booties, and boots of all sorts, mostly with heels. There is no more comfortable shoe to slip into than a nice pair of high-heel pumps, with hose or bare feet. I’ve noticed that many women seem to squeeze into their pumps and it looks uncomfortable. My wife doesn’t like to wear them. But, for me, it’s as though I was born to wear heels. In years gone by, when I worked from home alone, I’ve worn heels the whole day without adverse affects. So . . . give me the 100% and I’ll live happily ever after in the fashion of the hour, day, week, or month!
FAM
Absolutely, without a doubt whatsoever! That’s my dream, after all. Not only would I continue, I would ONLY dress en femme and finally discard the drab stuff!
The only reason I am still a closeted crossdresser is the lack of acceptance.
I think yes, because I’m female clothes i feel more comfortable then male clothes. If female clothing would be allowed for men’s it will be very much enjoyable of course it is not going to happen but still it would be a fun and i would be dressing fem 24*7.
Britney,
You hit the nail on the head in your statement. “Mainly because women crossdress everyday and no one bats an eye.” That has been my gripe for years. Women can do it but guys can’t. Women want equal rights with men so how about the reverse. I most assuredly would wear women’s clothing every day. Kathleen
Spot on Brittany, spot on!! You are so right and I’m right there with you. I would wear a dress or skirt on occasion, but would love to be able to wear yoga pant on an almost daily basis.
I actually started to wear “compression” leggings to the gym. I go to a small place (class style) and it’s mostly women (which is interesting because it’s a strength and conditioning type of place… NOT crossfit) and I feel it’s generally acceptable. If there’s another male in the class, I feel I get a weird vibe, but I just suck it up and commit to me.
I’m also a regular leg and arm pit shaver (going on three years). I shave two to three times a week and it is a pain in the butt!! That said, the hairless legs are certainly noticeable but I wear regular shirts, not tank tops so the pits stay concealed. It took a while to become comfortable with being in public, but I got past it because my want to have smooth legs was greater than my fear of ridicule. I’m glad to say that it’s not come up and I’ve not received ugly remarks for it.
Lastly, I feel we can only dream of the day when we can dress without it being “odd” or “not right” to the rest of the world. Sometimes, I think we are moving backwards on this as a society…. 🙁
I would disagree with you. I think society is becoming more accepting of transgendered people – ergo crossdressing people fall right into that mix. The one thing I would wish as a crossdresser is that I could feel safe going out in womens clothes alone. I do not feel that. I will only go out dressed as a women if I am going to be with my peers. Otherwise, will not do – too nervous to go out alone.
Alice Black
I can almost hear them now. You don’t need to dress that way, because you won’t shock anyone. Well there’s a piece of news. I do not dress the way I do to shock of affect anyone. I dress the way I do for me and only me. I wear what I wear, like any other person, to express my personality, my individuality and my feelings.
Besides, I would not like the be the person who attempted to take my shoes away!😀
Hey girls,
Like many of you, if it were 100% acceptable (by which I take it you mean to the same degree that women can wear trousers and suits) then yes.
I don’t give a toss what the general public think about me for dressing. My only fear is one person tells another, who tells another and my family finds out. That’s game over, as I will be disowned for sure, no exaggeration.
So, if they had no problem would dress en femme 90% of the time. I say 90% because there’s always going to be those days, maybe at the end of a long week, where you just slop about the house and put on the first thing you can find. Other than that definitely yes, why not?
Hugs,
Isabel
I’m on the yes side for sure. I understand your points about cis women complaining about various aspects of western womanhood but I think we’re a different class of lady, I mean besides biologically. Similar to that old saying “You can choose your friends but not your family”, I think we are more likely to stick with it because we saw all those challenges beforehand and chose this lifestyle anyway, we weren’t forced into it due to our birth genitalia.
Yes if I was 100% acceptable ,all my male clothing would go and I would live my life as a female and love every minute of it and regret I hadn’t made the change years ago ,wearing lovely undies ,wearing dresses ,make up and the lovely perfume what more could a ‘girl ‘ want , it would be heaven , Michelle xx
YES, I would welcome it and live it!
Eva
Most definitely would love go through the front door fully en femme
This topic pops up again periodically because it is both provocative and extremely unlikely to become reality. It’s the end of June (2021) and I probably wrote my initial response in March. Since then, the media has overwhelmed us with gender issues and/or encounters that actually “do” impact on community safety, fairness, and quality of life. It’s been my experience that most contributors to CDH are relatively balanced, realistic, and restrained in their approach to femininity and the display of cross gender behavior. Most do not want to inflict themselves on others in our families or our communities.
In the media, there are men who have been allowed to compete (I believe unfairly) against biological women in sporting events where their inherent physique is an overwhelming advantage. I read this morning that an female inmate in a California prison was assaulted by a transgender inmate with whom she was required to share a cell. While all these seemingly unreasonable encounters have been legislated, crossdressers are ridiculed and obstructed even when their desire/need to look, dress, or behave in a feminine manner impacts virtually no one.
It’s as though “normal” liberal/progressive politicians are willing to protect the rights and opportunities of those whose behaviors demand societal readjustment, but do not genuinely support a diverse spectrum of choices made by people who only want the freedom to be themselves. There is hypocrisy in there support of forced tolerance and denial of the genuine non threatening behavior of the gender fluid of this world. I have an experience to share but will add in separate post – not to bore you needlessly!
FAM
My wife and I really enjoy happy hour! We do something with each other or friends most nights after 4:00 or 5:00. With things opening up again, literally and figuratively, we are getting reacquainted with the bar staff and patrons at many of our favorite places.
Last Tuesday, we met an old friend for a cocktail. Mary, our friend, and JoAnn are both very attractive women and often choose the current causal standard of skinny-jeans or tights and a season appropriate tunic. Mary wore skinny white jeans and a sleeveless off white tunic. JoAnn wore white tights and a blue capped-sleeve long tee shirt. Each wore flat sandals. I wore standard jeans and a tee shirt. What I could have worn might have been quite different.
Earlier in the day, I tried on skinny white jeans and a sleeveless long polyester salmon-pink blouse, tucked a bit in front to display the copper buckle of a studded designer belt. I wore Sofft brand sandals with 3 1/2 inch heels that set the whole look up far more dramatically than flats. But of course, I couldn’t wear any of it out for happy hour. But, as simple as my desire to wear this outfit might be, it is equally unreasonable to believe I could do it without scrutiny and ridicule. I guess I’d just like to be (or dress like) one of the girls.
FAM
Most definitely. But I think I would present myself in male attire more than female. When your in a hurry or going to get sweaty and dirty it’s way easier to be a filthy man than a woman. But it would be great to go anywhere and be accepted. I would try to be the best dressed woman at any formal event.
Dear Rei;
At first I was thinking “A lady does not smash the button, a lady emphatically touches the button”, and then while I was trying to think about it and compare it to observed behaviour of the GGs I know…. I think it’s much funnier to observe that the smashing of the Yes button was quite feminine of you and since all of their phones has been damaged at some point, I’m beginning to wonder if it was perhaps a similar reaction to the yes button that was responsible.
Thanks for the moment of amusement.
– Molly
PS: I’m on a heavy duty keyboard, smashing yes is a completely different thing with a mouse, which I assure you I did… Emphatically! .
Being able to be me, and accepted as me, would be ideal. That is why I 100% would.
I also agree, more men would start dressing in femme, if it were totally accepted.
I am about to finally hand all my last remaining male attire over to Goodwill.
It’s been a long road but now living the CD Dream.
Happy LGBTQ Awareness Month Ladies.
First I have to say that I do dress to a certain extent 24/7/365 because I exclusively wear underpinnings that were designed for women i.e. women’s knickers/panties, normally a thong. I also wear opaque tights most of the time be that under my jeans or with a skirt or dress which I change into each night when I return home from work.
For me it wouldn’t be that much of a change. I would still wear jeans much of the days I am at work allbeit that I would probably choose to wear a feminine cut. I may substitute these at times for leggings with a short skirt or tunic – there is a reason why most women choose to wear leggings lots of the time but I do laugh to myself when cis women show a fat derriere with little left to the imagination. I wouldn’t want that look. I tend to hide myself away at weekends and evenings as this is when I am fully dressed in female garb. I would continue to dress like this if it was acceptable but would not feel I need to isolate myself quite as much as I do. I’m sure many of us are well aquatinted with the feeling of warm (or cool) breeze on freshly shaved leggs whilst out walking dressed in a skirt. I would embrace this feeling much more frequently if society at large didn’t pay me quite so much attention – in a negative way – when I access the great outdoors in what is considered women’s clothing.
It is an interesting thing for me. When I came out to my wife, she agreed I needed to dress to feel less dysphoric. I found that the titillation we usually feel subsided. Dressing en femme now it’s more just clothes, but the undergarments and make-up, etc. still make me feel feminine. I assume it is much like a GG when they dress up a bit more for work or going out.
The desire/need to dress can be tied to the fetish aspect, but more often than not, the frequency and level of dressing increases with acceptance.
I have often dressed in a colorful lace camisole, black pencil skirt with either nude or black pantyhose, 2” pumps and my normal everyday business suit jacket. I see myself in the mirror, I like what I see! These are the times I say why not? It’s comfortable, it’s stylish,, it’s business attire. The ability to mix and match different types of camisoles as you like, Just not a blue or white shirt along with a tie that strangles you! Blah! I’m not trying to pass as a women! Not adding fake boobs or a blonde wig, I just want to be comfortable in what I am wearing and how I look.
I saw a black double breasted suit jacket the other day that had a white collar, the bottom was trimmed in 2” black lace. I could see wearing that to work, a meeting or even a night out. So much more of a choice of what to wear being a women, it’s unbelievable.
My side of the closet is only one quarter to that of my wife’s. It consists of most skirts, tops and a few everyday dresses. The bottom is lined up with shoes and heels. The fancy dresses take up another closet with her suit jackets and left over shoes and purses!
So yes in a heart beat, if it was normal and accepted by the general public, I would love to be out of the closet and in the public eye! Maybe not 100% of the time, but I’m sure more so then not.Remember ladies, there is a time to wear mens clothing. Women know when, they do it a lot. Nothing wrong with it. So I wouldn’t toss all my mens garb away. Need to save some for those days we get dirty, or work in the garage!
My question also is this, when did men stop wearing wigs, dresses, stockings and makeup? Did the French Revolution mess it up for us! Just a thought!
Hi Brittany,
an interesting question and one that has clearly prompted a lot of response!
I’ve answered yes, though I guess it is hard to know for certain in reality.
I’m very new to this really, compared to many others, though my few dressing experiences in public have been a real thrill and very exciting. I wonder if some if the thrill would be less so, if it was more “the norm”?Dressing to experience what GG’s experience, to feel feminine, to feel pretty and attractive, to feel the fabrics they wear – it’s a rush and a privilege to experience.
So whilst “acceptance” would be great, I think some of the thrill might be somewhat reduced.
That said, wouldn’t it be great to wear and look however we want, or however we feel, without judgement? We live in hope.
In the meantime, enjoy what we do, I intend to!
hugs
jen x
I have to go with yes since I’m now out to just about everyone and I no longer care what other think. If it was 100% acceptable not much would change.
Just to mess with people I did yesterday to go to vote in provincial election as Kelly (see my gallery for samples of what I look like) but with my very male name id. I ended up disappointed, no one reacted even the slightest. Not even the older lady who checked my photo id did as much as flinch at me./kt
Wow, great question Brittany and I would continue to dress and it would certainly be a lot less stressful as I am a private dresser.
To be able to go out in public dressed on a regular basis without any judgement and fully accepted, well as some have said a dream come true.
Never hurts to have a dream!!! 🙂
Catherine
Hi Brittany, I hesitated to vote since this is an older post but it seems to have regained new life so I’ll chime in. I voted yes but in real honesty I think that I’m actually moving toward sort of a no as time goes on. I’m out and open and women’s clothes fit me best but as I write this on early Father’s Day, I’m looking down at my ripped and dirty runners while wearing a very tired purple tee shirt bra and v- neck sweater with a small fray along with my 7 year old jean shorts. Soooo, it seem like I’m just getting to be a comfortable womanly slob. Now in about another hour I’ll put my hair in a pony tail, change to rough heavy hydraulic oil spotted jeans with a similar shirt and heavy leather boots and go out and topple a 40 meter poplar tree that I didn’t get done yesterday. I do dress up a bit more for going to town but it’s mostly just clean jeans, a baseball cap, runners, beige tee shirt bra and a v-neck tee. For the most part I’m just blending in and covering my body. About twice a month I will glam up with heels and LBD and go out to party. In retrospect perhaps I’m just emulating a speeded up woman’s life. Like the very young women being glamorous and fashionable and ending up in old age as soccer grandma’s like I am now. So while I can and do continue to dress every day it’s a rather plain life and not with much flash and sass. I hope that this makes some sense to everyone. Marg
You make more sense than you let on to ascribe. Cross dressing is so so much more complicated than the two words can hope to define. It’s not always about sexuality…for myself it is about personality and the intricacies of interweaving what I desire and what is the ‘acceptable’ social norm. I myself have no desire to lay with another male companion but the allure and softness of female attire is off the shelf yummy for me!
Does the Pope poop in the woods? Is a bear Catholic? But, of course! Now, please pass the Grey Poupon.
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Goodness yes! Although I’d be far more public
I’m confused. The question makes it seem like some of us dress because it’s not acceptable. I don’t think that’s the case. I know I dress because I enjoy it. So, Id enjoy it no matter what.
I have female relatives and friends who dress in a wide range of styles from mainly jeans , tees and hoodies to those who frequently wear full makeup, dresses and heels. If it were acceptable I would definitely wear female styles, dresses, skirts, leggings, etc. but I do wonder whether I would bother with the full hair and makeup routine on a regular basis. So yes to dressing but probably mainly at the more casual end of female attire.
While a lot of females/GGs wear what is regarded as men’s originally attire; trousers/pants, shirts, even ties, I believe that the vast majority of them are not tying to look like, or be taken as, male/GM; I do get confused by the “pronouns” so please excuse.
I believe that a lot of the males/GMs dress as females to imitate and be take as GGs/females; i.e “pass”. And that I believe is a very big difference.
Personally, I wear androgynous female clothes because they are lighter/less in weight and have more variety in style and color. Best, Marlene. PS Hope I do not offend anybody as if I do it is not intentional.
I would definitely continue dressing. I love the way a skirt or dress feels. I love the feeling of a bra hugging my chest. I love the soft, delicate feeling of lingerie. I love my smooth hairless skin. It’s never been about going against the norm for me.
In fact, if it were 100% acceptable, I would go ahead with hormones and/or minor body modifications for a more feminine body. I still don’t think I would ever transition. But having a more girly figure (including breasts) would be amazing.
Hi Jamie,
You said:
I love the way a skirt or dress feels. I love the feeling of a bra hugging my chest. I love the soft, delicate feeling of lingerie. I love my smooth hairless skin. It’s never been about going against the norm for me.
That exactly describes how I feel when I dress! Thanks for expressing it so well.
Catherine
This thread is over 4 years old and it will take an eternity to answer my question.
Why did 7 voters say no?
If we could go out dress aa woman and be accepted i would go out that way on certain days but i also enjoy being a male very much. I would like to make a point here when woman wear slacks or jeans i cant say they are crossdressing being they are clothes made for woman if they were wearing mans slacks and jeans then they are crossdressing but i like woman in slacks and jeans they look cute
Seeing those 99-to-1 results on the poll does not surprise me one bit, haha.
If dressing up and going out as Vanessa was equally as acceptable to people around me as going out in guy-mode is, then I would definitely go out dressed a whole lot more often! I’m not sure if I’d dress up more often, or if I’d just be less inclined to keep my “Vanessa time” indoors away from the public… but the real answer is probably both.
Honestly the main reason I rarely go outside dressed is the fear of being seen — or even worse, recognized — by someone I know from my regular guy-mode life. The fear of some random stranger realizing that I’m a guy crossdressing and reacting negatively, or even violently, is also a back-of-my-mind worry in those situations… but the main worry is definitely someone I know finding out. I’d be worried about how they’d react, if they’d still want anything to do with me, if they’d suddenly start being shitty to me if we met again when I wasn’t dressed, if they’d go around telling other people and maybe it would even get back around to people I would really not want unexpectedly finding out (like my boss/coworkers, my dad back when he was still with us, my mom, certain friends that I’m pretty close to and value highly despite some political/religious/etc. differences)…
In a world where crossdressing was seen as just as “normal” as me going out in guy-mode, that worry would just completely disappear. It wouldn’t need to be this big secret that I’ve only told a handful of close friends (and a handful that I’m less close with but who I knew were accepting of such things.) I could just walk right out into broad daylight and go to the store or whatever in full Vanessa mode with a nice dress and makeup and wig and everything, and society/other people/etc. wouldn’t see that as anything weirder than like… going out wearing shorts as opposed to long pants. I wouldn’t have to worry about people having a bad reaction to finding out — if I bumped into someone unexpectedly and they recognized me, I could just be like “oh yeah, you know me as guy-name but sometimes I dress up like this when I feel like being Vanessa instead.” And it wouldn’t be any weirder than them like… finding out that I had a hobby that I hadn’t mentioned to them before, or finding out what kind of foods I like or don’t like, or finding out what kind of music I listen to.
I’m sure even in this hypothetical “100% acceptable” world there might be a few jerks, you can never completely eradicate them… but they’d be a small minority rather than an “this isn’t looked upon well by society overall, so anyone could be that jerk, and you might not even know until the worst possible time.” And it’d most likely be just low grade jerkishness like you see over food or sports or music preferences — “pineapple doesn’t belong on pizza,” “Cowgirls/Deadskins,” and “rap is crap” sort of middle school playground comments that almost never escalate beyond just a few words, and not even totally serious half the time. Not the sort of thing that might just stop at a nasty comment or two, if you’re lucky… but you never know, it might lead to being unwillingly “outed” to tons of other people. Or something along the lines of stalking, or assault, or even rape or murder.
99% of us voted yes. It’s obvious this isn’t a choice for the vast majority. We’re not doing it to be different. We do it because that’s how we’re wired. I expect those of us that can’t dress often [u] would[/u] dress way more often if all social barriers were removed.
So we remove all the barriers to crossdressing. In doing so, we also remove all the barriers to how our brains should work.
And that begs some questions. What would y’all call yourselves if you were able to dress all the time? Bigger question. Where would dressing full time lead you? Maybe your future gets a bit complicated?
/EA
Since I feel like I’m in the wrong body I would still dress if it were acceptable. I might actually get really good too if I could do it more often.
I often think the other way sometimes. If I was born female, would I still do or wear the more feminine things or would I fall into the habit of not as much or often as some women now?This question seems a slam dunk “yes”. What a wonderful world that would be! I tried to scroll through to see why anyone might answer otherwise… only saw a few posts that suggested the answer might be “no” or “questionable”. They were too deep for me to follow, even without my blonde wig. I’d dress en femm all the time without question if it were acceptable… do so much of the time even though it is not.
A BIG YES! I would definitely dress in female attire most of the time, including wig, makeup and nails painted. It would be a dream to be accepted as ok to dress as I feel. I do not think I would ever grow complacent or tired of looking my best femme self.
I would go full time immediately, it’s as simple as that for me.
Dear Brittany,
If it were 100% acceptable, I look forward to all the confident, glamours and classy crossdressers coming out of the closet. The garments would be more readily available, there would be more meetups and we would even get some time on the schedules to prepare our makeup and get dressed for the day.
It would be a very glamorous and fun filled world.
Romantically and with rose tinted glasses,
The Bluest BelladonnaNot sure why I had never seen this one before, but… yes, I see why the question need to be asked. For some of the ladies, it may perhaps be a matter of “rebellion”; for myself (and, I suspect, the majority of the ladie out there) it’s a deeper and morepersonal sort of thing. Skirts and dresses are at the core of my being: even if everyone else were dressed smiilarly and no-one thought anything of it, dever be able to not pull on my panties… Holly XXX
If it was 100% acceptable since I am retired, I would dress about 70 to 75 per cent of the time. I am not the greatest when it comes to make up because before my wife passed, she would do it for me, but I would do the best i could. When I am dressed I feel my feminine side fully and am comfortable with who I am so it would be great if I could go out in public more often. As it is I usually wear stockings, garter and panties under my male clothes now but would love to not worry about what I wear.
Yes, 100% without a doubt….
If we could truly get the same level of acceptance we get when dressed in male clothing, you betcha I would cross dress 100% of the time. I am straight and have no interest in transitioning. I just feel perfectly “at home” when cross dressed. I love the feel of nylons on my legs. Wearing a bra and forms feels so right. I have no problems with a wig; but, in this scenario I’d just grow my hair long (and I have a thick head of it even at age 78). I enjoy wearing female jewelry. The clothing is so much nicer than my male wardrobe. And, the nighties and panties are about 1000% nicer than male underwear and pajamas. I can’t imagine a person who enjoys cross dressing not wanting to do so all the time if society was accepting.
Gonna jump on this bandwagon. If I want to wear clothes designed for men, I’ll just wear men’s clothes. It’s a hell of a lot easier and more comfortable.
Val’sheril is in many ways my Shadow/Anima in Jungian terms. She’s not content to just be wearing women’s clothes, she wants to be feminine, elegant, beautiful. Yes, in a physical sense it’s very much smoke and mirrors but to look in the mirror and see a woman… well, it makes her/me very happy, regardless of the sort of chicanery involved in getting to that point.
Thank you, Gabriela, for your insightful commentary.
I totally agree. I simply love the feeling of my clothes and draw a great deal of comfort when wearing them..that does NOT make me weird nor should I ever have to feel embarrassed or ashamed of needing to feel hugged all the time. I’ve yet to try makeup, a cute wig, or anything else to unleash the femme side of me (I do feel that day is coming soon though) but there is something wrong with people that would cast stones at others just because of what is worn.
It being a fetish doesn’t make it weird, it just makes it sexual.
For some of us it is, for some of us it isn’t, and if you actually do any research at all there are 2 types: fetishistic transvestism, which is sexual, and dual-role transvestism, which is non-sexual. These are in addition to the trans individuals who are women full time.
I agree Gen. I’d go 100% Fem and give all my male clothes to charity.
Kathleen xxxxx
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