As time continues on we do, we learn, we teach, and for many we accept the facts that really can’t be changed even if we really want(ed) them to.  I have so many memories of who I started out being and remain to be this very day.  Many people come to me in confidence about becoming the girl they desire to be and ask if I have any advice or strong suggestions of how to get there.  I share my own experience with them (part of it anyway) and some can relate and some can’t.  I tell those who can’t right now to give it time and eventually they might.  They will eventually act upon their desires, or those desires will ultimately crumble into pieces of a dream that once was.

See I truly believe we don’t wake up one morning and tell ourselves “gee, today I think I’ll steal some of my mother’s, sister’s, aunt’s or whoever’s makeup, jump into one of their skirts or dresses, a pair of heels and a purse, gallop all throughout the house and pretend I am a girl.”   No, but what I do believe and share with others is a few little things called “the facts, reality and the truth.”  Crossdressers, transgender people, drag queens, and those that just fantasize are special and unique in their own ways.  However, I believe we all share similarities, and in fact I believe we are all “as one” when it comes to this area of our lives.  I share how it has been for me when asked and tell them to reach out to others who have the same dreams, aspirations, and love for doing what they do.  It always amazes me when someone tells me they are married and in a heterosexual relationship with wives or girlfriends who either accept or deal with them being CD.  Or don’t.  Personally I have the utmost respect for those that are married and have compromised as well as risked it all to be who they are.  No one person, as far as I’m concerned, has a right to tell anyone else how to live their life.  Perhaps some listen, yet others still go about trying to be the person they aren’t.

I too tried to be the son my mother wanted at first for me to be.  However it was impossible for me, because I was who I was put here to be.  This is what was explained to me by a best friend, a few therapists, and of all people, my mother.  My mother and I were very close and I always subliminally felt she somehow knew of my activities.  Guilt caught up to me one day when I walked in after being on a date and found her in tears crying like I had never seen my mother cry ever before.  Point blank she told me she knew everything I had always tried to keep a secret, and had actually believed it was all a secret and nobody else knew or suspected.  How very wrong and naïve I had been.  In fact I don’t think I have ever been as wrong in my thinking as I had been before that moment.  She knew everything and so did my sisters.  Even the kids at school who called me derogatory names and labeled me actually knew before I ever admitted anything.

Getting back to explaining the reasons I decided to write this article it is with true heartfelt beliefs and feelings that I truly believe we are one (just as Buddhists and many others believe).  Obviously not every male chooses to wear a dress instead of pants.  But then did we actually choose this lifestyle?  I don’t agree with some who believe we did.  What I will agree with is what I and thousands of others believe, “that the lifestyle chose us.”  Who on earth would deliberately put themselves in harms way, be humiliated if anyone finds out or suspects that they cross dress and for some prefer to be with the same sex; who would be that crazy if it were a choice?  Is it any wonder why so many try and keep it a secret?  This life really doesn’t promise us that each day will be good or perfect.  It does allow us to follow what we believe in.  My mother always told my sisters and myself to follow our hearts; she said all that’s in our hearts are hopes, dreams and wants, and they will surface when we allow or want them too.  All my dreams and hopes have not always surfaced or revealed themselves but one thing I know for sure is that I have tried to do the right thing by following the path that was chosen for me to follow.  I have drifted on occasions and even tried to be someone I wasn’t and could never be.  So as I tell others, I don’t give advice, but what I will offer is experience, hope, and to share things that I live by and believe in and offer suggestions. That’s all I can really do!

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Jewelry Artisan, cocktail waitress, part time escort. at Emerald Club, Shuckeys Club
Gawd this is the second time I have attempted giving you some bio or a profile of myself but decided it was too long (because I have this long winded habit see) so here we go. I am Jackie, known by my friends, family and CDH as,,,,, Jackie. Been at it like most since I was around 8 when I first started wearing my sister's things. Came completely out when I was 17 and started doing drag around 20, love it and still do drag. 24/7 cd I guess. Been here about 6.5 years and not going anywhere soon. Enjoy, have fun and be yourself, if you can't do that then be someone else till you can!

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Lauren Mugnaia
4 months ago

Wow Jackie, you nailed it! Thank you for this amazingly true post, very heartfelt.

Sabine Rose
Sabine Rose
4 months ago

A beautiful article Jackie, I feel exactly the same way. Thank you.

Sabine Rose
Sabine Rose
4 months ago
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Thanks Jackie. I look forward to reading more from you in the future. Hugs. Sabine.

Cindy Sales
4 months ago

That was good inSITE full and very sincere..I am about the same age
but have as you say living the person I am not alway a struggle to live a lie to the point that I am not sure .anymore as I have wasted all my young and exiting years. Well I am going to find out what I should have 30 years ago.
great work thanks look foward to talking with you many topics.thanks

Cindy Sales
4 months ago
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Thank you for the ear that helps a lot .sometimes that gets a lot done just having an ear from someone with your experience.

Deborah Sullivan
Trusted Member
21 hours ago

Ty you Jackie for putting it into words what I too have always felt

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