A good friend of mine from Crossdresser Heaven named Jennifer Ruby told me about a song that was inspirational to her. The song is Steve Azar’s  “I Don’t Have To Be Me (‘Til Monday)” released in 2001. The lyrics are:

I got me a brand new car waiting in the driveway
Shinin’ like a bright new star, I’ve be wishin’ on it every day
To take me away from here
So I called in to where I work, told a little white lie
No my back don’t really hurt, but that’s my alibi
My temporary ticket to anywhere but there
Call it an early weekend, call it goin’ off the deep in
Call it what you want, I made up my mind


I don’t have to be me ’til Monday
Friday, Saturday, Sunday
I ain’t gonna face reality
Three days without punching a time clock
Three nights of goin’ non-stop
No work and all play
I don’t have to be ’til Monday


I can do what I want to do, be who I want to be
I got no one to answer to, soon as I turn the key
A cash machine, gasoline and we’re outta here
Call it an early weekend, call it goin’ off the deep end
Baby, you and me, we can leave it all behind


Now those lyrics can be taken several different ways-but what Jenn told me (and I agree with her) is that the “me” that we “don’t have to be ‘til Monday” is the ME that the world expects us to be. For many in our community, this is the ‘socially acceptable/expected’ person that we present publicly due to our fear that if people saw our true selves, they might reject us or ridicule us. But like so many of us, the person we really are-the part of us that we hide- is only given free rein when we are on our own. We take off the outer shell-our armor if you will- and allow ourselves the freedom to express what many of us wish we could all the time if not for society’s approbation. This can take the form of the clothes we wear, the emotions we feel and express, or even the ability to love whoever we want. Anything that doesn’t meet the “norms” prescribed by self-appointed arbiters of what is “right’ or “natural”.


And that is where this site does a great service-allowing us a place to “be who we want to be” –in a loving supportive environment. There are those who get out of the house often and are unafraid of what others think; but there are also many who for various reasons may not now-or in some cases even EVER- be able to share their inner core with the world outside their home. I have seen many folks (including myself) who NEVER thought they would be able to overcome their fears, but gradually found the courage to do so, because of the kind words and encouragement found on both Crossdresser Heaven and Transgender Heaven. And even if that time never comes, just being able to talk to others who understand and to realize that you are NOT alone can make the difference between fulfillment and total abject despair and loneliness.


So, whether you are attending a conference, going to a Girls Night Out, reading and writing in the forums, or talking in the chat room—don’t let society tell you that you have to be the ‘me’ that they expect. Instead embrace the moments whenever you can and show the world just how special you are!


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The Original Cyn, or OC for short. Cynthia is from Richmond Virginia, she crossdresses every day (lucky gal!) and has a knack for tracking down niggling technical issues so we can fix them. She is also on a journey of self-examination to figure out where her feminine journey will lead her, and is always willing to talk with others about their feelings and questions or her own.

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Again I bow before you in respect my friend; there’s a favorite quote I will share:

“If I wanna be free, I gotta be me,
now the me you think I should be,
or the me my kids think I should be,
or even the me my wife thinks I should be,
no, if I want to be free, i gotta be Me!.”

Anything worth having, such as the courage to stay the course toward freedom, is worth the growing pains we are experiencing right now on this planet.

I Choose Freeedom!
and lovin huggles

Davida Mae

Hey Doll; Right On Target! I’m confident your putting on Blast … what many of us feel but have been unable to put into words. Cheers to our Wonderful Ambassador!


It does take many forms of courage to be the real you, Thank you Cyn for demonstrating the service we provide to those that want to be their true selves..Like this site and my home at TGH ..Its heart warming to know we are not alone and can find inspiration in your words and the bond our community has..Thank you for continuing to be an inspiration..Hugs Cami xx

Rose Turner

It is surprising to me just how many of us are there. And in other countries as well. Not just CD’s but TG’s as well.

Dasia ThePhoenix

We’re about 2% of humanity. Currently, that’s at least 154 million Transgender folx (using Transgender as the umbrella term)

Ashley Elizabeth

Just pulled up Steve Azar’s Music Video on YouTube for this song… he uses the imagery of a door frame for everyone to walk through to become something other than their normal day to day self… Well put together – love the imagery.

Thanks Cyn (and Jennifer) for bringing this song / lyrics to our attention… I am definitely tagging this one 🙂


Roxanne Lanyon

I am me, and will be,
A pretty, sweet she,
His wife I will be
and always at his knee.

Roxanne Lanyon


Beautiful and true! So well said.


Ahh–If only I didn’t have to work for a living–I would have made more of a transition–but life & death get in the way–My wife & I were a great team–Without her help & support I wouldn’t have had the confidence to come as far as I have–however–about a yr or so ago–she got sick & now is Dying–I don’t know how to proceed–I still dress at home but have’nt been ably to do myself up like she always dressed me & without her have been afraid to go out in public anymore– It would be nice to make some… Read more »


My how I switch around still. Why just yesterday I wanted to chuck the whole thing back in a box and hide her deep where no one would find her. All day today I was like that and then I came home put my real clothes on and am Jessie. I feel like me. Now, I’m not saying this to abduct the thread I only mean that sometimes the Universe just throw stuff out for us to read and this was the perfect time to read this.
Love you ladies.

Gisela Claudine

Yes! We have born free!
Thank you, Cyn. Great article. It is a beatiful pic too.

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