A good friend of mine from Crossdresser Heaven named Jennifer Ruby told me about a song that was inspirational to her. The song is Steve Azar’s âI Donât Have To Be Me (âTil Monday)â released in 2001. The lyrics are:
I got me a brand new car waiting in the driveway
Shininâ like a bright new star, Iâve be wishinâ on it every day
To take me away from here
So I called in to where I work, told a little white lie
No my back donât really hurt, but thatâs my alibi
My temporary ticket to anywhere but there
Call it an early weekend, call it goinâ off the deep in
Call it what you want, I made up my mind
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I donât have to be me âtil Monday
Friday, Saturday, Sunday
I ainât gonna face reality
Three days without punching a time clock
Three nights of goinâ non-stop
No work and all play
I donât have to be âtil Monday
Yeah
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I can do what I want to do, be who I want to be
I got no one to answer to, soon as I turn the key
A cash machine, gasoline and weâre outta here
Call it an early weekend, call it goinâ off the deep end
Baby, you and me, we can leave it all behind
Now those lyrics can be taken several different ways-but what Jenn told me (and I agree with her) is that the âmeâ that we âdonât have to be âtil Mondayâ is the ME that the world expects us to be. For many in our community, this is the âsocially acceptable/expectedâ person that we present publicly due to our fear that if people saw our true selves, they might reject us or ridicule us. But like so many of us, the person we really are-the part of us that we hide- is only given free rein when we are on our own. We take off the outer shell-our armor if you will- and allow ourselves the freedom to express what many of us wish we could all the time if not for societyâs approbation. This can take the form of the clothes we wear, the emotions we feel and express, or even the ability to love whoever we want. Anything that doesnât meet the ânormsâ prescribed by self-appointed arbiters of what is ârightâ or ânaturalâ.
And that is where this site does a great service-allowing us a place to âbe who we want to beâ âin a loving supportive environment. There are those who get out of the house often and are unafraid of what others think; but there are also many who for various reasons may not now-or in some cases even EVER- be able to share their inner core with the world outside their home. I have seen many folks (including myself) who NEVER thought they would be able to overcome their fears, but gradually found the courage to do so, because of the kind words and encouragement found on both Crossdresser Heaven and Transgender Heaven. And even if that time never comes, just being able to talk to others who understand and to realize that you are NOT alone can make the difference between fulfillment and total abject despair and loneliness.
So, whether you are attending a conference, going to a Girls Night Out, reading and writing in the forums, or talking in the chat roomâdonât let society tell you that you have to be the âmeâ that they expect. Instead embrace the moments whenever you can and show the world just how special you are!
Cyn
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Hi Cynthia and Thank You for that very inspirational message. Since joining CDH and recently coming out to my therapist, my mind is finally clearing up and I feel the me I should be. My CD and PTSD from many other aspects of my life are finally settling down. I love that song too, and when Karley comes out to play, she is the cutest girl around!
Hi Cynthia. well said. Society has done a great job. They have defined what is male and what is female. These rules apply all over the world. Mostly the Free world. We fell in between. In the early 70’s. A cis woman described me as a It yes eye tee It. She could not come up with any other word. Transwoman sounds spiritual. There could be something there. This cis woman was not trying to be mean and I did not take it that way. She would help me do my hair. It was acceptable for young men to have… Read more Âğ
Love it Stephanie! I wrote about the next generation in this piece https://www.crossdresserheaven.com/forums/topic/could-this-be-the-first/
Cyn
Very good. Very appropriate. Been away for a while. Denial phase… Wanted to sneak back in here. Thanks.
Well said and a nice commentary.
As usual Cyn, you’ve hit the nail on the head.
A wonderful article. Inspirational to all of us.
Hugs always,
Maxine.